Pivot Parenting: Expert Tips for Navigating Teen and Tween Challenges

301. Assuming the Worst While Parenting


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In this episode, we're talking about one of the most common (and sneakiest) patterns in parenting: assuming the worst. I see it all the time. And yes—I do it too.

It shows up in the little moments.

Like when your teen doesn't answer your text for an hour and your brain instantly goes to: They're ignoring me. They're mad at me. They've been kidnapped. (Meanwhile, their phone is dead and they're happily eating nachos with friends.)

Or when they sigh at something you said and suddenly you're spiraling into, They don't respect me. They hate living here. This entire family is falling apart. …all because your kid was annoyed that the Wi-Fi glitched for three seconds.

We assume the worst because we care deeply—and because our brains are wired for threat detection, not nuance. But when we let that pattern run unchecked, it blows up in our face. It turns small moments into big conflicts. It makes us withdraw, overreact, lecture, or resent. And it teaches our teens that we see them as a problem instead of a person.

In this episode, we'll talk about:

  1. A better understanding (and more grace) for when and why we—and our teens—jump to worst-case assumptions.

  2. How this plays out in real time inside family relationships, so you can spot the pattern before it becomes a full emotional landslide.

  3. What to do instead—the exact strategies that strengthen trust and connection rather than eroding it.

If you've ever gotten mad at your teen for something that was only happening inside your own imagination… this episode will help.

Want support applying these tools in your own home? Book a free Peaceful Parenting Strategy Call HERE and let's talk about what's happening with your teen and how to shift the dynamic for good. xoxo

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