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Seen, Soothed, Safe and Secure -these are key elements for a healthy relationship and 4 Reasons to Open Up about your Sexual Past. 

But when it comes to your unwanted sexual behavior; it might feel like a secret you should just keep hidden.  Is your relationship secure enough for you to tell your boyfriend or husband about your sexual history? 

Do you really want your girlfriend to know about your addiction to pornography?  The dangerous truth is while we keep back the darker parts of our lives, we deny ourselves real intimacy and continue bringing that deep need to illegitimate sources. 

As you’re moving closer to relational intimacy and marriage, opening up about your sexual history or sexual habits is important. Every person longs to have someone see the full scope of who they are and be loved.  

You and your loved one deserve each other fully and wholly. 

Here are 4 Reasons to open up about your sexual past.

Highlights:

Bringing yourself means bringing your whole self not just the best parts.

You can not walk in sexual integrity if you’re not willing, with safe people, to open yourself and let them see the truth about what’s been going on.

“I love you. I love what I see and I want to come closer.” That’s the cry of our hearts. It longs for real intimacy.

Extras:

“Wired for Intimacy: How Pornography Hijacks the Male Brain” by William M Struthers

More on Oxytocin with Dr. Struthers

If you want to learn more, check out Josh's latest musing on this topic at, When Do I Tell My Significant Other?

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