DEPTH Work: A Holistic Mental Health Podcast

51. Undoing Martyrdom & Self-Sacrifice: Feeling ‘Enough’ in our Relationships and Work


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“If you've come here to help me, then you're wasting your time. But if you have come here because your liberation is bound up with mine, then let us work together.” Lila Watson

Martyrdom, or self-abandoning and self-sacrificing for the sake of a mission or cause, is so highly rewarded in our culture. It can show up in our interpersonal relationships, but also when it comes to our work, our creativity, or ‘purpose’ in the world. We can even start to sacrifice our health and wellbeing for the sake of a ‘mission’ in attempts to prove our worthiness. In today’s episode, I share perspectives around martyrdom and saviordom in life and work and how we can take the pressure off ourselves, stop feeling the need to prove our worth, and take ourselves less seriously with the sustainability of lightness and play and joy.

  • the familial and cultural roots of martyrdom
  • why playing the savior is a codependent strategy
  • the victim, savior, perpetrator drama triangle framework
  • why martyrdom is transactional and disconnects us from ourselves and others
  • how martyrdom shows up in creativity, work, our mission, and purpose
  • ending the game of proving your worthiness through contribution
  • being process vs outcome oriented

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    Reclaiming All Parts of You: Healing the Roots of Shame and Insecurity [Free workbook & meditation download] ⁠https://witty-creator-9045.ck.page/e89cafda64


    Resources:

    Karpman Drama Triangle: https://www.karpmandramatriangle.com/

    https://irp-cdn.multiscreensite.com/6e5efd05/files/uploaded/Drama 

    Lila watson - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lilla_Watson

    Liz Gilbert Interview on Martyrdom - https://open.spotify.com/episode/4THxJpSZZLmIz7TPKcOf5W?si=4486ca107db14aed

    Big Magic - https://www.elizabethgilbert.com/books/big-magic/


    Disclaimer: The DEPTH Work Podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Any information on this podcast in no way to be construed or substituted as psychological counseling, psychotherapy, mental health counseling, or any other type of therapy or medical advice.

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