Title: #64: [Inside the Mind] Gary Waters: Resistance as an Alarm Bell, the Power of Language, and Tidying Up Your History

Today, I’m joined by High-Performance Mindset Coach Gary Waters. 

In today’s episode, you’ll learn:

• Why resistance is an "alarm bell for awakening" rather than something to avoid.
• How our subconscious programming creates mental roadblocks during high-pressure moments.
• How to identify and let go of limiting beliefs that hold you back on the course.
• Why self-acceptance is key to playing with freedom and joy.
• The power of language in shaping your perception and your performance.
• How to tidy up your history and step out of regret, shame, and guilt.
• Simple but powerful gratitude practices to cultivate inner peace and resilience.

Get your pencils ready and start listening. 

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More About Gary

Gary specialises in helping you to set yourself free from inner suffering by mastering your relationship with yourself, others, and life.

Gary works with entrepreneurs, athletes, businesses, busy parents and everyone in between. He shares insights into a completely different way of thinking, leading to a life changing shift in perspective. This has a transformative effect on all aspects of life, including personal fulfilment, increasing levels of performance and business success.

Rather than focusing on short term temporary fixes, Gary specialises in identifying the root cause of problems which dissolves them permanently, allowing you to live a limitless life.

Learn more about Gary here.

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He has over 15 years of coaching experience working with high performers in various industries, helping them get unstuck, out of their own way, and unlock their full potential.

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Key Takeaways:

• Resistance is a Gift: Instead of avoiding discomfort, lean into it—it reveals where you have the opportunity to grow and free yourself.
• Embrace Non-Judgmental Curiosity: When mistakes happen, don’t judge—get curious. Ask yourself why and what you can learn from the moment.
• You Are Worthy Now: Your worth isn’t tied to your score or performance. You’re inherently worthy and capable of self-love and acceptance.
• Past Mistakes Don’t Define You: Stop dragging history into the present. Mistakes happened, but they don’t determine who you are today.
• Drop the Backpack of Emotional Weight: Unresolved emotions from the past weigh you down. Work to resolve and process these to free up mental energy.
• Language Creates Your Reality: Be mindful of how you speak to yourself. Words like "must" and "should" create pressure—replace them with empowering language.
• Gratitude Fuels Resilience: A daily gratitude practice helps shift your focus from lack to abundance and provides grounding in challenging moments.

Key Quotes:

• "Resistance is just showing us where we’re not free—it’s a gift."
• "The mind uses history to predict the future—but it keeps you from the present." 
• "We’re not chasing a result—we’re chasing a feeling."
• "What happened happened and couldn’t have happened any other way—because it didn’t." 
• "Your worth hasn’t gone anywhere—it’s always been with you." 
• "We often seek external validation, but the love and acceptance we’re looking for is already within us." 
• "Your words create your world—choose them wisely." 

Time Stamps:

• 00:00 The Nature of Resistance
• 03:05 Understanding Performance Anxiety
• 05:51 The Journey of Self-Discovery
• 09:00 The Power of Language and Perception
• 11:49 Exploring Inner Pressure and Expectations
• 15:00 The Quest for Self-Acceptance
• 18:03 Revealing the Love Within
• 22:45 The Nature of Suffering and Acceptance
• 29:58 Forgiveness and Self-Compassion
• 36:40 Practicing Gratitude and Visualization