What if the people who trigger you the most—the mother-in-law who feels controlling, the "lazy" kids, the blow-up guy in your Saturday foursome—aren't actually the problem?

You are (gulp).

What if they're mirrors?

In this episode of The Scratch Golfer's Mindset Podcast, I dive into the uncomfortable truth that the traits you judge, resent, or react to in others very often reflect the parts of you that you deny, repress, or flat-out hate.

You'll hear raw stories from my own life and from clients who realized that the selfishness, complacency, or lack of drive they saw in others… was alive and well inside themselves. And when they finally owned those parts instead of fighting them, everything changed: more peace, more energy, more honesty, and better golf.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• How "triggers" on the golf course, at home, and at work are actually mirrors reflecting disowned parts of you.
• Why owning traits like "selfish," "controlling," or "lazy" can free you instead of condemn you.
• The basics of Parts Theory and how seeing emotions as "parts" reduces their intensity and control over you.
• How repressing parts of yourself quietly drains your energy and keeps you stuck in the same patterns on and off the course.
• A powerful reframe of selfishness into being selflessly selfish—and how that makes you a better golfer, parent, and leader.
• How core beliefs like "I'll never get better" sabotage your performance, no matter how hard you work.
• A journaling question you can use today to turn your biggest emotional triggers into your most powerful teachers.

If you're willing to be radically honest with yourself, this episode can help you reclaim the energy you've been spending running from your own reflection—and redirect it into becoming the golfer, parent, partner, and leader you know you're capable of being.

Get your pencils ready and start listening.

P.S. Curious to learn more about the results my clients are experiencing and what they say about working with me? Read more here.

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High-Performance Hypnotherapy and Mindset Coaching

Paul Salter - known as The Golf Hypnotherapist - is a High-Performance Hypnotherapist and Mindset Coach who leverages hypnosis and powerful subconscious reprogramming techniques to help golfers of all ages and skill levels overcome the mental hazards of their minds so they can shoot lower scores and play to their potential.

He has over 16 years of coaching experience working with high performers in various industries, helping them get unstuck, out of their own way, and unlock their full potential.

Click here to learn more about how high-performance hypnotherapy and mindset coaching can help you get out of your own way and play to your potential on (and off) the course.

Instagram: @thegolfhypnotherapist

Key Takeaways:

• Everyone in your life is a mirror. The behaviors you judge or react to most strongly in others—anger, laziness, selfishness, manipulation—are often traits that exist in you, especially the parts you don't want to see.
• You are made of many "parts," not one fixed identity. There's a part of you that's confident, a part that's fearful, a part that's lazy, a part that's driven. Seeing these as "parts" creates healthy distance so you're not completely fused with any one state.
• What you resist, persists. The harder you fight against a trait—"I'm not selfish, I'm not controlling, I'm not lazy"—the more power it quietly holds over your thoughts, emotions, and decisions.
• Triggers are invitations, not inconveniences. The next time someone pisses you off, embarrasses you, or makes your blood boil, you have a choice: react and blame… or pause and ask, "What part of me is this showing me?" That's where the real growth begins.

Key Quotes:

• "What triggers you has the opportunity to teach you—if you're willing to look in the mirror instead of out the window."
• "You're not just one thing all the time; you're a collection of parts—and your work is to become whole, not perfect."
• "The traits you hate in others are often the traits you refuse to admit exist in you."
• "What you resist persists. The more you fight 'I'm not selfish,' the more that part quietly runs the show."
• "Being selflessly selfish means you put yourself first so you can show up better for everyone else in your life."
• "Golf is a mirror of your personal development—and the people in your life are mirrors of the parts of you that you've tried to bury."
• "When you accept every part of you, you stop wasting energy hiding and start using that energy to become the best version of you."

Time Stamps:

• 00:00: Understanding Triggers and Self-Reflection
• 02:51: The Holographic Universe and Parts Theory
• 05:45: Mirrors in Relationships: Recognizing Ourselves in Others
• 10:36: The Concept of Selfishness: A New Perspective
• 15:51: Triggers as Teachers: Learning from Emotional Responses
• 22:30: Embracing Wholeness: The Path to Authenticity

In this episode of The Scratch Golfer's Mindset Podcast, I sit down with Texas Golf Hall of Famer and author, Mike Booker, to unpack the mental blueprint that separates a tournament golfer from a golfer who plays tournaments.

With decades of competitive success and entrepreneurial achievement, Mike shares timeless lessons on emotional steadiness, self-talk, reflection, and gratitude that have fueled his longevity both on and off the course.

You'll learn how to master your self-talk, set powerful process-based goals, and build the emotional resilience needed to perform under pressure. Mike and I dive deep into how perspective, preparation, and honesty form the foundation of lasting success—and why gratitude might be the most underrated competitive advantage in golf and life.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• How to become your own best friend and master self-talk.
• The difference between a tournament golfer and a golfer who plays tournaments.
• How to manage results-oriented thinking under pressure.
• The role of process, pre-shot routines, and breathing in performance.
• Why honesty and reflection are key to consistent improvement.
• How gratitude and perspective build mental resilience.
• The mindset needed to win in golf, business, and life.

If you're serious about raising your level of play in this upcoming season of tournaments, this is the conversation you want to listen to multiple times…

Get your pencils ready and start listening.

P.P.S. Curious to learn more about the results my clients are experiencing and what they say about working with me? Read more here.

More About Mike Booker

Mike Booker is a Texas Golf Hall of Fame inductee, former University of Houston NCAA National Champion, and author of The Tournament Golfer's Playbook. A lifelong competitor who has won championships across multiple decades, Mike combines lessons learned from elite tournament golf and a 40-year career as a successful entrepreneur and financial advisor.

His work teaches golfers how to think, prepare, and perform like true tournament golfers—focusing on self-talk, process, perspective, and gratitude both on and off the course.

Purchase The Tournament Golfer's Playbook here.

• Inducted into the Texas Golf Hall of Fame (2019),
• University of Houston Hall of Honor (2023)
• WCJC Athletic Hall of Fame (2023)
• A record four-time Texas Golf Association Player of the Year (2012, 2014, 2015, and 2022, Senior)
• Winner of a record 14 Texas Golf Association events, including Senior, Mid Am and Mid Am Match Play
• Playing Member, U. of Houston NCAA National Championship team (1977)
• Selected Associated Press NCAA All-American Team, U. of Houston (1977)
• Two-time U.S. National Club Champion (2007 and 2008, Senior)

Play to Your Potential On (and Off) the Course

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High-Performance Hypnotherapy and Mindset Coaching

Paul Salter - known as The Golf Hypnotherapist - is a High-Performance Hypnotherapist and Mindset Coach who leverages hypnosis and powerful subconscious reprogramming techniques to help golfers of all ages and skill levels overcome the mental hazards of their minds so they can shoot lower scores and play to their potential.

He has over 16 years of coaching experience working with high performers in various industries, helping them get unstuck, out of their own way, and unlock their full potential.

Click here to learn more about how high-performance hypnotherapy and mindset coaching can help you get out of your own way and play to your potential on (and off) the course.

Instagram: @thegolfhypnotherapist

Twitter: @parsoverbogeys

Key Takeaways:

• Longevity in golf—and life—comes from perspective, self-compassion, and gratitude.
• Be your own best friend. The relationship you have with yourself defines performance.
• Talk to yourself like someone you care about: first person, not third person.
• Focus on intermediate goals to avoid burnout and stay emotionally steady.
• Failure is a teacher, not a threat—learn, adapt, and build resilience.
• Honesty is the foundation of growth; surround yourself with people who tell you the truth.
• Process beats pressure: control what you can, trust what you've practiced.
• Breathing and a consistent pre-shot routine are your anchors under stress.
• Tournament golfers don't make excuses—they take ownership and stay adaptable.
• Gratitude keeps you grounded. "If you don't have gratitude, you're not paying attention."

Key Quotes:

• "It's not what you say to everyone else—it's what you whisper to yourself.
• "The longest relationship you'll ever have is with yourself. Be your own best friend."
• "Most success stories are built on overwhelming amounts of failure."
• "Winning is affirmation—but it's short-lived. The real victory is showing up again tomorrow."
• "Don't worry about it. Nobody really cares that much."
• "Tournament golfers don't believe in bad breaks—they just play the next shot."

Time Stamps:

• 00:00 The Longevity of Success in Golf
• 01:55 The Power of Self-Talk
• 05:40 Setting Intermediate Goals
• 10:07 Reflection and Evaluation
• 12:52 The Meaning of Winning
• 15:10 Sacrifice and Commitment
• 17:17 The Secret to Lasting Success
• 20:54 Performing Under Pressure
• 29:09 The Mindset of a Tournament Golfer
• 30:58 The Journey to Writing a Golf Book
• 32:20 Learning from Failure and Responsibility
• 34:19 The Identity of a Tournament Golfer
• 36:08 Common Mental Leaks in Golf
• 39:18 Translating Golf Lessons to Business
• 43:34 Embracing Failure and Learning
• 49:27 Perspective and the Spotlight Effect

Greatness comes with a price—but what if that price isn't punishment, but preparation?

In this episode, I reframe the "tax" of greatness as an investment in your future self, showing how every setback, rejection, and lonely morning is actually a deposit into the account of discipline, patience, and faith that compounds over time.

I discuss how standing out invites resistance—from critics, loved ones, and even yourself—and why that's proof you're on the right path.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• How to reframe "suffering" as harnessing your inner strength.
• Why greatness requires isolation—and how to find peace in it.
• The crabs in the bucket analogy and how to avoid being pulled down.
• How to manage criticism and stay confident when others doubt you.
• The difference between emotional fuel and sustainable focus.
• Why setbacks are simply the market dips of your personal growth.
• How to make daily "deposits" into the bank of discipline and belief.

If you've ever felt misunderstood, lonely, or doubted while chasing your goals—whether in golf, business, or life—this episode will help you reconnect with your purpose, stay the course, and trust that your effort will pay dividends when the time is right.

Get your pencils ready and start listening.

P.S. Curious to learn more about the results my clients are experiencing and what they say about working with me? Read more here.

Play to Your Potential On (and Off) the Course

1. Schedule a Mindset Coaching Discovery Call
2. Subscribe to the More Pars than Bogeys Newsletter
3. Download my "Play Your Best Round" free hypnosis audio recording.

High-Performance Hypnotherapy and Mindset Coaching

Paul Salter - known as The Golf Hypnotherapist - is a High-Performance Hypnotherapist and Mindset Coach who leverages hypnosis and powerful subconscious reprogramming techniques to help golfers of all ages and skill levels overcome the mental hazards of their minds so they can shoot lower scores and play to their potential.

He has over 16 years of coaching experience working with high performers in various industries, helping them get unstuck, out of their own way, and unlock their full potential.

Click here to learn more about how high-performance hypnotherapy and mindset coaching can help you get out of your own way and play to your potential on (and off) the course.

Instagram: @thegolfhypnotherapist

Key Takeaways:

• The price of greatness isn't a penalty — it's an investment plan for your future self that pays exponential returns.
• Loneliness and isolation aren't setbacks; they're sacred opportunities to realign with your values and purpose.
• Judgment from others reflects their stagnation, not your misdirection. Stay focused on your path, not their opinions.
• Replace the word suffering with harnessing — each moment of adversity strengthens resilience, focus, and faith.
• While most people panic during life's "market dips," the great ones double down, trusting time, consistency, and themselves.

Key Quotes:

• "Every bit of pain, doubt, persistence, and every morning you don't feel like doing jack shit — that's interest your future self will cash in as peace, freedom, and fulfillment."
• "The higher you climb, the thinner the air — and fewer people can breathe at that altitude. Most turn back, not because the view isn't worth it, but because they never conditioned themselves to handle the elevation."
• "The criticism, judgment, and resentment you face aren't punishments — they're proof you're leaving the bucket while everyone else is still clinging to comfort."
• "Every time you suffer through rejection, failure, or frustration, you're not breaking down — you're harnessing the strength, patience, and faith required to rise."
• "When the pressure hits, the critics get loud, and your beliefs start to waver — remember, you're not being punished. You're being prepared."

Time Stamps:

• 00:00: The Cost of Greatness
• 02:41: Reframing Suffering as Harnessing
• 05:26: The Isolation of Standing Out
• 08:14: The Crabs in the Bucket Analogy
• 10:52: Navigating Loneliness and Misunderstanding
• 14:47: Embracing Fear and Uncertainty
• 18:25: The Power of Emotional Energy
• 20:50: Investing in Your Future Self
• 23:32: The Journey of Self-Discovery

In this powerful episode of The Scratch Golfer's Mindset Podcast, I sit down with former MMA coach and mindset expert, Patrick Sebastien, to explore the art of mental toughness — both inside and outside the ropes.

Drawing from years in the fight world and his work with elite golfers, Patrick unpacks how adversity, flow states, and physical intensity combine to build unshakable confidence and resilience on the golf course.

You'll learn how to intentionally seek and use adversity to your advantage, train like an athlete to improve emotional control under pressure, and create your own blueprint for peak performance. Patrick and I dive deep into visualization, breathwork, and post-round reflection as essential tools to develop composure, focus, and self-belief when the stakes are high.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• How to reframe adversity as opportunity and bounce back fast after a blow-up hole (or business setback).
• Why flow states require struggle first, and how to use challenge to trigger "the zone."
• A simple gym-to-course formula: create controlled physical stress, then regulate it with breath so pressure feels familiar on the tee.
• The breath training + visualization sequence Patrick uses pre-round to build calm, focus, and confidence.
• How to design on-course pressure reps (mini challenges) so tournaments feel like just another rep.
• How an identity shift ("I am an athlete") unlocks consistency, intensity, and faster scoring gains.
• The expect/accept model: expect greatness, accept imperfection, and re-engage on the next shot.
• Ways to calibrate your arousal level (not too calm, not too hyped) to hit your personal performance sweet spot.

Whether you're chasing a club championship or your next business milestone, this episode will help you expect greatness — and perform like it.

Get your pencils ready and start listening.

P.S. Curious to learn more about the results my clients are experiencing and what they say about working with me? Read more here.

More About Patrick Sebastien

Patrick Sebastien is a performance coach who helps golfers elevate their game through a holistic approach that blends physical conditioning, mental training, and strategic mastery. With over 20 years of experience teaching Muay Thai and MMA, 15 years as a personal trainer specializing in functional fitness, and 10 years guiding breath training and meditation, Patrick brings a unique perspective to golf performance optimization.

He began coaching in golf in 2022 after working with a Korn Ferry Tour player as a mental coach, and has since trained professionals, college athletes, and elite junior golfers, using his unique approach to physical and mental training for golf. Patrick specializes in preparing players to excel on and off the course by integrating strength, mobility, focus, and strategic awareness.

Connect with Patrick:

• Website
• Instagram
• YouTube

Play to Your Potential On (and Off) the Course

1. Schedule a Mindset Coaching Discovery Call
2. Subscribe to the More Pars than Bogeys Newsletter
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High-Performance Hypnotherapy and Mindset Coaching

Paul Salter - known as The Golf Hypnotherapist - is a High-Performance Hypnotherapist and Mindset Coach who leverages hypnosis and powerful subconscious reprogramming techniques to help golfers of all ages and skill levels overcome the mental hazards of their minds so they can shoot lower scores and play to their potential.

He has over 16 years of coaching experience working with high performers in various industries, helping them get unstuck, out of their own way, and unlock their full potential.

Click here to learn more about how high-performance hypnotherapy and mindset coaching can help you get out of your own way and play to your potential on (and off) the course.

Instagram: @thegolfhypnotherapist

Twitter: @parsoverbogeys

Key Takeaways:

• Perseverance is the foundation of bounce-back ability.
• Adversity creates flow; no struggle, no growth.
• Great players train adversity before they face it.
• Physical stress builds emotional control.
• Fitness isn't optional—it's a performance multiplier.
• Breathwork bridges chaos and composure.
• Journaling post-round accelerates learning and awareness.
• You can't control results—but you can always control your process.
• Expect greatness, but accept imperfection.
• Visualization isn't fantasy—it's mental reps for success.
• Meditation sharpens calm, control, and clarity under pressure.
• True athletes embrace discomfort and keep expanding their limits.
• A champion's mindset is forged in the gym before it's displayed on the course.

Key Quotes:

• Adversity is a wake-up call. It's fuel, not failure.
• Flow only exists because of struggle.
• Train hard, fight easy. The harder your training, the easier your performance.
• Physical stress and mental stress present the same way. Learn to master one, and you master both.
• If you never fail, you're probably not trying hard enough.
• Expect greatness while accepting less than greatness.
• The further I went in martial arts, the more peaceful I became.
• You can't control what the course throws at you, but you can control how you respond.
• Golfers don't need to become bodybuilders—they need to become athletes.
• If you don't expect greatness, how will you ever achieve it?
• The champion's mindset is earned in the gym before it's displayed on the course.

Time Stamps:

• 00:00 The Power of Perseverance
• 02:40 Embracing Adversity as Opportunity
• 05:49 Creating Adversity for Growth
• 08:43 The Role of Technology in Performance
• 11:40 Post-Round Reflections and Learning
• 14:33 The Importance of Identity in Success
• 17:43 Lessons from Competitive Fighting
• 20:26 Bouncing Back from Setbacks
• 23:29 Training with Intensity for Mental Edge
• 26:21 The Importance of Resistance Training
• 27:56 Pushing Through Limits and Mental Barriers
• 32:00 Transforming Golfers into Athletes
• 35:37 The Role of Meditation and Breath Training
• 41:02 Peak Performance Blueprint for Athletes
• 46:24 Expecting Greatness in Golf and Life

Every winter, it happens…

Your clubs collect dust, your swing feels distant, and that quiet voice creeps in: "What if I lose everything I worked for this season?"

But what most golfers lose in the off-season isn't their mechanics — it's their confidence.

• You stop swinging.
• You stop visualizing.
• You stop feeling like a golfer.

And by the time spring rolls around, you're not just rusty — you're hesitant, uncertain, and disconnected from the player you were just a few months ago.

Here's the truth: confidence isn't built under sunshine and scorecards — it's built in the dark. It's built in the quiet reps no one sees, the small acts of discipline that nobody celebrates.

This winter, you have a choice: You can coast, like every other golfer who slides backward once the weather turns… or you can treat these months like Separation Season — your chance to build confidence, sharpen your edge, and step into spring already playing the best golf of your life.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why most golfers lose confidence, not mechanics, in the off-season — and how to protect it.
• The four mental traps that create regression and how to beat each one.
• How to set a minimum effective dose for practice, fitness, and mindset work.
• The identity shift needed to think, train, and prepare like a golfer year-round.
• And how to design an off-season plan that builds momentum now — so you never have to "find your swing" again.

If you're ready to break the typical golf season pattern of two steps forward, three steps back, and breakthrough to play to your potential in 2026, this episode is for you.

Get your pencils ready and start listening.

P.S. Curious to learn more about the results my clients are experiencing and what they say about working with me? Read more here.

Play to Your Potential On (and Off) the Course

1. Schedule a Mindset Coaching Discovery Call
2. Subscribe to the More Pars than Bogeys Newsletter
3. Download my "Play Your Best Round" free hypnosis audio recording.

High-Performance Hypnotherapy and Mindset Coaching

Paul Salter - known as The Golf Hypnotherapist - is a High-Performance Hypnotherapist and Mindset Coach who leverages hypnosis and powerful subconscious reprogramming techniques to help golfers of all ages and skill levels overcome the mental hazards of their minds so they can shoot lower scores and play to their potential.

He has over 16 years of coaching experience working with high performers in various industries, helping them get unstuck, out of their own way, and unlock their full potential.

Click here to learn more about how high-performance hypnotherapy and mindset coaching can help you get out of your own way and play to your potential on (and off) the course.

Instagram: @thegolfhypnotherapist

Key Takeaways:

• Confidence decays first. Touch a club and your routine multiple times per week to keep the "golfer" identity alive.
• Beat all-or-nothing with a minimum-effective-dose: short, repeatable sessions > heroic plans you won't sustain.
• Comfort creep is costly. Indulgence is fine; defaulting to comfort isn't. Keep micro-standards through the holidays.
• Excuses in a suit are still excuses. "I'll wait for better conditions" trains retreat, not resilience.
• Accountability accelerates. Coach, community, or check-ins — add a scoreboard and you'll show up.
• Lift the floor. Off-season is perfect for strength, mobility, and power so your worst days get better.
• Calendar = commitment. If it isn't blocked, it isn't real. Audit, schedule, and protect your reps.

Key Quotes:

• "Confidence isn't built in season — it's built in the dark."
• "Most golfers don't lose ground from weather; they lose it from mental drift."
• "All-or-nothing is perfectionism dressed up as logic."
• "Comfort is a habit. So is consistency. Choose which one you'll practice."
• "Excuses preserve the ego but poison momentum."
• "Raise the floor this winter — strength and identity travel."
• "If it's not on your calendar, it's not a priority. It's a wish."

Time Stamps:

• 00:00: The real off-season loss: confidence, not mechanics
• 04:10: "Separation Season" reframe and episode roadmap
• 10:37: The Thermostat Effect: identity sets your handicap
• 21:11: All-or-nothing thinking + Minimum-Effective-Dose fix
• 29:36: Five clarity questions & building your winter plan

In this episode of The Scratch Golfer's Mindset Podcast, I sit down with my mentor, world-renowned mindset and performance coach, Elliot Roe.

Together, we engage in a power discussion to unpack what truly separates high performers from the rest—how to release subconscious resistance, redefine balance, and access peak states on demand.

Elliot reveals why detachment from results is a prerequisite for sustained success, how subconscious childhood patterns quietly sabotage progress, and the science behind hypnosis as a tool for lasting transformation. He also dives into the relationship between identity, fear, and indecision—and how understanding these elements can elevate your performance on the course, in business, and in life.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• How to balance ambition and detachment to perform your best under pressure.
• Why "invisible resistance" keeps you stuck—and how to finally remove it.
• The neuroscience of hypnosis and how it reprograms limiting beliefs.
• How identity and subconscious stories shape performance and self-worth.
• A simple exercise to reveal the habits separating you from elite performers.
• Why fear of success and fear of failure are two sides of the same coin.
• How presence—not anger or intensity—fuels true peak performance.

Whether you're chasing your next big win, breaking 80, or scaling your company, this conversation offers tactical frameworks and mindset shifts to help you remove the invisible brakes and unlock your true potential.

Get your pencils ready and start listening.

P.P.S. Curious to learn more about the results my clients are experiencing and what they say about working with me? Read more here.

More About Elliot Roe

Elliot Roe is a leading expert in Mindset Optimization for High Performers and is the world's #1 Mindset Coach for poker players. His poker clients have won over $250,000,000 and nearly every major tournament title, including the World Series of Poker Main Event. Elliot's clientele also includes Olympic medalists, UFC Champions, Hollywood Actors, Business executives, and Wall Street traders.

His unique mindset coaching system leverages the power of hypnotherapy to eliminate fears and breakthrough mental roadblocks, allowing you to operate in a state of peak performance every day.

Connect with Elliot:

• Mindset and Perofrmance Coaching
• On Twitter @elliotroe1
• Download the Primed Mind App

Play to Your Potential On (and Off) the Course

1. Schedule a Mindset Coaching Discovery Call
2. Subscribe to the More Pars than Bogeys Newsletter
3. Download my "Play Your Best Round" free hypnosis audio recording.

High-Performance Hypnotherapy and Mindset Coaching

Paul Salter - known as The Golf Hypnotherapist - is a High-Performance Hypnotherapist and Mindset Coach who leverages hypnosis and powerful subconscious reprogramming techniques to help golfers of all ages and skill levels overcome the mental hazards of their minds so they can shoot lower scores and play to their potential.

He has over 16 years of coaching experience working with high performers in various industries, helping them get unstuck, out of their own way, and unlock their full potential.

Click here to learn more about how high-performance hypnotherapy and mindset coaching can help you get out of your own way and play to your potential on (and off) the course.

Instagram: @thegolfhypnotherapist

Twitter: @parsoverbogeys

Key Takeaways:

• Detachment drives performance: Balance isn't "soft"—it reduces emotional over-attachment to outcomes so you can execute under pressure.
• Build a non-variance win: Add a weekly pursuit (gym, BJJ, etc.) with incremental progress so your self-worth isn't hostage to poker/golf/markets.
• Calendar = truth: Audit your week. If sleep, family, training, and mindset work aren't scheduled, your goals are fantasy.
• Clear the landmines first: Use hypnosis/subconscious work to neutralize old emotional triggers so you're not "driving with the brakes on."
• Identity follows behavior: List what the best in your field do, mark what you're avoiding, and face those reps—belief grows after action.
• Indecision is ego-protection: Not deciding preserves the story "I'd win if I tried." Decide, act, and let data reshape the story.
• Presence beats anger: Elite performance (golf, trading, UFC, business) comes from calm focus and recovery skills—not rage or intensity.

Key Quotes:

• "If you know what to do and can't bring yourself to do it, you don't need a strategy coach—you need a mindset coach."
• "Balance isn't a weakness. It's a performance enhancer."
• "You can't separate who you are off the course from who shows up on the course."
• "Indecision is ego protection—it lets you believe you'd succeed if you tried."
• "Fear of failure and fear of success both whisper the same lie: I'm not enough."
• "Our work as coaches is to file down the edges of the cube until it rolls smoothly—until you're in flow."
• "You are not your issues. They're learned patterns—and they can be unlearned."

Time Stamps:

• 00:00 The Importance of Balance for High Performers
• 07:01 Finding Clarity in Life Balance
• 16:08 Overcoming Invisible Barriers to Success
• 20:15 Understanding Hypnosis and Its Impact on Performance
• 23:43 Overcoming Invisible Resistance
• 26:29 Identifying Decision Points for Success
• 29:48 The Fear of Failure vs. Fear of Success
• 34:57 Smoothing the Edges: High Performance Coaching
• 38:05 The Continuous Pursuit of Evolution
• 41:49 Being vs. Doing: The Essence of Performance
• 45:10 The Role of Anger in High Performance

I showed up to my first member-guest at Tampa Palms sick, under-prepared, and running on caffeine, ibuprofen, and grit—and still found a way to win our flight and taste the shootout.

In this raw recap, I walk you through the chaos (slow play, no warm-up, rules hiccups), the lows (bunker disasters), and the highs (clutch sand save on the final hole). You'll hear exactly how I managed energy, self-talk, and strategy when my plan went to zero—and how those same mindset levers translate to your next round and your business.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• How to manage expectations and energy when your prep falls apart
• The mindset shift that helped me play calm golf while feeling physically awful
• How to simplify focus and stay composed through delays, chaos, and pressure
• What poor communication (and one painful scoring mistake) taught me about teamwork
• The mental difference between avoiding a weakness and training through it
• Why gratitude is the fastest way to reset mid-round and regain confidence
• How emotional awareness off the course—like parenting guilt or stress—affects your game and composure on it

Buckle up for an exciting, relatable ride navigating plenty of highs and lows during an epic Member-Guest weekend.

Get your pencils ready and start listening.

P.S. Curious to learn more about the results my clients are experiencing and what they say about working with me? Read more here.

Play to Your Potential On (and Off) the Course

1. Schedule a Mindset Coaching Discovery Call
2. Subscribe to the More Pars than Bogeys Newsletter
3. Download my "Play Your Best Round" free hypnosis audio recording.

High-Performance Hypnotherapy and Mindset Coaching

Paul Salter - known as The Golf Hypnotherapist - is a High-Performance Hypnotherapist and Mindset Coach who leverages hypnosis and powerful subconscious reprogramming techniques to help golfers of all ages and skill levels overcome the mental hazards of their minds so they can shoot lower scores and play to their potential.

He has over 16 years of coaching experience working with high performers in various industries, helping them get unstuck, out of their own way, and unlock their full potential.

Click here to learn more about how high-performance hypnotherapy and mindset coaching can help you get out of your own way and play to your potential on (and off) the course.

Instagram: @thegolfhypnotherapist

Key Takeaways:

• Control the controllables, shrink the focus. Limited energy forced me to narrow attention to a few keys—hydration, tempo, target.
• Gratitude regulates performance. A 60-second gratitude reset shifted me from frustration to neutral and sparked a strong finish.
• Communication is strategy. Score-checking and slowing down on tap-ins would've saved a hole; over-communicate under stress.
• Bunker avoidance isn't a plan. Weakness avoidance became a liability; targeted reps + one committed technique are mandatory.
• Course management beats ego. Long irons and conservative lines kept us in play and in matches—even without driver.
• Blissful boredom wins. Treat each shot as routine; remove drama to keep execution steady through delays and chaos.
• Team > hero shot. Celebrate partners' contributions as much as your clutch moments; it strengthens trust when it matters.

Key Quotes:

• "I had zero energy—so I spent it on the only three things that moved the needle."
• "Gratitude was my reset button; it pulled me from anger back to neutral."
• "Avoiding a weakness is not a strategy—it's a ticking time bomb."
• "When the day goes sideways, shrink the goal to one shot and one breath."
• "Over-communicate scores under pressure; assumptions are expensive."
• "Blissful boredom is a superpower—routine drains the drama out of big moments."
• "Winning our flight wasn't one swing; it was two teammates honoring their roles."

Time Stamps:

• 00:00: The Build-Up to the Member Guest Event
• 02:36: Experiencing the Member Guest Event
• 05:27: Navigating Challenges and Expectations
• 08:35: Reflections on Performance and Resilience
• 11:16: The Final Matches and Lessons Learned
• 13:57: The Shootout Experience and Takeaways

What if your next low round isn't hiding in a swing tip—but in boring, repeatable fundamentals?

In this conversation, I'm joined by my golf coach, Director of Golf at Tampa Bay Country Club, Kevin Kenny.

Kevin has won a PGA chapter or section event in five different decades. And, after shoulder surgery and seven months off, Kevin returned and shot 73—powered by meticulous pre-shot routines, alignment, posture, and belief.

We dig into mental clutter vs. clarity, how to "watch the ball" instead of the monitor, why short game is the ultimate pressure valve, and how to compete with conviction decade after decade. You'll leave with a simple, durable framework to practice all winter, manage match play smarter, and build unconditional confidence on command.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• The five fundamentals Kevin hammers (aim, grip, posture, turn back, turn through).
• A simple "find the root cause" process after any miss.
• The target-first focus shift that cleans up mental clutter fast.
• Why short-game mastery lowers scores and frees up your iron play.
• How to practice in the off-season without hitting a ball.
• Smarter match-play tactics (pars win, don't beat yourself).
• The mindset behind sustained winning across your 20s–60s.

Get your pencils ready and start listening.

P.P.S. Curious to learn more about the results my clients are experiencing and what they say about working with me? Read more here.

More About Kevin Kenny

Affectionately known as "KK," Kevin is the longtime Head Golf Professional at Tampa Palms Golf and Country Club. A staple in the Tampa golf community for more than two decades, KK has built a reputation for his deep technical knowledge, approachable coaching style, and commitment to helping players of all levels fall in love with the game.

Under his leadership, Tampa Palms has become one of the premier golf experiences in the region—known not just for the course itself, but for the culture of respect, camaraderie, and continuous improvement he's cultivated among members and staff alike.

Whether he's mentoring his team, helping juniors develop sound fundamentals, or guiding seasoned players through course management and mindset work, KK's influence extends far beyond swing mechanics. His passion for the game, attention to detail, and focus on growth make him one of the most respected and beloved figures in Florida golf.

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High-Performance Hypnotherapy and Mindset Coaching

Paul Salter - known as The Golf Hypnotherapist - is a High-Performance Hypnotherapist and Mindset Coach who leverages hypnosis and powerful subconscious reprogramming techniques to help golfers of all ages and skill levels overcome the mental hazards of their minds so they can shoot lower scores and play to their potential.

He has over 16 years of coaching experience working with high performers in various industries, helping them get unstuck, out of their own way, and unlock their full potential.

Click here to learn more about how high-performance hypnotherapy and mindset coaching can help you get out of your own way and play to your potential on (and off) the course.

Instagram: @thegolfhypnotherapist

Twitter: @parsoverbogeys

Key Takeaways:

• Fundamentals are the real secret: grip, aim, posture, and rotation.
• Believe in what you're doing before you do it—confidence creates competence.
• Every golfer has their own swing; find yours and own it.
• Watch your shots. Reflect, don't react. Learn from every miss.
• Golf is a math contest—it's not about how, it's about how many.
• The best short games win tournaments, not perfect swings.
• Focus on targets, not trouble—your body follows your mind.
• Get your life in order off the course if you expect to play well on it.
• Match play rewards boring, consistent golf—avoid beating yourself.
• Mental clutter kills performance. Create your own reset routine to refocus.

Key Quotes:

• "Golf is a math contest. It's not how—it's how many."
• "Everybody thinks there's a secret. The secret is fundamentals."
• "Believe before you perform. You don't get confident first—you choose confidence."
• "Watch it until it lands. Find the root cause—often it's alignment."
• "Short game takes the heat off your approach shots."
• "On the course, focus on the target, not the trouble."
• "In match play, don't beat yourself. A bunch of boring pars wins."

Time Stamps:

• 00:00 The Comeback Story: Overcoming Adversity in Golf
• 02:59 Mastering the Fundamentals: The Key to Consistent Play
• 05:48 Mental Preparation: The Power of Visualization and Intentionality
• 08:38 Managing Expectations: The Importance of Short Game and Course Management
• 11:22 Mental Clutter: Clearing the Mind for Better Performance
• 14:15 Focus and Intent: Strategies for Staying Present on the Course
• 25:16 The Journey of a Golfer: Decades of Success
• 27:33 The Power of Belief and Fundamentals in Golf
• 33:21 The Importance of Short Game Mastery
• 38:17 Golf as a Math Contest: The Strategy Behind Scoring
• 43:24 Words of Wisdom for Match Play Competitors

High performers don't need "balance"—they need alignment.

In this solo episode, I'll challenge the cultural myth of work-life balance and reframe success around energetic alignment: being ruthless with honesty about what you truly want, communicating clearly with yourself and others, and rhythms that fuel—rather than drain—your focus.

I break down the neuroscience of burnout (why your prefrontal cortex goes offline, limbic system spikes, and motivation flatlines), show how misalignment creates chaos on the course and in business, and offer a practical path: define your wants, design your week around them, and protect one non-work outlet to speed subconscious integration.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why "balance" often sabotages high performers—and what to pursue instead
• How chronic stress rewires the brain and quietly kills decision-making
• A simple question that unlocks clarity and alignment ("What do I want?")
• How honest communication becomes the foundation for sustainable ambition
• A practical dashboard model for dialing priorities up or down by season
• Why a non-industry hobby accelerates learning and prevents burnout
• How to translate alignment into lower scores, stronger leadership, and more joy

The goal isn't equal time everywhere; it's intentional energy where it matters most—so you can compete hard, recover well, and feel fulfilled.

Get your pencils ready and start listening.

P.S. Curious to learn more about the results my clients are experiencing and what they say about working with me? Read more here.

P.P.S. Read "The Myth of Balance" newsletter.

Play to Your Potential On (and Off) the Course

1. Schedule a Mindset Coaching Discovery Call
2. Subscribe to the More Pars than Bogeys Newsletter
3. Download my "Play Your Best Round" free hypnosis audio recording.

High-Performance Hypnotherapy and Mindset Coaching

Paul Salter - known as The Golf Hypnotherapist - is a High-Performance Hypnotherapist and Mindset Coach who leverages hypnosis and powerful subconscious reprogramming techniques to help golfers of all ages and skill levels overcome the mental hazards of their minds so they can shoot lower scores and play to their potential.

He has over 16 years of coaching experience working with high performers in various industries, helping them get unstuck, out of their own way, and unlock their full potential.

Click here to learn more about how high-performance hypnotherapy and mindset coaching can help you get out of your own way and play to your potential on (and off) the course.

Instagram: @thegolfhypnotherapist

Key Takeaways:

• Balance ≠ equal hours—set your week by intentional energy, not symmetry.
• Burnout is a brain problem: stress dulls focus and creativity; you play and lead worse.
• Ask it daily: "What do I want?"—then build practice, work, and family rhythms around it.
• Honest communication first with yourself, then with partner, kids, and team.
• Seasonal dials: different goals need different settings; adjust without guilt.
• Have one non-golf outlet (or non-work for entrepreneurs) to recharge and integrate skills.
• Alignment feels clean: fewer reactive decisions, more presence over the ball—and at home.

Key Quotes:

• "High performers don't need balance—they need alignment."
• "Chasing society's balance felt inauthentic; alignment felt honest."
• "Chronic stress turns your prefrontal cortex down and your limbic system up."
• "Ask yourself all day long: What do I want? Then design around that answer."
• "Every breakthrough begins with honest communication—starting with you."
• "You can have it all—just not all at 100 at the same time."
• "The goal isn't dividing time; it's defining your truth and protecting your energy."

What if your inconsistency on the golf course wasn't about mechanics—but about how your brain is wired to learn, handle stress, and perform under pressure?

In this episode of The Scratch Golfer's Mindset Podcast, I sit down with John Weir, creator of Mental Golf Type, to explore how personality wiring, hypnosis, and mental fitness shape your golf performance and your life.

John breaks down why self-image is the foundation of confidence, how stress changes your swing before mechanics ever do, and why "being you" is the ultimate competitive advantage.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• What hypnosis really is (and why it's a natural state of mind).
• The role of brainwaves in learning, confidence, and performance.
• How self-image is formed—and how to reshape it for success.
• Why celebrating positive shots accelerates growth.
• The difference between mental game strategies and mindset training.
• How your personality type influences stress, learning, and consistency.
• Why "being you" is the fastest path to your zone state.

Whether you're trying to break 90, win your club championship, or gain an edge in business, John's insights will help you understand yourself at a deeper level—and show you how to align with your strengths for lasting success.

Get your pencils ready and start listening.

P.P.S. Curious to learn more about the results my clients are experiencing and what they say about working with me? Read more here.

More About John

John Weir is the creator of the Mental Golf Type® program, author of Golfer's Guide to Mental Fitness, and co-founder of Mental Golf Type LLC, where he helps golfers around the world unlock peak performance through the power of the mind. With over 23 years of experience, John holds a psychology degree from Point Park University, is an NLP Master Practitioner, and a board certified hypnotist/instructor via the National Guild of Hypnotists.

John has trained coaches and practitioners in 60 countries through his golf hypnosis certification course, and his mental performance coaching has contributed to multiple national championship wins—including with Seminole State College's women's golf team. He is a recognized authority in his field, has received top honors from the National Guild of Hypnotists, and has been featured by media outlets like ESPN Radio, FOX Sports, and Golf Magazine.

Learn your Mental Golf Type and get certified here.

Play to Your Potential On (and Off) the Course

1. Schedule a Mindset Coaching Discovery Call
2. Subscribe to the More Pars than Bogeys Newsletter
3. Download my "Play Your Best Round" free hypnosis audio recording.

High-Performance Hypnotherapy and Mindset Coaching

Paul Salter - known as The Golf Hypnotherapist - is a High-Performance Hypnotherapist and Mindset Coach who leverages hypnosis and powerful subconscious reprogramming techniques to help golfers of all ages and skill levels overcome the mental hazards of their minds so they can shoot lower scores and play to their potential.

He has over 16 years of coaching experience working with high performers in various industries, helping them get unstuck, out of their own way, and unlock their full potential.

Click here to learn more about how high-performance hypnotherapy and mindset coaching can help you get out of your own way and play to your potential on (and off) the course.

Instagram: @thegolfhypnotherapist

Twitter: @parsoverbogeys

Key Takeaways:

• Hypnosis is a natural brainwave state that improves learning and receptivity.
• Self-image, formed in childhood, drives confidence, habits, and athletic identity.
• Celebrating positive shots (with emotion) hardwires them into memory.
• Stress and cortisol—not swing flaws—often cause inconsistency.
• Personality type influences how you process information and respond under pressure.
• Mental fitness is like physical fitness—it requires daily training.
• True performance comes from being yourself, not mimicking the pros.

Key Quotes:

• "Hypnosis is simply a natural state of mind—it's how we learn best."
• "Your subconscious doesn't care if it's positive or negative—it just supports your self-image."
• "Every good shot deserves a fist pump. Celebrate the positive to wire it in."
• "Most inconsistency in golf isn't mechanical—it's stress shutting down the motor cortex."
• "Your personality type is your wiring. Once you know it, performance becomes simpler."
• "Mental fitness is just as important as physical fitness—you need both daily."
• "The zone isn't about being Tiger or Phil—it's about being yourself."

Time Stamps:

• 00:00: Understanding Hypnosis and Brain Waves
• 02:44: The Importance of Receptive States
• 05:42: Building Self-Image and Overcoming Limiting Beliefs
• 08:29: Emotional Anchoring and Positive Reinforcement
• 11:30: Mental Fitness: A New Approach to Hypnosis
• 14:30: The Role of Personality in Performance
• 17:21: Stress Management and Performance Consistency
• 20:17: Understanding Learning Styles and Personality Types
• 23:13: The Impact of Personality on Relationships
• 26:14: Simplifying the Path to Improvement
• 29:08: The Power of Self-Acceptance
• 32:13: The Importance of Slowing Down
• 35:00: Final Thoughts and Key Takeaways