In this episode of 7 on Sundays, hosts Stephanie Boye and Dr. Chez Leeby delve into pressing mental health issues affecting young men, featuring a candid conversation with 24-year-old college graduate Thomas. The discussion sheds light on the high rates of suicide among young adults, influenced by societal pressures, toxic masculinity, and hustle culture. Thomas recounts his personal struggles and losses, underscoring the urgency of open dialogues, group therapy, and strong support networks. The episode also explores the significance of retreats and character-building activities, advocating for practical strategies like employing therapists for fraternities. Overall, it emphasizes the need for creating environments where young men can comfortably seek help and find their purpose in early adulthood.

RESOURCES

988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline      Call or Text  #988

Crisis Text Line text "TALK" to 741-741

SAMHSA Treatment Referral Hotline (substance abuse)

1-800-662-HELP (4357)

Timestamps

00:00 Trigger Warning

00:47 Hosts Introduction and Episode Overview

01:54 Discussing Suicide and Mental Health Statistics

06:08 The Danger of Hustle Culture

09:16 Thomas’s Personal Experience with Suicide

15:47 Emotional Impact and Coping Mechanisms

26:41 Toxic Masculinity and Hustle Culture

39:32 Exploring New Interests

41:09 Parental Concerns and Support

41:29 Pursuing Passion Despite Practicality

42:15 Mental Health and Expectations

43:21 The Loneliness Epidemic Among Men

45:36 Superficiality and Genuine Connections

48:52 Recognizing Red Flags in Mental Health

53:22 The Importance of Deep Conversations

01:01:58 Proposed Solutions for Mental Health Support

01:14:39 Final Thoughts and Future Plans

In this episode of 7 on Sundays, hosts Dr. Chez Leeby and Stephanie Boye discuss the profound challenges of depression and loneliness with guest Belle. The conversation delves into Belle's personal experiences with suicidal ideation, coping mechanisms, and the impact of college life on mental health. The episode highlights the importance of recognizing depression, creating a supportive routine, and reducing the stigma around mental health. Belle shares valuable insights and practical strategies for managing depression, making meaningful connections, and helping those in crisis. Listeners are reminded that the show is for mature audiences and that mental health support is always available through the suicide and crisis lifeline at 988.

RESOURCES

988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline      Call or Text  #988

Crisis Text Line text "TALK" to 741-741

SAMHSA Treatment Referral Hotline (substance abuse)

1-800-662-HELP (4357)

TIMESTAMPS

00:00 Introduction and Trigger Warning

01:16 Belle's Personal Experience with Depression

05:22 Coping Mechanisms and Their Impact

07:04 Depression is a Numbness to Joy

09:33 Why Depression Shows up in College

13:26 The Role of Loneliness and Social Media

16:56 Hookup Culture and Depression

20:47 Suicidal Ideation and Seeking Help

29:32 Therapeutic Tools and Strategies

38:18 Final Thoughts and Resources

This episode of the '7 on Sundays' podcast, hosted by Dr. Chez Leeby and Stephanie Boye, dive into the controversial topic of smut, a form of erotic literature that is popular among teens and young adults. With guest Anne, a college student, the discussion covers her personal journey through fanfiction and smut, the psychological and societal impacts, and the normalization of content that often parallels the explicitness of pornography. Anne shares insights on how smut shapes sexual expectations and its effects on real-life relationships. The episode explores the hidden dangers, parental ignorance, and the broad normalization among young readers while addressing the need for open conversations and self-regulation.

TIMESTAMPS

00:00 Introduction and Content Warning

01:28 Guest Introduction and Early Exposure to Smut

02:35 Discovering Fan Fiction and Smut

04:05 Exploring Different Types of Fan Fiction

04:50 Impact of Fan Fiction on Sexual Understanding

12:58 Revisiting Old Fan Fiction

20:13 Hiding Fan Fiction from Parents

25:30 Normalization and Popularity of Smut

27:12 Violent Themes in Smut

29:24 Psychological Impact and Sexual Templates

41:45 Power Dynamics in Smut Literature

42:37 The Escalation of Smut Writing

43:52 Vanilla and Consent in Modern Relationships

46:59 The Impact of Smut on Real-Life Relationships

48:54 The Importance of Human Connection

52:42 Addressing the Influence of Smut on Youth

57:29 Final Thoughts and Reflections

In this episode of 7 on Sundays, hosts Dr. Chez Leeby and Stephanie Boye engage in an insightful conversation with college sophomores Bonnie and Beth. They discuss the challenges and dangers young adults face in seeking connections, particularly through dating apps and hookups. The discussion delves into the emotional repercussions of seeking validation through shallow encounters and emphasizes the importance of building genuine, meaningful relationships. The hosts offer advice on self-worth, safety, and the significance of listening to trusted friends and family when making risky decisions. This episode is an honest exploration of the pressures and pitfalls of young adult relationships, aiming to inspire listeners to pursue meaningful connections and self-care.

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TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 Introduction and Trigger Warning

01:14 Episode Overview

02:22 Bonnie's Story: Seeking Connection

13:05 Beth's Story: Mixed Signals and Heartbreak

15:58 Self-Worth and Seeking Genuine Connection

21:17 Reflecting on Personal Needs and Desires

34:15 Realizing What You Want in a Relationship

36:05 The Importance of Self-Love and Self-Knowledge

37:43 The Power of Affirmations and Self-Respect

41:35 Empowered Statements and Personal Growth

47:35 Building Genuine Connections and Intimacy

54:15 Making Safe and Thoughtful Decisions

58:24 Closing Thoughts and Final Advice

In this episode of 7 on Sundays, hosts Dr. Chez Leeby and Stephanie Boye dive deep into candid discussions with Sam, a recent college graduate, who shares her journey of navigating through hookup culture and finding self-worth. The conversation explores Sam’s personal experiences, the impact of early family dynamics on her relationships, the realization of needing more than superficial validation, and how she learned to set firm boundaries. This episode is a profound look at how young adults can reconcile past traumas and choose healthier paths in their relationships.

The discussion includes insights on overcoming codependency, understanding the influence of childhood experiences on adult relationships, and the journey towards embracing self-respect and healthy interactions. Sam highlights the significance of clear boundaries and the importance of communication in fostering meaningful connections.

00:00 Introduction and Trigger Warning

01:17 Sam's College Experience and Hookup Culture

03:51 Seeking Validation Through Hookups

06:34 Codependency and Early Relationships

18:03 Impact of Childhood and Parental Influence

22:51 Healing and Self-Realization

29:50 Transformation and Moving Forward

35:45 The Importance of Communication in Relationships

37:41 Empowerment Through Boundaries

38:33 Parental Influence and Personal Development

41:30 Navigating Dating and Setting Expectations

55:14 The Role of Courage in Building Relationships

57:20 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Dr. Chez and Stephanie take a critical look at the time honored tradition of fraternity and sororotiy hazing.  As kids head back to school, or are going to college for the first time they will likely make the decision to rush Greek life or not. What are the good and bad aspects of the Greek system. Why are we allowing others to tell us our worth?  How is it hurting young people? how could the system be improved?  Let's dig in!

TIMESTAMPS

[00:01:30] Introduction to sorority and fraternity hazing discussion

[00:03:55] The appeal of fraternities and sororities

[00:07:05] Dr. Chez’s excitement for her daughter joining a sorority

[00:07:57] Personal experience of Dr. Chez’s son being harmed during fraternity hazing

[00:11:15] Introduction to the book "Among the Bros" and its coverage of fraternity crimes

[00:17:07] Understanding hazing laws and university conduct codes

[00:21:40] The Bystander Effect in Hazing Situations

[00:26:42] Women and identity in sororities

[00:29:45] The National Epidemic of Loneliness and Its Relation to Hazing

[00:31:15] The Impact of Greek Life on Parental Pride

[00:41:45] Making meaningful connections in college

[00:44:05] Creating college community

[00:49:03] Addressing both the physical and emotional abuse in hazing

[00:50:56] Hazing experiences in sororities

In this 7 On Sundays Episode Dr. Chez and Stephanie explore sorority and fraternity hazing. Their guest, Sadie, shares the stories of her sorority hazing that ultimately caused the sorority to be booted from the campus and Sadie to drop out of the organization. 

In this episode of 7 on Sundays, hosts Dr. Chez Leeby and Stephanie Boye converse with Hannah, a sophomore at a large public university on the West Coast, about the challenges female students face when not involved in sorority life. The discussion delves into issues such as loneliness, the pressures of Greek life, non-consensual encounters at frat parties, and the broader hookup culture. Hannah shares personal experiences and advice on maintaining self-respect and authenticity despite peer and societal pressures. The episode emphasizes the importance of staying true to oneself, the power of saying 'no,' and the impact of media and pop culture on young adults. It concludes with a reminder that opting out of certain social activities is normal and that the show is not a substitute for professional mental health support.

TIMESTAMPS

00:00 Introduction and Content Warning

01:15 Welcome to 7 on Sundays: Episode Overview

02:48 Hannah’s Story: Frat Party Experiences

05:49 Greek Life and Recruitment Stories

10:12 Fraternity Party Dynamics and Safety Concerns

25:55 Navigating Social Life Outside Greek Parties

30:34 Dealing with Peer Pressure

37:15 The Dangers of Party Culture

39:39 Personal Experience: Being Drugged

41:28 The Impact of Negative Experiences

43:24 Meeting a Healthy Relationship

45:18 Objectification and Sexualization

49:44 Shame and Body Image

59:17 Building Trust in Relationships

01:09:57 Advice for Younger Generations

01:13:19 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

In this episode of the 7 on Sundays podcast, Dr. Chez Leeby and Stephanie Boye delve into the complex challenges that young adults face during and after college life. They are joined by Lauren, who provides insightful reflections on Greek life, social expectations, and hookup culture. Lauren discusses the importance of self-exploration and emotional intimacy, highlighting the struggles that come with conforming to societal norms and the paradox of choice in college environments. The discussion emphasizes the significance of doing what you genuinely want and not caring about others' opinions to foster authenticity and genuine connections.

TIMESTAMPS

00:00 Introduction and Trigger Warning

01:53 Welcome to 7 on Sundays: Exploring College Life

04:06 Social and Academic Expectations

06:41 Hookup Culture in College

13:58 We’re Losing How to be in a Relationship

17:30 Transitioning to Post-College Dating

21:58 The Loneliness Epidemic

26:18 Navigating Greek Life and Hookups

28:36 Rewards and Gender Differences in Hookups

32:20 Fear of Gossip and Rating Systems

33:45 Flying Under the Radar in College

39:34 Advice for College Freshmen

41:48 Wrap-up: Exploring Interests Outside Greek Life

45:39 The Importance of Authentic Connections

50:37 Final Thoughts

In this episode of the 7 On Sundays podcast, hosts Dr. Chez Leeby and Stephanie Boye dive into a candid interview with Hope, who courageously shares her experiences with two significant and emotionally abusive early relationships. Discussing the intense emotional dependency and manipulation she faced, Hope provides detailed insights into recognizing red flags, trusting intuition, and learning from unhealthy relationships. The episode emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, setting boundaries, and seeking support and therapy. Both the hosts and Hope offer valuable advice for young adults navigating similar situations.

RESOURCES

If you or a loved one are in an abusive relationship, please call your local police or

The National Domestic Violence Hotline 1.800.799.SAFE (7233) or 1-800-787-3224

 The National Dating Abuse Helpline 1-866-331-9474

*988 The National Suicide and Crisis Lifeline

TIMESTAMPS

00:00 Trigger Warning & Introduction

01:32 Hope's Story: Early Relationships and Emotional Manipulation

06:35 A Second Relationship: Casual to Toxic

11:20 Hope's Reflections and Lessons Learned

17isCatching Red Flags

19:50 Breaking Patterns From Your Upbringing

25:07 Relationships Shouldn’t be a Burden

30:04 Hope's Advice for Young Listeners

37:25 Therapist's Analysis and Final Thoughts