December 21, 2023

71. Healing after an Abusive Relationship and Breakup with Chandni & Jazmine

1 hour 24 minutes

Ever been in a relationship or went through a breakup that had you feeling completely confused, disoriented, made you lose trust in yourself and impacted your sense of worthiness? Chandni and I have, and today in a very intimate episode, we discuss what it’s like to get out of emotionally abusive relationships and come out the other side with a whole heck of a lot of clarity, centeredness, and joy. We both agree that while no one is ever to blame for another person’s harmful behavior, yet it also takes two to engage in any relationship and so we find a lot of healing in self-accountability, discussing what made us choose these relationships, and breaking the cycle of trying to earn love or play the role of “fixer”. Chandni has some immense grace and truly powerful perspectives and it was joy to discuss and share our stories.

We also get into:

the difference between a “shitty breakup” and what commonly gets referred to as ‘narcissistic’ abuse

if it’s better to go or stay ‘no contact’

how to get closure without repair

why we stayed even when we knew it wasn’t right

chronic health conditions & relationships

listening to anger and disappointment as a compass

choosing the right people to surround yourself with

breaking the cycle of addiction to unbalanced relationships

when emotional abuse runs through your family

the joys that come after grieving

Links:

Study on conscientiousness and relationship success: Lampis, J., Cataudella, S., Busonera, A., & Carta, S. (2018). Personality Similarity and Romantic Relationship Adjustment During the Couple Life Cycle. The Family Journal, 26(1), 31-39. https://doi.org/10.1177/1066480717741689

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Sessions & Information about the host: ⁠JazmineRussell.com⁠

Disclaimer: The DEPTH Work Podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Any information on this podcast in no way to be construed or substituted as psychological counseling, psychotherapy, mental health counseling, or any other type of therapy or medical advice.

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