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Can you support the people you love without sacrificing your dreams?

If you're a first-generation wealth builder, caregiver, eldest daughter, child of immigrants, or someone who tends to put everyone else's needs before your own, this episode is for you.

In this episode of the Wealth Para Todos Podcast, host Rita Soledad Fernandez Paulino (Soledad, they/them), queer Mexican American money and self-care coach, explores the relationship skills required to increase your financial security without sacrificing your wellness.

Because becoming work-optional isn't just about learning how to save, pay off debt, invest, or increase your income.

It also requires learning how to set boundaries, navigate codependency, receive support, and remain connected to your community without abandoning yourself.

Soledad explains the difference between codependency, hyper-independence, and interdependence, and shares how books like Codependent No More by Melody Beattie and Set Boundaries, Find Peace by Nedra Glover Tawwab helped them develop healthier ways of relating.

Through personal stories about marriage, caregiving, parenting, friendships, and supporting family, Soledad illustrates how compassion and boundaries can coexist—and why pursuing financial independence doesn't have to come at the expense of your humanity.

✔️ What codependency is and how it shows up in relationships

✔️ The difference between codependency, hyper-independence, and interdependence

✔️ Why setting boundaries can feel so uncomfortable for people-pleasers and caregivers

✔️ How to support loved ones without making their problems your responsibility

✔️ Why self-care is preparation, not selfishness

✔️ How to help parents financially while still investing for your future

✔️ Why saying no to friends can be an act of self-trust

✔️ How parenting boundaries can help children become more independent

✔️ Why sacrificing your dreams often leads to resentment

✔️ How to pursue financial independence without losing your humanity

📚 Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie

📚 Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself by Nedra Glover Tawwab

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00:00 Welcome to Wealth Para Todos

00:21 Why becoming work-optional requires relationship skills

02:23 Understanding codependency and people-pleasing

07:27 The trap of hyper-independence

08:31 Why interdependence is the goal

09:38 Lessons from Set Boundaries, Find Peace

11:43 Honoring your dreams without guilt

13:08 Real-life examples of compassion without self-abandonment

13:21 Supporting a spouse through tech layoffs

14:33 Practicing self-care during a family medical crisis

15:44 Helping parents without sacrificing your future

16:59 Saying no to friends while pursuing debt freedom

17:54 Parenting boundaries and raising independent children

19:09 How to hold both your dreams and your relationships

20:58 Wealth Para Todos Academy and webinar details

22:30 Final blessing and disclaimer

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