Do you crave connection but keep everyone at arm's length? You might be what Tracy calls an "accidental asshole."

You're not trying to be a jerk. You built that wall as a kid to survive. But now it's blocking the very thing you want most.

You date with one foot in, one foot out. You need drama to feel anything. When someone actually wants to love you? Boring. Or terrifying.

Stop waiting for someone who won't trigger you. That person doesn't exist. The work is dealing with the discomfort of letting someone in.

In this episode, Tracy explores:

* Why you need tension to feel attraction

* How the "perfect person" fantasy keeps you unavailable

* Why you get pissed when you actually get attached

* Why you contact exes months later

* How to feel without the protective facade

"Emotionally available people do not seek out unavailability." ~ Tracy Crossley