You think you're being nice. Accommodating. A good partner.

But here's the truth: people-pleasing is killing your relationship. Every time you don't speak up because you're afraid of conflict, you're building distance. Every time you sacrifice and keep a mental scorecard, you're choosing resentment over love.

Distance is not love.

In this episode, Tracy gets raw about what really blocks intimacy—and it's not your partner's annoying habits. It's your refusal to own your feelings, speak your truth, and stop expecting the other person to make everything perfect. Using a real example from her own marriage (spoiler: it's about morning routines and walking the dogs), Tracy breaks down why speaking up isn't about changing your partner—it's about valuing yourself.

In this episode, Tracy explores:

* Why people-pleasing is manipulation, not love

* How to speak your truth without expecting your partner to change

* The difference between accommodation and sacrifice

* Why you need to stop punishing yourself (and your partner)

* How to accept that you can disagree and still be together

"If you expect the other person to take care of you emotionally, you're going to be [upset] all the time. I don't feel like living that way." ~ Tracy Crossley