This episode traces how want eclipses love, why our nervous systems cling to the status quo, and what it looks like to re-center care—personally, politically, and on the block where we actually live.

In this episode

The “want machine” vs. the memory of love

Need as interruption—and why that’s the point

Motherwork as a political ethic (remembering, soothing, staying)

Homeostasis/allostasis 101: why change feels impossible

From dominance to care: reframing “strength”

Micro-rituals for turning your sight inward (bath, breath, boundaries)

Neighborhood resilience: co-ops, block pantries, bees & barter

Five takeaways

Want is loud; need is quiet. Train your attention toward the quiet.

Biology isn’t destiny. Stability bias (homeostasis) explains the resistance—and invites patient, repeated, embodied reps.

Motherwork is governance. Remembering and soothing are political acts.

Care scales locally first. Start with neighbors; build small systems that keep people sane and fed.

Strength ≠ dominance. Try courage with compassion.

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