A Really Good Cry

What does it really mean to help someone, and where do we draw the line?

In this episode of A Really Good Cry, I sit down with the incredible Terri Cole, a psychotherapist whose own life experiences offer a profound look into the world of high-functioning codependency. Terri shares an unforgettable story about the night she brought a stranger home from the train station—a gesture that sparks our exploration into the blurred lines between helping and interfering. 

Join us as we delve into the psychological impacts of codependency, discussing how our desires to help can sometimes control both our lives and those around us. Terri provides crucial insights on recognizing when empathy exceeds healthy limits and the vital importance of establishing boundaries for our well-being. 

If you’ve ever found yourself in the role of a rescuer, or if you’re seeking to understand the emotional intricacies of codependency, this heartfelt discussion is not to be missed.

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

00:56 Bringing home a stranger

03:13 What is high functioning codependency?

06:02 Signs of an HFC

07:47 The line between helping and controlling

11:14 How to support without overstepping

15:59 The power of asking expansive questions

18:30 The burden of being 'nice'

20:47 Breaking the cycle of auto advice-giving

25:20 Letting someone be their own hero

28:03 Why parents should let kids fail sometimes

39:05 Asking before giving advice

43:20 How projection affects our relationships

46:07 Why asking for help feels so hard

52:26 How to stop tying worth to helping others

58:09 Stop caring what others think

1:02:18 Showing up the same online and offline

1:07:40 The cost of perfectionism

1:12:25 How to truly rest your mind and body

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Why is it so hard to forgive and let go? 

I’ve been there–caught up in replaying moments where other people hurt me, and waiting for apologies that never come. And honestly? It’s exhausting.

In this episode, I’m sharing my own struggles with forgiveness and the surprising things I’ve learned about how much holding onto pain can weigh us down. We’ll talk about what forgiveness really is (hint: it’s not about them), how our emotions affect us physically, and some simple practices that can help us let go and feel lighter.

If you’re ready to stop letting the past take up so much space and make room for peace and joy, this one’s for you

What Was Discussed:

00:00 Intro

01:08 Do we really need an apology to heal?

04:05 Getting hurt is just part of life

04:54 The impact of pent-up emotions on your body

05:36 Just let it go

06:29 Forgiveness isn’t about them, it’s about you

08:09 Forgiveness is strength, not weakness

10:22 How journaling helps you heal

12:33 Putting forgiveness in God’s hands

15:53 The 4 steps to forgiveness

17:43 Becoming forgivingly fit

21:11 Imagine forgiveness in your mind

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Are you ready to make wellness feel simple and joyful?

In this episode of A Really Good Cry, I’m sitting down with the wonderful Liz Moody, author of 100 Ways to Change Your Life, and we’re talking all about making wellness simple, fun, and actually doable. Liz shares her journey from dealing with anxiety to creating a life she truly loves, and she’s got so many beautiful tips on building self-trust, finding motivation that feels real, and ditching all the “perfect” wellness routines that just don’t work. 

We chat about creating small changes that last, embracing our bodies with love, and tuning into what really lights us up. If you’re ready for a fresh take on wellness that lets you just be you, then come join us—this episode is all about finding joy in every step.

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro

• 03:07 "Never be the one to say no to yourself"

• 07:25 What does your best life look like?

• 11:37 When comfort foods don’t bring comfort

• 15:46 The power of curiosity to break bad habits

• 17:48 Why accountability helps you stick to goals

• 21:00 Purpose and connection keep us alive longer

• 24:12 Fear won’t get you to your goals

• 26:23 Finding your motivation to workout

• 31:49 Living in your body vs. Looking at it

• 37:50 Micro choices that redefine your life

• 44:02 Temptation bundling

• 47:11 Staying in touch with family and friends

• 49:47 Think about your death

• 56:30 Identify energy drains in your life

• 1:02:57 Setting boundaries to reclaim your energy

• 1:08:56 Be gentle with yourselves

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Ever walked into a room and felt like everyone’s eyes were on you, every flaw on display? You're not alone!

In this episode, we’re diving into what social anxiety really is, where it comes from, and why it affects so many of us. I’m sharing my own journey, my little tips and tricks, and how I found a path to feeling more calm and present. 

So, if you’ve ever felt the urge to bail on a party last-minute or felt uncomfortable in a crowd, tune in! We’ll explore the roots of this feeling and, hopefully, help you see that social anxiety doesn’t have to control your life. Let’s find that inner calm, together.

What Was Discussed:

• 00:00 Intro

• 02:34 Why I’ve Canceled Plans Last Minute

• 05:29 It’s Not Always About You

• 07:47 Are You Stopping Yourself From Feeling Better?

• 08:17 Show Up as Your True Self

• 10:23 Setting Goals and Giving Yourself an Exit Strategy

• 11:29 Get Comfortable with Uncomfortable Conversations

• 15:13 Be Honest About Your Anxiety

• 16:11 The “So What” Method

• 17:47 Ask More Questions and Become Curious

• 20:22 Sometimes You Just Have to Show Up

• 21:36 Ayurvedic Tips for Managing Anxiety

• 22:39 The Cost of Anxiety

• 23:42 Join A Club

• 24:40 How Clothing Impacts Confidence

• 26:03 Self-Love is Key to Confidence

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Ever wonder what’s actually in your food, water, or even your makeup? 

In this week’s episode of A Really Good Cry, I’m sitting down with the wonderful Meghan Swidler, a holistic health coach and detox queen! We’re diving into all the little (and big!) ways that toxins sneak into our daily lives and what they do to our bodies—yes, even things like your skin, energy, and gut! Meghan shares so much wisdom on how to listen to what your body is telling you, clear out what it doesn’t need, and create space for feeling our absolute best.

From simple food swaps to ditching hidden household toxins, this episode is filled with practical tips that don’t feel overwhelming. It’s all about getting back in tune with ourselves and building little habits that help us thrive from the inside out.

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 02:44 Signs You Need a Detox Right Now
• 05:50 The Four Main Channels of Elimination
• 07:03 Common Gut Issues Aren’t Normal
• 11:27 How Blockage in the Colon Creates Toxins
• 13:40 Toxins Are Everywhere
• 16:34 Top 3 Ways to Reduce Toxins In Your Body
• 20:08 What’s Really in Your Water?
• 25:58 The Hidden Dangers of Hormonal Contraception
• 34:11 Top Toxins to Avoid While Grocery Shopping
• 39:25 Your Most Important Investment Is Your Health
• 42:53 Reducing Toxins at Home
• 47:18 The Detox Formula
• 52:14 Deprivation vs. Freedom
• 54:53 How to Safely Start Your Detox
• 59:34 Embracing Detox Symptoms
• 1:03:54 Best Tests for Toxins

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Did you know that your phone is the biggest thief of joy in your relationships?

In this episode, we’re talking all about breaking free from that scrolling habit and creating deeper, more meaningful moments with the people we cherish. I share my own journey of realizing how mindlessly checking my phone was stealing away the precious time I could spend with my family and friends. 

We'll explore how being present, like really present, can transform your relationships and fill you with joy. Plus, I'll share practical tips to help you set boundaries, swap screen time for connection time, and find little ways to show love through acts of service. Let’s learn to be more present, embrace the moments, and build memories that last a lifetime!

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 02:22 Is Your Phone Stealing Your Time?
• 03:28 How Much of Your Life Is Spent Scrolling?
• 05:45 The Impact of Phones on Real Communication
• 08:39 Personalizing Quality Time for Each Loved One
• 12:06 Building Healthy Boundaries with Your Phone
• 15:46 Replacing Phone Time with Family Connection
• 17:30 How Acts of Service Bring Us Closer
• 21:42 Become A Better Listener
• 24:06 What Are You Really Scrolling Away From?

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Did you know that hormones affect so much more than just big life changes?

In this week’s episode of A Really Good Cry, I sat down with the wonderful Dr. Taz Bathia to chat about all things hormone health and balance. You know, so often we think hormones are just about periods or menopause, but they actually affect everything—from our mood and energy to even our relationships and decisions! 

Dr. Taz opens up about her own journey with hormone struggles and shares powerful insights on how we can start understanding our bodies better. We’ll talk about how things like stress, diet, and even sleep play such a huge role in our well-being. I’m so excited for you all to tune in and learn some simple but life-changing ways to feel balanced, connected, and empowered in your own health journey.

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 00:56 How "The Hormone Shift" Began
• 06:05 Why Studying Your Body Matters
• 07:55 How Hormones Shape Every Part of Life
• 09:56 Key Signs of Hormone Imbalance
• 12:44 Getting Doctors to Support Preventative Care
• 14:45 What Is Adrenal Fatigue?
• 19:04 How Cortisol Affects Women & Men’s Health
• 21:27 Foods to Balance Hormones and Cortisol
• 23:12 The Truth About Birth Control
• 29:37 Why Period Pains Shouldn’t Be the Norm
• 32:16 Understanding PCOS
• 35:17 Holistic Approaches to Managing PCOS
• 38:12 Helping Teens Manage Hormonal Changes
• 40:40 Hormone Hell
• 47:32 Finding Clarity and Balance Through Alignment
• 54:55 Influence of Hormones on Relationships
• 57:13 Why Men Should Care About Their Hormones
• 1:02:09 30 Days Hormone Reset

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Can we trust the healthcare system?

In this solo episode, I’m getting real about something I think a lot of us feel—how modern medicine sometimes leaves us disconnected from our bodies, relying on quick fixes and pills that don’t always get to the heart of things. I’ll be sharing my own journey, from working as a dietitian to exploring Ayurveda and holistic healing, and how I finally found a way to trust my body and really listen to what it needs.

This isn’t about blaming doctors; it’s about us learning to reconnect and feel in control of our own health. So, let’s sit down together and dive into these beautiful, age-old practices that help us feel more balanced and truly cared for. We deserve to love and nurture our bodies, and I can’t wait to share how we can start doing that!

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 02:00 Misinformation in Modern Healthcare
• 06:09 Profit over People
• 09:31 Overprescription and overmedication
• 13:22 The Problem with Standardized Health Metrics
• 15:46 The History of Harmful Medications
• 18:56 Questioning the Safety of Medications
• 21:24 There is Always a Way and Another Option

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Can the future of food be both delicious and sustainable?

In this episode of A Really Good Cry, I chat with Camila Marcus, an inspiring chef, restaurateur, and sustainability advocate. Known for her pioneering work in promoting ethical dining, Camila shares her journey from growing up in Los Angeles to creating a more sustainable future for the food industry. 

We explore the concept of regenerative farming, how restaurants can drive environmental change, and practical ways to contribute to a healthier planet. Camila’s wisdom on balancing innovation, responsibility, and profitability offers a fresh perspective on the future of food. 

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 01:38 What is regenerative farming?
• 04:58 The language of food
• 09:06 Why farmers choose monocropping
• 11:17 “Lab food never solved any problems…”
• 14:17 Intellectual property rights in the food industry
• 16:10 Sustainability vs. trends in food
• 18:56 How to get started with regenerative living
• 25:17 Misconceptions about healthy eating
• 27:29 Starting a farm at home
• 34:26 Balancing motherhood and career with four kids
• 37:14 Camila’s IVF journey
• 41:59 The importance of community
• 44:28 Why we need to talk about IVF more

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Radhi Devlukia is a plant-based cook, author of the book JoyFull: Cook Effortlessly, Eat Freely, Live Radiantly, host of A Really Good Cry podcast, and Co-founder of Juni Tea. In this installment of Wellness Wednesday, she breaks down the essential practice of eating a plant-based diet according to the principles of Ayurveda, an ancient, holistic system of medicine. She breaks down what it is, how to incorporate it into your daily life, and why it brings her joy. 

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