There's a strange phenomenon that I notice following successful therapy. Relationships get easier. People who were once hard to be around feel easier to be with. It's almost as if they had had therapy too. Yet the others haven't objectively changed. I've seen this so many times as a therapist. So what is going on here?

In this 300th episode I share 3 key lessons for reaching the milestones in your own life. All change is a journey. This episode is packed with advice about how to overcome failure, how to get what you want, and how to reflect and learn from even minor successes.

In this episode I share with you the exact process I use for my own annual review which I did yesterday. It's really useful and sets me up for the year, so I'd like you to know about it too.

Today is the shortest, darkest day of the year. Would you like to get an extra 8 hours and 45 minutes more daylight? Here's a magic trick that shows you how.

In order to get to transformational change, it helps to think of three opposites. In this episode, I share my mental framework for creating change when working with my own clients.

To make life better you have to do more, add more, create more - right? What if the opposite was just as true?

Nobody wants to cope with trauma responses. We want to remove them so they no longer get in the way of life. In this episode I explain the 4 step approach that I use with my own clients to eradicate trauma for good.

Would you like your needs met more often? In this episode I'll teach you a simple change that will result in a huge increase in getting what you most need.

Do you ever read autobiographies and wonder how they remember the word by word details of conversations from years ago? The truth is, they don't remember them. So what does this tell us about memory if the brain is happy to play fast and loose with details? And what aspect of memory does the brain hold onto very tightly? This is an episode about memory, Maya Angelou, and psychological change.

Do you feel anxious or depressed? Do you repress certain emotions? Have you ever noticed that you don't want to be cheered up, or maybe you feel reluctant to leave an anxious state? There's a lot of key information for you here if you know what to look for.