A Thousand Tiny Steps

I'm just angry. I don't know if I'll ever stop feeling angry when it comes to certain trauma, but I'm learning new ways to mitigate it. In this episode, I dig into what people think anger is, how I'm mad at myself, and why it's okay to be angry, but what really matters is how you express it.

Key Takeaways:

[2:07] I make plans, they don't go my way, I know they won't, and then I get angry

[5:34] I'm mad at myself and the universe and people think grief is inappropriate

[16:50] Anger is a natural emotion, it's sinful, an exaggeration of events

[19:14] Fear, powerlessness, and self protection are under the surface of anger

[20:43] The danger of not releasing your anger and Molly's emotions

[24:55] Men are quick to blame others for anger and how you view anger

[30:02] How Jack views my anger, generational trauma, and how anger is expressed

[39:23] Mad at myself for not achieving my goals, types of stress, and looping behavior

[45:58] Social media is making people angry

[52:27] Is it okay to be angry? Simplifying your life

[57:19] Self blame, mindfulness, and clutching on tightly

[1:01:18] Learning from my anger

Resources:

• Health Resource Network

• The Subtext of Anger

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Period poverty and the stigma surrounding getting products, learning how to use them, and having them on you is an uphill battle. People miss school, sports events, and other important life activities all because they might not be able to afford period products or are too ashamed to ask for free ones.

Key Takeaways:

[2:07] The pop culture movies that shaped how many women feel about periods

[9:54] Social stigma around not knowing how to use products or having a period

[14:43] The marathon runner that bled while winning

[16:23] Not having access to quality products, missing school, and the reality of prisons

[22:23] India and Kenya's unique culture problems surrounding periods and solutions

[31:13] Decreased sports participation and taking pain seriously

[35:03] Experience teaching health, having boys take ownership, and my past athletes

[42:55] Women with the worst outcomes medically and a transmans experience

[47:59] Free period products in schools and how women are seen as gross

[53:20] People shouldn't be embarrassed to talk about their periods

Resources:

• A Bloody Mess

• About Bloody Time

• Below the Belt

• Period. End of Sentence.

• Pandora's Box

• Pad Man

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When you hear the word period, what word comes to mind? Probably not something happy or optimistic. It's most likely something rooted in misogyny or self-hatred. There is still so much stigma surrounding periods today and how they are seen as something gross. They are seen as something to be hidden.

Key Takeaways:

[5:49] Starting my period and how people feel about them when they hear the word

[9:15] Being shamed for my period and my worst experiences

[16:40] Period pain is dismissed and how it's celebrated but also minimized

[19:20] How periods are seen in different cultures

[23:55] How a Disney movie talked about periods, the taboos, and culture clashes

[28:19] The issue with gender neutral bathrooms and getting time off for your period

[29:49] Teaching health, consent, bleeding everywhere, and mixed emotions

[35:58] Future episodes on periods

Resources:

• Turning Red

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Birth control is big business and they will do anything to make a profit, even if it means putting people's lives at risk. I looked into the historical and political aspects of the pill as well as the most dangerous ones. In the episode, I reveal the lies told to women about birth control and how it should all fall on us.

Key Takeaways:

[2:01] My period and experience with birth control

[9:57] How the short term pill was involved in politics

[11:38] Margaret Sanger was considered a hero - until she was not

[12:30] Blood clots on the pill, deaths, and men don't want to be involved

[16:20] The benefits of tracking your period

[17:57] The pill can mask the true symptoms

[22:49] The NuvaRing, the Yaz, IUDs, and fighting with Congress

[25:54] Racism in medicine and the forcing of birth control

[28:36] Pregnancy is safer than the pill

[29:30] Doctors don't communicate and the need for more education

[34:18] The pill is not medically necessary in any case and AIDS is worse than a baby

[35:20] The responsibility can't just continue to fall to women

Resources:

• The Business of Birth Control

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I went to Bali for a month and it was the most unexpected experience. I saw the juxtaposition of wealth and poverty as well as pollution. But I also saw a culture of respect, beauty, and it opened up conversations in ways I could never talk about here. It helped me finalize my plans for the new year.

Key Takeaways:

[2:22] Expats in Bali

[3:52] Seeing poverty next to wealth

[7:05] Doing Boundless Life, the good and the bad

[10:09] Indonesian history, culture of gratitude, and religion

[13:51] Respecting others choices

[16:48] Bali is so polluted, limited drinking water, and traffic

[19:47] The ocean, the gentrification, and seeing Jack experience it

[22:20] Getting terribly sick, Balinese coffee, and the culture of family in Bali

[27:12] Politics, open conversations, stereotypes, and the day of silence

[29:40] My thoughts on Bali

[30:51] Thoughts for the new year

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I watched a movie that went through how IVF was invented and it made me reflect on my IVF journey as well. But just because the science in the movie was real, does not mean anything else was. All the relationships, drama, and other mini storylines were made up to make - a good story.

Key Takeaways:

[2:15] My IVF journey

[7:50] Often in religion women are seen as less than if they can't have kids naturally

[9:07] Stress does not cause infertility or cause cancer

[9:51] IVF increases your risk of having multiples

[11:53] Joy, the movie about the birth of IVF

[14:29] The movie is mainly about Jean, religion, and her relationships

[17:24] 1969, the first extraction attempt and people saying it as horrifying

[19:06] Jean's thoughts on abortion - were they true?

[21:28] They kept trying, but had ectopic pregnancies, Jean's mom died, and she leaves

[24:28] They came back together to finish the science

[30:10] Even after the success, they had to fight to get Jean's name on the plaque

[32:03] All the relationship stuff in the movie was fake

Resources:

• Joy

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Wow, the amount of movies that take someone's life and completely misrepresent it? Too many to count. It hurts the lives of the people who the movie was made about, but also anyone that is like them. Because if they believe the story, they get false ideas in their head.

Key Takeaways:

[3:05] The Pocahontas movie was a downright lie

[7:13] The I, Tonya movie was exaggerated

[11:33] A Beautiful Mind left out abuse and misportrayed mental illness

[12:58] Erin Brockovich was oversexualized

[14:47] None of the characters actually existed in Newsies

[16:04] Amadeus painted Mozart as a crazy man

[18:33] Sully was a real event, but it was overdramatized to get viewers

[20:45] The Greatest Showman - not so great himself, more like abusive

[23:32] Remember the Titans is not how desegregation went down at all

[26:58] The movie, Rudy, misrepresented the actual person

[28:39] The Blind side made Michael look dumb, when he really just needed some help

[31:53] Homeless to Harvard - spoiler alert she didn't graduate from Harvard

[35:36] How we choose to tell a story and what we believe

Resources:

• Pocahontas

• I, Tonya

• A Beautiful Mind

• Erin Brockovich

• Newsies

• Amadeus

• Sully

• The Greatest Showman

• Remember the Titans

• Rudy

• The Blind Side

• Homeless to Harvard

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As Christmas is upon us, I decided to dig up some lies on it, along with some of my childhood memories and how Christmas has differed for my kids. The biggest lie of all? When Jesus's birthday occurs and what actually went down. I suppose it shall just remain another mystery. Happy Holidays.

Key Takeaways:

[3:05] My best Christmas time memory as a child

[6:32] Finding out Santa wasn't real and Christmas magic

[8:19] December 25th is not Jesus's birthday

[14:50] The tallest tree, candy canes, the movies, and Black Friday

[17:24] Trees take 15 years to grow, Rudolph, and Christmas was illegal

[19:48] Miracle on 34th Street, lit candles in the tree, and Christmas is not romantic

[22:18] Injuries, ugly sweater parties, the Grinch, and Santa Claus school

[25:10] What Xmas stands for, eggnog, singing, and mistletoe

[28:19] The story of Jesus's birth is not accurate

Resources:

• Miracle on 34th Street

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I watched a movie on how Americans shop and consume, consume, consume. It was terrifying. It was even worse to see the devastating impacts it had on other countries and how quickly people will buy something new if it stops working.

Key Takeaways:

[4:57] How online shopping changed things

[6:40] Just one click has made it easy to buy more things

[8:34] Sell more by making an emotional connection

[13:15] People buy too many things and it has to go somewhere

[15:21] Making products not last long on purpose

[23:56] Recycling is a lie and other countries are suffering from it

[28:27] These companies hide the terrible things they're doing

[32:04] Big companies keep trying to control people

[35:06] Clickbait and how the movie made this point

[38:11] What you can do to buy less

Resources:

• Buy Now

• The Social Network

• Painkiller

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The fitness and health industry thrives on lies upon lies. From saying that you'll lose 30 pounds in 30 days to saying that weightlifting is dangerous as a woman. So many of these ideas shaped the younger me and I want women to know the truth about what they can do to live a fit life.

Key Takeaways:

[4:57] Strength training makes you bulky

[6:40] Cardio training burns fat and you have to sweat

[7:30] Working out everyday is the only way

[11:35] Your health is defined by your weight

[12:32] Exercise is hard and never fun

[14:20] 30 day fitness challenges will change your life

[15:51] Fat and carbs are bad

[18:45] Calories in, calories out mindset, eating less doesn't mean you lose weight

[20:07] Sweat equals a good workout and more fat burned

[20:48] Clickbait, take this supplement, and lose 30 pounds in 30 days

[22:11] Targeted fat loss is possible

[23:40] Taking supplements and diet pills will make everything better

[25:00] Intermittent fasting will make a huge difference

[25:42] Packaged healthy foods are better for you

[27:02] Women should not train like men

[29:51] Low intensity cardio won't help you lose fat

[30:39] You should stretch before you work out

[31:45] Treadmills are better for your knees and muscle turns into fat

[32:59] The lies that are hard not to believe

[35:47] Weightlifting is bad for older people especially for women

[37:49] Deep squats are bad for you

[39:34] Weights and cardio should never be done on the same day

[40:42] Spot training will help you and so will detoxes

[42:45] There's no one way to workout

[43:52] High intensity training is the best for fat loss

[45:27] CrossFit is all about competition

[46:49] CrossFit isn't good for older people

[49:07] Trying new things is what CrossFit is all about

[48:58] What do you think is true in fitness?

Resources:

• Yes Fit

• Sasquatch Strength

• Southside Barbell

• Lunge Ladies

• Redefining Strength

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