Actionable Thinking

Negative Flow, Wellness and States of Time - Management/ToDo

• Manage whats under your control

"did you know Negative Flow can damage relationships?"

"notice you are investing a lot of time: Is this thing worth doing it while missing all the other things?"

• Adapt instead of optimizing

"block bad things while planning good things"

"one can drive into overplaning, missing the wellness part of its life."

"Eisenhower Matrix"

• Perceive of (unplanned) Time

"how to get us to feel like we can handle enough things?"

"two states of time :

1. Undone Things cause i did less important first

2. Undone Things cause of a fat stuffed time plan"

Perceive of (unplanned) time

For me there where two states of time :

3. Undone Things cause i did less important first

4. Undone Things cause of a fat stuffed time plan

The question is how to get us to feel like we can handle enough things?

Well before we get into this, we have to look at the dangers.

Adapt instead of optimizing

When looking for time management, one can drive into overplaning, missing the wellness part of its life.

What can you do to balance this?

Plan, but in both directions. Good&Bad

Listen to your feelings and block bad things while planning good things. 

The Eisenhower Matrix is powerful on this. Sort your Things to

• Critical and Immediate

• Critical but not Immediate

• Not Critical but Immediate

• Not Critical not Immediate

While doing things on your list, how to know if you miss others? Read ahead.

Manage whats under your control

You probably know Flow - but did you know Negative Flow can damage relationships?

When concentrated, one can miss all surroundings. Ask yourself if you notice you are investing a lot of time: Is this thing worth doing it while missing all the other things?

The Power of Wishes

Meaningful Goals

Read about how you can easier name your wishes and follow them to your goals

Step 1

Identifying the Wish

Step 2

Take the first Steps

Identify

Ask the right questions

What is important for me and why?

Can i imagine a prior equal feeling and did i wanted the same result there?

Expand your search

Dreams - wether at day or night should be analyzed for hidden wishes

First Steps

Use Tools

Get a quick free analyze with Woop

https://woopmylife.org/en/practice

Get help from a person you trust to gain more insights:

Tell them to watch your behaviour while reporting about your wish- When did you showed which feeling?

"Explained" - Why Diets fail

https://m.imdb.com/title/tt8457072/

Main Reasons

Why do Diets Fail?

1. We cant stick with em

- How to Cope

2. They lower Leptin and Metabolism

- How to Cope

Stick with em

every diet has different results on us, even so called individual diets can be wrong.

and if you cant manage to keep it going, reason 2 will destroy your previous results

• How to cope?

Check what diet suits your wish to eat

https://www.webmd.com/diet/a-z/evaluate-latest-diets

Leptin and Metabolism

lower leptin enhances our food graving while a slower metabolism means slower fat burn trough basic body functions (which are surprisingly the most effective fat burners - better then exercise for example)

• How to cope?

Dont try to burn fast, but steady.

Stick with your diet.

Gain insights about metabolism boosting food:

https://www.dietsmealplan.com/meal-plan/fast-metabolism-diet-food-list/

Need Assist?

The HealthyDiet App will keep you informed about your dietary goals like food intake compared to diet type

https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.jeet.healthydiet

Alter Time with Science

Subjective Perception of Time

A lot to do and short of time? One could slow it down with those

Long Term

• Muscle Training

• Moderate Food intake

• (Heavy Clothing - Example: Winter)

• Time "Chunking" (short durations estimated longer)

• Stimuli Intensity (visuals,sound)

Short Term

• Rewards

• Nature

• Feelings: Fear, Sympathy & Awe

• Cold Climate

• Exercise

• Fast changing Stimuli (visuals,sound)

Time Science

Muscle,Food&Clothing,Cold,Exercise

https://www.research.ed.ac.uk/en/clippings/perception-of-time-varies-across-the-animal-kingdom-finds-dr-luke

• https://www.sciencedirect.com/topics/engineering/metabolic-rate

Time Chunks

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4142010/

Intensity

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/20731508/

Rewards,Nature,Feelings

https://www.psychologicalscience.org/observer/the-fluidity-of-time

https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/0956797612438731

Fast Changing

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/7885802/

Philosophy vs Science and Godlike Presences

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Subjective_idealism

Introduction

philosopher George Berkeley believed that Locke's Essay did not carry the principles of empiricism far enough.

Lockes Essay

Locke said that a material thing does not necessary has only primary Settings that the material itself defines (like color) , but the mind of someone -

Instead its splitted into three categories

1. Material

2. Perceive of the Object

3. Circumstances while perceiving

Immaterialism

Berkeleys Claim was that theres only perception, nothing like material itself and it would disappear if no one is looking at it

The Idea was based on the splitting of material and immaterial world- as one couldnt tell if something is real when only having his own mind to figure it out. Thats where Science jumps in

The Quantum View of the Theory

https://phys.org/news/2015-01-atoms.html

In Quantum Science, objects can exist in different states of being until they are watched by someone, which would define a static state of being.

Conclusion

Sciences is not completly contrary to Berkeley , as he states its all cause of the presence of Gods Mind. 

This might be interesting for someone to argument about a godly ecistence proven by science, as always its up to you what to believe

Methods to Unfold a Problem 

Problemhandling 

This summary will show two main categories of problem solving: active and less active. 

• Questions 

• Active Actions 

• Helpful self-tests 

Ask Questions 

• Are there blind spots or missing information? 

• Did i asked the right questions? 

• How would it occur under different circumstances? 

• Am i sure that my assumptions are right?

Get Active 

• Brainstorm to even simpler involved thematics (example: your mood can depend on surroundings, those can depend on others and so on) 

• Write about being clueless to get insights why its difficult

• Think about what reasons for your behaviour can be changed to lead to positive outputs

Evaluate yourself 

• Are this the right goals? 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/tests/career/goal-setting-skills-test 

• Is it a good method? 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/tests/personality/organization-skills-test-personal-life-version 

• Is this my full potential? 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/tests/career/success-likelihood-test 

• Are my emotions bad for the solution? 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/tests/personality/testspersonality-1

How to get Lucky

https://sahilbloom.substack.com/p/how-to-get-lucky

Self

- Search for action, getting uncomfortable

- Publish your Ideas

- Schedule Free Time

- Eliminate Negativity

- Say "Yes" more often

- Get active, engage in things

- Do things without expecting a return

- Dig deeper into interesting things

- Dont always be productive: get bored sometimes

- Be curious

People

- Surround yourself with smarter people

- Hang out with optimists

- Talk to strangers

- Be more social (cold messages, search digital & real communities)

- Ask about what people do at their weekend and observe it

- Put some money into things you got recommended thrice

- Ask interesting questions

How balanced is good or bad in our Reality?

Lets cover the question if the universe is naturally good or bad.

The philosophic approach of "necessary truth" is the idea that something wont change cause of external sources.

Ive collected the following "necessary truths" and conclusions to them, answering the above question

Life has always input/output

1.1 Important Nutrition has to have a organic source

Conclusion:

- Life is a destructing source

Bad: +1 Good: 0

Pressure causes interaction, Interaction causes Reaction

Conclusion: 

- Theres no single source of a thing cause of missing interaction

- Destruction isnt necessary bad cause it builds pressure

- Isolation violates the nature of things being in interaction = isnt natural

Bad: -1 Good: +1

Clusters are stronger

Conclusion:

- Destruction splits clusters

- Replication or Fusion strengthens clusters

Bad: +1 Good: +1

Keep your Head up

Results gave us a rating of 1:2 for Good things, keep that in mind when life seems unfair again

Effective Conflict Behavior

Introduction

the following article will shed light on what solving methods are useful and which behavior will help to achieve them

Methods

• Less effective

are forced solving or withdrawed solving - (command based) negotiating doesnt solves any conflict, it hardens the confrontation

• Collaboration

can be effective when theres no one forced or withdrawed

• Smoothing

is not clearly less or more effective, played down differences can block solution finding for a temporary ease of the situation. on the other side it can be used to connect with the  conflict counterpart emotionally. 

if one makes sure to trigger only positive emotions, it can possibly lead to a compromise.

Voice

Speed & Volume

1. Slow Speed seems dumber while Fast Speed implicates not knowing something well

2. Low Volume sounds as you are unsure and High Volume can possibly provoke someone (dominant)

Vocabulary

1. Try to use positive words, every word will have a little emotional impact that influences how competent you seem.

2. Replace forcing elements with less agressive ones. "We must" - "We should"

3. Show your counterpart that you understood his feelings and offer discussion on that part. "What do you think could help to be more relaxing instead of creating anger?"

4. Critical Points in your discussion can get softer when you use unspecific descriptions of ones identity - "Most people would find it difficult that...."

When the Rent Is Too High

https://www.kiplinger.com/personal-finance/inflation/604501/what-to-do-when-the-rent-is-too-high

Laws

Check your local rent control laws to see if an increase is compliant

Financial Aid

Some local institutions might offer rental assistance programs

Negotiate

On this point , remember to be respectful, professional and punctual to your landlord or leasing agent.

Try to negotiate before the lease expires to avoid desperation.

Rent increases arent necessarily built in stone. A former research of comparable data in your city might be an acceptable source for your landlord (Zumper and other real estate sites like Zillow, Redfin and Rent.com). Possible negotiation strategies are

- Adjusting date when rent is due

- Split into multiple payments per month

- Repayment plans

- Price reduction on renewal

- Prepay several months

- Lower price for longer lease