Actionable Thinking

Based on an article from psyche.co

https://psyche.co/guides/how-to-cope-with-shame-by-understanding-where-it-comes-from

• Given my history and what I know about myself, does it make sense that I would feel this way? and Given this, what would be helpful for me right now?

• Are there other ways to think about this? Am I making any sweeping generalisations about myself right now? Am I labelling myself in one specific, overly simplistic way?

• see if you can tap into the compassionate self

• Recognise shame as it arises in your life

• Understand the origins of your shame

• Try writing yourself a self-compassionate letter

• Acknowledge the different parts of yourself that are present

• Share in the context of safe relationships

Secrets that will make you loose weight

based on a article of bakadesoyu

• Ask yourself if hungry : Would I eat broccoli? If not , dont eat yet

• More options mean more eating. Less variety is an easy way to feel full on fewer calories.

• Make tastier food harder to get

• Eat high satiety food : More tasty = less satiating

based on a article from rishikeshs

https://rishikeshs.com/72-hour-rule/

• Next time you feel like buying something online or offline, evaluate whether the product is a need or a want.

• Even if it’s a need or a want unless it’s an emergency, delay the shopping by 72 hours.

• Do not add the product to the wishlist on Amazon or any other app.

• After 72 hours, if you still remember about the product, evaluate the pros and cons, make a mental note of why you need the product and then make a purchase decision.

• Try not to buy anything online using a credit card or buy now pay later schemes.

• Disable app tracking and suggestions such that apps cannot provide you with a recommended set of products or services.

• Disable notifications of all apps that are not necessary like food delivery, grocery and other e-commerce apps to reduce external cues.

• Never fall for deals or discounts or sale days. Just because a sale is happening doesn’t mean that you have to purchase something.

https://www.wikihow.com/Determine-if-Someone-Is-Trustworthy

based on a wikihow article

- no open body language

- changing subjects

- conversation leads back to you

- unusual details

- justification without being asked

- often watched different behavior on different people

- avoiding responsability

based on a article at psychologytoday

1. Identify the habits you want to change.

2. Look at what you are getting out of it.

3. Honor the wisdom of healthier choice

4. Choose something to replace the unhealthy habit. 

5. Remove triggers

6. Visualize yourself changing.

7. Monitor your negative self-talk.

8. Take baby steps, if necessary.

9. Accept that you will sometimes falter.

10. Know that it will take time.

Trick your mind into falling asleep

#health #sleepguide #sleep #sleephabit #sleepmyths

https://www.wellandgood.com/mental-tricks-fall-asleep/

based on an article on wellandgood.com

• Carve Time in the evening to worry

• use paradoxical intension: lay in bed and try to stay awake

• think of words with cognitive shuffle: a five letter word where you try to find as many other words as you know per letter

https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/four_ways_to_stop_imagining_the_worst_will_happen

based on a greatergood article

Maybe you are one of the persons which are catastrophizing about future outcomes. Heres how to handle it a little better:

1. Decide in the morning when the “emotional“ brain is busy

2. speak to yourself in a kinder way

3. imagine multiple possible outcomes of the event

Points i extracted from selfhelp books 

• stay in the present - it will build your future and can prevent being in a regret circle from past

• journaling helps coping with instant overthinking

• distance from your ego. when you feeling low or misunderstood, imagine yourself in a bubble, pushing your feels to the outside and watch what others inside their bubbles might need

• participate joy in small steps to your desired result

• develop a strong moral compass to find like minded people

• dont waste to much time being angry, it holds control over how you will react in the future

• building routines makes you free to do things on autopilot while thinking or doing something else

• rethink if you might be wrong , your past perspective could need new input

• watch your point of view: am i argumenting cause i (dont) like the other person?

Surviving Cruelty

The World might smash the hardest unbelievable things in your path but its up to you to beware it from escalating. Only unbendable Will can show others principles you have missed in your lifetime. 

Allow yourself to fail sometimes, only to continue stronger then before. The most important judge will be yourself.

Most of us might misunderstood the principe of acceptance. To be in clear talk about a topic, it seems to be the best method to ask the other person how he/she understood my own way to look at the topic instead of just trying to explain yourself