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We've got a new segment called 'You're the Judge' where we present an issue that's been sent in by one of our listeners, and you, our audience, decide what the right course of action is. We've been asking for the problems that have you stumped and have been sent lots of your dilemmas, if you have one to add to the pile email [email protected] Today's issue is gift etiquette - what do you do if you don't like a present?

For years, Dr Jean Twenge warned about the links between declining mental health and the rising use of smartphones and other devices. She was one of the first to raise the alarm, now she wants to offer parents some solutions. Dr Twenge says parents are up against tech companies that do everything they can to encourage young people to spend as much time as possible on their phones and laptops and having conversations with them about that are not going to cut it. Teenagers need rules. She writes not just as a renowned researcher, but as a parent of 3 teenage daughters. Her latest book is called 10 Rules for Raising Kids in a High-Tech World: How Parents Can Stop Smartphones, Social Media, and Gaming from Taking Over Their Children's Lives.

Time to find out what's hitting the headlines in Australia, our usual guy Brad Foster is on a well-deserved holiday, so we're pleased to have TVNZ's One News' Australia correspondent Jacob Johnson joining us. Jacob is going to chat about a superannuation tax change, YouTube's appearance before a Senate Committee, Victoria's crime problem and that Bathurst win.

We're going to chat books now and a new collection coming out in November is celebrating Auckland and some of the reasons people choose to live there. To share the details Anna Rankin joins Jesse, she is currently in New York completing a Masters of Arts in Journalism with a Politics Concentration at Columbia University thanks to a Fulbright award.

Tim shares details of a massive deal announced last week whereby AMD is giving OpenAI 10% of the company. It's caused a lot of chat about the incredibly strange financial arrangements between three huge tech companies (AMD, Nvidia, OpenAI).

The ice cream brand Tip Top turns 90 years old this month. From a small Wellington milk bar to a huge Auckland factory - the story of this company is a remarkable one. The ubiquitous summer treats are now also available across the Pacific, Australia and Southeast Asia. We all have our favourites, be that the boysenberry trumpet, Jelly Tip, Choc Bar or an old school ice cream in a cone. To mark the milestone, Jesse is joined by Chief Executive Ben Schurr and longtime employee Ross Jenkin.

Love Actually is one of the most popular Christmas films of all time. And according to Wikipedia it's the 9th highest grossing Christmas film ever, just below Batman Returns, so take from that what you will. This year it's coming to NZ, with a twist. Love Actually in Concert features a live orchestra playing the score. MC and mega fan Chelsea Plumley joins us now.

New Zealanders are leaving the country in record numbers, the latest figures from Stats NZ show overall migrant arrivals dropped 16% to 138,600, while departures increased 13% to 127,900. Nearly 48 thousand kiwi citizens left this year. Continuing the trend that we've seen over the past two years - with large numbers of New Zealand citizens leaving and fewer migrants arriving. So is this the new normal or just a reflection of current tough times? Sociologist and emeritus professor at Massey University Paul Spoonley joins Jesse.

Drink, quit, relapse. For nearly 20 years, that was the exhausting cycle that ruled Katie Herzog's life. A journalist and podcaster, she tried everything: quitting cold turkey, 12-step programs, sheer willpower. Nothing stuck. Then she discovered a science-backed approach that didn't demand total abstinence from alcohol but used medication to quiet cravings and restore control. Her new book explores how this unconventional path helped her finally make peace with drinking. It's called Drink Your Way Sober: The Science-Based Method to Break Free from Alcohol.

We all know the saying, you can't choose your family, but you can choose your friends. Well workplaces are much the same, you can choose your job but you can't choose who you work with. Which can mean conflicts can arise. But how do you deal with those conflicts in a positive way? Our expert today is here to help answer that question and more. Lisa Oakley has more than 20 years' experience in human resources and HSE [Health, Safety and Environment], and she's the founder and lead consultants at People Associates.