How do we build businesses and community inside a broken system—without replicating that system in our own work?

By leading through an intersectional, feminist, and collective lens.

In this episode, we talk with Becky Mollenkamp about what it means to build and lead this way: grounded in shared power, mutual care, and collective growth. Becky shares how her work as a coach and podcaster has evolved over the years, why she’s no longer trying to “go it alone,” and how building in community has been the most liberating move of all. We also talk about what it really means to earn money ethically, challenge systems without burning out, and keep showing up (even in the chaos of summer).

We also get into the behind-the-scenes of launching multiple podcasts, navigating Substack and social media with ethics intact, and the real tension of building a business when you care deeply about people and want to pay your bills without selling your soul.

This is a conversation for anyone trying to build something different in a world that rewards “the one right way to build.”

* How Becky’s proximity to the Ferguson uprising catalyzed a shift in her perspective

* The real difference between commerce and capitalism (and why most pricing models get this wrong)

* What it means to build a business rooted in mutuality, not hierarchy

* What the hell to do with Substack, Meta, and other imperfect tools

* The behind-the-scenes of stewarding multiple podcasts, and the choice to have a co-host or not

* The problem with trying to do it all alone—and how Becky’s moving toward collective action over solo growth

* Why podcasting might just be the most human way to have the conversations we actually want to have

“Yeah, I can come up with lots of ideas, but they're always richer when it's done in collective with these other women who have different lived experiences than me. And then, yeah, I'll move the ball forward. I love moving the ball forward, but I'm more excited now. I'm moving the ball forward with these ideas that are so much more richer.” - Becky

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Becky Mollenkamp

Feminist Podcasters Collective

Feminist Founders

Messy Liberation

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Mentioned Resources

Tema Okun’s Essay

Sacred Economics by Charles Eisenstein

The Soul of Money by Lynne Twist

“The Master’s Tools Will Never Dismantle the Master’s House” — Audre Lorde

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Most business advice assumes you're wired like everyone else. What if you're not?

In this episode, we sit down with Diann Wingert—former therapist, business coach, and host of the ADHD-ish podcast—to talk about what it really means to build a business that works with your brain, not against it.

We unpack the myths around ADHD, how to radically accept your own wiring, and what happens when you finally stop trying to “fix” yourself and start designing systems that fit you.

Jessica and Meg share their own neurodiverse workarounds (including why their assistants actually manage them), and Diann breaks down how she flipped her brand, rethought her support systems, and uses tools like Claude.ai as external executive function—not a replacement for her brain, but a co-pilot for organizing all the genius.

This one’s for the quirky kids, the not-quite-diagnosed, and anyone who’s ever tried to follow business advice that wasn't designed for their brain.

* Why Diann rebranded her podcast and business to center ADHD-ish, not as a niche but as a reality

* How radical self-acceptance (not self-awareness) is the real first step to change

* The business systems that work because they’re nontraditional (like letting your assistant be the boss)

* Why “It depends” is the real ADHD business motto

* How tools like Claude and Notion help organize brilliance without replacing your voice

* Why standard business advice falls apart when your brain doesn't fit the mold

* What Diann learned from neurodivergent-friendly spaces (hello, marching band at a conference) and how to bring that into your own business model

* The role of AI in organizing, not empathizing—and why therapy still needs a human touch

“Human beings, by and large, are damaged through relationships, abuse, neglect, trauma. Most of the things that bring people to a therapist happened as a result of some failure of human nature. And so the whole transformation of therapy is that it is using the professional use of self. We are harmed by humans. We are healed by humans. It’s one of the most intimate and powerful ways of working. And I loved it.” - Diann

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ADHD-ish Podcast

Mastering Your Entrepreneurial ADHD

Diann Wingert’s LinkedIn Newsletter

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What does it really mean to “stay solo” in a world that won’t stop telling you to scale? That’s the question we explore with Maggie Patterson, whose new book Staying Solo challenges the endless drumbeat of “bigger is better.”

In this episode, we dive into Maggie’s journey from agency owner to solo business advocate, the messy parts of writing (and marketing) a book without turning it into a performative launch, and the very real tension between wanting to build a sustainable business—while feeling pressure to do it in a way that exploits your time or other people’s labor. (Thanks, online business influencers).

We also talk about typos in print books, sticker packs as marketing tools, and why self-publishing may outperform traditional publishing as a soloist. Whether you’re a solopreneur, a micro-agency owner, or just someone wondering if you have to scale to be legit, Maggie’s perspective offers a breath of fresh air—and a permission slip to do it your way.

* Why Staying Solo matters—especially when the default advice is always to “scale”

* The tension between running an agency and telling others not to build one

* How Maggie’s book journey came out of years of blog posts and a poolside conversation

* The ethics of pricing, paying others well, and not replicating exploitative business practices

* The weird relief (and panic) of finding typos in a printed book you can’t easily fix

* How to stay human while promoting a book (sticker packs, handwritten notes, book tours)

* Book marketing vs. book selling—why Maggie chose self-publishing and what surprised her most

* The privilege of staying solo—and how to be clear about who you want to serve

* Most importantly, the 5 book names for Maggie’s book themed birdhouse.

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Maggie Patterson

Staying Solo

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In this riffy, delightfully unstructured episode, Jessica and Meg ditch the outlines, frameworks, and “polished” content in favor of a real-life check-in, some AI trivia, and a sneak peek at Jessica’s summer program, Relationship Rhythms.

We talk about how building relationships is about more than just dropping into people’s inboxes—and how Relationship Rhythms is designed to bring playfulness (and prizes!) back into the process. Jessica shares why she’s finally running an asynchronous offer and how Relationship Rhythms is different from her usual programs, plus what happens when you go from dreaming to launching.

We also get real about our own partnership: the messy business of joint ventures, what happens when your business is in a different gear than your friend’s, and how to talk about money and collaboration in a way that feels human.

And because she couldn’t resist, Meg quizzes Jessica on AI trivia—highlighting the joys, the contradictions, and the occasional panic about what AI knows, what it doesn’t, and how we’re using (and refusing) it in our own businesses.

If you’ve ever felt like your business friendships are an ever-evolving dance—or wondered how to balance AI curiosity with human connections—listen in. 🍊

PS. If you made it to the end of this episode, drop our Easter Egg word on Substack as a comment to let us know you’re here for the rambles, not just the frameworks.

* Jessica’s summer program, Relationship Rhythms, and how it’s ushering in a more experimental vibe.

* How Relationship Rhythms uses gamified accountability (yes, with prizes) to make relationship building fun

* Why Jessica and Meg decided not to monetize the Substack—yet—and the honest convo about splitting podcast revenue

* The challenges of co-hosting a podcast when your businesses are in different seasons (and speeds)

* The messy beauty of relationship building: why some outreach grows instantly while others marinate for months

* Meg’s AI trivia quiz: from radiologists to Reddit, from ChatGPT’s energy usage to recipes with random ground beef

* Why learning how to learn will still be a critical skill, no matter about AI’s capabilities

Bloom’s Taxonomy

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Have you ever sat through a slide deck that felt like death-by-bullet-point? Or tried to sound like a LinkedIn thought leader only to bore yourself?

Have you ever struggled to consider yourself “interesting” when you haven’t gone to space or climbed a mountain?

Most importantly, how can you tell a story that AI cannot replace?

Story coach and speaker whisperer Mike Ganino joins us to talk about how to actually connect with other humans through storytelling, public speaking, and intentional presence. We talk about what’s missing when AI writes your copy, how to make your keynote more than just a case study, and why the most aggressively human thing you can do is show up—with your voice, your weirdness, and your body and breath. We talk about what job AI can’t do, why “tell your story” is often the worst advice, and how the most impactful stories usually come from Tuesdays, not TED Talks.

* How to pull stories from your actual life (even if they happened on a random Tuesday)

* What ChatGPT can and can’t do—and why public speaking is still a human-only activity

* Breaking free from the drip of consumption and embracing the interiority within us and around us.

* How to find your “inner interesting”, and how to transform extraordinary tales into relatable, personable stories.

* Why “tell your story” is terrible advice—and what to do instead

* How book marketing breaks your nervous system and what our favorite GIFs reveal about us

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Mike Ganino

Make A Scene: Storytelling, Stage Presence, and The Art of Being Unforgettable in Every Spotlight

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“And a lot of people say, oh gosh, you know, friendship is so hard because everybody's so busy. I'm so busy, our schedules don't align. Therefore, “friendship is hard”. And I'm like, are you sure about that?

Or is it actually that scheduling with busy calendars is hard. Prioritization is hard. Saying no to things so that you can say yes to the things you actually want to say yes to is hard. Those things are hard. But those things aren't friendship and those things are a part of every other part of life as well.” - Kat

Friendship doesn’t happen by accident in adulthood. And despite what the internet says, it’s not just about “finding your people.” You have to actually do something—and that can feel impossibly hard when your calendar is full and your energy’s shot.

In this episode, Jessica and Meg talk with Kat Vellos—UX designer turned friendship expert—about how adult friendships form, why they fizzle, and what gets in the way. We talk about courage (yes, it still matters), frequency, and how friendship isn’t a productivity project—it’s a relationship. We also touch on the uncomfortable truth: as AI creeps further into our inboxes and interactions, it’s easier than ever to think we’re connected—without actually having any real closeness at all.

If you’ve ever said, “I want more friends, but…”—this one’s for you.

* Why building adult friendship isn’t harder—it just requires different skills

* The four foundations of real friendship: compatibility, proximity, frequency, and commitment

* What’s actually hard about making friends (spoiler: it’s courage, not conversation)

* The social cost of optimizing everything—including how we spend time with people

* Why “being too busy” is often a boundary issue in disguise

* How Jessica tries to find local friends who want to talk about cold outreach (and the real dilemma of niche interests + neighborhood proximity)

* The difference between a friendship activity and a productivity checklist

* How to start small, go first, and create connection without waiting for an invite

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Kat Vellos is the go-to source for guidance about cultivating meaningful friendships and community. She’s author of the book, We Should Get Together: The Secret to Cultivating Better Friendships. Kat’s writing is read in over 100 countries, and she’s been interviewed by The New York Times, NPR, and many more.

What if friendship is easier than you think?

The Togetherness Thing

Make yourself a Friendship Joy Train

How to find real friendships online via the algorithm

Product: BFF Builder Bundle

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“If you want a sales pipeline, you are responsible for creating it. What we've been told and what we see online is the kind of constant content creation that is designed to bring you clients…so that you can essentially do a lot of marketing to avoid ever having the sales conversation.

But the quickest way to make a sale though is to get to that sales conversation as soon as you can and to make sure that it's as qualified as possible."

Most of us have been on the receiving end of a terrible cold pitch. Maybe it was a LinkedIn DM pretending to be friendly. Maybe it was an email that made you feel like a number. No surprise—cold outreach has earned its bad reputation.

But the truth is: cold outreach isn’t inherently bad. It’s just rarely done well.

In this episode of Aggressively Human, we’re joined by sales strategist Jessica Lorimer, who got her start in the kind of sales that makes people sweat: actual phone calls, to actual humans, in actual corporate offices. We talk about what it looks like to sell in a way that’s clear, kind, and effective—without relying on funnels, fake rapport, or endless social media content. She breaks down what still works, what definitely doesn’t, and how to sell in a way that’s honest, respectful, and doesn’t make you feel like a spammer.

This episode is part strategy, part sales therapy, and part reminder that you’re allowed to enjoy sales.

* Jessica’s origin story: how she sold her way into a boardroom (without a formal invite)

* How “being good at sales” actually made Jess feel in the early days of running an online business, and why she shifted from B2C to B2B sales

* Why Jess and Meg have both gotten rid of their funnels

* The five-step B2B sales framework Jess uses with her corporate clients (and why it works for soloists too)

* Why “I sent 10 emails and no one replied” isn’t a valid reason to give up

* What you actually need in a cold message (spoiler: not a fake compliment or a pitch)

* Why it’s not about “convincing” someone to buy—it’s about showing them it’s worth a conversation

* And why selling isn’t about tricking anyone—it’s about being clear, useful, and brave enough to go first

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Jess Lorimer | LinkedIn

Selling to Corporate Podcast - a bi-weekly favorite of Jessica Lackey’s!

From Cold to Closed - open through May 18!

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In this episode, we’re talking about play.

Hear us riff on the power of play and personality in our lives and businesses. We explore our different expressions of play as children and how it impacts our businesses today (hint: Meg was a dancer and playwright and Jessica loved to tinker with her Erector sets and handwoven crafts. Totally on brand for both of us). We talk we both experiment in our businesses (once we have the foundations in place), including our plans for the summer. We look at play as a regenerative act: one that requires energy and action, but that gives it back to us.

And most importantly, you get:

* To hear Jessica’s play theme music (at 55:00)

* To let us know if you want a Center Stage watch along (because as a millennial creative woman I’m shocked Meg hasn’t seen this seminal film of my 20s!)

* To see Jessica literally dancing on a hillside in Switzerland in 2007, because the hills were alive with the sound of music. (only on Substack, so come hang with us there)

In today’s episode

* Why play isn’t about escape—it’s about energy, iteration, and identity

* How we infuse our personal styles into our personal brands

* All of the things Meg has learned from the Museum of Play

* What our personal play styles reveal about how we lead, build, and rest

* Why we don’t play enough in our businesses

* Jessica and Meg’s various types of play (and even what we consider play)

* Center Stage and what it gets right about discipline, talent, and letting go

* How we’re experimenting in public: podcast shifts, newsletter redesigns, and more

* Why constraint is the secret to playful business design

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Automation. Funnels. AI-generated content. Scale at all costs. New leads.

You’ve been sold a load of garbage about what it takes to grow a business today. And in this episode of Aggressively Human, we’re getting back to the truth about sales.

Max Traylor—agency churn physician and LinkedIn truth-teller—joins us to break down why so much of what passes for “sales strategy” today was never actually working. (It just didn’t matter when money was cheap.)

We talk about how most of us have never learned (or needed to learn) real sales skills, why AI and automation are actually doing you a favor by making real humans stand out, and why your best sales strategy is still a damn phone call.

We also dive into what real client expansion looks like, how to expand your existing relationships (hint: the word you’ll stop using is “done”), and how agency owners and soloists can rebuild around human relationships instead of implementing software and tools that take us farther away from connections in search of "scale".

* The sales myths we’ve been sold by venture-backed tech startups

* The difference between "participating in a buying process" and actually selling

* The missed opportunity of existing clients and why client expansion is the sales strategy no one talks about

* How to start expanding your engagement from day one

* Why quarterly business reviews aren’t admin—they're about getting invited to the adult table

* How bad automation is making it easier for real humans to stand out

* Why we need to become indispensable partners—and how do we do that

* The sales "crisis" that was never new—it just used to be easier to hide bad sales processes when the market was hot

* Max’s philosophy on LinkedIn: do it for yourself, not for the likes—and why IP creation > audience chasing

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Max Traylor: LinkedIn, Website

1,000 Routes with Nick Bennett Podcast Appearance

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Becoming an Indispensable Partner featuring Steve Lishansky (Beers with Max podcast)

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“Nickelback had the last big rock song of our generation because songs just aren't counted the same way. So I feel like this is actually a fairly good example of: what is popular is Nickelback, but it's not the best music. It's not the critically acclaimed music. This is what gets played on the radio because it can be played while you're barbecuing and it's non-offensive.

And that's what AI-curated content is, it's the Nickelback of content.” - Meg

There’s a lot of pressure in online business to be original. To create something new. To be the thought leader with the freshest take. But much of what passes for “thought leadership” online is just recycled content, AI regurgitation, or the same tired takes with slightly different branding.

In this philosophy episode of Aggressively Human, we make the case for starting with curation, not creation, to avoid flat, forgettable content where we’re simply competing through the volume of our ideas (h/t Jay Acunzo).

We explore what it really means to be a thoughtful curator, how building taste builds your expertise, and why citing your sources doesn’t make you less of a thought leader but actually strengthens your positioning. We talk about what it actually means to curate well, why human curiosity is the root of all curation, the messy process of composting ideas, and how to make time—and intention—for escaping the algorithmically-driven echo chamber of ideas.

Plus hear us develop (in real time!) the five-step framework for becoming a trusted creator, why your “whisper of discontent” might be your next learning quest, and what it looks like to embrace your expertise without pretending to know it all.

If you’re tired of thought leaders who have more LinkedIn carousels than actual ideas, this episode is an invitation to reconsider curation as an integral pillar.

* Why consumption must come before curation—and why curiosity comes before both

* How to develop taste by reading, listening, and observing widely

* Our 5-stage content development process

* The difference between AI curation and human curation (and why AI flattens nuance)

* How “whispers of discontent” can guide your next learning quest

* Why citation is essential to expert thought leadership

* Curation as care: how to refer, recommend, and connect as a value-add to your ecosystem

* Why your best business moves might come from knowing the right referrals—not from knowing it all yourself

There's value in saying, “Here's a list of the different software that I've tried, but here's the best project management tool for this circumstance and for this circumstance and for this circumstance.” And there's an expertise in being able to help people strategize what the best choice is for them based on.

Your lived experience, your client experience: don't work with this person, work with this person. Don't read this book, read this book. I think that that's a huge part of what you and I do, especially in group coaching programs where we're able to say in real time, “Oh, because you are running this type of business, you should be running this type of marketing strategy, or you should have this sort of accounting practice in place.” - Meg

Prior Episodes Mentioned:

Resources:

* James Clear – cited the Helsinki Bus Theory (not the Stockholm Bus Theory!)

* Jay Acunzo – idea of “don’t be the best, be their favorite”

* Ira Glass – inspiration for early content creation and taste development

* Rob Harvilla – host of 60 Songs That Explain the '90s, used as a curation example

* Chris Guillebeau – founder of World Domination Summit, mentioned by Jessica

* Dani Gardner – coined “whisper of discontent,” mentioned from her book Quiet Marketing

* Lacy Boggs – mentioned for her conversation on what defines thought leadership

* Malcolm Gladwell – concept of “mavens” from The Tipping Point

* Kate Raworth – author of Doughnut Economics

* Rebecca Henderson - Reimagining Capitalism in a World on Fire

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