Alive and Free

Humans trap themselves in the pursuit of becoming special. We learn new amazing skills, ditch our worst habits, and try our darndest to improve ourselves instead of living a mediocre life.

But this actually makes us more miserable because we're never satisfied.

Let's use addiction as an example. Freeing yourself from addiction won't instantly make you happier because your brain finds other ways to beat yourself up.

Here's the truth:

There's nothing you can do to make yourself more special than you are now. And that's a good thing — because it means you can rejoice about who you are right now.

In this episode, you'll discover why you are special (even if you don't feel like it).

Listen now and free yourself from the trap of "becoming special."

Show highlights include:

• The counterintuitive way ignoring wealth, happiness, and fulfillment magnetizes them to you (0:40)
• Why striving for specialness and greatness robs you of abilities nobody else has but you (1:35)
• The insidious, but not malicious way Big Pharma creates more "diseases" than actually exist (6:24)
• The bizarre "Defend Your Diagnoses" trap that puts your suffering on steroids (11:39)
• The sneaky way your brain justifies your addictions and prevents you from leaving them in the past (14:15)
• Why learning new skills, buying new clothes, and mastering your emotions can make you miserable (19:30)

If you want to radically change how much control you have over your emotions in as little as 20 days, you can go to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/feelbetternow and sign up for the Choose Your Own Emotion course.

If you or somebody you know is looking to drop the 'F' Bomb of freedom in your life and break free from addiction, depression, anxiety or anything that's making you feel flat-out stuck, head over to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/ and book a call where we can look at your unique situation and give you the roadmap you've been missing.

If you'd like to buy a copy of my book, Is That Even Possible?: The Nuts and Bolts of Energy Healing for the Curious, Wary, and Totally Bewildered, you can find it on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/That-Even-Possible-Healing-Bewildered/dp/1512336041

Our society glorifies shortcuts and band-aids to heal deep-rooted suffering. But these shortcuts don't work. In fact, they prolong our suffering.

Why?

Because any affliction suffocating you—from depression and anxiety to addiction and trauma—is a byproduct of the real problem.

This is why talk therapy doesn't work. It's like trying to season a rotten fish instead of finding a fresh one.

That's the bad news.

The good news?

Your life is made of certain building blocks. And once you fix these building blocks, you'll amaze yourself by how quickly all your mental and emotional problems vanish—for good.

In this episode, I reveal how to readjust your building blocks, so every passing day becomes the happiest of your life.

Listen now.

Show highlights include:

• The insidious way the Founding Fathers deprive you of happiness (1:02)
• Why you must eat 9 oranges to get the same nutritional value of an orange from 100 years ago (and the weird way this applies to your happiness) (2:01)
• How wearing clothes and makeup subtly sabotages your self-esteem (4:10)
• The weird way to lift the clouds of depression following you with only your stomach (8:28)
• The oddball "Sniff Soil" secret for instantly filling your body with the same chemical that makes you feel love (11:41)
• Why your wellbeing is built like a house with hollowed out 2x4s (12:33)
• The unhelpful "Band-Aid" method for attaining happiness and wellness that actually leaves you more depressed and sick (15:11)
• How language morphs precious memories into an additional source of trauma (20:04)
• Why depression, anxiety, addiction, and even PTSD aren't problems (and the "building blocks" trick for getting rid of them for good) (22:25)

If you want to radically change how much control you have over your emotions in as little as 20 days, you can go to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/feelbetternow and sign up for the Choose Your Own Emotion course.

If you or somebody you know is looking to drop the 'F' Bomb of freedom in your life and break free from addiction, depression, anxiety or anything that's making you feel flat-out stuck, head over to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/ and book a call where we can look at your unique situation and give you the roadmap you've been missing.

If you'd like to buy a copy of my book, Is That Even Possible?: The Nuts and Bolts of Energy Healing for the Curious, Wary, and Totally Bewildered, you can find it on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/That-Even-Possible-Healing-Bewildered/dp/1512336041

Most people live with their suffering for so long, they don't even realize it's affecting them. This can come from trauma, past addictions, chronic pain, and even autoimmune diseases.

But that doesn't mean that you still can't experience true freedom, peace, and joy.

That's what Amber, a Freedom Specialist client, realized after going to a retreat and getting coaching.

Amber battled chronic pain, autoimmune conditions, and mental health problems for over 10 years. She tried everything from conventional medicine to alternative health approaches, and nothing worked. At one point doctors rated her heart inflammation at a 4 on a scale of 5 (where 5 means a heart attack can strike at any moment).

In this episode, Amber shares how she's eliminated all her physical and mental problems to the shock of her doctors. And how following a "full body approach" can do the same for you, regardless of what you're struggling with.

Listen now and take the first step towards achieving true freedom, health, and joy.

Show highlights include:

• The insidious "Vending Machine" reason behind why you can't get rid of your nastiest emotions (1:38)
• Why repeating affirmations can't get rid of your depression (even if it makes you happier) (2:26)
• How to erase chronic pain, reverse autoimmune diseases, and ditch your addictions by just having fun (3:21)
• The bizarre "punch-in-the-back" method for relieving 10 years of physical pain in an instant (7:06)
• Why Amber's doctor thought she would die soon (and how Amber scored perfect ratings on blood tests a year later) (10:27)
• The "put a stick in it" technique which reteaches your body's tension patterns and reverses potentially life-threatening cardiac inflammation in 4 days (15:17)
• Why treating your body like an old-school computer helps you heal from addiction, trauma, and even lethal diseases (21:45)
• How to purge agonizing aches and pains for good (even if you're 65 or older) (30:12)

If you want to radically change how much control you have over your emotions in as little as 20 days, you can go to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/feelbetternow and sign up for the Choose Your Own Emotion course.

If you or somebody you know is looking to drop the 'F' Bomb of freedom in your life and break free from addiction, depression, anxiety or anything that's making you feel flat-out stuck, head over to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/ and book a call where we can look at your unique situation and give you the roadmap you've been missing.

If you'd like to buy a copy of my book, Is That Even Possible?: The Nuts and Bolts of Energy Healing for the Curious, Wary, and Totally Bewildered, you can find it on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/That-Even-Possible-Healing-Bewildered/dp/1512336041

Many younger guys—and some older—wonder how much they should tell their significant other about their addiction-filled past.

Should you just spill the beans and get it out of the way as soon as possible? Or should you wait until your significant other brings it up?

While there's no correct answer, there are some pros and cons to each approach.

In this episode, you'll discover how to handle this personal question in your own relationship.

Listen now.

Show highlights include:

• When you should share your porn addiction with your partner (and when it could scare them out of the relationship) (1:35)
• Why your past doesn't have to ruin your present (even if you have a history of traumatic nightmares) (4:04)
• The insidious way identifying yourself with a past addiction binds you to it forever instead of freeing your from it (5:04)
• How lying to your partner poisons your relationship from the inside out (even if they never find out you lied) (6:16)
• The weird way reversing your addiction helps you love more than if it never happened to you (11:01)
• Why being proud of your ugly past unlocks more freedom, love, and joy than shame ever could (12:01)
• The wicked way confessing your past traumas and addictions to your significant other actually worsens your relationship (16:37)
• Why treating your girlfriend or wife as your own personal therapist will make her want to leave you lickity split (18:59)
• The only ingredient you need to build a loving, happy, and long relationship (22:08)

If you want to radically change how much control you have over your emotions in as little as 20 days, you can go to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/feelbetternow and sign up for the Choose Your Own Emotion course.

If you or somebody you know is looking to drop the 'F' Bomb of freedom in your life and break free from addiction, depression, anxiety or anything that's making you feel flat-out stuck, head over to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/ and book a call where we can look at your unique situation and give you the roadmap you've been missing.

If you'd like to buy a copy of my book, Is That Even Possible?: The Nuts and Bolts of Energy Healing for the Curious, Wary, and Totally Bewildered, you can find it on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/That-Even-Possible-Healing-Bewildered/dp/1512336041

Almost every trauma started in your childhood. And no parent wants to repeat this trauma cycle with their children. Parenting is already hard enough, and not knowing what the future holds makes your job 100x harder.

How can you raise your children to live a happy and trauma-free life?

In this episode, Jasmine and I reveal how our two differing parenting styles complement each other. And how you can do this with your spouse and your kids.

Listen now and give your children an advantage throughout the rest of their life.

Show highlights include:

• Why almost all of your problems started in your childhood (and how to raise children without burdening them like you were) (1:17)
• How one awkward conversation as a kid tricks you into thinking everyone notices your awkwardness throughout your life (1:41)
• The weird way an online personality test makes you and your spouse better parents (2:39)
• How to prevent your children from having meltdowns for good (8:11)
• The "Play to your Strengths" method for parenting which gives your kids the best chance at a happy and trauma-free life (8:52)
• How to have the birds and the bees talk with your kids (and the best age to have this tough conversation) (12:03)
• Why deflecting uncomfortable questions your children ask you detonates their trust in you (15:44)
• How making your kids choose their own consequences for acting out helps them learn from their mistakes better than you laying down the law (23:14)
• The "Reflection Strategy" for confronting bad behavior (without making your kids rebel against you) (28:17)

If you want to radically change how much control you have over your emotions in as little as 20 days, you can go to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/feelbetternow and sign up for the Choose Your Own Emotion course.

If you or somebody you know is looking to drop the 'F' Bomb of freedom in your life and break free from addiction, depression, anxiety or anything that's making you feel flat-out stuck, head over to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/ and book a call where we can look at your unique situation and give you the roadmap you've been missing.

If you'd like to buy a copy of my book, Is That Even Possible?: The Nuts and Bolts of Energy Healing for the Curious, Wary, and Totally Bewildered, you can find it on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/That-Even-Possible-Healing-Bewildered/dp/1512336041

Disney movies, popular books, and rom-coms ruin more relationships than you'd think. Too often, angsty, single men with no relationship success create these fantasized stories. And it fools the best couples into sabotaging their marriage.

You don't need to share every interest, have the same faith, or enjoy the same hobbies to build a healthy relationship. In fact, that would mean you're the same person. But when you become two different people, you build an even stronger relationship.

In this episode, Jasmine and I reveal how becoming two different people has saved and reignited our marriage. And how it can do the same for you and your marriage.

Listen now and restore the love in your relationship.

Show highlights include:

• The wicked way 90% of your relationship "fantasies" come from angsty, single men with no wife or girlfriend (0:49)
• Why "happily ever after" doesn't exist in real relationships (and how to grow your love over time instead of suffocating it) (1:48)
• How you subconsciously try to "morph" your spouse into being a clone of you (and why this can cripple your relationship) (2:31)
• The "anti-happily ever after" method for creating an unbreakable bond out of dire straits (5:48)
• Why "hating" your spouse sometimes builds a healthy and loving relationship (7:42)
• How changing your religious beliefs in your marriage makes your spouse feel like you're filing for divorce (and how to overcome this) (8:58)
• The counterintuitive reason having almost nothing in common with your partner creates a happier marriage (10:26)
• The "best friend" trick for conquering adversity in your marriage with ease (14:58)
• How your thoughts, opinions, and beliefs about love and relationships sever your natural connection to your spouse (and how to "tap into" this connection at will) (16:53)
• How to empower your children to have their own spiritual awakening instead of raising bots who whatever others tell them (23:18)
• The powerful "Date your Spouse" secret for rekindling your love (even if you've grown apart) (26:06)

If you want to radically change how much control you have over your emotions in as little as 20 days, you can go to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/feelbetternow and sign up for the Choose Your Own Emotion course.

If you or somebody you know is looking to drop the 'F' Bomb of freedom in your life and break free from addiction, depression, anxiety or anything that's making you feel flat-out stuck, head over to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/ and book a call where we can look at your unique situation and give you the roadmap you've been missing.

If you'd like to buy a copy of my book, Is That Even Possible?: The Nuts and Bolts of Energy Healing for the Curious, Wary, and Totally Bewildered, you can find it on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/That-Even-Possible-Healing-Bewildered/dp/1512336041

Conquering traumatic events doesn't instantly relieve you of your emotional baggage. This applies even more to couples than it does to individuals. It's possible your trauma seeps into your spouse too.

Overcoming addiction or depression doesn't magically make your spouse's trauma disappear. But you can speed up this healing process and restore the love you first felt in your marriage.

In this episode, Jasmine and I reveal the mistakes we made during our healing process. And how avoiding them helps you heal your marriage in as little as a couple months.

Listen now and fast track your healing process.

Show highlights include:

• Why watching your husband ditch his addiction doesn't instantly unburden you (and when you can expect the weight will lift from your shoulders) (2:47)
• The "Reborn" secret for overcoming years of baggage in your marriage and falling in love again (3:44)
• How emotional responses after traumatizing events confirms some baggage still lurks in your psyche (5:37)
• The weird way to overcome deep psychological agony with paper and pen (7:43)
• Why spouses of former addicts a develop a wicked sense of "Second Hand PTSD" (and how to conquer these emotions before they crush your marriage) (10:59)
• The counterintuitive way counselors and therapists prolong your suffering as a couple (and how to turn your marriage around in a couple of months) (13:18)
• How you make your wife feel like a sex object (even if you don't have a porn addiction) (17:12)
• Does decades-old trauma devour your joy? Here's how to get rid of 50 years of trauma in 4 days (20:15)

If you want to radically change how much control you have over your emotions in as little as 20 days, you can go to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/feelbetternow and sign up for the Choose Your Own Emotion course.

If you or somebody you know is looking to drop the 'F' Bomb of freedom in your life and break free from addiction, depression, anxiety or anything that's making you feel flat-out stuck, head over to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/ and book a call where we can look at your unique situation and give you the roadmap you've been missing.

If you'd like to buy a copy of my book, Is That Even Possible?: The Nuts and Bolts of Energy Healing for the Curious, Wary, and Totally Bewildered, you can find it on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/That-Even-Possible-Healing-Bewildered/dp/1512336041

Most couples believe they need trust to build a healthy, long marriage. But trust doesn't create unity like paying attention does.

Here's what I mean:

When you pay better attention to your spouse, you can accept them for what they are. Too often, we try to impose change on our spouse — which only leads to suffering for both people.

By paying attention, you can build a marriage bonded by true unity and fully accept the other person for who they are.

In this episode, Jasmine and I reveal simple strategies that saved our marriage after we destroyed our trust. And how you can build a stronger marriage despite any trust issues you may have.

Listen now and save your marriage.

Show highlights include:

• Why you don't need to "trust" your spouse to build a healthy marriage (1:08)
• How to make your partner open up emotionally to you with physical touch (1:53)
• Why using your significant other as an accountability partner poisons your relationship (3:31)
• The "vertical relationships" trap which makes creating a strong, lasting marriage almost impossible (6:38)
• How to have tough conversations with your spouse (without sounding like a jerk or saying things you regret) (8:52)
• The weird way sending emails can save your marriage (and why texts don't work) (9:57)
• How curiosity prevents minor arguments from blossoming into full-blown fights (23:17)
• The "Playlist Technique" for generating 100 fresh date ideas by the end of the day (28:58)

If you want to radically change how much control you have over your emotions in as little as 20 days, you can go to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/feelbetternow and sign up for the Choose Your Own Emotion course.

If you or somebody you know is looking to drop the 'F' Bomb of freedom in your life and break free from addiction, depression, anxiety or anything that's making you feel flat-out stuck, head over to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/ and book a call where we can look at your unique situation and give you the roadmap you've been missing.

If you'd like to buy a copy of my book, Is That Even Possible?: The Nuts and Bolts of Energy Healing for the Curious, Wary, and Totally Bewildered, you can find it on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/That-Even-Possible-Healing-Bewildered/dp/1512336041

Something weird happens when your husband ditches his addiction for good. He heals much faster than you. And this causes turmoil in the relationship.

The husband wonders why his wife seems distant and disconnected. That's because the wife often thinks this is another lie and waits for the addiction to come back in full force.

Here's the good news:

If you've reached this place with your partner, there is hope to save your marriage. And it's closer than you think.

In this episode, Jasmine joins me to reveal how wives heal slower than their formerly addicted partners. Listen now and kickstart your healing process together.

Show highlights include:

• How a 12-step couple meeting can save your marriage (even if a 12-step program makes you feel like an addict) (7:22)
• Why divorce might be the best option (even if your religion discourages it) (8:49)
• The insidious way trying to "win" in a relationship causes heartbreak for both of you (9:17)
• How to spot the exact moment you're not an addict anymore (even after decades of addiction) (9:45)
• Why freeing yourself from your addictions doesn't free your spouse from your history (and how to prove to them your addiction no longer suffocates you) (10:22)
• The sneaky way former addicts make their significant other feel unworthy to be with them (14:10)
• How pushing your newfound beliefs that freed you from addiction onto your wife delays the healing process (22:16)

If you want to radically change how much control you have over your emotions in as little as 20 days, you can go to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/feelbetternow and sign up for the Choose Your Own Emotion course.

If you or somebody you know is looking to drop the 'F' Bomb of freedom in your life and break free from addiction, depression, anxiety or anything that's making you feel flat-out stuck, head over to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/ and book a call where we can look at your unique situation and give you the roadmap you've been missing.

If you'd like to buy a copy of my book, Is That Even Possible?: The Nuts and Bolts of Energy Healing for the Curious, Wary, and Totally Bewildered, you can find it on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/That-Even-Possible-Healing-Bewildered/dp/1512336041

Addicts feel alone and isolated when battling their addictions. But they don't realize their spouse feels even more detached and miserable.

How do wives keep their lives (and family) together when their husband has these issues?

My wife Jasmine joins me on this episode to discuss some coping strategies for wives dealing with their addicted husbands. She covers bad strategies that can wreck your marriage. And good ones that can save it—like she saved ours.

Listen to the episode now to discover some of the best ways to keep your life together when your spouse's addiction wants to tear your world apart.

Show highlights include:

• Why you're not alone as a spouse to an addict (even if it feels like you are) (3:00)
• The insidious way your mind tricks you into concealing your personal issues so you can start healing (4:14)
• The "forever myth" that makes freeing yourself from addiction's grip impossible (8:50)
• How addiction disguises itself as bipolar disorder (and how to know which one you're dealing with) (9:43)
• Why it's never your fault if your husband battles an addiction (even if he blames you) (12:20)
• How porn, romantic comedies, and even Disney movies give men a failing impression of relationships that can tear apart even the strongest marriages (13:57)
• The "Nature Trick" for alleviating your toughest emotional burdens (22:43)

If you want to radically change how much control you have over your emotions in as little as 20 days, you can go to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/feelbetternow and sign up for the Choose Your Own Emotion course.

If you or somebody you know is looking to drop the 'F' Bomb of freedom in your life and break free from addiction, depression, anxiety or anything that's making you feel flat-out stuck, head over to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/ and book a call where we can look at your unique situation and give you the roadmap you've been missing.

If you'd like to buy a copy of my book, Is That Even Possible?: The Nuts and Bolts of Energy Healing for the Curious, Wary, and Totally Bewildered, you can find it on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/That-Even-Possible-Healing-Bewildered/dp/1512336041