All That And Mo

This week, I sat down with my beloved Spousemeister Georg Friedrich Haas to have a candid conversation about what it means to live an authentic life and find happiness in the process. We dove deep into how societal messaging can shape our sense of self-worth and the importance of recognizing the privileges we carry in life (sound complex? It is.

And of course, I couldn't resist mentioning my one-woman show, Hyena. I'm beyond thrilled to see so many people from all different parts of my life come out to support me, and it's humbling to realize just how many people have played a part in my journey to this point.The show itself touches on some pretty heavy themes - trauma, healing, resilience—we talk about those things, and why it's so nerve-racking to have that all on display.

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Thank you so much to my loyal Patrons who make this show possible!

SUPERSTAR MOFO:

Liz Scott

PATRONS:

J Starr

Anna T Biddle

Christopher Brown

Amy Willaert

James R Potyraj

Marshall Flax

Haddayr Copley-Woods

Scott J

Marty Wilder

Meg Baca

JP Robichaud

aeric meredith-goujon

KillerB1973

Sara Leiste

Esther

The Adipositivity Project

Kathleen Melch

Andrea

DK Green (aka DK Leather)

Stephanie Shernicoff

WELCOME N00b:

Joanna Spencer!

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When I first got involved in the kink, leather, and BDSM scene, I thought it was going to be a non-stop sex party. But I quickly realized that it was not entirely true—and that it might just not be for me. As an actress and performer since childhood, I found it challenging to separate an audience from people watching me from a performative mindset. This made me realize that sex parties were not my kink.

Join me as I debunk the myth of sex parties in the kink and BDSM scene, what the public scene is designed for and my usual smattering of stories.

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Thank you so much to my loyal Patrons who make this show possible!

SUPERSTAR MOFO:

Liz Scott

PATRONS:

J Starr

Anna T Biddle

Christopher Brown

Amy Willaert

James R Potyraj

Marshall Flax

Haddayr Copley-Woods

Scott J

Marty Wilder

Meg Baca

JP Robichaud

aeric meredith-goujon

KillerB1973

Sara Leiste

Esther

The Adipositivity Project

Kathleen Melch

Andrea

DK Green (aka DK Leather)

Stephanie Shernicoff

WELCOME N00b:

Joanna Spencer!

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/all-that-and-mo.

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Stage fright is one thing. Performing someone else's art is one thing. But what about performing something so personal, so raw, that someone watching is looking into your very soul?

That's what I experience when I perform my solo show "Hyena". On today's episode, I talk about what it's like, about being an alcoholic in recovery (and an alcoholic of color at that), the story of when my beloved Spousemeister first heard my story, and other tales.

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Thank you so much to my loyal Patrons who make this show possible!

SUPERSTAR MOFO:

Liz Scott

PATRONS:

J Starr

Anna T Biddle

Christopher Brown

Amy Willaert

James R Potyraj

Marshall Flax

Haddayr Copley-Woods

Scott J

Marty Wilder

Meg Baca

JP Robichaud

aeric meredith-goujon

KillerB1973

Sara Leiste

Esther

The Adipositivity Project

Kathleen Melch

Andrea

DK Green (aka DK Leather)

Stephanie Shernicoff

WELCOME N00b:

Joanna Spencer!

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/all-that-and-mo.

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In this episode, I decided to answer three of the questions and explains what it takes to make her feel safe in my relationship. I also share a hilarious fuck up as a submissive when I was new to the BDSM scene, and dive into how I managed (in the past) polyamorous relationships. Plus, I talks about the tasks I had to do as a submissive, and how she learned to appreciate them. Tune in to hear all the details of my journey as a submissive—and how I learned to be respected!

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If you've been a long-time listener to this podcast, you'll know about my solo show, Hyena, but for the uninitiated—Hyena is a combination of spoken word and music about alcoholism and recovery. Specifically, MY alcholism and recovery.

On today's episode, I'll be discussing the various performances of the show (including the film version and how it has won awards from various film festivals). I'll also dive into how my involvement in the kink, leather and BDSM has helped me in my recovery. I'll be exploring how the support from my community after I announced my sobriety was a miracle for me and gave me a sense of homecoming. We'll also be discussing the importance of talking to someone who understands the experience of addiction and how difficult it can be to understand how bad off one is while in the midst of addiction.

Sign up for the highest-tier level of my Patreon and (as mentioned in the episode) get an exclusive look at the film version of Hyena!

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It's super important to discuss kink and BDSM in the context of events, safety, and boundaries. Are you interested in exploring this exciting world, but don't know where to start?

On today's episode, we're going to be talking about red flags in the context of kink and BDSM.

My list?

🚩1. People who suggest that limits are not important

🚩2. People who craft a persona that might not be accurate

🚩3. Rigidity of rule

🚩4. People who use a lot of protocol and titles

🚩5. People who use punishments (in some cases)

🚩6. People who try to mold someone into something unrecognizable.

Remember to be honest about limits and to take your time when getting to know someone online. If you're interested in exploring kink and BDSM, take the time to consider these, and other any red flags that may crop up. Finally, always remember to always be mindful of the 'Prime Directive.'

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A special, direct thank you to Amy W, Victoria B, Susanna E G, James R P, Kathleen A, Marshall F, Elizabeth S, Jackie B, Haddayr C-W, Scott J K, Abigail P, Marty W, Meg B, JP R, aeric meredith-goujon, Sinclair Sexsmith, KillerB1973, Sara L E, The Adipositivity Project, Kathleen M, Andrea, DK Leather, Stephanie S, Michelle D, and Michael O'B.

You are helping make this show possible.

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This is part 2 of my two-part review of the last couple of years—where I've been, what I've been doing, and what I've learned.

In this episode, I discuss my experience of rehearsing for an opera, and my move to Bern, Switzerland. I share about how working with the director, Julia, and how I focused on character development, backstory and relationships. I also talk about the emotional process of decluttering her home before the move, new adventures in Switzerland, and our older-than-expected apartment.

Join us and get to know more about me and my journey of self-care, exploration, and adaptation over the past two years.

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In this first part of two episodes, we're doing a year in review with my beloved Spouse Meister.

I'm diving into my calendar to recall events and experiences such as RV trips in California, a trip to Vienna for an opera production, trying to get a certification in narrative therapy, and a sex party that didn’t go as planned. We discuss how the past year has been a learning experience for me and how I have adapted my life because of it. We’ll also hear about Urban Tantra, a trip to Europe, a trip to Slovenia, and more.

Join us and get to know more about me and my journey of self-care, exploration, and adaptation over the past two years.

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It's been weeks since I wrote that post about my mother not coming to see the opera my son-in-law wrote for me in Europe. I had offered to buy her a business class ticket with anti-anxiety medication, but never got a response. Reflecting on this made me think about other issues with my family. In our family, it's become expected that I don't share my feelings with others. 

I'm still angry and sad about it, but I'm now choosing to let go of those feelings and find peace. 

I've come to realize that family is not just about who birthed who, it's about who celebrates who. I encourage you to find your people who will see and celebrate you for who you are. 

I'm sending you love and wishing that you will be seen and cherished for who you are. Happy New Year.

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I'm a night person. I love the peace and quiet of the late hours. During the winter months and my anniversary, it often ends up as a time of contemplation and introspection – which can be a challenge.

On today's episode, I talk about how I had to overcome fear to be fully themselves and how I met my beloved spousemeister nine years ago. I also talk about my budding business, teaching people to be free to be themselves, and how I just want to share my light and hope with others. You'll also hear about their fear of success and the beauty and power of darkness.

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