Am I doing it wrong? For Doctors by Doctors.

By Doctor Becc and Kristeen BarkerMedicine Health & Fitness

Am I doing it wrong? For Doctors by Doctors. episodes

May 07, 202435: Doctors, this really isn't normal.
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Hey there Doctor Humans!

Have we ever felt like our lives as doctors are just...weird? Like, way outside the realm of "normal"? In this episode, we explore the idea that a doctor's life is inherently abnormal, and how acknowledging this reality can be a powerful tool for reducing stress and self-compassion.

Summary:
We discuss a listener's realization that their clinical life is not normal.

We explore the ways in which a doctor's life defies typical work experiences, from high-pressure decision-making to constant exposure to tragedy.

The concept of normalizing the abnormal is discussed, and how it can lead to unnecessary self-criticism and exhaustion.

Acknowledging the abnormal nature of our work can be a powerful tool for self-compassion and reducing stress.

We invite you guys to share your experiences with "abnormal" situations in the medical field here with us!
26 min
April 30, 202434: SOS. I'M GOING DOWN THE SHAME SPIRAL
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Hey there Doctor Humans! In this episode, we discuss shame spirals, a common experience for many people, especially those in the medical field.

But first,

We fell off our chairs reading Linda's poem from social media and, admittedly, in the awe we realised we had not sought permission to share her poem on the podcast. We connected with Linda after our recording and to our delight she was happy for us to keep it in the recording for you all to experience.

If you too are impressed with Linda's communication through poem, there's more where that came from. If we hadn't already been stunned by the poem, it would be more surprising to learn that Dr. Linda (Smith) Appiah-Kubi is actually a communication expert in healthcare.

While we cannot confirm if advanced communication through poem is included in her courses for doctors, if you're a doctor who appreciates that our communication skills can dramatically enhance our patient's experiences, Dr Appiah-Kubi's organisation, Clear and Connected can offer you the upskilling that you seek.

Clear and Connected by Dr Appiah-Kubi:
Website: https://bit.ly/4b2y2fy
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Episode Summary:
Shame spirals are common occurrences, especially for doctors who may experience feelings of inadequacy, incompetence, and vulnerability due to the nature of their work.

Shame spirals can be debilitating and lead to a cycle of negative thoughts and emotions.

The key to overcoming a shame spiral is to identify the source of the shame and understand the thoughts associated with it.

We share personal stories of shame spirals we've experienced in their careers.

Becc explains the difference between a shame spiral and processing a difficult experience. Shame spirals involve stacking negative stories on top of the initial experience, whereas processing an experience involves understanding the emotions and learning from them.

Kristeen used a mindfulness technic called grounding to help her connect with the world around her in the present moment. This was a great example of how using mindfulness doesn't have to look like sitting cross-legged in silence but she engaged in sensory experiences like smelling candles to make her mindfulness more enjoyable yet effective.

Becc explains the concept of mood-congruent memory bias, which is the tendency to recall memories that reinforce the emotions we are currently feeling. Shame spirals can worsen this bias.

Shame can be a signal that something needs to be addressed, but it's important to go beyond the surface-level thoughts and identify the deeper beliefs that are causing the shame.

By meeting the reality of the shame experience and challenging the negative thoughts associated with it, we can break free from the shame spiral and move forward.
Share your experiences with shame spirals and what's worked and not worked for you!

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50 min
April 23, 2024 33: Doctors, WHO are the police in your life
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Hey there Doctor humans! Feeling like you're constantly walking on eggshells around unseen authorities?

Us too!

In this episode, we discuss the concept of "police" in your life - those people or situations that make you question your every move.

This episode dives into the idea of having "police" in your life - those people or situations that make you feel like you're constantly being judged and scrutinised.

We explore how these "police" can make you act differently, expend unnecessary energy, and miss out on opportunities.

Let's talk about what you can do to take back control and feel safe in your own skin.

Key points:
📌 How the feeling of being watched can make you act strangely and unnaturally.
📌 The concept of "police" in your life can be a metaphor for internal and external pressures that make you feel unsafe.
📌 These pressures can come from people, situations, or even yourself.
📌 Allowing these "police" to control your behavior can be exhausting and steal your joy.

Do you notice there are the "police" in your life? Who are they and where they show up in your life?
42 min
April 16, 202432: DOCTORS, "Who do you think you are?" On being criticised
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📽 Becc's Youtube: ⁠https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl⁠
👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT⁠

If you're a successful woman still feeling on guard and not fully free to express yourself, join Dare, Darling, Doctor Becc's Group Coaching Membership at ⁠⁠⁠⁠www.doctorbecc.com.au.⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🔓 🚀
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Hey team! This week on the podcast, we are talking about something we all experience but maybe don't like to think about: criticism.

Specifically, we're diving into how criticism shows up when you're achieving big things and how to deal with it in a way that empowers you, not paralyses you.

Want to stop letting criticism hold you back? We've got some game-changing tips for you in this episode! Plus, there's a special announcement you won't want to miss!

We discuss the phenomenon of criticism increasing as you achieve greater success. We explore the feeling of "who do you think you are?" that can arise when you're making a difference or stepping outside the norm.

Here are some key takeaways:
Criticism is inevitable, especially as you become more successful or visible.

It's important to understand the source of the criticism, both from the critic's perspective and your own internal experience.

Be aware of the way that fear of criticism can hold you back from taking risks and pursuing your goals. With that awareness, you can decide for yourself, "Do I want to let this fear be my decider?"

There are ways to build your resilience to criticism and feel safe even when you're being challenged.

Becc's Group Coaching Membership, "Dare, Darling," is designed to help you develop the skills and mindset to handle criticism in a healthy way.
38 min
April 09, 202431: How to work out WHAT you should do when you're OVERWHELMED
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If you're a successful woman still feeling on guard and not fully free to express yourself, join Dare, Darling, Doctor Becc's Group Coaching Membership at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.doctorbecc.com.au.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🔓 🚀
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Hey there goal-getters! Feeling overwhelmed by your to-do list and struggling to prioritize? In this episode, Kristeen shares the system that's been working wonders for her: the "Intuitive To-Do List" that will help you ditch the stress and choose what matters most. Learn how to tap into your intuition and get laser-focused on what will move you closer to your goals.
Kristeen and Becc chat about the challenges of feeling overwhelmed with to-do lists and the constant pressure to be productive. They introduce Kristeen's new system, the "Intuitive To-Do List," a three-step process that utilizes gratitude, future goal setting, and intuition to help you choose the most important task for each day.

Here are the key takeaways from the Intuitive To-Do List system:
Start with Gratitude: Write down anything you're thankful for to shift your mindset to a more positive place.

Set Your Future Goals: Identify your long-term and short-term goals and imagine yourself achieving them.

Tap into Your Intuition: Write down what comes to mind for what you need to do today to get closer to your goals. Don't overthink it - the first thought is usually the best one!

Listen to the full episode to learn more about the Intuitive To-Do List and how to implement it in your own life. Try it out this week and see how it changes your game!
Share your experience and any to-do list hacks you have in the comments below.
22 min
April 02, 2024 30: Are you a creative doctor? We have a community for you
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Hey everyone, Kristeen and Becc here! We're dedicating this episode to a truly inspiring event we recently attended: the Creative Careers in Medicine Conference (CCIM). It wasn't just any conference; it was an eye-opening experience that redefined what's possible for doctors like us who crave creative expression alongside our medical careers.

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We'll be diving deep into three key takeaways that left a lasting impression. But be warned, enthusiasm incoming!
Finding Your Tribe: A Collapse of Hierarchy
The CCIM wasn't your typical conference. It fostered a unique atmosphere where hierarchy dissolved. Everyone, from established professionals to aspiring creatives, interacted on equal footing. This openness led to genuine connections and a sense of belonging – a true rarity in the sometimes-rigid world of medicine.
Networking Redefined: Curiosity over Competition
Forget the pressure of schmoozing! Networking at CCIM felt more like making friends with kindred spirits. We were all there to learn, share experiences, and be inspired by each other's journeys. There was no competition, just a genuine curiosity about each other's creative pursuits.
Embracing Your "And": Inspiration to Fuel Your Passions
One of the most powerful takeaways was the realization that a career in medicine doesn't have to stifle your creative side. The conference was brimming with examples of doctors who successfully integrated their artistic passions into their lives, proving it can be an "and" instead of an "or." We left feeling empowered and overflowing with inspiration to pursue our own creative endeavors.
A Call to Action: Explore Your Creative Potential
If you're a doctor feeling a pull towards creative expression but unsure where to start, this episode is for you! We encourage you to explore your interests, embrace your curiosity, and maybe even consider attending the next CCIM conference. You might just discover a hidden world of possibilities waiting to be explored.
Bonus: We also touch on the conference's impact on potential burnout and the changing landscape of the medical workforce.
We hope this summary piques your interest! Let us know if you have any questions or want to share your own creative pursuits in medicine.
37 min
March 26, 202429: Doctors, you don't get to be perfect either
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📽 Becc's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl⁠⁠
👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT⁠⁠

If you're a successful woman still feeling on guard and not fully free to express yourself, join Dare, Darling, Doctor Becc's Group Coaching Membership at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.doctorbecc.com.au.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🔓 🚀
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You're a human too. You Don't Get to Be Perfect as a Doctor

On one hand, we can all nod our heads at the idea that perfectionism is unrealistic, unfair to expect of ourselves and even detrimental to try to aim for...

... But what about when you're a doctors? What about when your performace effects other people in their most vulnerable states?

... Isn't this a time where we really should be perfect?

In this episode, we discuss the unrealistic expectation of perfection in medicine. We bring to light a difficult fact, which is that doctors are humans and humans are fallible. At times, this means patients will, to our devastation, not be perfectly cared for.

We discuss the importance and our reliance on the "Swiss Cheese Model" of caring for patients and how teamwork is essential to minimising and preventing medical errors.

Main Points:
Doctors are expected to be perfect, but this is an unrealistic expectation.

Ironically, perfectionism can lead to burnout and medical errors.

The "Swiss Cheese Model" shows how multiple layers of defense can prevent errors.

Teamwork is essential in medicine. Relying on the individual being infallible is a strategy doomed to harm patients.

We invite doctors to embrace their humanity and ask for help when needed.
Key Quotes:
"We will all have examples of times where we personally have been right at the cusp of causing harm and saved by the Swiss Cheese model..." - Dr Becc

"...it's not just in our heads...there's this lack of tolerance for doctors not being precise and exact and all knowing..." - Dr Kristeen Barker

"...thank goodness we are so lucky to get to work with colleagues..." - Dr Becc

"...they are the true heroes in this situation..." - Dr Kristeen Barker

Have you ever been saved by a teammate? Share your stories in the comments below!
28 min
March 19, 202428: Doctors, WARNING: the problem with putting someone on a pedestal
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Hey there, amazing doctors humans! We're back with another episode of Am I Doing It Wrong?

Have you ever looked up to someone so much they practically become a medical deity in your mind? We've all been there! This week, we're diving deep into the concept of "pedestaling" and how it can actually hold you back from what you truly want to achieve.
We'll explore why we put people on pedestals, how it affects both you and the person you admire, and most importantly, what you can do to build bridges instead. This episode is packed with insights and aha moments, so grab a cup of coffee, settle in, and get ready to transform your relationships with the amazing doctors you look up to.

Here are the key points:
Pedestaling is putting someone on a pedestal, admiring them greatly and possibly to an excessive degree. This can create a distance between you and the person you admire.

When you pedestal someone, you might:

This can be negative for both people involved.

The person being pedestaled might feel pressure to live up to your expectations and might not be approachable.

The person pedestaling someone might miss out on opportunities to connect and learn from the person they admire.
The episode also talks about how to avoid pedestaling people and build bridges instead. Here are some tips:
Recognize your admiration for someone.

See them as a real person with strengths and weaknesses.

Don't be afraid to approach them and connect with them.

Build a two-way relationship.

Now, after listening to this episode, we'd love to hear from you! Have you ever pedestaled someone in your career? How did it impact you? Share your stories and thoughts in our online community. Let's keep the conversation going and empower each other to ditch the pedestals and build meaningful connections. See you online, and remember, you are amazing just the way you are!
35 min
March 12, 202427: You CAN handle the worst-case scenario
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What to Do in a Hard Situation
In this episode, we discuss how to approach challenging situations.
Key Takeaways
Challenge your fears: When faced with a difficult situation, stay calm and approach it directly instead of avoiding it. You'll often find you have the resources and capabilities to handle it better than you anticipated.

Embrace self-reliance: Don't wait for someone else to solve your problems. Trust your abilities and take initiative.

Step into your future self: Imagine yourself acting confidently in the challenging role you aspire to. This mental shift can empower you to make better decisions in the present.

Fear is often misleading: Our initial fear response can be inaccurate. By taking action, we often discover the situation is not as scary as we thought.
Actionable Steps
When faced with a difficult situation, take a deep breath and focus on staying calm.

Break down the problem into smaller, more manageable steps.

Visualize yourself successfully navigating the challenge.

Reflect on past situations where you overcame obstacles. This can boost your confidence.
Memorable Moments
Dr. Barker shares a story about overcoming her fear of mice by taking initiative to remove one from her house.

Dr. Becc uses the analogy of fog to describe fear. As you approach your fear, it becomes less dense and the path forward becomes clearer.
Overall, this episode encourages listeners to approach challenges with courage and self-belief. By taking action and stepping outside their comfort zones, they can discover hidden strengths and achieve more than they think possible.
34 min
March 05, 202426: COMPARISON almost stole our friendship
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Comparison Almost Stole Our Friendship: How to Respond to Comparison, Not Retreat From It

Drs. Kristeen Barker and Becc explore the story of their own friendship, which almost never happened because of these comparisons.

Key Points:
Comparing yourself to others can be a major roadblock to happiness and connection.

The podcast explores three ways people respond to comparison: competing, retreating, and collaborating.

Retreating, like Kristeen did initially, can prevent you from forming valuable relationships.

Collaborating, like they eventually did, allows you to learn from and elevate each other.

Surrounding yourself with inspiring people can help you become your best self.
This podcast is for:
Anyone who struggles with comparing themselves to others.

People who want to build stronger relationships.
Overall Message:
The way you respond to comparison matters. Choose collaboration over retreat to unlock the potential of your relationships and your own growth.
39 min

About Am I doing it wrong? For Doctors by Doctors.

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In "Am I Doing It Wrong?” Doctor Becc & Kristeen Barker have the vulnerable conversations all doctors need to remind us "You're not crazy, life as a doctor is". You'll feel seen & connected again & you'll also get actionable strategies to be able to show up as your favourite version of you as a doctor regardless of the daily challenges.

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