Andy Wells

Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/A8p995lHaV4

Ever wondered what my coaching calls are like? Here's a full, raw 2hr coaching call I had recently. We covered everything from the meaning of life to finding satisfaction in relationships, as well as how to be honest with the opposite sex. Oh, and a couple crazy stories about getting off over your own image in the mirror, ala American Psycho...

Shownotes by Slickbackhair:
12:06 = Human beings vs human doings. What Andy believes makes a man attractive to women.

16:04 = The best time to get on Tinder to see girls at their most horniest. If you have problems seeing chicks sexually or yourself as a sexual person, this is definitely something you should listen to and try.

21:34 = If you feel mentally fucked upside down because of lockdown, here's Andy's #1 recommendation to start becoming social again. Good news, it's FREE. Anyone can take advantage of this.

23:32 = The #1 answer to almost every problem you have. Seriously, any problem you have this one thing is literally the only reason Andy slept with over 100 chicks and I've made over $3.5 million in sales this year.

25:02 = How to use "nervousness/awkwardness/anxiety" to your advantage whenever meeting new chicks.

29:41 = For context, once I wrote a million dollar sales letter, I didn't feel as satisfied as I thought I would. I was just like, "it's another day in the life." Here Andy shows me why that's happening and gives me a different view into overall life satisfaction. If you're crushing it in life but dissatisfied with yourself, the next 10 minutes is for you.

42:20 = Hate breaking a chick's heart? Me too. That's why I asked him. "How do you be honest with girls about the fact you only want casual relationships?" His answer is clear and simple. You won't want to miss that.

46:00 = Continued... How to be honest once you're out in the world.
Real examples from Andy in what it looks like in practice.

50:00 = One of the best games to play on the first date to make sure the rest of your relationship goes smoothly. [Or which could end up saving you LOADS OF HEADACHES by filtering out the wrong games.]

54:00 = "I've been in back to back to back long term relationships. Is that something you bring up to new chicks? Or do you not? Or does it even matter?" His answer here is easily my #1 nugget from this 2 hour convo.

60:00 = How honesty makes you standout in her mind compared to most other guys she'll EVER meet.

67:00 = A sexual experience you can give to your girl right now that she'll never forget.

For twenty minutes after this, Andy and I sound like fucking hyneas on LSD. If you want to laugh, enjoy how a piece of bread turns Andy into God. Honestly, this laugh alone was worth $200 for me.

88:00 = One question to ask yourself every morning to guarantee you're living a FULL LIFE you're satisfied with.

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After the call, he posted on the Good Looking Loser forums:

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Andy is joined by the buffest Canadian you'll ever meet - Tristan Nigro - to talk fitness, getting started on Youtube, content creation, and that one time he got naked in a Planet Fitness.

SHOWNOTES:

Tristan Nigro's Youtube channel (go subscribe to him, show him a bit of love!):
https://www.youtube.com/c/TristanNigro1/videos

Wearing a Speedo in Planet Fitness:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZuoGuV7iAPk&t=214s

Tristan's Epic 5-Year Transformation:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GO-VRgSjPIo

Cardio Does Not Increase Weight Loss:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QB-ULMwsLko

Good Looking Loser Approach Anxiety Program:
https://www.goodlookingloser.com/anxiety/program-index/approach-anxiety-program-week-1-1

How I (Andy) beat my own approach anxiety (using the same program):
https://killyourinnerloser.com/how-i-beat-my-approach-anxiety/

Good Looking Loser Forums:
https://www.goodlookingloser.com/forums

Joe Rogan interview with Ronny Coleman:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mi5OlUE3BLc

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😊 My "Play to Win: How I Built a Winner's Mindset" video course (just pay $1): https://playtowinmindset.com

🤵 1-on-1 coaching call with Andy (limited to 1 per person): https://kyil-extra.com/calls

🏆 OUR COACHING PROGRAM: https://kyil-extra.com/coaching

▶️ My YouTube (with additional content not released on here): https://youtube.com/c/killyourinnerloser

❤️ Donate to us (much appreciated!): https://kyil-extra.com/donate
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Andy and Imogen go balls-deep on topics of anxiety, arguing/fighting with your partner, when to apologise, whether you should try and fix things - or whether you should just let them be mad for awhile.

SHOWNOTES:

1000 people respond with relationship advice:
https://markmanson.net/relationship-advice

No More Mr Nice Guy:
https://kyil-extra.com/recommendations/#no-more-mr-nice-guy

You Can't Afford the Luxury of a Negative Thought:
https://kyil-extra.com/recommendations/#luxury

How to Make Friends:
https://killyourinnerloser.com/surround-yourself-with-good-people/

My Forums:
https://killyourinnerloser.com/forums

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😊 My "Play to Win: How I Built a Winner's Mindset" video course (just pay $1): https://playtowinmindset.com

🤵 1-on-1 coaching call with Andy (limited to 1 per person): https://kyil-extra.com/calls

🏆 OUR COACHING PROGRAM: https://kyil-extra.com/coaching

▶️ My YouTube (with additional content not released on here): https://youtube.com/c/killyourinnerloser

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A story I've been hinting at for years - a girl who absolutely lost her mind and called the police + fire department + ambulance on me.

• Previous episode is here: https://theinnerwinnershow.com/23

SHOWNOTES:

Previous episode:
https://theinnerwinnershow.com/23

Want a question answered on the show? Send it to me here:
https://theinnerwinnershow.com/contact/

🤝 The Abundance Collective (Our affordable coaching community $100/month) - https://kyil-extra.com/abundancecollective

🏆 DIRECT VIP ACCESS TO ANDY - HARDCORE COACHING PROGRAM:
Come be part of my life-changing coaching program, get DIRECT access to me (Andy) & dominate your goals: https://kyil-extra.com/coaching

$200 coaching call with Andy (limited to 1 per person) - https://kyil-extra.com/short-coaching-call

▬ Play to Win! (Video Course) ▬▬
😊 THE CHEATCODES TO LIFE that I learned while going from depressed to living a life of abundance & joy: https://playtowinmindset.com

▬ Socials ▬▬▬▬▬▬
▶️ My YouTube (with additional content not released on here): https://www.youtube.com/@Andy_Wells
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andywellsishere
Twitter: https://x.com/andywellsishere
📧 My Email Newsletter: https://killyourinnerloser.com/newsletter

Andy's joined by a guest from his forums - Sigma!

SHOWNOTES:

My Transformation (from fat loser to winner):

https://killyourinnerloser.com/my-transformation

How to Quit Porn (podcast):

https://theinnerwinnershow.com/13

What to Do When You Feel Hopeless and Helpless:

https://killyourinnerloser.com/hopeless-and-helpless/

My Forums:

https://killyourinnerloser.com/forums/

Want a question answered on the show? Send it to me here:
https://theinnerwinnershow.com/contact/

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😊 My "Play to Win: How I Built a Winner's Mindset" video course (just pay $1): https://playtowinmindset.com

🤵 1-on-1 coaching call with Andy (limited to 1 per person): https://kyil-extra.com/calls

🏆 OUR COACHING PROGRAM: https://kyil-extra.com/coaching

▶️ My YouTube (with additional content not released on here): https://youtube.com/c/killyourinnerloser

❤️ Donate to us (much appreciated!): https://kyil-extra.com/donate
or Bitcoin: 355HzhfmVTcomTgAfnZsWEJuWSW7cN2kHX

A story I've been hinting at for years - a girl who absolutely lost her mind and called the police + fire department + ambulance on me.

• Hit on her in grocery store.
• Asked what done on weekend. "I went on a date with this guy". How I said "Sounds like he was really boring".
• Slightly weird first date. Wanted me to buy her a drink. Was so weird about it.
• I wasn't that into her, was starting to call the date off.
• How I texted my mate while she was in the toilet and we realised we'd both dated same girl.
• Remember I'd literally insulted my mate during the approach and said he must have been a boring guy!
• Talked to mate, he said I had to fuck her just for the story alone.
• Ended up having sex.
• Things were normal for a while.
• At some point she sees my facebook page and sees my buddy. She's like "how the hell do you know him?"
• Had an LSD trip. I ask EVERY girl if they've had any issues with mental illness or any adverse reactions.
• Was with my parents, she texted me and called me like 30 times
• Started saying weird shit like that I was God and she was willing to die for me
• (READ OUT SOME OF THE TEXTS)
• She acted fucking psycho
• How she had borrowed my camera and I knew I needed to get it back
• How she screamed "I THOUGHT YOU WERE DEAD!" and feotal position
• I stopped responding. Best thing with a crazy person is to NEVER respond
• Knocked on my door for hours and hours and hours
• Neighbours started saying shit
• Police and fire department wanting to smash down the door
• "I will only open the door if you take her away".
• I got sent the bill for the callout
• She was taken to a mental institution
• She started stalking me again, knocking on door again. At this point I'm freaking out like mad.

SHOWNOTES:

The stick that was in her foot (it was twice as long as this before they broke it off):
https://theinnerwinnershow.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/09/IMG_20170417_233920-scaled.jpg

Want a question answered on the show? Send it to me here:
https://theinnerwinnershow.com/contact/

🤝 The Abundance Collective (Our affordable coaching community $100/month) - https://kyil-extra.com/abundancecollective

🏆 DIRECT VIP ACCESS TO ANDY - HARDCORE COACHING PROGRAM:
Come be part of my life-changing coaching program, get DIRECT access to me (Andy) & dominate your goals: https://kyil-extra.com/coaching

$200 coaching call with Andy (limited to 1 per person) - https://kyil-extra.com/short-coaching-call

▬ Play to Win! (Video Course) ▬▬
😊 THE CHEATCODES TO LIFE that I learned while going from depressed to living a life of abundance & joy: https://playtowinmindset.com

▬ Socials ▬▬▬▬▬▬
▶️ My YouTube (with additional content not released on here): https://www.youtube.com/@Andy_Wells
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andywellsishere
Twitter: https://x.com/andywellsishere
📧 My Email Newsletter: https://killyourinnerloser.com/newsletter

Inspired by a coaching call, Andy explains what he means when he says, "This is all just a big experiment."

TOPICS COVERED:

• My sites/podcasts are what has worked for ME.
• It's up to you to run your own experiments.
• I never give "rules" - I'm not here to tell you what to do.
• Different techniques will get you similar results. One guy might do the complete opposite of me and still reach his goals.
• You should be better than me.
• Take bits of my advice, bits of someone else's advice - mix and match and carve your own path.
• I'm not perfect, my advice isn't perfect, and I don't have all the answers.
• Staying humble is important - otherwise you'll be closed off to new opinions, new information, etc.
• We are all always a work in progress.

SHOWNOTES:

Does Penis Size Matter? (Podcast episode):
https://www.buzzsprout.com/1279346/episodes/5059463

This is All Just a Big Experiment:
https://killyourinnerloser.com/this-is-all-just-a-big-experiment/

Oh No, You've Angered the Gods!
https://killyourinnerloser.com/youve-angered-the-gods/

You Can't Force Somebody to Like You:
https://killyourinnerloser.com/you-cant-force-someone-to-like-you/

You Should be Better than Your Idols:
https://killyourinnerloser.com/idols/

Want a question answered on the show? Send it to me here:
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🤵 1-on-1 coaching call with Andy (limited to 1 per person): https://kyil-extra.com/calls

🏆 OUR COACHING PROGRAM: https://kyil-extra.com/coaching

▶️ My YouTube (with additional content not released on here): https://youtube.com/c/killyourinnerloser

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Andy and Immy answer a listener's questions about sex, dating, and whether or not you should have sex with a girl who has a boyfriend.

TOPICS COVERED:

• Lots of these questions you'll figure out yourself by talking to more girls and getting more experience.
• "Last Minute Resistance" often just means you weren't clear enough and upfront enough that you wanted to have sex.
• If a girl is hesitant to have sex, just chill and back off a bit. Often she'll warm up once she sees you're not pushy.
• Empathise with her - ask her what her concerns are and work through them.
• Remember, if she's half-naked in your bed, she wants to have sex with you. She's just nervous/hesitant/worried/etc. It's your job to help her have sex with you. You're both working towards sex together.
• Making girls want you mostly comes from making yourself more attractive. Hit the gym, lose some fat, dress better, get a new haircut, wear a nice watch/necklace/rings/etc.
• Foreplay helps too - use my foreplay guide in the shownotes.
• "Same day lays" - Tinder, or bars, or parties are the easiest.
• Otherwise, try hitting on a girl in the morning. Grab a coffee with her, then hangout all day - spend the day together. Have a drink in the evening then invite her back to yours.
• Or go out on a Friday and Sat night and hit on girls on the street - find one who's willing to grab a drink with you and then afterwards, invite her back to yours.

SHOWNOTES:

Run Towards Fear (it's episode 6, not 3!!!!!!!!!):
https://theinnerwinnershow.com/6/

The Solution to All Your Problems: Go Talk to More Girls:
https://killyourinnerloser.com/go-talk-to-more-girls/

My Foreplay Guide:
https://killyourinnerloser.com/tinder-guide-4/#32-the-foreplay

My Tinder Guide:
https://killyourinnerloser.com/tinder-guide

Why Losing Fat Matters Above All Else:
https://killyourinnerloser.com/why-losing-fat-matters-above-all-else/

Want a question answered on the show? Send it to me here:
https://theinnerwinnershow.com/contact/

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🤵 1-on-1 coaching call with Andy (limited to 1 per person): https://kyil-extra.com/calls

🏆 OUR COACHING PROGRAM: https://kyil-extra.com/coaching

▶️ My YouTube (with additional content not released on here): https://youtube.com/c/killyourinnerloser

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Does Andy want kids? Does Imogen? What about when she "hits the wall" and her biological clock kicks in? (Part 2 of 2). 

TOPICS COVERED:

• Pros of having kids.
• Cons of having kids.
• Pros of not having kids.
• Cons of not having kids.

SHOWNOTES:

Previous episode:
http://theinnerwinnershow.com/19

The Jake and Amir joke I stole:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IJGiNoIamdg

Childfree Subreddit:
https://www.reddit.com/r/childfree/

The Slight Edge:
https://kyil-extra.com/slight-edge/

Self-improvement is a lifelong endeavour:
https://killyourinnerloser.com/self-improvement-is-a-lifelong-endeavour/

Want a question answered on the show? Send it to me here:
https://theinnerwinnershow.com/contact/

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😊 My "Play to Win: How I Built a Winner's Mindset" video course (just pay $1): https://playtowinmindset.com

🤵 1-on-1 coaching call with Andy (limited to 1 per person): https://kyil-extra.com/calls

🏆 OUR COACHING PROGRAM: https://kyil-extra.com/coaching

▶️ My YouTube (with additional content not released on here): https://youtube.com/c/killyourinnerloser

❤️ Donate to us (much appreciated!): https://kyil-extra.com/donate
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Does Andy want kids? Does Imogen? What about when she "hits the wall" and her biological clock kicks in? (Part 1 of 2)

TOPICS COVERED:

Dealing wtih ruts/lack of motivation;

• Just START.
• Use self-medication/rewards to motivate yourself.
• Build small daily habits using "The Slight Edge" book.
• Lower the barrier to entry - use the "1 Pushup Challenge" method).

Having kids:

• Does Imogen want kids?
• Is she just being naive because she's only 20?
• "Hitting the wall" - what about when she's closer to 30? Will her "biological clock" make her regret her decisions?
• Always be working on a mission - life is a process of achieving a mission then starting on a new one.
• Kids are a form of "self-improvement project"; you have them so you can have a mission/responsibility.
• What about when everyone else is having kids - would you feel pressured?
• Debating, playing "Devil's Advocate", and my friend's views on this.
• Mission: Hold a Baby
• Getting that "mentor/mothering" itch scratch.
• Opening one door means closing another door. It's a choice - don't have kids and get to travel the world, be free, not be tied down, etc. Or have a family. Both have pros and cons.

SHOWNOTES:

The Slight Edge:
https://kyil-extra.com/slight-edge/

1 Pushup a Day:
https://stephenguise.com/take-the-one-push-up-challenge/

Open Relationships Podcast:
https://theinnerwinnershow.com/5/

Self-improvement is a lifelong endeavour:
https://killyourinnerloser.com/self-improvement-is-a-lifelong-endeavour/

Want a question answered on the show? Send it to me here:
https://theinnerwinnershow.com/contact/

_____________________________________
😊 My "Play to Win: How I Built a Winner's Mindset" video course (just pay $1): https://playtowinmindset.com

🤵 1-on-1 coaching call with Andy (limited to 1 per person): https://kyil-extra.com/calls

🏆 OUR COACHING PROGRAM: https://kyil-extra.com/coaching

▶️ My YouTube (with additional content not released on here): https://youtube.com/c/killyourinnerloser

❤️ Donate to us (much appreciated!): https://kyil-extra.com/donate
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