Andy Wells

Andy asks Imogen a bunch of your questions (part 2 of 2).

Shownotes:

Pink Toy (Imogen's favourite vibrator):
https://shrsl.com/2gqk9
(That's an affiliate link).

Previous podcast talking about porn and abusive sex:
https://www.buzzsprout.com/1279346/episodes/5167201

Story of Our First 3some:
https://killyourinnerloser.com/my-first-3some/

Topics Covered:

• What type of girls do we both prefer?
• Different types of BDSM dynamics?
• - She's submissive
• - inexperienced- She's our toy
• - We're a couple dating or having sex with another girl
• - etc
• Confident girls - do we/does she like them?
• Telling her mother we're in an open relationship where we see other girls?
• What's our plan for the future - what are our goals?
• Being a power couple?
• Will we ever invite the girls we date to come on the podcast?

If you have questions you want to hear a girl's perspective on, ask away. Anything at all. I'll ask her more questions like this in upcoming episodes, we'll do another Q&A. Email me:
https://theinnerwinnershow.com/contact/

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Andy asks Imogen a bunch of your questions (part 1 of 2).

Shownotes:

Pink Toy (Imogen's favourite vibrator):
https://shrsl.com/2gqk9
(That's an affiliate link).

Previous podcast talking about porn and abusive sex:
https://www.buzzsprout.com/1279346/5167201

Story of Our First 3some:
https://killyourinnerloser.com/my-first-3some/

Topics Covered:

• These are questions people have asked me to ask Imogen. And some of them are my own questions I've thrown in there too.
• What's your favourite thing in the bedroom?
• How'd you get into BDSM?
• What does it feel like being submissive/being dominated?
• What does it feel like for Andy, being dominant? What does the power feel like?
• What was our first 3some like?
• The story of being ok with me posting our stuff on the internet for people to see, how you overcame shyness.
• Conversations we had about it, me making sure you were ok with it, taking your feelings into consideration.
• Is it weird dating a guy who puts his stuff out there on the net?
• When did I first tell you about my website, and what was your reaction?
• Others have asked: What do you (Imogen) think of my forums and guys coming together to improve themselves, have sex, find girlfriends, etc?
• What type of girls do we both prefer?

If you have questions you want to hear a girl's perspective on, ask away. Anything at all. I'll ask her more questions like this in upcoming episodes, we'll do another Q&A. Email me:
https://theinnerwinnershow.com/contact/

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😊 My "Play to Win: How I Built a Winner's Mindset" video course (just pay $1): https://playtowinmindset.com

🤵 1-on-1 coaching call with Andy (limited to 1 per person): https://kyil-extra.com/calls

🏆 OUR COACHING PROGRAM: https://kyil-extra.com/coaching

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Andy has his first guest (well, other than Imogen...) join him to talk about making friends, being productive, and travelling across the entire country to go all-in on getting laid.

John had never been on a podcast before - I think he did a pretty awesome job. What do you think?

Want to be on the podcast yourself? Email me here: https://theinnerwinnershow.com/contact/

Shownotes:

Good Looking Loser Going Out To Bars Alone Program:
https://www.goodlookingloser.com/how-to-go-out-alone-to-bars-part-1

You Can't Afford the Luxury of a Negative Thought:
http://kyil-extra.com/recommendations#luxury

GLL Approach Anxiety Program:
https://www.goodlookingloser.com/anxiety/program-index/approach-anxiety-program-week-1-1

My Forums:
https://killyourinnerloser.com/forums/

"I Give You Permission":
https://www.goodlookingloser.com/more/archive/entry/claim-that-pussy/

Want a question answered on the show? Send it to me here:
https://theinnerwinnershow.com/contact/

_____________________________________
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🤵 1-on-1 coaching call with Andy (limited to 1 per person): https://kyil-extra.com/calls

🏆 OUR COACHING PROGRAM: https://kyil-extra.com/coaching

▶️ My YouTube (with additional content not released on here): https://youtube.com/c/killyourinnerloser

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Super quick one - Andy answers the question "How do you deal with a lack of motivation" on a day when he's seriously lacking motivation. How meta!

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🤵 1-on-1 coaching call with Andy (limited to 1 per person): https://kyil-extra.com/calls

🏆 OUR COACHING PROGRAM: https://kyil-extra.com/coaching

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Andy and Imogen have a bit of fun pointing out some of the inconsistencies of The Red Pill.

Shownotes:

The 4some:

https://killyourinnerloser.com/4some/

Oh No You've Angered the Gods:

https://killyourinnerloser.com/youve-angered-the-gods/

"All Women Are Like That":
https://killyourinnerloser.com/dont-write-off-all-women/

The Takeaway:

• Don't write off all women just because a few weren't great.
• Women are absolutely capable of loyalty; it's up to you to find the loyal ones, and to expect loyalty from them.
• Stop obsessing about "beta" vs "alpha". Instead just focus on living the life you want to live. Make self-improvement your mission; not "Is this alpha? Is this beta?"

What are you experiences of the red pill - has it helped you? Hindered you? Let me know:
https://theinnerwinnershow.com/contact/

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🤵 1-on-1 coaching call with Andy (limited to 1 per person): https://kyil-extra.com/calls

🏆 OUR COACHING PROGRAM: https://kyil-extra.com/coaching

▶️ My YouTube (with additional content not released on here): https://youtube.com/c/killyourinnerloser

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Andy dives in to his own past struggles with porn addiction, as well as how to have sex that makes you feel good about yourself - and her too.

Shownotes:

NoFap.com:
https://nofap.com/

You Can't Afford the Luxury of a Negative Thought:

https://kyil-extra.com/recommendations/#luxury

My How to Get Laid on Tinder Guide (also applies to relationships, and meeting girls in person):

https://killyourinnerloser.com/tinder-guide/

The Takeaway:

• Don't just focus on "I will stop watching porn". Make sure you also have something to work towards - something to replace the porn with.
• Focusing 100% and going all-in on your goals (especially your dating/sex goals) will give you something to focus on that isn't porn.
• I struggled for years with a very bad porn addiction; focusing on fixing my sex life was the cure for me.
• Don't use women to just fulfill a porn fantasy; instead, share that fantasy with them and make it a fun thing you do together.
• During sex, you can frame things as "I will aim to turn her on like crazy and make her go wild" - rather than "I'm using her to fulfill my porn fantasy".

Want a question answered on the show? Send it to me here:
https://theinnerwinnershow.com/contact/

_____________________________________
😊 My "Play to Win: How I Built a Winner's Mindset" video course (just pay $1): https://playtowinmindset.com

🤵 1-on-1 coaching call with Andy (limited to 1 per person): https://kyil-extra.com/calls

🏆 OUR COACHING PROGRAM: https://kyil-extra.com/coaching

▶️ My YouTube (with additional content not released on here): https://youtube.com/c/killyourinnerloser

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Andy and Imogen answer a listener's questions about the boundaries between mentoring girls vs being too controlling.

SHOWNOTES:

Imogen's Artwork (Fiverr):

https://www.fiverr.com/immydraws?up_rollout=true

Jocko Willink Podcast:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IdTMDpizis8

The Red Quest on Modelling behaviour you want to see from girls:

https://killyourinnerloser.com/the-red-quest-on-modelling-behaviour/

Want a question answered on the show? Send it to me here:
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_____________________________________
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🤵 1-on-1 coaching call with Andy (limited to 1 per person): https://kyil-extra.com/calls

🏆 OUR COACHING PROGRAM: https://kyil-extra.com/coaching

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Day 11 of 365: The best episode yet, covering topics of serious relationships, whether you can (or should) be a player forever, and whether girls should be judged for having a lot of sex.

The Takeaway:

• My only goal with my site/coaching/podcast is for you to achieve YOUR goals and for you to be HAPPY. My goal isn't to make you a copy-paste clone of me.
• On that note, I am very rare for wanting lots and lots of sex and non-monogamy. The vast majority of men want monogamy (eventually) and marriage/kids (eventually). If you want these things too, awesome! Embrace the fact you want them, and work really fucking hard to achieve them. Go all-in.
• You may want to have a casual sex/open relationship phase for a while - awesome! Treat it like a chapter in your life and go 100% all-in, and make it the best phase of your life. (If you want open relationships forever, that's very achievable too - I'm proof of that. Again, do whatever YOU want to do, not what you think you "should" do. Don't compare yourself to others.)
• I show you mostly the "highlight reels" of my life. I'm not a cool, super-awesome guy; I'm just above-average. I don't go to parties or clubs or raves, etc. Most of my weekends are boring. You don't have to be a super cool dude in order to get laid a lot (though if you are, great!) 
• If you get caught up in thinking girls are "sluts" for having a lot of sex, that's something to work on. A girl who has a lot of sex isn't a bad person. In the same way you wouldn't go to Disneyland and say "Man, a lot of people have been on this ride, that's disgusting, I'm not riding it" - don't do the same thing with girls who've explored their sexuality. Just have a bit of fun with them, see them for as long as you're both happy to see each other, and let go of your judgemental mindset/insecurity/jealousy.
• Concepts like "All Women Are Like That" are incredibly myopic and downright wrong. You can't judge people based on their POTENTIAL behaviour; nor can you judge the entire gender by their worst possible aspects. If we accept "all women will cheat on you and leave you", then it's just as valid to say "all men will rape you". Poor attitudes like this only serve to make you bitter, angry, resentful and miserable. You're setting yourself up for failure; if you believe women suck, it'll become a self-fulfilling prophecy.
• You don't need "fuckboi" attributes in order to get laid a lot. Physical attractiveness is important, as is good style/fashion/dress-sense. Those things will help you in every aspect of your life.
• You also don't need to be a "BDSM god". Just write a sexual bucketlist and get girls to write their own, and explore those things together.

Shownotes:

OBSESS about your goals:

https://kyil-extra.com/slight-edge/#25-1-or-2-main-goals-you-obsess-about

How to Write a Sexual Bucketlist:

https://killyourinnerloser.com/sexual-bucketlist/

Magic Wand Vibrator:

https://killyourinnerloser.com/magic-wand/

Andy's counter-argument to "All Women Are Like that (AWALT)":
https://killyourinnerloser.com/dont-write-off-all-women/

Want a question answered on the show? Send it to me here:
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🏆 DIRECT VIP ACCESS TO ANDY - HARDCORE COACHING PROGRAM:
Come be part of my life-changing coaching program, get DIRECT access to me (Andy) & dominate your goals: https://kyil-extra.com/coaching

$200 coaching call with Andy (limited to 1 per person) - https://kyil-extra.com/short-coaching-call

▬ Play to Win! (Video Course) ▬▬
😊 THE CHEATCODES TO LIFE that I learned while going from depressed to living a life of abundance & joy: https://playtowinmindset.com

▬ Socials ▬▬▬▬▬▬
▶️ My YouTube (with additional content not released on here): https://www.youtube.com/@Andy_Wells
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andywellsishere
Twitter: https://x.com/andywellsishere
📧 My Email Newsletter: https://killyourinnerloser.com/newsletter

Day 10 of 365: 5 more people join me on the 365 day challenge.

Imogen's 1-art-a-day:
https://www.instagram.com/art.with.immy/

Bad Idea Bear's 1-guitar-lick-a-day:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCe6A9DJ8CXGN1VjezJppCkw/videos

Crisis_Overcomer's books:
https://www.amazon.com/Fotis-Chatzinicolaou/e/B00LW9I9HY/ref=dp_byline_cont_ebooks_1

1 Pushup a Day Challenge:
https://stephenguise.com/take-the-one-push-up-challenge/

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🤵 1-on-1 coaching call with Andy (limited to 1 per person): https://kyil-extra.com/calls

🏆 OUR COACHING PROGRAM: https://kyil-extra.com/coaching

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Day 9 of 365: Andy dives into his own mental health and walks you through some exercises to battle negative thought patterns.

Shownotes:

You Can’t Afford the Luxury of a Negative Thought:
https://kyil-extra.com/recommendations/#luxury

My "No Photo Today" photo:
https://www.flickr.com/photos/amwbonfire/10485083785/in/photolist-nRNKex-gYwN7D

Want a question answered on the show? Send it to me here:
https://theinnerwinnershow.com/contact/

🤝 The Abundance Collective (Our affordable coaching community $100/month) - https://kyil-extra.com/abundancecollective

🏆 DIRECT VIP ACCESS TO ANDY - HARDCORE COACHING PROGRAM:
Come be part of my life-changing coaching program, get DIRECT access to me (Andy) & dominate your goals: https://kyil-extra.com/coaching

$200 coaching call with Andy (limited to 1 per person) - https://kyil-extra.com/short-coaching-call

▬ Play to Win! (Video Course) ▬▬
😊 THE CHEATCODES TO LIFE that I learned while going from depressed to living a life of abundance & joy: https://playtowinmindset.com

▬ Socials ▬▬▬▬▬▬
▶️ My YouTube (with additional content not released on here): https://www.youtube.com/@Andy_Wells
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andywellsishere
Twitter: https://x.com/andywellsishere
📧 My Email Newsletter: https://killyourinnerloser.com/newsletter