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Are You Always the Strong One? It's Slowly Killing You
Grab my FREE Guide “Finally at Peace” and start breaking free from survival mode: https://janice-holland.kit.com/finallyatpeace
Join the 60 Day Reset Group: https://janiceholland.thrivecart.com/cl-group-transformation/
You’ve spent your whole life being “the strong one”—the dependable one, the one who holds everything together. It earned you love, safety, and belonging. But what if that strength isn’t really strength at all—what if it’s a trauma response rooted in fear of abandonment and performance?
In this powerful episode, Janice Holland (Licensed Professional Counselor Supervisor, Certified Trauma Model Therapist, and host of The Trauma Teacher) reveals how the “strong one” identity keeps high-functioning people stuck in survival mode, disconnected from their needs, and trapped in exhaustion.
You’ll learn how this performance-based identity forms, the hidden emotional and physical toll it takes, and how to begin shifting from performing to being—so you can finally feel peace, joy, and connection in your life again. _________________________________________________________________Ready to go Deeper?
Join the Courageous Living Membership: https://janiceholland.thrivecart.com/the-courageous-living-no-bs-membership/
Join the 60 Day Reset Group: https://janiceholland.thrivecart.com/cl-group-transformation/
Work with me 1:1: https://janiceholland.thrivecart.com/thecourageouslivingjourney/
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⏱ Chapter Timestamps
00:00 – The Truth About Being Strong
00:20 – How This Role Forms
02:00 – Why Changing Feels So Scary
03:30 – The Hidden Costs
05:00 – The Body Impact How chronic stress and over-functioning break down your nervous system and immune system.
06:30 – The Fear of Disappointing Others
08:30 – What Real Strength Looks Like
09:30 – The Next Step How this “strength” quietly morphs into the addiction of people-pleasing. _________________________________________________________________Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the.trauma.teacher
Ready to go Deeper?
*Join the Courageous Living Digital Studio: https://janiceholland.thrivecart.com/the-courageous-living-no-bs-membership/
*Join the 60 Day Reset Experience: https://janiceholland.thrivecart.com/cl-group-transformation/
*Apply for The Becoming Intensive: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1EUa69NL3f4jodIg6J_javkNdW9qEYoRl/edit?usp=sharing&ouid=100729952587821838385&rtpof=true&sd=true
*Work with me 1:1: https://janiceholland.thrivecart.com/thecourageouslivingjourney/
Not sure which one to pick?
Take the quiz: https://form.typeform.com/to/YFxykSjU
Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the.trauma.teacher
__________________________________________________________________________________
Janice Holland, LPC-S, Certified Trauma Model Therapist, and founder of The Courageous Living Framework, teaches women and healers worldwide how to break survival patterns, heal trauma, and rebuild lives rooted in truth, peace, and power. Known online as The Trauma Teacher, Janice helps women stop people-pleasing, heal the patterns that kept them small, and build unshakable confidence after trauma. It’s time to live a life that finally feels like yours.
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Grab my FREE Guide “Finally at Peace” and start breaking free from survival mode: https://janice-holland.kit.com/finallyatpeace
Join the 60 Day Reset Group: https://janiceholland.thrivecart.com/cl-group-transformation/
You’ve spent your whole life being “the strong one”—the dependable one, the one who holds everything together. It earned you love, safety, and belonging. But what if that strength isn’t really strength at all—what if it’s a trauma response rooted in fear of abandonment and performance?
In this powerful episode, Janice Holland (Licensed Professional Counselor Supervisor, Certified Trauma Model Therapist, and host of The Trauma Teacher) reveals how the “strong one” identity keeps high-functioning people stuck in survival mode, disconnected from their needs, and trapped in exhaustion.
You’ll learn how this performance-based identity forms, the hidden emotional and physical toll it takes, and how to begin shifting from performing to being—so you can finally feel peace, joy, and connection in your life again. _________________________________________________________________Ready to go Deeper?
Join the Courageous Living Membership: https://janiceholland.thrivecart.com/the-courageous-living-no-bs-membership/
Join the 60 Day Reset Group: https://janiceholland.thrivecart.com/cl-group-transformation/
Work with me 1:1: https://janiceholland.thrivecart.com/thecourageouslivingjourney/
Not sure which one to pick?
Take the quiz: https://form.typeform.com/to/YFxykSjU
⏱ Chapter Timestamps
00:00 – The Truth About Being Strong
00:20 – How This Role Forms
02:00 – Why Changing Feels So Scary
03:30 – The Hidden Costs
05:00 – The Body Impact How chronic stress and over-functioning break down your nervous system and immune system.
06:30 – The Fear of Disappointing Others
08:30 – What Real Strength Looks Like
09:30 – The Next Step How this “strength” quietly morphs into the addiction of people-pleasing. _________________________________________________________________Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the.trauma.teacher
Ready to go Deeper?
*Join the Courageous Living Digital Studio: https://janiceholland.thrivecart.com/the-courageous-living-no-bs-membership/
*Join the 60 Day Reset Experience: https://janiceholland.thrivecart.com/cl-group-transformation/
*Apply for The Becoming Intensive: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1EUa69NL3f4jodIg6J_javkNdW9qEYoRl/edit?usp=sharing&ouid=100729952587821838385&rtpof=true&sd=true
*Work with me 1:1: https://janiceholland.thrivecart.com/thecourageouslivingjourney/
Not sure which one to pick?
Take the quiz: https://form.typeform.com/to/YFxykSjU
Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the.trauma.teacher
__________________________________________________________________________________
Janice Holland, LPC-S, Certified Trauma Model Therapist, and founder of The Courageous Living Framework, teaches women and healers worldwide how to break survival patterns, heal trauma, and rebuild lives rooted in truth, peace, and power. Known online as The Trauma Teacher, Janice helps women stop people-pleasing, heal the patterns that kept them small, and build unshakable confidence after trauma. It’s time to live a life that finally feels like yours.
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