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Are You Over Invested In Men?


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In this week’s episode of The Audaci-Tea Podcast, hosts Lisa and Sovereign tackle a question many women quietly wrestle with their entire lives. Are you over invested in men?

This discussion will break down how women are socialized to pour time, energy, emotional labor, and identity into men and relationships at the expense of their own safety, growth, and fulfillment. The discussion also explores how over investment shows up emotionally, financially, sexually, and psychologically, and why so many women are taught that self abandonment is love.

 

But first, in Tea Time, Lisa and Sovereign announce our brand new shop where you can get your own Audaci-Tea merch! We also introduce you to Nadia, who is the artist that created all these great designs. Afterwards, they react to a viral arm wrestling video that perfectly captures patriarchal entitlement, unpack new Epstein related revelations including Bill Gates, and break down leaked Zoom meeting audio from Erika Kirk seemingly giddy at all the money coming in a few days after her husband was assassinated. Later, in the “This You?” segment, they break down a Reddit post from a woman who’s boyfriend says “using soap is optional”. 

 

🎧 This episode challenges women to step back, reassess where their energy is going, and ask whether their investment is being reciprocated or quietly exploited by men.

 

🎙️ Topics Discussed:

  • What over investing in men actually looks like
  • Emotional labor and unequal relationship dynamics
  • How patriarchy conditions women to self abandon
  • Red flags that signal unhealthy attachment
  • Re centering your life, goals, and identity
  • Choosing self investment over male validation
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    ✨ Links and Resources Mentioned:

    Bill Gates caught an STD from ‘Russian girls’, Epstein claimed in files

    https://www.thetimes.com/us/news-today/article/bill-gates-epstein-files-std-russian-girls-skz9hdf3t?gaa_at=eafs&gaa_n=AWEtsqen2SESuGKKMJkmHELHOlFIpuIZOPmQh-w96PQC36AWhjC0JEse-gaAgXgJBfg%3D&gaa_ts=6981497b&gaa_sig=Gae35PD-80-LK804DNEJ0icyUB9LypDYjYjU327SW2SFNhgPwX4RpVyK3PxlRtVJxLPu0B_h3ku6t-Jfa1eZtw%3D%3D

    ‘Betrayed’ Melinda Gates addresses ex Bill’s ‘deeply disturbing’ Jeffrey Epstein link in candid memoir

    https://pagesix.com/2025/04/15/celebrity-news/melinda-gates-addresses-ex-bills-deeply-disturbing-jeffrey-epstein-link/

    Elon Musk Asked Jeffrey Epstein About Visiting His Infamous Island on More Than One Occasion, Emails Show

    https://people.com/emails-reveal-that-elon-musk-asked-jeffrey-epstein-about-visiting-his-island-11896842

     

    📚 This Week’s Recommendation:

    Check Out Nadia Lougin!

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    TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@wtfunknadia

    Check Out Lisa’s Free Blog About This Episode!

    https://www.patreon.com/collection/960341

     

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      🕰️ Episode Chapters:

      00:00 Welcome and Tea Time

      02:50 Our Merch Store Is Live!

      07:16 Woman Defeats Man Arm Wrestling

      11:52 Bill Gates In Epstein files

      19:03 Erika Kirk Leaked Audio

      28:16 Are You Over Invested In Men?

      31:42 Signs You’re Over Invested 

      41:10 Match His Energy

      52:32 How women are conditioned to over give

      01:04:15 Have Healthy Detachment

      01:07:50 Be Careful Who You Have Kids With

      01:24:10 Boyfriend Says “Using Soap Is Optional”?!

      01:46:41 Poll Results: Will Women’s Rights Endure?

       

      🎙️ The Audaci-Tea is a production of Siren Sound, executively produced by Lisa Carr and The Sovereign Woman. Music, audio, video, and show production by Ryan Marth and Siren Sound.

       

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