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Anonymous met his current partner about 8 years ago, when he was still in varsity, and they’ve been together ever since. 

He still had flings with other ladies at the beginning of their relationship but stopped that behaviour after they had their first child. 

He eventually went back to his old ways of having affairs with other women, and this time his partner found out after seeing texts on his phone, and this created a rift in their relationship and his partner still hasn’t recovered. 

There’s a lot of tension between them and anonymous says he suspects that she’s now having an affair with her colleague

Anonymous met a lady last year and says everything was fine between them until she found a job in another province, a couple of months into their relationship. 

Her new job required her to have a car and he offered to finance a car on her behalf, something she refused but eventually agreed to it, however he ended up not getting the car as she was acting suspicious. 

Their relationship started fading away after all of this, and they haven’t really interacted since April. He now misses her and wonders if he should rekindle things with her. 

Anonymous says when he met lady no.1 she was married, they dated despite this fact and she actually fell pregnant early in their relationship and anonymous says it’s his kid. 

Things got sour between him and lady no.1 after she claimed to be moving to another country for work. 

He then met lady no.2, who he initially didn’t tell about his child with the ex but has now confessed to that….

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Anonymous has been with her partner for over a year now.

They both had jobs when they met but she got a different job in another region and had to move. He quit from his job about since months after she moved and this didn’t really affect their relationship.

However, she’s now back in the same area as him and it’s really highlighting the financial gap between them.

A part of her blames him for not having a plan before leaving his other job and she now feels like he’s not thing hard enough. The financial strain has really impacted her but she doesn’t know how to deal with this without pressuring him.

Anonymous has been in a relationship with his partner for about two years now. They had a child a few months into their relationship, however, he lost his job at around the same time and had to move to another province for a new job. 

He says things soured in their relationship after he moved and she hasn’t been the same since. He feels like he’s forcing things, and he’s the only one making an effort.

When he brings up how he feels to her, she tends to blame him for moving to another region. He also says they don’t get intimate anymore in their relationship, and that’s also affecting him.

Anonymous is 36 dating a man who’s 63. She has a ten year-old child and he has three children, the oldest daughter is the same age as anonymous.

She’ll be meeting her partner’s daughter, who’s her age mate, soon and is feeling uneasy about meeting her. She adds that he’s a pastor at his church and she’s worried about how the congregation will react. 

Anonymous has been with her partner for about 6 years now, they have two children together and they are in a long distance relationship. 

She feels like he’s a bad communicator, they can go days without him calling her and he seems to be ok with that. She adds that even when they do talk he never talks about himself or what he’s going through in his life. 

She’s feeling lonely in her relationship and doesn’t know how to deal with that.