Attractively Different Podcast

What's your hot button?

What causes you to hop on the crazy cycle and ride the downward spiral of emotions all the way to the bottom? I'll tell you this … it's not what you think it is. The problem that sends you to the bottom isn't the problem. The meaning that you have given that problem is what creates the downward spiral.

In today's episode we talk about how your beliefs determine what you're experiencing. What you believe will either empower you to a breakthrough or disempower you to live a life that is reactionary. Fear is the result when you feel disempowered, and your fearful emotion causes the brain to move into a primal state of thinking and respond in fight, flight, or freeze.

James chapter one says to ask for wisdom when you need it. Yet, if you do not ask in faith you should not expect to receive anything but you will be double minded - tossed around like the waves of the sea. This happens when you react and respond in fear.

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What is one thing that you've been afraid to ask for?

Money?

A favor?

New clothes?

A promotion?

Why are you afraid to ask? James 4:2-3 says that you don't have because you don't ask, and when you do ask you don't receive because you ask with the wrong motive. Now here's the problem … as a believer having the wrong motive feels like you're failing in your faith. So, in order to avoid that failure, your brain tells you that it's best not to ask.

The Christian culture has almost villainized "asking" for things and glorified the idea of suffering. Yet, what if God desires for you to have the desires of your heart, and as a loving father would, what if He wants you to become the person that can handle what comes so it doesn't destroy you?

In today's episode we discuss why learning how to ask is crucial to you succeeding in your God given assignment.

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Isn't it draining to never complete your to-do list?

Regardless of how much you mark of your list it really ever get completed? The hamsters wheel of your to-do list it's both exhausting and overwhelming. Anxiety, overwhelm, and doubt all leave you in a disempowered state of mind that drains all your energy. 

In today's episode we talk about how the problem is not the fact that you don't have enough time. The problem is that you spend too much of your time focusing on activities that drain your energy, and that leaves you in a place where you are not able to pursue the right actions that will create the life that you want to create. The most successful people have the ability to maintain focus their energy on the right activities that will create what they want to create. 

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One of the core human needs is certainty.

Your brain's primary objective is to keep you alive, and one of the greatest threats to your brain are moments of uncertainty. This is due to your brain not having past experiences that allow it to predict the outcome. Therefore, the uncertainty is viewed as a crisis and you will begin to experience fear. This feeling of fear will cause you to do one of three actions: fight, flight, or freeze.

This reaction will serve you well when you are in real danger, but it does not serve you when you need to make empowered decisions. In today's episode we discuss how uncertainty equals opportunity. This is vital for you if uncertainty in your life causes fear and prevents you from making the best decisions.

When you are in a state of fear your natural tendency is to contract. You perceive that your resources will be depleted and there is less opportunity for growth. However, the opportunity is doesn't change. Therefore, if you are able to hack your brain you will actually have a greater of advantage of capitalizing on the opportunity because everyone else will be in a state of contracting due to uncertainty. This is a crucial skill as you become a person who walks by faith.

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You want to be happy.

Happiness can feel so elusive. It feels fickle and dictated by your circumstances. So what is the secret to happiness?

When you look into God's word you will find that the Bible describes people who follow God as happy and joyful. Yet, when that doesn't line up in your life it can feel really heavy. It can feel like you're not being a "good Christian" or that something is wrong with you.

So what do you do?

Well, your brain is a problem solving machine and will seek to solve this crisis. You will look for the solution to happiness, and unfortunately this can lead you down the wrong road because society will tell you that happiness come from your environment. Society will tell you that happiness comes from how people feel about you, how much money you're making, what you look like. All of these solutions are external.

So we as believers as Christians are characterized and called to be happy someone who follows after god follows after his love is someone who is joyful who's happy and have happiness in their life. Let's break that down what is that because we have this negative i say negative we have this poor narrative in our society this poor belief I'll say that that happiness comes from the environment. We've been conditioned to believe that when we're not happy when we need to use an external source to change the environment.

A lot of times what can happen is can lead to things like excessive use of sex, alcohol, drugs, etc. There's a natural tendency to pursue things that are fun to increase happiness, but fun generally is generally a short term win but dissatisfying in the long term.

In today's episode, we talk about how growth is what leads to happiness. Which is amazing news because your growth is 100% in your control. It doesn't depend on your circumstance. It doesn't depend how you feel. You can choose to be happy by pursuing growth.

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Knowledge is power. Think about that for a moment. 

Is it 100% true that knowledge is power? No, it isn't power. It has the potential to be powerful, but acting on the knowledge is where the power comes from.

For example, could you write a book in a week? The answer is yes. If you knew that you were going to sell 100,000 copies of your book at $20 per book, then yes, you could write a book in a week. Because you would then have the expectation of earning $2 million from book sales. In this example, people are not paying $20 just because you wrote a book. They're paying for the knowledge within the book. However, the power of the $2 million does not become possible unless you take action and write the book.

In today's episode, I want to talk about how knowledge really isn't power, and I want to dig in on the idea that is preventing you from taking action that turns it into power. This is a crucial topic when it comes to succeeding in your God given assignment, because the way God tests our faithfulness is through taking action. Listen in and see how you can be more confident to take action and pursue the assignment that he as for you!

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It's true … we've all felt stuck.

Feeling stuck can feel helpless and it can be a struggle to become "unstuck" because it's easy to believe the story that you're telling yourself. You're just struggling to get the results and when you look at your battle it's easy to think tell yourself things like, "well if the economy was better", "if my spouse was on board", or "if I had more money".

Notice … all these scenarios are outside of your control. It's frustrating because you intuitively know that if nothing changes then it will lead to a life characterized by bitterness, frustration, and broken relationships. At best life will just be just mediocre and you'll settle because the only way you can change something that is outside of your control is to resort to manipulation.

But manipulation feels yucky and not the person you want to be.

In today's episode, I want to talk about taking personal responsibility because it's the most empowering decision that you can make when it comes to your results, pursuing your God-given assignment, and leaving a powerful legacy for those behind you.

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When it comes to Social media the algorithms run the show.

Every social platform want to engage their users and provide an experience that is enjoyable and fun. In effort to create this environment, the algorithms that have been created are designed to show you more content like content that you have engaged with in the past. This algorithm acts like a filter that allows for certain types of post to be shown to you and keeps other posts away from you.

You're brain has a system that acts and responds very similarly to these social media algorithms. Every second your senses gather up to 11 million bits of information around you, but the conscious mind can typically only process 50 bits of information per second. Therefore, it needs a filter to manage this information to prevent overwhelm.

What makes it though the filters is determined by the part of the brain called the reticular activating system. The reticular activating system is responsible for a number of functions, including sleep and behavior modification. It also acts as the gatekeeper of information. This allows the brain to ignore meaningless and repetitive information and remain sensitive to other inputs.

In today's episode we discuss why your brain's reticular activating system will keep you stuck in a negative loop and how to get out of that cycle and achieve your desired results. It's extremely disempowered when you are stuck in this cycle. At times it may feel too heavy for a change to be possible - which leads to feeling hopeless.

Yet, God did not create you to operate in this manner. He created you to be the person that is described in Psalm 1 - the person who is like a tree planted by water, which yields it's fruit in season and whose leaf does not wither. Whatever they do prospers. Sounds good right?

Let's discover how you can use your reticular activating system to your advantage instead of disadvantage.

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It's difficult (…some might say impossible) to have faith in an object that is not trustworthy.

Are you someone who wants to believe that God's word is true and never fails, but at times you wrestle with it's truth because of what you see in the world? You want to believe that it's true and never fails but there's still doubt that it can work in every area of your life.

Yet, these questions never get addressed because religious programming will tell us that we lack faith by simply asking the questions. This type of uncertainty will paralyze your progress and cause you to settle for something less that God designed for you.

You desire to live a full life and experience everything that God desires for you. You want to be free to walk in your full identity but you may feel stuck. How do you move forward in faith if there are lingering thoughts of doubt?

In today's episode we talk about the process of growing your faith to be fully persuaded that God will do what He said He will do. We break down three parables from Mark 4 where Jesus teaches about His word and how it produces faith in your life.

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Albert Einstein said that you're a genius.

He said, "Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole live believing that it is stupid."

Yet, this is not the common thought held around genius. The stereotype of genius a someone who can recite the periodic table, land a rocket on the moon, or crack the code on time travel. Here's the problem: this stereotype of genius may actually be preventing 75% of people from operating in their genius.

What do you do if you are someone who believes they have more potential to offer the world but don't feel special enough to fit this stereotype? These thoughts and labels can feel heavy. It can create a sadness and cause you to end up settling for less and missing out on your life purpose.

In today's episode we discuss the four different types of genius and break off the limits created by this sterotype. You were created to succeed and to share your genius with the world. The purpose of life is centered around using your unique genius to succeed God-given assignment.

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