Our first half of life’s container was created by our parents. Our second half of life is self built based on principles that allow us to achieve our Conditions of Satisfaction. In this segment we define persona and the difference between shadow and sin.
There are three sequential principles that are important to implement change in one’s life. The first step is to establish or begin with your identity. How you see yourself based on your internal narrative. Step two is establishing a new habit through deliberate practice. Step 3 is an implementation statement.
There are two axioms that drive behavior, 1) we are hard wired to connect and 2) we each have a drive to learn, grow, and set & achieve goals. When we don’t connect and/or when we fail to reach our goals, it hurts. When it hurts, we medicate.
In this segment we address the bottom three levels of EI competence. Intentionally Incompetent - the bully syndrome. Unconsciously Incompetent - the engineer mindset. Consciously Incompetent - the willing student.
There are seven things flourishing adults do. The start with forming their identity, learn how to live perfectly (Dr. Himmer’s definition of perfect), learn to effectively socialize, and develop their own fox hole (principle based environment) in which to grow.
30 is the new 20. 85% of 19 - 30 year olds don’t see themselves as an adult. What’s going on? Researchers categorize emerging adults as flounderers or flourishers. Today we discuss flounderers.
Scupper’s owner, Mia, isn’t as keen on cleaning up his poop and Mia’s mom isn’t cool with her attitude. Mia tells her mother that she is worst mom in the world. How does she handle her teenager’s cognitive distortion?
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About Authentically You With The Himmers
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We are each hard wired to connect. When we don’t connect it hurts and when it hurts, too often we medicate in a fashion that brings about more pain. Authentically You is a breath of fresh air and in…
our 3rd year of sharing, we’re just scratching the surface. Instead of focusing on problems, Dr. Richard Himmer and his lovely bride, Cheri, focus on solution-based conversation. Listen to what 37+ years of a happy marriage sounds like. They have no problem with conflict; however, they don’t engage in contention. Conflict is a focus on what is right and is necessary for growth. Contention is a focus on who is right and is the primary source of discord, divorce, bullying, poor management, and dysfunctional relationships. Authentically You is the energy behind discovering happiness, joy, and well-being. When you know who you are, you are free to become your true self. Too many people want happiness without the necessary skills and understanding that support the lifestyle of being happy.