Autism Blueprint Podcast

In this episode of the Autism Blueprint Podcast, host Janeen Herskovitz shares her personal journey of managing stress following a challenging trip to Asheville with her family. She discusses the unique stressors that come with being a parent of an autistic child and how acute stress can significantly impact emotional well-being.

Janeen explores the four trauma responses—fight, flight, freeze, and fawn—and provides practical strategies for recognizing and managing these responses in both oneself and loved ones. Through deep breathing exercises and self-care techniques, she emphasizes the importance of nurturing the inner child and creating a supportive environment.

Listeners are invited to join her as she reflects on her experiences and offers insights to help navigate stress, ultimately fostering a more peaceful home for families.

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In this episode of the Autism Blueprint Podcast, Janeen shares a gripping story about her family’s unexpected adventure during a recent trip to Asheville, North Carolina, coinciding with Hurricane Helene. Joined by her husband, Joe, they recount their experience of waking up to a power outage and the chaos that ensued as they navigated rising water, fallen trees and blocked roads.

They discuss the emotional challenges of evacuating with our grown, neurodivergent children, Ben and Bekah, and how they managed to keep our spirits up amid uncertainty. Joe shares his perspective as a father, emphasizing the importance of preparation and adaptability in the face of danger.

Throughout the episode, they reflect on the lessons learned about resilience, teamwork, and the strength of family bonds during crises. Join us for a relatable and insightful discussion that highlights the power of navigating the unexpected together. Be sure to listen until the end for additional takeaways and a touching moment shared by Ben after their conversation.

Joe and Janeen have been married since 1995 and live together with their two neurodivergent, young-adult children and a Havapoo named Mazie. Joe is a retired Social Studies teacher, loves cooking, drawing, classic punk rock and the Philadelphia Eagles. He grew up in South Jersey and currently resides with his family in St. Augustine, Florida where he works as a full-time caregiver for their autistic son, Ben.

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In this episode of the Autism Blueprint Podcast, we’re in the classroom today with Rosalia Rivera, an expert in body safety education. Our conversation centered around the critical importance of teaching children about their bodies, boundaries, and consent, particularly in the context of preventing abuse.

Rosalia introduced the concept of “body safety,” practical ways to start these conversations, emphasizing that it’s never too late to begin, whether your child is two or thirteen. Rosalia shared valuable insights on how to introduce the idea of autonomy and consent, using relatable stories to engage children in a meaningful way.

We also addressed the unfortunate reality of the “not my kid” syndrome that many parents experience, highlighting the alarming statistics around child sexual abuse. Rosalia explained the grooming process and the reasons why children often do not report abuse, underscoring the need for education and open communication.

For families with neurodivergent children, we explored tailored approaches to teaching body safety, emphasizing the importance of using multiple senses and practical examples to ensure understanding. Rosalia provided strategies for parents to advocate for their children’s safety, especially in family dynamics where boundaries may be tested.

Throughout the episode, we stressed the importance of creating a safe environment for children to express their feelings and set boundaries, while also educating adults about the signs of grooming and inappropriate behavior.

This episode is a must-listen for parents, educators, and anyone interested in fostering a safer environment for children. Join us as we empower ourselves and our children to advocate for their safety and well-being.

Rosalia Rivera is a consent educator and child sexual abuse prevention specialist, sexual literacy advocate, 2x TEDx speaker, rape culture disruptor, co-founder of the BRAVE Movement, co-founder of the Survivors Council Canada, the founder of CONSENTparenting and the host of the AboutCONSENT podcast. She was also recently named a Verywell 25 Mind Mental Health Champion for 2023. Rosalia is also a CSA (child sexual abuse) survivor turned thriver. She helps busy parents go from fearful and anxious to confident and empowered about teaching their kids about body safety, boundaries, and consent to prevent sexual abuse.

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In this episode of the Autism Blueprint Podcast, I had the pleasure of speaking with Kari Baker, a remarkable mom who has transitioned from a successful career in corporate finance to becoming a passionate advocate for families with neurodivergent children. Kari shares her personal journey as a mother to her son, Brady, who was diagnosed with autism, and the profound impact this diagnosis has had on her life and perspective.

Kari candidly discusses the emotional turmoil she experienced upon receiving Brady’s diagnosis, including feelings of devastation and the fear of societal perceptions surrounding autism. However, she quickly shifted into action mode, determined to seek early intervention and support for her son. Throughout our discussion, Kari emphasizes the importance of family support, sharing how her parents and sister played crucial roles in their journey.

One of the highlights of our conversation is Kari’s newly published book, “Finding Kind,” which aims to empower parents to recognize the gifts and talents of their neurodivergent children. She reflects on her personal faith journey and how it has shaped her perspective on parenting and advocacy, ultimately leading her to embrace the unique qualities that make Brady who he is.

Throughout the episode, Kari’s passion for advocacy shines through, reminding us that while the path may be challenging, there is always hope and support available. Her story is one of resilience, love, and the transformative power of embracing our children’s unique gifts.

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Kari A. Baker is a former financial services executive and business owner turned author, speaker, and podcaster. She is the founder of KIND Families, a community of people who love Kids with Invisible Neurological Differences and is the host of The KIND Families Podcast. Kari became a KIND mom in 2014 when her son Brady was diagnosed with autism at age three. She started KIND Families to encourage, support, and inspire others to find purpose and promise in KIND-ness. Her first print book Finding KIND, releases on October 22nd.

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In this episode of the Autism Blueprint Podcast, I am joined by my friend and colleague, Katherine Scott, a licensed marriage and family therapist based in North Florida. Together, we delve into the complexities of neurodivergent relationships, particularly focusing on couples where one partner is neurodivergent and the other may be neurotypical or also neurodivergent.

Katherine shares her insights from her practice, discussing common challenges faced by these couples, such as difficulties with perspective-taking, communication breakdowns, and the nuances of intimacy.

Throughout the episode, we explore the unique dynamics that arise in neurodivergent relationships, emphasizing the importance of understanding and accepting each partner’s differences.

We discuss the importance of recognizing good intent in each other and the necessity of pausing to create space for connection. Katherine encourages listeners to stop comparing their relationships to others, reminding them that each couple’s journey is unique.

This episode is packed with insights and practical tips for anyone navigating the complexities of neurodivergent relationships. Whether you’re in a neurodivergent couple or simply looking to understand these dynamics better, this conversation offers valuable perspectives and tools for fostering connection and understanding.

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Previous episodes with Ms. Kat:

• Understanding Neurodivergent Needs | A conversation with Miss Kat | with Katherine Scott, LMFT
• Telling ‘Tails’: How Stories Can Help Kids Adjust To New Situations | A Conversation With Katherine Scott, LMFT

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In this episode of the Autism Blueprint Podcast, I had the pleasure of speaking with Rachael Dunkle, a licensed clinical professional counselor and certified high conflict divorce coach. Rachel shared her journey into the mental health field, which was inspired by her personal experiences with trauma and addiction, as well as her own high conflict divorce.

We delved into the definitions of trauma and narcissism, discussing how these concepts manifest in relationships, particularly in the context of high conflict dynamics. Rachael emphasized the importance of understanding trauma as a spectrum of experiences that can significantly impact an individual’s sense of safety and well-being. We also explored the complexities of narcissism, clarifying that not every difficult behavior equates to narcissistic personality disorder.

A significant part of our conversation focused on the challenges faced by special needs parents, especially those navigating high conflict relationships. Rachael highlighted the unique dynamics that arise when parenting a child with special needs, including feelings of isolation and the difficulty of leaving unhealthy relationships. We discussed the harmful effects of coercive control and gaslighting, and how these tactics can undermine a person’s sense of self.

Rachael introduced her coaching program, “Resilience to Rise,” which aims to support individuals going through high conflict divorces, particularly those who are also special needs parents. She emphasized the importance of community and connection in the healing process, encouraging listeners to seek support and not to navigate these challenges alone.

Overall, this episode provided valuable insights into the intersection of trauma, high conflict relationships, and special needs parenting, offering hope and practical strategies for those in similar situations. Rachael’s expertise and personal experiences resonate deeply, making this a must-listen for anyone facing these challenges.

Rachael Dunkel-Dodier, MS, LCPC, LAC, HCDC, NBCC, CDWF a certified high-conflict divorce coach, founder of Bridger Peaks Counseling and solopreneur, with her Resilience to Rise Coaching business.

Rachael brings a unique combination of formal education and personal experience to help support women who are navigating divorces marked by addiction, abuse and narcissistic behaviors so they can get through one of the hardest experiences in life to be fully seen, honored and loved without shame or fear.

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In this episode of the Autism Blueprint Podcast, I had a conversation with autism specialist, Katherine Scott about preparing for back to school. “Miss Kat,” a licensed marriage and family therapist, shared valuable insights on the struggles parents and children face during this time.

We discussed the pressures of success, challenges in school administration, bullying, and the impact of technology on children’s development. Miss Kat emphasized the importance of creating a peaceful and connected home environment, highlighting the significance of play in children’s development. She encouraged parents to trust their instincts, honor their children, and not get lost in societal judgments. This episode provides valuable advice and perspectives on navigating back to school season for neurodivergent families.

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In this episode, I had the pleasure of welcoming Jan Stewart, a dedicated mother and advocate for neurodivergent individuals, back to the Autism Blueprint Podcast. Jan shared valuable insights into the challenges and triumphs of raising her children, Andrew and Ainsley, who are now thriving in their respective careers.

Jan discussed the importance of preparing for the transition into adulthood for neurodivergent individuals, emphasizing the need for services and supports, including finding the right professionals such as psychologists and psychiatrists. She highlighted the significance of legal guardianship and powers of attorney to ensure the well-being and protection of her children as they navigate adulthood.

The conversation delved into the critical aspects of financial planning and employment opportunities for neurodivergent individuals. Jan shared her son Andrew’s journey to finding his dream job at Rogers Communications, emphasizing the importance of inclusive workplaces and customized accommodations for individuals with diverse needs.

Jan also provided valuable insights into maintaining a strong and supportive partnership with her husband, David, throughout the challenges of raising neurodivergent children. She emphasized the importance of open communication, mutual respect, and understanding in navigating the complexities of parenting.

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Jan Stewart is a highly regarded neurodiversity advocate, author, speaker and parent. Her award-winning memoir Hold on Tight is brutally honest and describes her emotional roller coaster journey raising two children with multiple mental health and neuro-developmental disorders. Her mission is to inspire and empower caregivers to have hope and persevere, as well as to better educate their families, friends, health care professionals, educators and employers.

Jan chairs the Board of Directors at Kerry’s Place Autism Services, which is Canada’s largest autism services provider, is a Today’s Parent columnist on autism and was previously ViceChair at Canada’s Centre for Addiction and Mental Health. She spent most of her career as a senior Partner with the global executive search firm Egon Zehnder. Jan is a Diamond Life Master in bridge and enjoys fitness, genealogy and dance.

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In this episode of the Autism Blueprint Podcast, host Janeen Herskovitz, welcomes author and advocate Jan Stewart to share her journey of raising children with mental health and neuro-developmental disorders. Jan Stewart’s award-winning memoir, “Hold on Tight, A Parent’s Journey Raising Children with Mental Illness,” serves as a guide for parents navigating similar challenges.

Janeen and Jan discuss the importance of perseverance and embracing medications and therapy as powerful tools in supporting neurodivergent children. They touch on the significance of respite care and the need for parents to prioritize self-care and seek support from other parents facing similar struggles.

The conversation delves into the complexities of marriage when raising neurodivergent children, emphasizing the importance of communication, understanding, and shared responsibilities between partners. They also highlight the evolution of awareness and acceptance of neurodiversity over the years, while acknowledging the ongoing need for advocacy and education.

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Jan Stewart is a highly regarded neurodiversity advocate, author, speaker and parent. Her award-winning memoir Hold on Tight is brutally honest and describes her emotional roller coaster journey raising two children with multiple mental health and neuro-developmental disorders. Her mission is to inspire and empower caregivers to have hope and persevere, as well as to better educate their families, friends, health care professionals, educators and employers.

Jan chairs the Board of Directors at Kerry’s Place Autism Services, which is Canada’s largest autism services provider, is a Today’s Parent columnist on autism and was previously ViceChair at Canada’s Centre for Addiction and Mental Health. She spent most of her career as a senior Partner with the global executive search firm Egon Zehnder. Jan is a Diamond Life Master in bridge and enjoys fitness, genealogy and dance.

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In this episode of the Autism Blueprint Podcast, we’re in the home office speaking with Lisa Gomez, the Assistant Secretary for Employee Benefits Security Administration (EBSA). Lisa shared valuable insights into how EBSA works to protect the retirement and health plans of American workers and their families.

Throughout the episode, Lisa discussed the mission of EBSA, which is to ensure the security of retirement, health, and other job-based benefits. She highlighted the importance of mental health parity and how EBSA is working to improve insurance coverage and access to treatments and therapies for individuals with mental health and substance use disorders.

Lisa shared heartwarming success stories where EBSA‘s interventions led to the removal of exclusions for ABA therapy in health plans, benefiting thousands of families. She also addressed the challenges faced by mental health providers in accepting insurance due to low reimbursement rates and stringent requirements.

If your family is having difficulty navigating your insurance or if you have an issue that your insurance will not remedy, reach out to EBSA for assistance at 1-866-444-3272

Resources and more information on how to contact a benefits advisor can be found on the EBSA website:

https://www.dol.gov/agencies/ebsa/about-ebsa/ask-a-question/ask-ebsa

Lisa emphasized the agency’s commitment to helping families access the care they need and urged individuals to advocate for their rights and seek help when facing insurance-related challenges.

Lisa Gomez, Assistant Secretary for Employee Benefits Security Administration

Lisa M. Gomez was sworn in as Assistant Secretary for Employee Benefits Security on October 11, 2022. She has deep technical and practical experience in the multifaceted field of employee benefits law and has spent almost three decades representing various Taft-Hartley and multi-employer pension and welfare plans, single employer plans, jointly administered training program trust funds, a federal employees health benefit (FEHB) plan, supplemental health plans, and VEBAs covering employees in a wide array of industries.

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