In this episode of 'Autism for Badass Moms,' host Rashidah welcomes Kanisha, a 40-year-old registered nurse in Houston and mom to five-year-old Zoë (diagnosed at 2.5, verbal with limited communication), shares her journey from early concerns and self-referral for evaluation to an ADOS-based diagnosis and the therapies that followed. She opens up about balancing full-time work, navigating limited support, starting full-day ABA, and witnessing Zoë’s significant progress.
At the heart of the conversation is disclosure. Kanisha explains why she told only a small circle at first, choosing privacy over overwhelm and commentary. She reflects on finding community online and encourages moms to move at their own pace, trust their discernment, and protect their peace.
In this episode, we talk about:
00:00 Welcome to Autism for Badass Moms (Show Intro)
00:46 Today’s Topic: Who Do You Tell First After an Autism Diagnosis?
02:18 Meet Kisha & Zoe: A Diagnosis That Changed Everything
04:42 Early Red Flags: 12–18 Months, Speech Concerns & Being Dismissed
07:58 Two-Year Turning Point: Sensory Signs & Suspecting Autism
11:22 The Daycare Wake-Up Call: Social Struggles & “Final Piece” Moment
13:52 Taking Control: ECI, Child Find & Getting Evaluated Without Waiting
16:45 Diagnosis & Insurance Hurdles: Fighting for Speech/OT Services
20:03 School vs. Daycare Reality: When Half-Day Support Isn’t Enough
21:44 Choosing ABA: Fear, First Days, and Finally Seeing Progress
24:26 Breakthroughs & Reframing the Future: From Level 3 to New Milestones
26:16 The Grief After Diagnosis: Mourning Dreams, Milestones, and the Unknown
32:27 Who We Told (and Who We Didn’t): Processing the Diagnosis
35:34 Grief, “What Ifs,” and Preparing for Every Outcome
36:53 Protecting Your Child: Privacy, Boundaries, and Unwanted Advice
38:56 Finding Your Tribe: Podcasts, Threads, and Support Groups That Get It
44:14 Real-Life Logistics: Summer Break, Programs, and Working Full-Time
47:36 Advice to New Autism Moms: Tell People at Your Own Pace
51:48 What Makes Her Badass + Closing Reflections and How to Connect
56:58 Final Takeaway: Discernment, Peace Over Pressure, and Guest Call-Out
Connect with Kanisha:
Instagram: www.instagram.com/mamanish20
Resource shared:
YouTube: confessionsofanautismmom
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