Shandy is back with Bachelorette(s) Season 19 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 12, aka the GRAND FINALE!

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Time Stamps:
0:00 - Housekeeping
1:35 - Finale Kick Off
3:43 - Last Week, Continued
7:14 - Rachel’s Last Date With Tino
10:32 - The Ladies Chat In Mexico
12:29 - Rachel’s Proposal
17:37 - The Breakup House: Gabby And Rachel
24:57 - The Breakup House: Tino And Rachel
48:11 - Live: Rachel 
49:27 - Live: Rachel And Tino
53:20 - Aven
57:21 - Gabby’s Proposal
1:04:03 - Live: Rachel And Erich
1:12:09 - Wrapping The Season
1:12:27 - Next Bachelor
1:16:54 - BUT WAIT THERE’S MORE
1:21:14 - Shandy Word Watch
1:21:40 - Reviewing Premiere Predictions

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Bachelorette Recap: Finale | A Breakup House And A Tino Kebab

Dear Shandy is a dating advice podcast where Sharleen Joynt and her husband Andy Levine answer your burning relationship questions from the perspective of a happily married couple. Sharleen and Andy are two fiercely independent people who are skeptical of love stories and don’t believe in fate, soulmates, or The One. So how did they wind up so happily married? They learned the dating lessons by living them.

Get no-holds-barred, honest advice from two people who actually have what you want: a fun, blissful partnership. But there's more! As an iconic former Bachelor contestant, Sharleen invites Bachelor Nation couples on for intimate double dates called Love Fests. Last, but certainly not least, Sharleen brings her insider knowledge and Andy delivers hilarious comic relief to combine for what are hands down the best Bachelor recaps in the business. New episodes drop every Thursday, and during Bachelor seasons, recaps drop on Tuesdays!

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Shandy is officially on the Dawg Side! As you may know, 3 months ago we adopted a small dog named Ruby! We hadn't planned on doing a fur baby episode, but it came so hotly requested (and we were so touched by the enthusiasm!), we couldn't help but oblige. Today we're answering YOUR questions all about our pup, her adoption story, and whether or not the famed Cat Person (Andy) has been converted. Warning: unfettered gushing ahead!


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0:00 - Introduction
1:35 - Ruby’s Adoption Story
10:28 - Andy’s Adjustment To Dog Person
12:23 - Ruby’s Personality
14:52 - Tips For Fellow Germaphobes
16:10 - What Took You So Long?
20:22 - But I Thought Andy Was A Cat Person?
21:05 - Does Ruby Give Cat Vibes?
21:12 - What Are Your Favorite Dog Toys?
21:58 - Has Andy Been Giving Ruby More Attention Than Sharleen?
24:38 - Who Watches Ruby When You’re Away?
24:50 - What Is Your Favorite Thing Ruby Does?
26:34 - Have There Been Any Hurdles/What Have You Learned About Yourself?
31:26 - What Kind Of Food Do You Feed Ruby?
31:31 - How Does Ruby React To Sharleen’s Singing?
32:02 - Who Is The Stricter Parent?
32:42 - Nicknames
33:34 - Where Does Ruby Sleep?
34:39 - Is Having A Dog What You Expected?
37:36 - What’s Been The Hardest Part Of Having A Dog?
39:12 - Did You Buy Pet Insurance?
39:15 - Who Is Ruby’s Favorite?
40:44 - How Has Ruby Changed Since You Got Her?
41:04 - How Has Ruby Changed Your Life?
46:44 - In Conclusion

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We Got A Dog!!! Shandy's Dog Adoption Story - Ep 310

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! You met your boyfriend shortly after getting laid off—with a new job lined up, is it morally wrong to never tell him about the layoff? If you're single and sharing an Airbnb with couples and even some families, should you pay the same amount for a room in the rental, even if there's only one of you? If your friend unexpectedly invites her boyfriend on your planned girls trip, are you the a-hole if you pull out? And finally, what to do if you simply *dislike* your best friend's fiancé?? Where does Shandy stand on unintentional door slamming? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!


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Time Stamps:
0:00 - Introduction
0:53 - Q1: If I Have New Job, Is It Morally Wrong Not To Tell My Boyfriend I Got Laid Off From My Previous Job?
6:22 - Q2: I’m The Single Friend In A Large Trip Of Couples And Their Kids—Am I Being Unreasonable About This Airbnb Split?
14:21 - Q3: My Friend Added Her Boyfriend To Our Girls Trip—AITA For Wanting To Pull Out?
30:53 - Q4: My Boyfriend Bailed On Driving Me To My Hometown & I Had To Pay $$$ For A Flight Instead—AITA For Wanting Him To Help Cover The Cost?
46:07 - Q5: My Best Friend’s Fiancé Is Just “OK”—How Do I Get Over The Fact That She Deserves Better?


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Q&A! Morality Check, What To Do When Your Friend Deserves Better, & A Travel Am-I-The-A-Hole Bonanza! - Ep 309

Attachment Styles are at the core of SO many relationship dynamics yet so few of us know much beyond "secure", "anxious", and "avoidant". Isn't it about time we learned WHY we behave the way we do so we can learn how to stop getting in our own way?


We're thrilled today to be joined by Eli Harwood, aka  @attachmentnerd , therapist, author, and attachment theory expert! Eli has amassed a massive following on Instagram with her attachment expertise and analysis. She is the author of "Securely Attached: Transform Your Attachment Patterns Into Loving, Lasting Romantic Relationships" and the upcoming "Raising Securely Attached Kids: Using Connection-Focused Parenting To Create Confidence, Empathy, and Resilience", so we could not be in better hands!


Today Eli breaks down those famed Attachment Patterns (spoiler alert: there's WAY more to this than secure, anxious, and avoidant!) and how and why we as adults behave the way we do in our relationships. (As Andy puts it at one point, Attachment is "EVERYTHING"!) We learn how much of a role gender plays, why some of us are different in platonic vs romantic relationships, and how much is nature vs nurture. There are also parenting questions for our caregiver Shandies out there! Shandy also gets personal with their own experiences that have shaped their own attachment patterns. Finally, the big question: HOW DO WE HEAL? Eli has the answers you've been waiting for and manages to deliver them in the most relatable and easy-to-understand way. As Shandy puts it, you just might see your childhood flash before your eyes! Listen on for a masterclass in YOURSELF. 

Heal Your Attachment Pattern With Eli Harwood, Aka @AttachmentNerd - Ep 308

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! Is marriage necessary, or even at all what it's cracked up to be? If your partner struggles in the friendship department, how can you help? How should you respond to a question you hate being asked? And finally, an epic Am-I-The-Asshole question! Where does Shandy stand on unintentional door slamming? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!


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Time Stamps:
0:00 - Introduction
1:40 - Q1: To Marry Or Not To Marry?
9:11 - Q2: I Feel Weird Contributing To My Friend’s “Honey Fund” As A Wedding Gift—Thoughts?
18:06 - Q3: Strangers Constantly Ask Me A Question I Hate—How Should I Respond?
31:58 - Q4: My Fiancé Has No Friends—How Can I Help Him?
48:45 - Q5: Am I The Asshole—Door Slamming Edition


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Q&A! Responding To Stupid Questions, Friend-less Fiancé, & To Wed Or Not To Wed? - Ep 307

Caller sessions are BACK, baby! This is our SECOND Caller episode of 2024 (!) and we're thrilled we're joined by a lovely (and lively!) caller named Erin. Erin, whose relationship began with beautifully romantic gesture. However, 2+ months in, there are still kinks that need ironing. Erin is quick to defend her boyfriend, but when are excuses just... excuses? Listen on for the Shandy take!


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Time Stamps:
0:00 - Welcome To Caller Erin!
42:39 - Shandy Debrief


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Bachelorette Recap: Finale | A Breakup House And A Tino Kebab

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