Back To The Present

Relationships require work. They offer us such enjoyment, but like everything worthwhile, they require effort. 

I don't believe that 'work' has to be like pulling teeth and I think like most things it comes down to education on the matter and a willing choice to want to thrive together. 

Through recognition and understanding, we can communicate effectively on just about any matter. 

Jacqui’s extensive work over her career has shown that amongst all the fanciness, opinions and options available, it’s the small unique, mundane things that we cherish the most. The other stuff has its role, though the size of the gesture isn’t proportionate to the effect.

Jacqui and I discussed touched on many related topics, some of which included:

🌀 Healthy arguing

🌀 Knowing, expressing and respecting our needs 

🌀 Presumptions and patterns 

🌀 Cultural norms and differences 

🌀 Creating supportive space, rather than problem solving 

🌀 The Enduring Love project 

🌀 Communication styles 

Connect with Jacqui Gabb

Website | www.open.ac.uk/people/jag539

Books | Couple Relationships in the 21st Century

The Secrets of Enduring Love

Be where your feet are.

In every moment, sporting life and everything outside of it, how valuable this lesson is. Great people, players and coaches all know that when we live out those 5 words, magic happens.

Presence is what seems to set some of us apart from others and it’s important to remember that very very few people are present all the time, but it’s this awareness in games, matches, practice, training etc. that sets us up for the success we seek.

Once we realise this and began to practice it, we can start to see & feel the difference in our performance inside and outside the arena.

Ed and I discussed many great performance ideas that go nicely with presence, including:

🌀 True North as a continual destination 

🌀 Differences & similarities between beginners and professionals 

🌀 The Heroic Mind 

🌀 The power in the process (and not the outcome) 

🌀 Managing nerves and self doubt 

🌀 Growth through adversity 

🌀 Celebrating small wins 

🌀 Neutral thinking 

Connect with Ed Padalecki 

Instagram | coachpadalecki

Website | coachp.net

Empowerment is within us all, always willing & able, waiting patiently for us to tap into. 

The problem often lies with our lack of awareness and/or search for empowerment outside ourselves. 

Beginning to understand and embrace that power within us offers infinite potential.

Dr Friedemann is an empowerment coach and although there’s levels to that understanding, we both wholeheartedly agree is starts with understanding ourselves (a beautiful lesson I feel most of us are learning). 

We discussed a lot of goodies in this episode, including:

🌀 Giving our power away 

🌀 Anxiety patterns & behaviour 

🌀 Intrusive thoughts 

🌀 Finding our own speed in a world full of rushing 

🌀 The subconscious mind and how it communicates through metaphors 

🌀 Collaboration between the conscious and subconscious mind 

🌀 Our own inner peace 

🌀 Instant gratification & long-tern satisfaction 

Connect with Dr Freidemann

Instagram | @dr.friedemannschaub

Website | drfriedemann.com

YouTube | @FriedemannSchaub

Anxiety is one hell of a beast. A beast I once never knew existed, and then when I found it/it found me, my initial thinking was that it needed to be tamed, only to begin to understand that it is a messenger from the deeper parts of us that we have continued to ignore. 

Much like other thoughts, feelings & emotions, anxiety is usually trying to tell us something and/or a lapse in the now moment. 

Brett, like us all, has faced his own challenges and through these experiences has learned and devoted his time & energy to helping people build confidence and self-belief. 

A few topics Brett and I conversed about: 

🌀 Addiction and what we can do about it 

🌀 Men’s mental health and associated stigmas 

🌀 Our tendency to be overly critical of oneself 

🌀 Anxious states and how to shift them 

🌀 Detaching from triggering thoughts 

🌀 Introspective signals 

Connect with Brett Bailey

Instagram | @brettbaailey

It is rarely the experience itself that causes us pain, but usually the story we’ve constructed about the series of events. 

When we’re able to distinguish that there is a difference, we’re able to acknowledge what is true versus what we’re just telling ourselves (illusion). 

Then the work/fun begins, we get to re-shape the story into whatever we choose. Not always easy, but damn powerful.

Kyle has over 10 years experience as a first responder and has learned the ways of perspective shifting, so if there’s ever going to be someone who knows this power, it’s him.

On top of all the mental joy and fun we also shared: 

🌀 Building resilience 

🌀 Connecting to emotions & sensations 

🌀 The challenges of switching between intense work like and family responsibilities 

🌀 What can sit behind “I’m fine”

🌀 Underlying issues going beyond surface-level concerns 

🌀 Extreme inspiration and sustainable personal growth 

Connect with Kyle Stubbs

Instagram | @kyle.m.stubbs 

Website | kylestubbs.ca

We are all on our own spiritual journey, whether we call it that or not, all pathes have purpose and I beleive they look a lot more similiar than most of us realise.

It's easy to forget who we are when we're so caught in the hustle and grind of daily living, not to mention the near-constant comotion between our ears.

When we start embracing all of this (and therefore all of us), therein lies the beauty and power available to us at any given moment regardless of all the brouhaha going on.

Harrison has been playing this game long enough to have a deep knowing within oneself, and his role as a spiritual love coach is guiding peoples connection back to their heart.

Amongst all the goodness we also discussed:

🌀 Vulnerability as a source of strength and inspiration

🌀 Concepts of faith and love

🌀 Acknowledging emotions in the moment

🌀 Creating with love and consciousness

🌀 Meaningful connections

🌀 Holism

Instagram | @harrisonmeagher

Website | harrisonmeagher.com

Podcast | Cosmic Love Antenna

Parenting isn’t easy, but it certainly is one of the most joyful things in life.

The joy comes easy when the lack of ease isn’t so forceful. When we let every decision and action pass through the filter of love first. 

The children and experiences who challenge us the most offer us the greatest gifts when we’re ready to start unwrapping (acknowledging & embracing) their soul shaping for what it is. 

Abigail helps parents deeply understand their kids AND themselves, because as we know, it all starts with us. 

As parents and parental figures we are literally contributing to the future of mankind! 

Other soul searching topics included:

🌀 The 3 stages of childhood development

🌀 Options & consent 

🌀 Setting boundaries 

🌀 Family culture 

🌀 Screen time (creative vs consumptive) 

🌀 Sensitive & strong willed children 

🌀 Parenting on empty 

🌀 Cultivating a loving environment 

Connect with Abigail Wald

Instagram | @motherflippingawesome 

Website | motherflippingawesome.com 

The garden we call life is exactly what we make it.

The desire to weed the garden isn’t always strong, but we probably all agree it’s easier to manage with regular maintenance instead of letting it get out of control.

The outcome of the seeds we plant are a redirect reflection of our intention combined with the health of the soil, the big yellow ball in the sky and earths greatest gift called water. 

Anat gives people tools to tend to the garden when we’re ready to let it flourish! 

Other fun topics included:

🌀 Anat's 5 Stages of Healing 

🌀 Survival mode 

🌀 The illusion of the comfort bubble 

🌀 Practices to regulate the nervous system 

🌀 Children learning from adults energy 

🌀 Our inner critic 

🌀 Releasing old patterns 

Connect with Anat 

Instagram | @anat.peri

Website | trainingcampforthesoul.com

Community living has changed a lot in the last few hundred years.

We can argue whether it’s for the better or worse, and I believe there’s good reasons on both sides of the fence.

One thing for near certainty is that we’ve lost the connection we once had.

As technology advances I’m an avid believer in remembering the importance of the connection we are losing with the land, others and ourselves.

Jake is the process of building a co-living community with the intention of this re-connection. As the saying goes, “think global, act local”.

I’m super excited to see this journey unfold.

Jake and I discussed:

🌀 The concepts of permaculture 

🌀 Sociocracy in the context of a community project

🌀 Consent versus Consensus

🌀 Positive change at the local and global level

🌀 The benefit of working with the government 

🌀 Objections as gifts 

🌀 Culture shift

Connect with Jake

Websites | www.rootednw.org and onecommune.com