Some people want direction.  But for those that don't, leading means helping them get where they want to go.  That starts with great questions.

When you lead, you can't often push.  You may know where you want to steer people, or you may want to leave that up to the individual or team.  But part of coaching is bringing your expertise and certainty to the game...so how do you do that?

 

Questions help people uncover where they want to go.  They can also help create rails - freedom with safety.

 

Examples of great questions:

* -What do you want?

* -Why do you want that?

* -What else might get you there?

* -What are the beliefs you have about....(x)?

* -When I say....what does that make you think of?

* -When have you seen this work?  Not work?

* -What's really happening?

* -What else do I need to know?

* -What's most important to you?  Why?

* -How can we get more of what we want?

* -What do you need to make that happen?

 

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Some people want direction.  But for those that don't, leading means helping them get where they want to go.  That starts with great questions.

When you lead, you can't often push.  You may know where you want to steer people, or you may want to leave that up to the individual or team.  But part of coaching is bringing your expertise and certainty to the game...so how do you do that?

Questions help people uncover where they want to go.  They can also help create rails - freedom with safety.

Examples of great questions:

-What do you want?-Why do you want that?-What else might get you there?-What are the beliefs you have about....(x)?-When I say....what does that make you think of?-When have you seen this work?  Not work?-What's really happening?-What else do I need to know?-What's most important to you?  Why?-How can we get more of what we want?-What do you need to make that happen?

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Seeking certainty costs you time and money.   Think about how much.

This topic isn't new, but it is perhaps the most pervasive cause of failure and disappointment in teams of every kind.

It is also the toughest problem to crack.

Seeking certainty means placing a higher value on consensus or evidence BEFORE acting - building, releasing, etc.

No one is immune to this problem.  It's everywhere

We seek to avoid mistakes or conflict, which is impossible.

The master skill here is the 'courage to deal with the fallout of wrong or unpopular decisions'

Without this courage, two things are taken away from you - speed to market, and the sheen and polish of a decisive leader

However, courage is hard to 'get'.  Here are some things that might help give yourself (and others) more courage:

-Courage is a muscle.  It doesn't grow without use and challenge.   Crisis.  Pain.

-Challenge yourself to lean into your fear zone every day by having difficult conversations and inspiring others to do the same

When influencing others to make the leap, it's helpful to:

-let them fail sometimes so they can experience the effects-offer to take care of the executive support problem if they feel like they won't have backing-create "what if there was no..." or "what if you had everything you needed..." scenarios-inventory their beliefs about going NOW-always ask what else might work, and 'why not?"

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Seeking certainty costs you time and money.   Think about how much.

This topic isn't new, but it is perhaps the most pervasive cause of failure and disappointment in teams of every kind.

It is also the toughest problem to crack.

Seeking certainty means placing a higher value on consensus or evidence BEFORE acting - building, releasing, etc.

No one is immune to this problem.  It's everywhere

We seek to avoid mistakes or conflict, which is impossible.

The master skill here is the 'courage to deal with the fallout of wrong or unpopular decisions'

Without this courage, two things are taken away from you - speed to market, and the sheen and polish of a decisive leader

However, courage is hard to 'get'.  Here are some things that might help give yourself (and others) more courage:

-Courage is a muscle.  It doesn't grow without use and challenge.   Crisis.  Pain.

-Challenge yourself to lean into your fear zone every day by having difficult conversations and inspiring others to do the same

When influencing others to make the leap, it's helpful to:

-let them fail sometimes so they can experience the effects-offer to take care of the executive support problem if they feel like they won't have backing-create "what if there was no..." or "what if you had everything you needed..." scenarios-inventory their beliefs about going NOW-always ask what else might work, and 'why not?"

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* I was recently caught in an online conversation about how its inhumane to give teams stretch goals.

* We've been fooled into believing that this is how people are getting more and more stressed

* Stretch goals do not mean longer hours or added performance pressure.  It means getting people to find ways to get better.  To produce more with less effort.  To be more effective.  To bring more passion to their work, to take new things and make them habitual so they can focus on the stuff that matters.

* Here's the deal.  If you don't tear muscle, it doesn't grow.  If you don't challenge the mind, it doesn't expand.  If you don't push your limits, you never get to see what you're made of, and how far you can go.

* That distaste you feel for being pushed in not injustice, it is fear.

* So get out there and ask to be pushed.  We already live soft, easy lives, stop asking for a pass on the hard challenges that define a life well lived.

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I was recently caught in an online conversation about how its inhumane to give teams stretch goals.We've been fooled into believing that this is how people are getting more and more stressedStretch goals do not mean longer hours or added performance pressure.  It means getting people to find ways to get better.  To produce more with less effort.  To be more effective.  To bring more passion to their work, to take new things and make them habitual so they can focus on the stuff that matters.Here's the deal.  If you don't tear muscle, it doesn't grow.  If you don't challenge the mind, it doesn't expand.  If you don't push your limits, you never get to see what you're made of, and how far you can go.That distaste you feel for being pushed in not injustice, it is fear.So get out there and ask to be pushed.  We already live soft, easy lives, stop asking for a pass on the hard challenges that define a life well lived.

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If you want to work for "the best companies to work for" - make it yourself.

Great companies must model the ability to venture into the unknown and the uncommon in order to attain and sustain greatness.

It is possible whether the organization is large or small, but large organizations carry an additional challenge of overcoming negative will - the tendency to push back against progress to keep the organism safe and comfortable

You can still do it...but it requires much more effort and determination

It requires the ability to fail publicly

It requires a comfort level with constantly offending and upsetting people

It requires a rivalry with the status quo

It requires a trust relationship with the most senior leadership to shine a light on the cause - you must never fight this enemy in darkness

In a way, you have to enjoy the punches. You have to remember that the "obstacle is the way"

This is the antithesis of the easy and light path. Agreeable, one of the crowd, the grey man. You fight so much that sometimes it feels odd to agree.

It is a conscious choice to believe what you believe - the belief system of (not just) a rebel, but a pioneer. To want the best for your client and teams.

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If you want to work for "the best companies to work for" - make it yourself.

Great companies must model the ability to venture into the unknown and the uncommon in order to attain and sustain greatness.

It is possible whether the organization is large or small, but large organizations carry an additional challenge of overcoming negative will - the tendency to push back against progress to keep the organism safe and comfortable

You can still do it...but it requires much more effort and determinationIt requires the ability to fail publiclyIt requires a comfort level with constantly offending and upsetting peopleIt requires a rivalry with the status quoIt requires a trust relationship with the most senior leadership to shine a light on the cause - you must never fight this enemy in darkness

In a way, you have to enjoy the punches. You have to remember that the "obstacle is the way"This is the antithesis of the easy and light path. Agreeable, one of the crowd, the grey man. You fight so much that sometimes it feels odd to agree.

It is a conscious choice to believe what you believe - the belief system of (not just) a rebel, but a pioneer. To want the best for your client and teams.

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We don't like to hear about it, but there's a certain kind of practitioner who is certain and confident in every situation.  Either they know what to do, or they'll figure it out.  They have no natural predators

Nobody likes to hear it, but there is such a thing as the person who doesn't need rules, instructions, or best practices.  They don't need permission to do anything.  They can't be bought or sold, or bullied.

They have made their peace with their place in the world, their bigness and smallness.  They are prepared to be both right and wrong at once and have no preference for either.  They understand their purpose, how to serve it, what matters and what doesn't.  Because of this, they have a healthy relationship with fear.  They take their energy from it, yet refuse to be limited by it.

And because of this, they have unique, unshakeable confidence and certainty.What they do is risky and sometimes dangerous - sometimes damaging, but much less so than the alternative - a life of compromise and bending to the will of others.  To popular opinion, political correctness, the latest fashion or causes.

They have a presence, a strength, a charisma that is not the absence of weakness, humanity or authenticity...quite the opposite.  They are a complete blend and balance of the range of human triumph and failure.

They speak directly but only when needed.  They prefer acceptance to attachment.They are in complete control of their emotions

We don't want to hear about the badass, so we try to discredit their abilities - precisely for the reason why they are so effective - in any given moment, they don't have to try.  But their talents are not innate - They simply fall back on the depth of their training, inner work, courage, and experience.

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We don't like to hear about it, but there's a certain kind of practitioner who is certain and confident in every situation.  Either they know what to do, or they'll figure it out.  They have no natural predators

Nobody likes to hear it, but there is such a thing as the person who doesn't need rules, instructions, or best practices.  They don't need permission to do anything.  They can't be bought or sold, or bullied.

They have made their peace with their place in the world, their bigness and smallness.  They are prepared to be both right and wrong at once and have no preference for either.  They understand their purpose, how to serve it, what matters and what doesn't.  Because of this, they have a healthy relationship with fear.  They take their energy from it, yet refuse to be limited by it.

And because of this, they have unique, unshakeable confidence and certainty.

What they do is risky and sometimes dangerous - sometimes damaging, but much less so than the alternative - a life of compromise and bending to the will of others.  To popular opinion, political correctness, the latest fashion or causes.

They have a presence, a strength, a charisma that is not the absence of weakness, humanity or authenticity...quite the opposite.  They are a complete blend and balance of the range of human triumph and failure.

They speak directly but only when needed.  They prefer acceptance to attachment.

They are in complete control of their emotions

We don't want to hear about the badass, so we try to discredit their abilities - precisely for the reason why they are so effective - in any given moment, they don't have to try.  But their talents are not innate - They simply fall back on the depth of their training, inner work, courage, and experience.

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