Your dancing is SO important, right? You invest a lot of time, effort, and money into this thing and it really matters, right?

Or maybe not?

Sometimes we have let the dance pressure get too high and it becomes counter-productive. The stress to please your teacher and produce what you have worked on can be too much.

When the stress is high and it's creating problems, sometimes the mindset we need is actually not that this matters and is super important. The vibe we might just need is:

It's not that deep.

Step back and remember why you are here...what this is about. What is really at stake? Nothing unless you deem it so.

In this episode we bring the pressure down and ironically, your results might just go up as you always wanted anyway.

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Episodes mentioned:

Episode 2: Stages of Development

Episode 81: This Isn't About Dancing at All

If you find yourself ruminating on possible negatives outcomes, catastrophizing what might happen, and/or avoiding certain aspects in your dancing, you might be problem-avoiding. Anyone avoid watching their own videos? No? Just me?

Well if you are avoiding problems or things that you fear in your ballroom dancing, I guarantee it's leading to small, hesitant, forced, tense dancing. Your lessons and coaching aren't as effective and your practice is probably non-existent at this point.

None of us want to dance from that fearful stance.

Instead, try on a problem-solving attitude instead of problem avoiding. You are plenty brave and you can solve anything that comes your way.

See if you can find yourself in this episode!

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What might I say to a newer ballroom dancer that was just getting started? This was asked of me in a recent coaching session with a brand new bronze level dancer. I answered her questions and decided to pass some of the answers on to you. 

Even as a seasoned dancer, I think you will find yourself in these 7 pieces of advice:

1. Crash into it
2. You can't skip sucking
3. Never stop having fun
4. Maintain a sense of sovereignty
5. Results are just a tool, not the truth
6. Minimize mental input
7. Compete (or perform) as soon as you can

Listen in and enjoy!!

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After pushing forward from Newcomer to Open American Rhythm in 5 years, I have been feeling the fatigue. Am I tired? Burned out? Unmotivated? Being burned out is just one of many reasons you might find yourself unmotivated. 

In this episode, we provide 8 common reasons amateur and pro/am ballroom dancers, or any dancers for that matter, might find it hard to be motivated:

-Comparison

-Perfectionism

-Unclear or unrealistic expectations

-Lack of visible progress

-Negative self-talk

-Over-reliance on external validation

-Burnout

-Fear of failure or fear of being judged

Can you see yourself in any of them?? Listen in to get some help!

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All dancers can relate to wanting to be more confident. If we could just dance more confidently, with less anxiety and more freedom we could finally show up as the dancer that we want to.

But as a ballroom dancer, standing on deck, ready to go on the floor, feeling all of that anxiety and pressure to please our partner, teacher, and/or ourselves, the pressure can prove to be too much. We might think that we want to be calm, or relaxed.

This week I want to try on the idea that what we actually want to feel is self trust. Self trust might be a concept that we have not considered in the past as the antidote to anxiety and the key to dance confidence.

Listen in as we offer three dimensions of self trust. Your PAST self, your PRESENT self and your FUTURE self all have specific ways that they can offer you ways to trust yourself.

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It can be easy to get discouraged when you have been working hard at something and you're not seeing the results that you want. All humans love a good immediate reward for a job well done. But sometimes the results are slow in coming. 

In this episode we talk about being patient with the process and continuing to work it. The most exceptional people are enormously patient with applying the process that will get them the results that they want. Are you in that class of dancer?

Book referenced: How Champions Think, by Bob Rotella

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If you are concerned or having doubts about one or more of your dance relationships, listen in to this episode. I list 5 stages that relationships tend to go through no matter what kind of relationship it is...work, family, romantic, friendships, etc. These stages exist whether you are the student or the teacher, the male or the female or otherwise.

The stages are:

1. Honeymoon
2. Unmasking
3. Crossroads
4. Adaptation
5. Decision

I guarantee you'll see yourself in this episode and gain some clarity about what is happening in your dance relationships.

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Sometimes trying to be positive just isn't working. Maybe it's an injury, maybe you've been competing a long time and never won. Maybe you've been trying to break into the next level and you're just plain discouraged. People can try to offer you all kinds of platitudes and solutions, but if none of that is working...maybe it's time to just be discouraged.

We can be afraid to just allow it because we fear it will take over and swallow us up. But when we remember that we can maintain ownership of the experience while simultaneously allowing ourselves to go through it, we can finally process it enough such that other things we try can take hold...things we discussed in Episode 62

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In episode 105, we introduced the term glitch to represent the moment where a ballroom dancer gets distracted and knocked out of the zone. In this episode, we give you two more tools to add on to the idea of a glitch.

After a glitch happens, you may find yourself in "limbo" where you are past the undesirable moment but haven't moved forward yet. The limbo moment can feel like a confusing, out-of-body experience where your brain got knocked offline and hasn't come back on yet. Our goal is to minimize limbo and move on quickly by flushing that moment and then "locking-in."

Locking in is the term we will use to describe consciously making the decision about moving forward out of limbo. Listen in for more guidance on these terms and how to use them to recover faster, build resilience and improve your dancing!

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This episode is a continuation of the previous and explores 5 specific limiting beliefs that I have heard dancers express in our private coaching sessions. They are:

1. If I’m not practicing on my own, I shouldn’t keep taking/paying for lessons
2. I shouldn’t keep doing this is if I’m never going to win
3. I’ll never be as successful as the students with more money/time/resources
4. I shouldn’t compete/perform until I’ve mastered every detail
5. If it’s not coming naturally/easily, I’m not cut out for it Listen in for why they are a problem and an alternative belief for each one. 

Private coaching sessions, along with consults and Dance Strategy Calls are paused while we plan for early 2025 and a brand new offer!  To get on the interest list for what's coming, go ⁠HERE.⁠

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