You will be surprised to learn how many people have no idea what their boundaries are and how to recognize when they’ve been violated.

In this episode you will learn

• Why saying “no” to certain people makes you feel guilty
• A formula that will help you create a healthy and clean boundary with anyone
• What our childhood and cultural upbringing has to do with our physical and emotional boundaries
• The difference between a boundary and an ultimatum
• Which emotion shows you that your boundaries are not respected
• What can happen in your relationships once you learn to say what you really mean

We also share some personal stories about how we created boundaries with different types of people, ranking our relationships from low risk (i.e. a neighbour) to high risk (i.e. a parent).

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In this episode we explain WHY your brain tricks you into engaging in self-sabotaging thoughts and behaviours.

We give you practical tips and solutions that will help you break your existing unhelpful patterns.

If you're unsure about how self-sabotage looks, here are some relatable examples:

• You get upset when another day goes but nothing changes
• You procrastinate and then feel guilty
• You create to-do lists but avoid doing what really matters
• You don't start something new out of fear to fail
• You give up on the project because it won't be "perfect"

As always, we share how we were able to spot our own self-sabotage and share what progress we've made.

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Our brain processes 40 bits of information per second but our nervous system, which includes a cluster of nerves around our heart and gut, processes 11 million (!) bits of information per second – which means our bodies are much wiser than our minds. In fact, learning to read the signals our body is sending to us can give us all the information we need to start living our best lives. For this, we need to literally get out of our heads, and start listening to our hearts and guts.

In this episode, Veronica and Olena talk about the importance of learning to listen to the language of our body sensations (also known as intuition), and start using it as a compass to navigate all decisions we have to make in life.

You'll learn a tool that will help you tune into your body sensations and use them as your action signals.

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Change is the only constant. Yet, it usually takes us by surprise. Events like losing a job, breaking up with a loved one, having a baby, moving to a new country, or winning the lottery – all lead to a new identity, which we are often unprepared for. As a result, we can experience a lot of unnecessary resistance, stagnation and suffering.

But just like how caterpillars use their cocoons to turn into butterflies, humans can use change to blossom into better and stronger versions of themselves.

In this episode, you'll learn:

- what to expect when a major life event (good or bad) happens
- the 4 distinct stages of any transformation
- tips for navigating each stage to minimize stuckness

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Here are our top three self-development reads that helped us navigate some of our biggest challenges and see the world (and ourselves) differently.

In this episode, you will learn key insights, ideas and A-Ha moments from these 3 books.  Olena and Veronica share their favorite insights and takeaways that you can start implementing right away.

You will also discover why self-development can be a trap and how to avoid a vicious cycle of never-ending self-improvement.

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Are you feeling unhappy?

At the end of the day, it all comes down to the one simple question – are you happy?

Despite having access to more choice and opportunities than our ancestors – we are arguably the most unhappy and depressed generation ever.

In this episode, Veronica and Olena talk about why most of us are avoiding discomfort of growth and pursuing short-term pleasures while remaining deeply unhappy on the inside. And, as always, there are tips and suggestions to take you to a more happy and fulfilled life!

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If you were ever told that you are too sensitive, impatient, dramatic or even crazy — there is a chance you were gaslighted. In this episode, Olena and Veronica shed light on a very common psychological manipulation tactic many of us experience but can't really put a finger on. The hosts talk about how to recognize gaslighting, how to determine if it's toxic, and share their personal experiences and tips on how to establish healthy boundaries with those who are being manipulative.

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We unpack the classic model of conflict in human interactions by showing you something called the Karpman Drama Triangle. You will learn why playing any of the three roles in the triangle — Victim, Persecutor or Rescuer — is manipulative and never leads to a healthy relationship. We teach you how to recognize when a certain role is in play and show you how to engage in a much more empowering dynamic that helps establish healthier boundaries.

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Let’s be honest – we all compare ourselves to other people. It is a survival instinct and the primary role of our ego. It always checks whether we are inferior or superior when compared to others, and takes us into the downward spiral of negativity, jealousy, and even self-hatred.
In this episode, co-hosts discuss this phenomenon, talk about the most common subjects of comparisons, and share strategies that help to end the vicious cycle of toxic comparisons. And, of course – there are some juicy personal examples that might help you see your own blind spots.
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RESOURCES:
• Olena’s Free Guide and Worksheet: 7 Steps From Toxic Comparisons to a Superwoman Confidence https://awesome-composer-4705.ck.page/5eabccc367