So thankful I am, thankful to have lost what wasn’t serving me at all. I learned every time I lost something. One of the biggest things I am grateful for was the ability to grasp the idea that by losing, I ended up gaining. When there is gratitude in my heart and I’m feeling truly grateful I respond to life with my heart and the people around me benefit from it. I come from a much more centered place. I don’t allow it to take away from me because I don’t allow its toxicity.

This is where the subtracting has come in handy, by losing people and things, I have found SO much more! The best part of not having toxic things or toxic people in your life is that you don’t have constant smoke in your eyes blocking your clear vision and then having to question YOUR OWN eyes and wonder why everything looks so blurred. We lose sight of the real problem. Pro tip: it’s not always us, it’s what we choose to keep around.

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://bossbabeliving.home.blog/2021/01/15/grateful-for-the-things-lost-3/

It all starts with awareness. For me, it was learning to leave my “friends” because I didn’t want to have people in my life that were constantly bringing up things just to make me feel bad and make themselves look better. I didn’t know then, but when you have people who are always bringing up the negative things in your life just know that it is NOT a dig at you as much as it is their insecurities talking out loud. In that case, it is perfectly ok to be alone rather than in bad company.

Yes, we all have insecurities but we don’t need to hang out with anyone who points them out constantly. All that does is bring toxicity into your life and to be clear

Toxicity: The degree to which a substance (a toxin or poison) can harm humans.

I had friends that weren’t really my friends by definition and they didn’t even seem to reflect any of the same core values I had, yet I allowed them to become part of my world. I felt the need to constantly watch my back around them and looking back I’m not sure why I even called them my friends.

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://bossbabeliving.home.blog/2021/01/15/grateful-for-the-things-lost-2/

We have a tendency to focus more on what is missing than what we have. The reality is that we see the potential in our minds of what our life could be with a little more of(insert whatever you need more of).

However, we will fog that vision right up with the things we crowd it with. Between the bad and the good, we fill in the gaps with things that sometimes take us backward instead of forward. A lot of people will do it just to avoid the hard places in between their mistakes and passions. It’s a comfort most settle for. What we should learn to do is embrace the space especially when we feel we are coming up short. A little white space never hurt anyone.

White Space; Condition/s when your physical, mental, emotional states are liberated from unnecessary restrictions/limitations so that you can function at your best.

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://bossbabeliving.home.blog/2021/01/15/grateful-for-things-lost-l-1/

The hardest part of life is having to filter out and cut people out of your life is that you never think you will have to. People who you aren’t sure of, I now know to cut them out immediately!

To me, it isn’t worth the time and energy to figure out the person in question and if it weren’t for me double guessing myself in the past those people would have been gone and I wouldn’t have had the experiences that I had. Trust me, I could have done without.

Mentally, emotionally, and even financially it cost me. It was a growth moment for me. I realized how little I wanted to be part of a superficial world. My energy couldn’t stand being around so much negativity. At least that was my take away from my last experience. BUT here is the best thing about it all. I didn’t give a sh*& in the end and when it was all said and done, I felt it was necessary. For someone who has as much empathy towards others as I do, burning bridges does a better job at making sure I don’t keep repeating the same mistake. It ensures it is done and over with for good.

Yup. Too much, too far. K. Time to move on with life.. without (insert person).

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://bossbabeliving.home.blog/2021/01/14/i-never-lost-a-friend-i-wanted-back/

God is known as the Prince of Peace! But before you can fully understand how it works you have to live it yourself and before we experience the peace of God, we must experience peace with God. God will cover you in peace when you seek him. When you look for his truth. You’ll find his truth in the bible. Some people call it the book of life. I never understood it until I lived it. Everything and I mean everything he covers and the way he can make it so you can understand because it’s alive. He will send you the right words at the right times. Sometimes all we need is a now word.

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://bossbabeliving.home.blog/2021/01/12/peace-is-not-in-a-place-peace-is-in-a-person/

Tomorrow is never promised. It is something most of us don’t like to think about but unlike other realities in my life that I choose to avoid, this is not one of them. Forgetting what and who is important in life is not worth the temporary comfort that can bring a lifetime of regret.

Real change happens on the level of a gesture. Doing one thing differently than before.

Start

If you are a detailed-oriented person, create a list of ideas and use it as a reminder or leave yourself a random note that you’ll find later. Leaving myself notes and finding them later helped my attitude adjust when my mind started to keep score of peoples wrongs.

Take care of what you have while you have it

Family, friends, lovers, and pets because they are precious gifts. We are only borrowing them. It brings a warm feeling when you take care of things with love.

Learning to be loving sits well with your spirit. It brings a calm and peaceful feeling and with that comes power.

A power that can’t be taken from you. A power that will give you the ability to pull people into your peace instead of them pulling you into their storm.

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://bossbabeliving.home.blog/2021/01/12/im-going-to-be-happy-and-then-do-everything-i-have-to-do-after-that/

I don’t remember the details, but I remember the feeling. The feeling always comes with this urge to hold on and it’s followed by words that tell me to let go. The day he left was the same day I let the dream of us die. When he left he took a part of me that I will never get back but no one said that the price you pay for lessons learned didn’t come at a price. If in closing the door to my pain, it opened the door to my purpose then I could only assume that nothing ever went right because it wasn’t right.

Loving and leaving don’t go together. Neither did we.

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://bossbabeliving.home.blog/2021/01/11/better-as-a-memory-than-as-my-man/

Losing him helped me grow so much. As a person, in relationships, in general. I stopped and reflected on what I wanted and needed in my life. Also, the kind of woman I wanted to be. I can’t give him all the credit because I had a lot of growing up to do. I learned to not play games. I’ll never know because I played too much with fire not realizing how much it would burn me. All the games we played… they taught me that in winning, I lost.

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://bossbabeliving.home.blog/2021/01/11/im-growing-up-just-like-you-wanted-me-to/

Your goal is to not lose the dream.

The place only YOU were made to arrive to.

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://bossbabeliving.home.blog/2021/01/10/that-vision-was-given-to-you-to-carry-you-through-the-struggle/

Has is it ever crossed your mind that the enemy doesn’t want you to be confident in yourself so he finds ways to keep you insecure?

It recently occurred to me that the enemy doesn’t want people who were born to lead to be confident and secure. He finds ways to keep you insecure because if he can keep you so self-focused on the abilities you lack to do what you are here to do, you won’t be much of a threat to him and you definitely won’t be of any help to others. Serving others is a big part of the reason we are here.

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://bossbabeliving.home.blog/2021/01/09/by-keeping-you-from-leading-he-keeps-others-from-following/