September 15, 2025

Being Hot & Having Fun w/Amber Akilla

1 hour 44 minutes

In this week’s episode of The Audaci-Tea Podcast, your hosts Lisa, Sovereign, and Gwen are joined by special guest Amber Akilla! Amber is a DJ, online personality, and unapologetic advocate of living authentically. In this epsiode, Amber shares her philosophy of being hot and having fun, centering confidence, independence, and self-acceptance as tools for empowerment.

But first, in Tea Time, the hosts break down Judge Judy’s advice that women should always have their own money, Ciara adding Russell Wilson’s last name to Future Jr, how men are currently ruining nightlife, and Druski’s viral NASCAR appearance. In Mailbag, they respond to a listener navigating men’s expectations of women in public conversations.

🎧 This episode is all about embracing joy, confidence, and authenticity, and how women can decenter the male gaze to build lives filled with fun, creativity, and power.

🎙️ Topics Discussed:

Amber Akilla’s philosophy of being hot and having fun

Why women should always keep financial independence

Nightlife and how male behavior changes women’s experiences

Exercise, movement, and dance as self-care beyond weight loss

Decentering men and embracing authentic confidence

Living authentically and learning from failure

✨ Links and Resources Mentioned:

Ciara Adds Russell Wilson’s Last Name to Son

https://www.vibe.com/news/entertainment/ciara-added-wilson-to-son-futures-last-name-years-ago-1235106568/

Men Are Ruining Nightlife!

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT6nkywHc/

Druski Goes Viral

https://www.yahoo.com/entertainment/celebrity/articles/druski-faces-backlash-whiteface-nascar-183429728.html

📚 This Week’s Recommendation:

FREE EBOOK: The Shopping List Your Mother Owes You by Mide Yussuff

https://dunnmade.wordpress.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/08/the-list-your-mother-owes-you-by-mide-yussuff-1-flat-1.pdf

Beauty Fades, Dumb Is Forever: The Making of a Happy Woman by Judy Sheindlin

https://a.co/d/caB4MIz

Follow Amber!

@AmberAkilla everywhere

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🕰️ Episode Chapters

00:00 Welcome and Tea Time!

03:09 Judge Judy’s Advice For Women

08:34 Ciara Changes Son’s Last Name

13:42 Men Are Ruining Nightlife!

22:26 Druski’s Whiteface at NASCAR

24:47 Welcome Amber Akilla!

27:30 Amber’s Journey and Philosophy

31:04 Defining Being Hot and Having Fun

41:30 Movement and Exercise as Self-Care

52:20 The Balance of Consumption and Contribution

01:00:59 Living Authentically: Advice for Young Women

01:10:16 Decentering Men, Self-Perception and Confidence

01:17:28 Embracing Failure and the Journey

01:24:54 Mailbag: Forced Politeness In Shared Spaces

01:36:30 Poll Results: The "Manosphere" Algorithms

🎙️ The Audaci-Tea is a production of Siren Sound, executively produced by Lisa Carr, The Sovereign Woman, and Gwen. Music, audio production, and show production by Ryan Marth and Siren Sound.

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💡 Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed in this podcast are those of the hosts and guests and do not necessarily reflect the views of Siren Sound or its affiliates. This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only and should not be considered professional advice.

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