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#TTM EP. 24 - HOW TO ENJOY

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Our desire and our need for pleasure can sometimes prevent us from experiencing joy. Pleasure is always something outside of us providing us with that feeling while joy comes from within.  There is never enough pleasure to compensate for a lack of joy. 

We can enjoy ourselves, and we can enjoy our lives, even when things are hard.  We spend a lot of time being upset that our life isn’t matching up with the version in our heads. Most of us want to be different from who we are. So, we miss out on enjoying the extraordinary experience of being ourselves.

And the first step to enjoying yourself and your life is to like yourself first. Actively choosing to like yourself on purpose. 

In this week's episode, I explore some ideas on how to wake up joyous every day, and how to enjoy being you!

#TTM EP. 24 - HOW TO ENJOY // SELF ENQUIRY

• Uncover the story you have about how life is supposed to be. 

What do you think should be different about you? Make a list of people who should be different from how they are. How would you like them to be different and why? How should your past have been different than it was? 

• Think about your life without the story of how it should be. 

Write down what it is like to experience life in your mind as if nothing has ever

gone wrong. 

• Let go of all the things you have done that you hold against you.

This will clear away resentment and pain to make way for more enjoyment. Pick one thing you have done that you regret, was embarrassing, that was painful, or you simply wish you hadn’t done. Write down why you think you did it. Understand it from a compassionate perspective. Write down how you can release this from your mind and move on. 

• Pick one area in your life where you are settling, people pleasing, or tolerating.

Write down why you are doing this. Have compassion with yourself, try to understand the benefit you seem to be getting from doing this. Write down the long-term effect this has on your ability to enjoy yourself and your life.

• Look at yourself with love and gratitude. 

Write down one thing about yourself. It can be “good” or “bad.” Pick a characteristic

that you would use to describe yourself to someone who doesn’t know you.

Write about how you can enjoy this about yourself and appreciate this about yourself.  Have you denied this part of you because you have a vision of how you would rather be or how you are supposed to be? What might that be costing you when it comes

to living an authentic life? What do you most desire for yourself and your life? How can this trait help get you there?

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Ep. 7 BE SELFISH
Ep. 14  HOW TO FEEL BAD
Ep. 15 BE A YES AND SAY NO
Ep. 18 WHAT DO YOU WANT?!

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#TTM EP. 23 - BE BORED

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Our brain is very busy getting entertained and looking for new stimulation.

So when we remove all that input and all the stimulation, it's like the birthplace for our own creativity and our own ideas, it is time away from all the stimulation for our brain to think about new things and connect the dots.

Boredom is the absence of neural stimulation. If we were getting stimulated all the time we would not be able to come up with new ideas. Our brain wouldn't have any white space to do it, it's like the white space on a canvas. We need that space to create the painting.

You can’t be bored if you truly enjoy the company of your own mind.
Be curious about boredom.

In this week's episode, I explore why boredom is an opportunity to assess your life and get to know yourself, how to use boredom to your advantage, and how to intentionally practice being bored.

#TTM EP. 23 - BE BORED // SELF ENQUIRY

When was the last time you let yourself be bored?

Assess yourself and think about what you do when you’re bored.

Can you hold your own boredom?
Do you use it for you or do you use it against you?
Look around at the people in your life. Notice what they do when they’re bored.
Does what they do when they’re bored serve them?

FEATURED ON THE SHOW:

Ep. 3 MEDITATION ON BREATH
Ep. 5 MEDITATION ON SENSATIONS
Ep. 12 MEDITATION ON THOUGHTS
Ep. 8 DREAM WITH DISCIPLINE

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#TTM EP. 22 - RIGHT DECISIONS

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Decisions are the ultimate power we have in our lives.

We make decisions all the time. If we don’t become aware of our decisions, we choose them unconsciously. What we are not changing, we are choosing.

We seem to believe that right or wrong is something that exists outside of us and outside of our choice of thought. Our happiness is not based on making a right or wrong decision. Our happiness depends on how we think about that decision.

The process of evaluating our life in a way that gives us our power back is very important.  It often doesn’t mean we will change what we are doing, but it will change how we feel about it.

In this week's episode, I explore what is a decision, and what to consider when making right decisions.

#TTM EP. 22 - RIGHT DECISIONS // SELF ENQUIRY

• Look at the six most important decisions you have ever made. These are the decisions that have defined your life. This will include decisions you have made about what to do and decisions you have made about what not to do. Write about how powerful this decision has been in your life. How has it shaped who you are and the results you have created?

• Look at the daily repeated decisions you are making whether you are aware of them or not. These are the consistent decisions you make that create results in your life. Think about the last 24 hours and write down three decisions you have made that created a significant result in your life. It could be working on a project, or what you eat/drink. Evaluate each of these daily decisions that impacted your life. What causes you to make the decisions you make? Do you want to continue making these or not?

• Explore your unmade decisions. This is a statement of decisions you have been putting off making or not making consciously in your life. Consider that anything is possible—you don’t have to do anything and you have many options.

• Let’s make some BIG decisions.  What is a decision you want to make now?  What are the obstacles/challenges to this decision? How will you overcome them? How will this decision help you generate power in your life?

FEATURED ON THE SHOW:

Ep. 9 BELIEVING ON PURPOSE
Ep. 19 CREATING ON PURPOSE OR THE HOW
Ep. 21 BLAME IS NOT A STRATEGY

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#TTM EP. 21 - BLAME IS NOT A STRATEGY
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We are responsible for how we feel in every moment. We are in charge of how we think and we are in charge of how we feel.

We think that everything that's going on in our life is what is causing our feelings, it is the most disempowering thing that we can do, to keep ourselves in a space of blame.

Emotional responsibility is when we decide to take full responsibility for every single thing we feel, no matter what someone else does or doesn't do.

In this week's episode, I explore the difference between blame and responsibility, and how you can completely take your life into your own hands by taking responsibility for your thoughts, your feelings, and actions.

#TTM EP. 21 - BLAME IS NOT A STRATEGY // SELF ENQUIRY

1. Think of someone in your life who you think causes you pain, discomfort, or stress.

2. How do you assign them responsibility for your emotions?

3. When you think about a specific situation with them, can you find the thought you had about their action that caused your emotion? Be very clear.

• What was their action?
• What was your thought?
• What was your emotion?

4. Take a minute and make a list of people you have blamed for your emotions or actions in the past. Make a note of the specific thing you have blamed them for doing.

5. How might you have behaved differently if you had never blamed these people? How has blaming them disempowered you?

6. Imagine your life where you don’t blame anyone for how you think, feel, act, or for any of the results you create in your life. How could your life be different?

7. Think about the times when you blame circumstances for how you think, feel, or act. How might you change this? How might you only assign responsibility to yourself for all of your own thoughts, feelings, and actions?

FEATURED ON THE SHOW:

Ep. 13 HOW TO FEEL BETTER
Ep. 14 HOW TO FEEL BAD

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TTM#20 LIVING YOUR PURPOSE

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How do I get passionate?  How do I find out what my purpose is?
As if you will find something outside of you that will provide you with the feeling of passion. As if you will find some purpose outside of you that will provide you with that feeling.

Your passion is not outside of you and this is your power. And what if there is no defined purpose you have to  ‘find’ in your life? What if you are the one creating your purpose and contribution to the world? Not because you have to, but because you want to. 

Your purpose in life is not the job you do—it’s who you are. No matter what your job or your circumstances are, you get to be the person who fulfills your purpose. 

In this episode, I share tools on how to speak the language of passion, and how to know what your magical purpose is.

TTM#20 LIVING YOUR PURPOSE - SELF ENQUIRY

• Are you living in alignment with how you want to purposefully spend your time?
• What do you do best with the least amount of effort? Brainstorm ideas, possibilities, dreams, and desires related to your purpose.
• Make a list of everything you will do (or have done) today that relates to your
• purpose. Record any thoughts on this list.
• What obstacles have you overcome and what problems have you created solutions for? How can you share those with other people?

FEATURED ON THE SHOW:

Ep. 13 HOW TO FEEL BETTER
Ep. 14 HOW TO FEEL BAD
Ep. 17 WHY SETTING GOALS
Ep. 18 WHAT DO YOU WANT?!
Ep. 19 CREATING ON PURPOSE OR THE HOW

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TTM#19 CREATING ON PURPOSE OR THE HOW

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When we understand that we are the ones responsible for creating everything we have in our lives, then we can begin using our minds to create what we truly want.

If you apply and practice the strategies used in this episode, you will never again have to wait and hope for things to miraculously appear in your life.

In this episode, I share the process for creating what you want in your life, explore the difference between wanting to believe something and actually believing it, and what is the exact HOW to achieving your goals.

MODEL: THOUGHT -> FEELING -> ACTION -> RESULT.

TTM#19 CREATING ON PURPOSE OR THE HOW - SELF ENQUIRY

Create YOUR HOW: Find out a thought/belief that will create the result you want (RESULT = your goal/dream/desire):

1. What is the result that you want in your life? What is it you want to create? Write it down. (RESULT)
2. What are the actions that you need to take to accomplish that result, to create that result, to have that result be the effect? What will you have to do? (ACTION)
3. What will you have to feel in order to take that action? (FEELING)
4. What will you need to think in order to feel that way? (THOUGHT)

MODEL in reverse: RESULT -> ACTION -> FEELING -> THOUGHT.

Practice believing:

1. Write down your belief that will create the result you want (in 4.)
2. Memorize, repeat.
3. Visualize, and practice with the emotion of that belief.

FEATURED ON THE SHOW:

Ep. 9 BELIEVING ON PURPOSE
Ep. 10 USEFUL BELIEFS
Ep. 14 HOW TO FEEL BAD
Ep. 17 WHY SETTING GOALS
Ep. 18 WHAT DO YOU WANT?!

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TTM#18 WHAT DO YOU WANT?

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​​In a perfect world, what do you really want?

Sometimes we don’t even let ourselves consider what we truly want because admitting it to ourselves is scary. Good news: it’s supposed to be scary.

It takes courage to tune in and allow our true desires to come up to the surface. 
But this is the only way we can give ourselves the gift of living our purpose.

In this episode, I explore why we want what we want, how to know what we truly want, and why self-awareness is the first step to living your purpose.

TTM#18 WHAT DO YOU WANT? - SELF ENQUIRY

• What do you really want? In a perfect world, if you could have whatever you wanted, what do you really want?

• How does it look exactly? How would you know if you have it? What exactly would it be? What exactly does it look like? 

• What are you afraid to know because it’s so scary? What is a want that you don’t even acknowledge because it makes you so afraid?

• What are you willing to do to honour your own desire? How much fear are you willing to feel and go through? Do you believe that your want is possible? Do you believe that your desire matters? Do you allow yourself to consider that you can have exactly what you want in your life?

FEATURED ON THE SHOW:

Ep. 14 HOW TO FEEL BAD
Ep. 16 DISCOMFORT ON PURPOSE
Ep. 17 WHY SETTING GOALS

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TTM#17 WHY SETTING GOALS

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A great life is determined by the amazing goals you commit to, not necessarily achieve. What? 

When we set a goal and go after it with a willingness to fail, we will gain enormous wisdom, experience, understanding, and self-knowledge.
These are the strategic byproducts that are often more valuable than the attainment of the initial vision.
It’s not what you get from achieving the goal, it’s who you become in the process.

In this episode I discuss why setting goals is a spiritual practice, and what is the goal of setting goals if they will not make us happy anyway?


TTM#17 WHY SETTING GOALS - SELF ENQUIRY

Do you dream? Do you think about the future? Do you plan on what you want to create?

Pick one goal. Constrain. Get specific. Talk about your goal in the present tense.

Who will you need to become to achieve this goal?

How will you be different from who you are now? What skills would you need to develop?

How hard are you believing in yourself?

What are your obstacles and strategies for overcoming those obstacles?

What would you do if you knew you wouldn’t fail?

Every action that you do in your day, ask yourself this question, “Does this get me long-term success or short-term pleasure? And how do I want to define my life? Do I want to define it on short-term pleasure or long-term success?”

FEATURED ON THE SHOW:

Ep. 8 DREAM WITH DISCIPLINE
Ep. 9 BELIEVING ON PURPOSE
Ep. 13 HOW TO FEEL BETTER
Ep. 14 HOW TO FEEL BAD
Ep. 16 DISCOMFORT ON PURPOSE

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TTM#16 DISCOMFORT ON PURPOSE

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Growth is hard.
It’s not something we do naturally or willingly. If left to our own devices we will stagnate.
In order for us to grow into the next version of ourselves, we are going to be uncomfortable.
However, if we are growing or not, we will feel discomfort either way.
Discomfort of growth or discomfort of stagnation.
So the goal is not to be uncomfortable and hope that our dreams will come true, it’s about choosing the right discomfort that serves us and moves us forward instead of holding us back.

In this week’s episode, I explore, why growing matters, how discomfort is an inevitable part of growth, the discomfort of stagnation vs the discomfort of growth, and how seeking comfort leads us to long-term discomfort.

TTM#16 DISCOMFORT ON PURPOSE - SELF ENQUIRY

• What do you think about discomfort?
• Think about a goal you want to achieve / a version of yourself you want to be. What are you afraid of? Look at the discomfort that you may be avoiding.
• Are you experiencing discomfort right now? Is this discomfort that is serving you or that is harming you? What are your thoughts? Do they move you forward or hold you back?
• Self-care for me is...
• Growth matters to me because...

FEATURED ON THE SHOW:

Ep. 8 DREAM WITH DISCIPLINE
Ep. 13 HOW TO FEEL BETTER
Ep. 14 HOW TO FEEL BAD
Ep. 15 BE A YES AND SAY NO

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TTM#15 BE A YES AND SAY NO

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Say No if Yes is a lie.

In this week's episode, I explore the importance of letting go of certain things and people in our life, why people pleasing is not kindness, the process of setting boundaries and the positive effect saying NO has on our mental health, and WHY it is so hard for us to say NO.

TTM#15 BE A YES AND SAY NO - SELF ENQUIRY

Take an inventory of what you currently have, and become aware.
Do this with things in your life, your house, your friendships, with people, jobs, habits, etc.

Pick a category and make a list.

Go through and decide on purpose if you want to say YES/NO. 

So how do you know when to say no?

Ask yourself:
Would I invite this into my life today?
Would I be friends with this person right now?
Would I buy it again today?
Would I start a relationship with this person if we met today?
Would I adopt this way of thinking today? 
Do I love this today?
Do I want it today?
Is it serving me?
Is it outdated?
Is it something I used to love that used to serve me and it no longer is?

If you think about that version of yourself you are moving towards and want to become, ask yourself, is this version, my future self, having those things, those friends, those relationships, those thoughts, beliefs, and actions? 

And then you say NO and let go.

And let yourself feel the loss. 

And then once you've said NO to those things, then you have space to create what you want, for the things that are a YES.
As with all decisions, you commit to the NO and do not look back.
Allow an ending to be what it is. Choose not to regret. That is a decision that you get to make. Stay true to your NOs so you can move forward to YESs.

FEATURED ON THE SHOW:

Ep. 9 BELIEVING ON PURPOSE
Ep. 13 HOW TO FEEL BETTER
Ep. 14 HOW TO FEEL BAD

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