Better Divorce Podcast

About Tanya:

Tanya N. Helfand, Partner, Schenck Price Smith & King. Tanya has three decades of legal experience, and focuses her practice on Family Law and Divorce. She is a Certified Matrimonial Attorney and, prior to joining Schenck Price, had her own practice for 25 years. Tanya has an extensive business background, which is extremely helpful with all areas of her practice. Tanya is also an author.

Summary:

In this episode of the Better Divorce Podcast, host Paulette Rigo and guest Tanya Helfand, a certified matrimonial attorney, discuss essential tips for navigating divorce. They cover the importance of effective communication with lawyers, gathering financial information, the emotional impact of divorce on children, and the necessity of full disclosure during proceedings. Tanya emphasizes the need for clients to empower themselves with knowledge and to avoid unnecessary conflict, while also highlighting the importance of working with therapists alongside legal counsel. The conversation provides valuable insights for anyone facing divorce, aiming to help them make informed decisions and minimize emotional turmoil.

Takeaways:

• It's crucial to communicate clearly with your attorney.
• Gather your financial information before consulting a lawyer.
• Working with a therapist can help during the divorce process.
• Children are affected by how parents speak about each other.
• Avoid unnecessary conflict to protect your children.
• Full disclosure is essential for fair settlements.
• Divorce can be a catalyst for personal growth.
• Knowledge and information empower clients in divorce.
• Understanding the legal process can reduce anxiety.
• Cooperation can lead to better outcomes in divorce.

Chapters:

• 00:00 Introduction to Divorce Insights
• 03:03 Understanding the Role of a Matrimonial Attorney
• 06:02 Effective Communication with Your Lawyer
• 08:48 Gathering Financial Information for Divorce
• 11:54 Navigating Discovery in Divorce Proceedings
• 15:11 The Emotional Impact of Divorce on Children
• 18:10 Avoiding Conflict and Fostering Cooperation
• 20:53 The Importance of Full Disclosure
• 23:55 Empowering Clients Through Knowledge
• 27:11 Final Thoughts and Resources

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Join Paulette and Lesa for this conversation about 7 Dilemmas of Divorce.

About Lesa:

Lesa Koski is an Attorney turned Mediator.

Chapters

00:00

Introduction

01:23

The Seven Divorce Dilemmas

02:33

Dilemma 1: Finances

03:25

Dilemma 2: Co-Parenting and Children

04:32

Dilemma 3: Emotions

05:23

Dilemma 4: Judgment and Stigma

06:19

Dilemma 5: Legal Aspects of Divorce

07:47

Conclusion

36:27

The Benefits of Mediation and Divorce Coaching

37:23

Housing Dilemmas in Divorce

39:00

The Importance of Making Informed Decisions about Keeping or Selling the Family Home

40:50

Navigating Real Estate and Mortgage Considerations in Divorce

43:22

Addressing Loneliness and Emotional Challenges in Divorce

53:01

Finding Fulfillment and Purpose After Divorce

Dr. Anissa Reilly has been in education for over 30 years. For just under the last 15, she has been the principal of an elementary school in a large urban school district. She received her undergraduate degree from Morgan State University in Baltimore, Maryland, her master's degree from Bank Street College of Education, and her doctorate from The Sage Colleges of Albany. She is the president and owner of

Giant Step 6 LLC. Her primary goal and passion as the senior consultant is to develop national and global leaders so they can effectively lead their perspective organization. She is the loving wife of Gordon Reilly Jr. and the mother of four amazing young people. She recently received proclamations from New York State Senator Jose Serrano and New York City Council Woman Vanessa Gibson for her assistance with improving the lives of the people in her community. The first book in her leadership series, “5 Buckets of Leadership: Speaking in the Moment” is soon to be released on Amazon. The date for the release of her children’s book series about an African-American female educational superhero named, Dr. Action, is soon to be scheduled. For more information, visit our website: GiantStep6LLC.com.

and Anissa is also the Host of:

The Ask Dr. Reilly Show is a 20-30 minutes, one-one-one session with young and mature women (and sometimes men) where we discuss the traumatic issues that are faced in the inner cities. This living room like discussion focuses on abuse, sexual issues like rape, domestic violence, and sexuality, that impact our community. The host, Dr. Anissa Reilly is a success story. She received her doctorate in spite of suffering from Post- Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) from issues like those she discusses on the show. She has embraced the “Wounded Healer” archetype as described by psychologist Carl Jung. As a result her soon to be released book, “The Wounded Healer: Turning Life’s Messes into Messages of Hope-From Violence to Victory” is bound to be a best seller. Movie ideas are also in the works. The Ask Dr. Reilly show is the first individual programming for the OSG Network scheduled to stream on Dame Dash Studios. For more information sign

up at AskDrReilly.com or visit the YouTube channel at Youtube.com/AskDrReilly.

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About Kate:

Kate Anthony, author, critically acclaimed podcast host, and high conflict divorce coach, is not afraid to initiate tough conversations about relationships, domestic violence, and the cultural implications of our patriarchal society. In her book, The D Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage, Kate dives deeply into the importance of self-work and the cultural understanding of marriage in order to sustain healthy interpersonal relationships. She serves clients across the globe through her private coaching, group programs, and her wildly popular online program,“Should I Stay or Should I Go.” Kate equips her clients with the tools they need to identify abusive relationships, and feel empowered to make decisions for themselves and their children while feeling validated and supported. Her number-one-ranked podcast, The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast, recommended by the New York Times, has reached over three million downloads and Kate has been featured as an expert in The New York Times, Forbes, Newsweek, and Pure Wow

Summary:

In this episode of the Better Divorce podcast, host Paulette Rigo and guest Kate Anthony delve into the complexities of divorce, sharing personal stories and insights on the decision-making process. They discuss the emotional turmoil surrounding the decision to divorce, the aftermath of separation, and the importance of self-discovery in the journey towards healing. The conversation emphasizes the significance of understanding one's own needs and desires post-divorce, encouraging listeners to embrace new beginnings and prioritize their happiness. In this conversation, Kate Anthony and Paulette Rigo explore the journey of self-discovery and empowerment following divorce. They discuss the importance of reconnecting with one's inner guide, rediscovering joy and interests, embracing change, and finding happiness in being single. The dialogue emphasizes the significance of personal growth and the freedom to explore new experiences, ultimately encouraging listeners to take charge of their lives and pursue what truly makes them happy.

Chapters:

00:00 Introduction to Divorce Season

06:59 The Decision-Making Process

17:01 Embracing New Beginnings

24:30 Self-Discovery After Divorce

30:16 Connecting with Your Inner Guide

36:36 Embracing Change and New Experiences

41:58 The Journey of Self-Discovery

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Summary:

In this conversation, Paulette Rigo and Mikelann Valterra delve into the intricate relationship between divorce and finances. They explore how financial anxiety disproportionately affects women, the emotional aspects of money management, and the importance of understanding one's money story. Mikelann shares her journey to becoming a money coach, emphasizing the need for emotional support in financial planning, especially during life transitions like divorce. The discussion also highlights the differences in how men and women approach financial anxiety and the significance of addressing these feelings to regain control over one's financial future. In this conversation, Mikelann Valterra and Paulette Rigo discuss the importance of financial planning and awareness, especially for women navigating life after divorce. They explore the concept of creating a financial blueprint, understanding individual money personalities, and the historical shifts in women's financial empowerment. The discussion emphasizes the need for clarity in financial matters and the emotional aspects tied to money management, providing practical advice for those contemplating divorce or seeking to improve their financial literacy.

Takeaways

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Divorce and Finances

06:01 Understanding Money Stories and Their Impact

12:08 Gender Differences in Financial Anxiety

18:04 Navigating the Transition Post-Divorce

27:34 Understanding Money Personalities and Their Impact

35:43 Simplifying Finances for Clarity and Control

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About Donna:

Donna's come up with two fun and memorable messages to help kids save themselves and become effective responders when emergencies arise. Comparing life to the ocean makes her presentations thrilling. She speaks at schools, athletic events, churches, and youth organizations. The entertained young audiences frequently ask and wonder why they don't hear this stuff more often, so she wrote BREAK THAT GRIP...Lessons From The Ocean of Life, that became an Amazon Bestseller. Donna's on a mission to help kids learn to soothe overpowering emotions which are leading to a record number of deaths by suicide.

Summary:

In this episode of the Better Divorce podcast, Paulette Rigo interviews Donna Bollinger, an expert in heart health and CPR, who shares her personal journey through divorce and how it led her to advocate for heart health awareness. The conversation explores the physical and emotional impacts of divorce, the importance of self-love and faith, and how CPR techniques can be applied to emotional resilience. Donna emphasizes the need for understanding and compassion during the divorce process, both for oneself and for others involved, including children. The episode concludes with a call to empower future generations to navigate relationships and challenges with love and unity.

Takeaways:

Chapters:

00:00 Introduction to Heart Health and Divorce

06:39 Understanding the Physical Impact of Divorce

11:47 The Importance of Self-Love and Faith

21:27 Navigating Divorce: The Role of Attorneys

28:55 Empowering Future Generations

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Dr. Cohen is a clinical psychologist. She is the CEO and founder of the online divorce course and membership Afterglow: The Light at the Other Side of Divorce.

Dr. Cohen is the CEO of the Center for CBT in NYC. Dr. Cohen’s online course teaches women how to heal, grow and thrive after divorce no matter how difficult the process has been.

Dr. Cohen received her PhD in clinical psychology from Boston University. She was the recipient of the prestigious American Psychological Foundation Research Award for her research on the emotional effects of 9/11.

She has been featured on the Tamron Hall Show, the Wall Street Journal, NBC News, Women’s Health, Huff Post, Thrive Global, Daily Beast and Good Housekeeping.

Dr. Cohen is a weekly contributor to Psychology Today with her “Divorce Course” column.

Dr. Cohen hosts the Divorce Doctor podcast where she interviews people about their divorce experiences.

Dr. Cohen’s book based on her Afterglow program entitled, Light at The Other Side of Divorce: Discovering the New You will be published in April 2021.

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About Brynn:

Brynn started babysitting so she could afford to buy CDs at the mall. What began as a fun way to earn cash turned into a 20+ year career in nannying and household management. She has seen your struggles: constantly juggling, the guilt and stress, burnout, the effects of divorce, and everything in-between. Helping others has always been her purpose, supporting parents through both the joys and chaos of home life. When you speak with Brynn you will immediately feel her passion and love for what she does, knowing you have found the right support within moments.

Summary:

In this episode of the Better Divorce Podcast, Paulette Rigo and Brynn Ungerleiter discuss the critical role of nannies in supporting families during divorce. They explore how nannies can provide emotional stability for children, the importance of consistency in their routines, and the challenges of co-parenting. Brynn shares her insights on the effects of divorce on children and how nannies can bridge the gap between two households. The conversation also touches on the cost analysis of hiring a nanny and the value they bring to families, emphasizing that nannies are accessible to all income levels.

Takeaways:

Nannies provide emotional support during divorce.

Consistency in childcare helps children thrive.

Divorce can disrupt children's routines and emotions.

Nannies can facilitate better co-parenting dynamics.

Respecting children's feelings is crucial for their development.

Hiring a nanny can free up valuable family time.

Nannies can help manage household tasks effectively.

The cost of a nanny can be justified by the time saved.

Nannies are beneficial for families of all income levels.

Creating a nurturing environment is essential for children.

Chapters:

00:00 Introduction to Divorce and Childcare

07:00 The Role of Nannies in Divorce

14:58 Effects of Divorce on Children

19:56 Navigating Confidentiality and Privacy in Caregiving

25:27 Emotional Development in Children

32:01 Navigating Divorce and Its Impact on Children

38:48 Cost Analysis and Return on Investment for Nanny Services

45:56 Divorce and Its Effects on Children

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Also known as the Media Maven

Sales leader, speaker, and social media expert. She has secured millions of dollars in revenue for fortune 500 companies over her almost 20-year career. She has been a winner of the Presidents Club award 3 years in a row.

She is certified as a SalesForce and HubSpot administrator and an expert with social media platforms such as Instagram and LinkedIn.

She is a believer that with the proper use of social media platforms clients can and will build a new pipeline of new clients quickly.

Her years of experience and education provide clients with new processes and procedures that increase revenue and build baseline recurring income.

Bernadette believes in true lead generation to build new revenue in your business.

You can find everything you want to know all about Bernadette on her website: 

http://bernadettebpannier.com/

and her pages: 

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Michelle Dempsey-Multack MS, CDS, is a writer, mom, coach, certified divorce specialist (TM) (CDS), speaker, and genuine girl power enthusiast. She graduated from Hofstra University with a degree in journalism and communication and then earned a double masters degree in education from Adelphi University. She hosts the weekly podcast Moms Moving On, and writes regularly for Parents, Scary Mommy, and others. A former New Yorker, she now lives in Miami with her husband, daughter, and stepdaughter.

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