Better Divorce Podcast

Join Paulette and Lisa for this conversation about the legal and financial aspects of divorce and gain the insight you need to secure just the right match. 

Lisa Zeiderman is a high-energy, zealous and relentless advocate for her divorce and family law clients in New York City, Westchester and beyond. 

You can rely on her to protect your legal interests, your finances and your children. 

Ms. Zeiderman, a Managing Partner, is a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst and Certified Financial Litigator, known for her work on complex litigation regarding financial and custody divorce matters, as well as pre- and post-nuptial agreements in New York City and Westchester County. 

She is also very active in her community and civic organizations and has an ongoing media and LinkedIn presence which enables her to put together an interdisciplinary team to ensure each client has access to the top professionals in each discipline they might need as they embark on a divorce. Ms. Zeiderman’s recent accolades and activities include: 

Awards and peer/client recognitions Crain’s New York Business Notable Woman Lawyer for 2022 

Crain’s New York Notable Diverse Lawyer for 2022 

Hudson Valley Best Lawyer in 2022 2021 

Best Family Law Attorney for Client Satisfaction by the American Institute of Family Law 

Attorneys Super Lawyer in Family Law for 2020, 2021 and 2022 

Maintains a 10 rating on Avvo Client Champion for 2019, 2020 

Thought leader and author Authors well-read blog for Psychology Today, “Legal Matters: Understanding Mental Health Issues as They Apply to Divorce and Child Custody” Regularly published in The New York Law Journal and Financial Advisor Magazine on topics ranging from changes in New York State law that affect family law, complex litigation, tax issues and child custody. 

Is a frequent guest on podcasts discussing divorce, family law, financial matters, and financial empowerment for women. 

As a Certified Financial Litigator and founding member of the American Academy of Certified Financial Litigators, Ms. Zeiderman also brings particular experience in complex financial matters, including issues involving complex executive compensation, deferred compensation, restricted stock units (RSU) as well as retirement assets. 

Her approach to matrimonial and family law often includes enlisting an interdisciplinary team, including mental health professionals, financial advisors, career counselors and real estate advisors. 

This enables her to create an integrated approach for clients and their families going through a divorce that doesn’t begin and end with negotiating the settlement agreement. 

She also works with cases that involve mental health issues including narcissism and borderline personality, and she regularly consults with mental health professionals on these matters. 

https://lisazeiderman.com/

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Meet Torrey! She is a powerhouse wealth of wisdom that you don't want to miss. 

She is a California licensed therapist that recently released her new book “Surviving to Thriving” which quickly hit Amazon’s #1 Single Parenting New Release list.  She joins me to today to talk about the real struggles of co-parenting and family blending during a global pandemic.

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YOGA IS MY TRUE PASSION...

The practice found me over ten years ago and has followed me around with nurturing love ever since.

My yoga experience began at Charlestown Yoga in Boston, Massachusetts while volunteering for a non-profit organization that offered alternative healing services to veterans. In exchange, I was able to take yoga classes at the studio.

I soon became a regular, sometimes taking two, even three classes each day. Simultaneously, I experienced a couple of unexpected lay-offs from my jobs in online advertising sales and this opened up some space to make what was initially a physical practice a very spiritual journey for me.

With the completion of my 200-hour yoga teacher certification in 2007, I began to pursue my teaching career in yoga. First, managing the studio part-time and then, teaching as many classes as I could in and around Boston.

This journey through my practice has paved the path for many of the challenges I would face later on in a way that nothing else could have prepared me for.

In 2011, at age 35, I was teaching yoga and running a Bed & Breakfast on Martha's Vineyard when I was diagnosed with stage 2/3 triple-negative breast cancer. My life turned upside down. Planning a wedding turned into deciding on a treatment plan for the following year. 16 chemo treatments, two surgeries and 30 days of radiation is what followed.

That is what my treatment looked like on paper, but I believe I was saved because of yoga, the community at MGH, and my 'tribe'. Students would pop up with messages of love and support when I least expected it, at hospitals, on the street, along with various other places and in moments that you couldn't predict if you tried. I practiced hot power yoga the day after chemo with a bald head, surrounded by my tribe.

This is what yoga is, a place where we can turn things off and look inside ourselves, without judgment or ego but with vulnerability and humble love. I am 7 years cancer-free, a wife and a mother of two small children. I have faith and hope and yoga taught me that.

My students and colleagues continually inspire and teach me so much about myself. This is what I hope to share with you - on and off the mat.

Namaste.

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3 TOP TIPS you can use NOW for todays top Break-Up Coach! 

If you are struggling with getting over your ex you need to listen to this podcast. 

To learn now about Dorothy ...check her out here...

Website: ⁠https://www.dorothyabjohnson.com/⁠

Podcast: How to Get Over Your Ex - ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-get-over-your-ex/id1484403141⁠

Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/breakupcoachdorothy/

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Join Paulette and Michelle for this conversation on The Brilliant Art of Parallel Parenting in High Conflict Divorce

About Michelle:

Coach Michelle is a high conflict resolution coach, an attorney, and a badass single mom. She helps parents disengage from high conflict relationships, getting them out of court, and stepping back into their lives. Her unique combination as a certified Martha Beck life coach, a lawyer for almost 20 years, her field of study in Psychology, and her own personal family law experience, makes Michelle a well-rounded coach, capable of helping parents learn how to disengage from a challenging and protracted co-parenting relationship.

Topics Michelle and Paulette discuss in today's episode: 

• The fastest way to get out of family court and step back into your life is to disengage from the conflict.

• It only takes one parent to disengage.

• Disengaging from the conflict does NOT mean letting go of your reasonable boundaries.

• When you’re forced to go to court, it is vital that you prepare yourself to disengage from the conflict.

• In family court, there’s really no such thing as “winning”.

• You can’t move forward with living your best life if you’re stuck in the trenches in family court.

Michelle was the first person in her family to go to college or graduate school, earning a Bachelor of Arts in Psychology and Philosophy, as well as her Juris Doctorate.

• She has always been passionate about helping people overcome life’s obstacles, and re-inventing themselves.

• Michelle was raising her son as a single mom when she was 38, and she chose to have a second child on her own at 40. Parenting her two kids and raising them to appreciate the importance of social justice and equality is what she is most proud of.

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Join Paulette and Randall for this conversation on Helping women coming out of divorce and starting over consider the entrepreneurial path.

About Randall:

A serial entrepreneur and constant learner driven by the thrill of turning passions into profitable ventures!

Follow Randall via Instagram https://www.instagram.com/therandallray and connect on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/randallray10/

Takeaways:

Chapters:

00:00 Introduction and Background

03:11 Becoming an Entrepreneur

08:16 Overcoming Fear and Taking Risks

11:58 Unlocking Your Entrepreneurial Potential

14:41 Helping Women Start Their Own Businesses

21:12 Narrowing Down Your Business Ideas

22:21 Finding Your Passion and Narrowing Down Business Ideas

25:04 Exploring Different Types of Businesses

28:54 Setting Goals and Overcoming Limiting Beliefs

29:42 Solving Problems and Contributing to Society

31:13 Understanding the Timeline for Starting a Business

34:54 Having a Clear Vision and Mindset

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Join Paulette and Trevor for this conversation on People Value You as Much as You Value Yourself.

About Trevor:

Trevor Justice is a relationship coach who specializes in anxious attachment relationship skills, as well as the author of Attract Love and Respect: 5 Ways to Be Valued in Your Relationships.

Tune in to a special episode of "Mom Betch," where Paulette joins hosts Celia and Camellia to discuss how mothers can manage divorce wisely.

About Celia:

As a dynamic leader with over 13 years of digital experience, I've thrived on uncovering business opportunities and leveraging revenue-driven technology to solve them. Building incredible teams, to me, is a blend of learning, execution, and trusting my instincts. Since becoming a mom, I've seized the chance to support women by sharing my knowledge and fostering a community of empowerment through resourceful information. I'm passionate about growth, stability, and embracing diverse perspectives, all of which guide my leadership approach. Through mentorship and advocacy, I strive to make a positive impact both in the business world and in the lives of others.

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IG: itsceliabetch & mombetch

About Cami:

As a dedicated mother with a background in Biomedical and Physical Science, I bring a unique perspective to the Mom Betch podcast. My passion for sharing knowledge and supporting fellow moms aligns perfectly with the podcast's mission to empower and inform. With my natural inclination for social interaction and helping others, I can contribute to engaging conversations that resonate with our audience. By co-hosting the Mom Betch podcast, I have the opportunity to leverage my expertise to provide valuable insights, foster meaningful connections, and ultimately make a positive impact in the lives of our listeners.

c[email protected]

IG @camibetch

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Join Paulette and Molly for this conversation on why therapy and coaching is so important during and after the divorce process. There is a beautiful life waiting for them on the other side of this storm.

About Molly:

I provide life coaching services specifically designed to open up lines of communication on difficult topics. My approach is designed with love and light – no judgment or criticism! Through my tailored program of action plans and personal growth techniques, I can help you feel seen, heard and find joy again.

Takeaways:

Chapters:

00:00 Introduction and Background

03:56 Thriving Through Divorce, Blended Families, and Loss

08:59 Helping Children Understand and Cope with Loss

13:17 The Importance of Co-Parenting and Communication

23:16 Tailoring the Conversation and Co-Parenting Approach to Children's Needs

Join Paulette and Bela for this conversation on The Secrets to Dating Successfully After Divorce. We can talk about:

About Bela:

Bela Gandhi of Smart Dating Academy, is a nationally acclaimed dating & relationship expert. SDA offers the best tips to start to date smarter to help you find real and lasting love. Bela is a sought out correspondent and works with all major networks including Steve Harvey, NBC, ABC, FOX, CNN, JET, Essence, Forbes, WGN, and more...

Takeaways:

Dating after divorce can be daunting and overwhelming, but it is possible to have a successful and fulfilling experience.

Learning from past mistakes and not repeating patterns is crucial in starting a new relationship.

Having a support system and seeking guidance from experts can help navigate the challenges of dating after divorce.

Identifying red flags in potential partners and setting boundaries is important for creating healthy and fulfilling relationships.

Chapters:

00:00 Introduction and Fear of Dating After Divorce

06:22 The Importance of a Support System and Expert Guidance

13:04 Identifying Red Flags and Deal Breakers

24:20 Success Stories and the Importance of Investing in Yourself