Bevin: A Femme Over 40 and her Friends

I had the opportunity to go on my first cruise and it surprised me! I had a lot of preconceived ideas about cruising. I'm grateful I was willing to be open minded and try it out! I had such a wonderful time and had a great time recounting them in this episode! Enjoy our visit in the woods and check out my you tube Cruise Vlog playlist as I roll out the content I filmed while on my adventure with Rachael!
My Cruise Vlog: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL8cdaubmjKdI2fXkNoynG7H9srmkbtyiK
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The more years I experience, the more healing I do, the less I feel the need to be right or defend myself. I used to be SO defensive that any kind of criticism or loving concern came across as threatening and would shut me down or rile me up.
Our spirit knows mistakes are part of life & will readily say I’m sorry but the ego gets so caught up in defending mistakes it ignores the impact it has on others.
This episode I reflect on not needing to protect myself from how people perceive me. If there's nothing to defend, it feels so free and that comes from an internal sense of safety developed through healing authority trauma. And since filming this a few days ago I've had even more aha moments--more to come on this topic!

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What I'm learning, what I'm launching, what I'm leaving behind. Happy eclipse season beloveds, join me on the virtual porch!

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Sarah Lyn Rogers is a writer whose recent collection of poems, Cosmic Tantrum, delves into codependent and transactional relationships. She also edits manuscripts and helps writers get their own work across the finish line. We talk MFAs as accountability tools (and releasing them when no longer needed), living in Bhutan, Gilmore Girls and Grey Gardens.

Sarah's Website: sarahlynrogers.com

Sarah on IG: https://www.instagram.com/sarahlynwrites

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Internet sensation, author and fellow advocate for self-kindness Jeffrey Marsh joins me to talk about making difficult choices to prioritize our peace! Sometimes the most loving thing we can do for ourselves is to choose to go no contact with family. We discuss the new frontier of social media, the distinction between being kind and being "nice" and attention as a human need. If releasing shame is on your personal growth agenda, knowing Jeffrey will multiply your efforts.

Previous episode with Jeffrey: Audio episode 77 & on you tube: https://youtu.be/TOnQl4vCRtw?si=RAi0r2qvD8aUG7is

Jeffrey's website: https://www.jeffreymarsh.com/

Jeffrey on socials: @jeffreymarsh

Support the podcast!

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Tee shirts: https://genuinevalentine.com/collections/fat-kid-dance-party
Instagram: @fatkiddanceparty @bevinsparty

Work one on one with me: https://queerfatfemme.com/one-on-one-with-bevin/

You Tube Channel:
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A.P. Looze is a human love letter to a life lived queerly. A performance artist, photographer, textile artist, vexillographer, Akashic records practitioner and so much more… A.P. contains multitudes. Their coming out story is hilarious!

We talk about what it means to embody queerness, how getting rooted in our queer lineages is so vital to the experience. How we center love in our movements. The opening about experiencing light and color as senses!!
A.P. on IG: wahoolooze

A.P. Links:
linktree.com/aplooze

Support the podcast!

Patreon.com/fkdp (you can follow for free and get updates and freebies from me!)
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Instagram: @fatkiddanceparty @bevinsparty
Work one on one with me: https://queerfatfemme.com/one-on-one-with-bevin/
You Tube Channel:
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Blog: queerfatfemme.com
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Community means you keep showing up! I am feeling very blessed and enriched by my in person and online communities right now. In these times having community is so vital to getting our needs and resources met. Belonging is an actual human need--I talk about how to bring your own safe place to community, how to develop it, the importance of vulnerability and tips for facilitating community.

I also talk about focusing on where our values intersect in community versus politics or identities. I have spoken about identifying your personal values in these episodes: 96 with Colin Bedell and episode 111 (solo) discerning your personal values.

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Work one on one with me: https://queerfatfemme.com/one-on-one-with-bevin/
You Tube Channel:
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Blog: queerfatfemme.com
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Unconventional life choices during a Saturn Return! Koi is a Taurus, a Burner and an explorer who has figured out life on the road as a car camper and a converted school bus. Van life is totally a learning curve and we talk about problem solving as a digital nomad. How do you care for yourself on the road? Koi is a queer friendly event producer and his (currently in New Mexico but will travel with him) event Pandemonium is linked below!

Koi's blog: https://www.queervagabond.com/

Koi's Hair website: https://www.dread-king.com/

Koi's IG: https://www.instagram.com/queervagabond

Koi's Queer Event IG: https://www.instagram.com/pandemonium_nm

I referenced another episode I released with Meredith about boondocking with a video tour of her sleep-in truck. Episode 112 audio or video here: https://youtu.be/6OlUfjC-LEo

Support the podcast!

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Amazon Wishlist: https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/1SJCL864DDKEH?ref_=wl_share

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Instagram: @fatkiddanceparty @bevinsparty
Work one on one with me: https://queerfatfemme.com/one-on-one-with-bevin/
Podcast: https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/bevin (Search "Bevin" on Spotify or Apple Podcasts)

You Tube Channel:
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We've talked about morning routines (ep 103) and figuring out our values (ep 111) but here I propose less than ten minutes, thrice daily for your optimal peace! I talk about my experience having an intentional routine three times a day and what you could do to brainstorm what your path to peace could be like.

Especially. helpful this time of year because in the Northern Hemisphere this is a great time to strategize and lay down frameworks that will help when we hit Spring!

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Send me a gift card or just switch your listening to their audiobook platform so we can starve Bezos.
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My annual episode with Scott on the Winter Solstice! What's a glamour? How can we dig a little deeper and shine our light in these dark times?

Please visit with us in our other episodes--I love the progression of a friendship with two growing people over time! Episodes 157, 144, 118, 60 and 14!

Scott's website: https://starandstonellc.com/

Scott on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/c/ScottKSmith/posts

Scott on IG: @scott_k_smith @starstoneedu

Support the podcast!

Patreon.com/fkdp (you can follow for free and get updates and freebies from me!)
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Venmo: @bevinb
Cash App: $BevinBoss
Buy my aerobics video! ⁠fatkiddanceparty.com/video4pack⁠
Buy me an audio book from Libro.fm: https://libro.fm/referral?rf_code=lfm624922
Send me a gift card or just switch your listening to their audiobook platform so we can starve Bezos.
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Tee shirts: https://genuinevalentine.com/collections/fat-kid-dance-party
Instagram: @fatkiddanceparty @bevinsparty
Work one on one with me: https://queerfatfemme.com/one-on-one-with-bevin/
You Tube Channel:
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Blog: queerfatfemme.com
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