Divorce is more than just a legal process—it’s a life transition that affects millions of families each year. But what do the numbers really say about it? In this episode, we break down the latest divorce statistics and uncover the real-life impact behind the data.

As a family therapist specializing in high-conflict divorce, Michael Flores, LPC-S and Jennifer Blake, LCSW-S go beyond the numbers to provide insights on how these trends affect individuals. Whether you're going through a divorce, supporting a loved one, or working in the field of family dynamics, this episode will give you a deeper understanding of the realities of modern divorce.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

✔️ How common is divorce? The latest statistics on marriage and separation

✔️ Who files for divorce most often—and why?

✔️ The top reasons couples divorce (hint: it’s not just about infidelity)

✔️ How age and finances play a role in divorce

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The statistics from this episode were found at https://www.wf-lawyers.com/divorce-statistics-and-facts/

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In this special episode, we say “see you later” to one of our incredible recurring hosts, Dr. Jacobie Robinson. While we’ll miss his regular presence on the show, he’s leaving us with powerful words of wisdom, motivation, and encouragement for families navigating the challenges of divorce.

Tune in as Dr. Robinson answers key questions like:

💡 What should families remember as they go through divorce?

🚫 What is a common mistake parents of divorce make?

🔗 What are boundaries, and should divorced families have them?

❤️ As our listeners navigate divorce, what would you like them to remember?

If you're in the midst of your divorce journey—or know someone who is—this episode is a must-listen. You’re not alone. There are people out there ready to support you every step of the way.

Listen now and share this episode with someone who could use a reminder to keep moving forward.

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This episode contains sensitive content.

Leaving a relationship due to safety concerns or emotional trauma is one of the most challenging experiences a person can face. In this episode, Michael Flores, LPC-S and Jorge Gama, LPC-S, of Mending Clinic in Arlington, Texas explore the impact of a traumatic split on both the mind and body, including somatic symptoms, dissociation, and how trauma transfers to children. We’ll also break down how trauma keeps you in survival mode, making it harder to think clearly about next steps.

If you're in the process of leaving—or even just considering it—we’ll cover what to do, what to consider, and what to remember as you navigate this difficult transition. You are not alone, and there is a way forward.

If you need immediate support, please reach out to a local crisis service:

- **U.S.:** National Domestic Violence Hotline – Call 800-799-7233 or text "START" to 88788

- **Canada:** ShelterSafe – Visit [sheltersafe.ca](https://sheltersafe.ca)

- **UK:** National Domestic Abuse Helpline – Call 0808 2000 247

- **Australia:** 1800RESPECT – Call 1800 737 732

If you're outside these areas, please look up crisis services available in your country. **You deserve safety, support, and healing.**

In this episode Michael and Jorge mention Safe Haven. If you are local to the Tarrant County area, you can contact Safe Haven's Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-877-701-7233.

Whether you’re navigating a contentious divorce, worried about your child’s emotional health, or looking to break unhealthy cycles, this episode is packed with insights and actionable steps. In this episode, Michael Flores, LPC-S and Jinohn Marr, LMFT take a deep dive into three harmful dynamics that can emerge in high-conflict divorces—triangulation, parentification, and alienation. These patterns don’t just affect co-parenting; they deeply impact children’s emotional well-being, sense of self, and future relationships.

This episode has visuals! If you'd like to watch on YouTube go here: https://youtu.be/zoFt80GrsjE

Several previous episodes are referenced. For more information about

Triangulation - https://youtu.be/fIriEVFlCQs

The Roles Kids Play in Divorce - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jfPGliBksgk

Parentification - https://youtu.be/dcbXqi2IZow

Alienation - https://youtu.be/R_y0hLrFZ4Y

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This is the third episode of the "Ation" Series. We're calling this the "Ation" Series as we discuss common toxic family dynamics in divorce -- Triangulation, Parentification, and Alienation.

Alienation is a hot topic for families of high conflict divorce. Whether you're a parent feeling alienated, struggling with feelings of guilt or confusion, or someone unintentionally alienating a co-parent, Michael Flores, LPC-S and Armando Martinez, LPC have a conversation that sheds light on the challenges, myths, and healing strategies to move you forward.

Episode Breakdown:

(3:30) What is alienation or parental alienation?

(6:35) The two types of alienation: direct alienation and indirect alienation

(10:30) Therapy, family systems and alienation

(15:15) Signs of alienation

(23:45) What to consider in yourself regarding alienation

(32:45) What to do if you think you're being alienated

(38:00) Final thoughts and episode recap

Be sure to tune in to the next episodes of the "Ation" Series as we recap this important 'Ation' Series! If you missed the last episodes about Triangulation or Parentification, please go back and listen!

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This is the second episode of the "Ation" Series. We're calling this the "Ation" Series as we discuss common toxic family dynamics in divorce -- Triangulation, Parentification, and Alienation.

In this second episode, we discuss the topic of Parentification. In this episode, Michael Flores, LPC-S and Armando Martinez, LPC break down what parentification is, how it shows up in family systems and the impact it has on children and their relationship with their parents.

Episode break down:

(2:15) What is parentification? What impact does it have on children?

(6:00) When parentification becomes problematic.

(9:45) How parentification feels to children and how they interpret it.

(11:50) Is parentification intentional? Why it can sometimes be confused with alienation.

(14:30) Is parentification harmful?

(17:30) What do we do about it?

(20:45) Examples of having children help versus parentifying them.

(25:45) Episode recap.

Be sure to tune in to the next episodes of the "Ation" Series as we dig into Alienation in the next week! If you missed last week's episode about Triangulation, go back and listen to it.

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Welcome to the first episode of the "Ation" Series. We're calling this the "Ation" Series as we discuss common toxic family dynamics in divorce -- Triangulation, Parentification, and Alienation.

This first episode of the series is dedicated to the topic of Triangulation. In this episode, Michael Flores, LPC-S and Jennifer Blake, LCSW-S break down what triangulation is, how it shows up in family systems and the impact it has on children.

Whether you’re experiencing it firsthand or want to avoid it in your relationships, this episode provides tools to foster healthier connections and boundaries.

Episode break down:

(2:00) Triangulation and what it is.

(3:00) How triangulation is a manipulation and how it puts kids in the middle.

(6:45) The threat triangulation implies.

(9:50) The impact of triangulation has on children of divorce.

(15:45) How to de-triangulate your kids.

(20:00) How kids can also triangulate their system when they know their parents don't talk.

(22:30) How parents will use triangulation to create alignment and questions to ask.

(28:00) How to handle triangulation when your coparent is making you out to be the bad guy.

(30:00) What parents should do when they recognize triangulation is occurring.

Be sure to tune in to the next episodes of the "Ation" Series as we dig into Parentificaiton and Alienation in the next three weeks!

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The first Monday after January 1st is the day of the year the most divorces are filed. Whether you are contemplating divorce, in the beginning stages of a divorce, or have been going though a divorce for some time, understanding the grief cycle is important in your journey. Michael Flores, LPC-S and Dr. Jacobie Robinson, LPC-S share that divorce isn’t just a legal process; it’s an emotional journey that often mirrors the stages of grief. In this episode, we explore the grief cycle through divorce, from denial and anger to bargaining, sadness, and eventually acceptance. We’ll discuss how these stages can unfold differently for each partner, creating emotional misalignment that adds to the complexity of separation. Whether you’re struggling to move forward or finding it challenging to navigate your ex-partner’s emotional state, this episode offers insights and strategies to help you find clarity and healing during this difficult time.

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In today's episode -- our last before 2025 -- Michael Flores, LPC-S and Dr. Jacobie Robinson, LPC-S discuss the top five reasons our office hears people get divorced. What is the final breaking point? They identify them in the episode today!

(3:45) The 5 most common reasons we hear from clients why their marriages end.

(4:45) Sex and the reasons it can lead to divorce.

(9:30) Why talking about the issue and reflecting will help in the future.

(13:05) Money and how it can be mismanaged, a tool for manipulation, and the focus of a relationship.

(19:35) Family and how outside influences can impact relationships.

(26:20) Kinds and how their relationships with their parents can be used and can play out after divorce.

(30:00) Substance abuse and client concerns.

(34:45) Mental health and the common complaints we hear about spouses.

(37:30) Why it's important to notice what we focus on.

(40:15) Recap of topics

(41:30) Listener Question Answered: "How do you know it is when the right time to introduce a significant other into your kids life after divorce?"

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Happy Holidays!

Do you feel like you're always rescuing your co-parent and/or child? Are you the person who can be counted on for fixing things and saving the day? If so, this episode is for you! Michael Flores, LPC-S and Armando Martinez, LPC discuss what to do if you feel like you're always rescuing someone and how that impacts you and others.

In this episode, we discuss:

(3:00) Listener Question - What do you do when it feels like your ex is trying to control everything?

(6:45) Steps to take when it feels like your ex is trying to control

(8:30) We review the rescuing side of the drama triangle (from Episode 11).

(15:30) What you should learn to do when you feel like you're always rescuing your co-parent and how comparisons and "fair" can get in the way.

(21:00) The important things to focus on - what you can control and your child(ren)

(26:45) Why always rescuing your child can be harmful for their growth and natural relationship with their other parent

(30:10) Why it's important to have a supportive attitude in front of your child.

(33:00) Releasing control and letting your co-parent choose their own relationship with your child

(34:45) Recap of this episode's takeaways

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