Beyond the Letter

Marriage doesn’t just reveal who you are—it forms who you’re becoming. In this episode, Adam and Ashlee sit down with Nathan and Sanaz for a real (and hilarious) conversation about how spouses change each other over time—and why that’s actually part of God’s design. They talk about what it means to “see potential” in your spouse, how encouragement can pull out the best in someone, and why character matters more than shared hobbies when you’re building a life together.They also get super practical about the day-to-day stuff: learning each other’s strengths, dividing responsibilities without keeping score, and having hard conversations without resentment. Plus, they dig into a powerful idea: marriage isn’t about holding someone’s past over their head—it’s about covering, healing, and walking forward as one. If you’ve ever felt stuck in “roommate mode,” or wondered how to inspire growth without becoming controlling, this one’s for you.--Join our AFTER I DO community for Exclusive Content & community!www.afterido.app--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://instagram.com/amesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==https://instagram.com/ashleemesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==--Connect with Nathan & Sanaz Mesahttps://www.instagram.com/nathanjmesa/https://www.instagram.com/sanazmesa/--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido--We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett.How to get the exclusive discount?SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=enhttps://bybarnett.com

What happens when someone who barely knows the Bible actually starts reading it—and it wrecks them in real time? In this episode, Adam, Sammy, Fuego, and Sanaz sit down to talk about the raw, disruptive power of God’s Word and what it really looks like to disciple people who know almost nothing about Jesus, church, or Scripture.They start with a wild childhood snake story (yes, a real python on a bucket of cookies used as a sermon illustration on temptation) and use it as a picture of how sin looks harmless until you reach for it. From there, the conversation zooms out to our current moment: a generation that’s biblically illiterate, de-churched, and yet deeply hungry—like the viral influencer who started reading the Bible on camera, got confronted by Jesus’ teaching on lust and dehumanizing people, and found his desires changing just from engaging Scripture.--Connect with:Adam Mesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/Samuel Rodriguez https://www.instagram.com/samuelmrod/Fuego Padilla https://www.instagram.com/iamfuegopadilla/Sanaz Mesa https://www.instagram.com/sanazmesa/--Don't forget to stay connected with us:Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4OvpFp9OB9_DgVdVVbXhFgInstagram https://www.instagram.com/beyond.theletter/Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/discover/beyond-the-letter--Have a question? Submit it TODAY, by clicking the link below! ***SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION HERE: https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondtheLetterQA--Get to know the team:@amesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/@verlonbakerofficial https://www.instagram.com/verlonbakerofficial/@nancysnavas https://www.instagram.com/nancysnavas/@alizee.kayy https://www.instagram.com/alizee.kayy/@andytakesl https://www.instagram.com/andytakesl/

In this episode, Adam and Ashlee respond to the viral “cab-light theory” — the idea that men suddenly “turn their light on,” get serious, and commit to the next girl who shows up… even if they just told the last one they “weren’t ready.” They unpack whether it’s really “right person, wrong time,” or if it’s often a lack of discipline, standards, and honesty in dating.They also talk about Christian sexual ethics, moving in together, “playing house,” and why so many couples give each other all the benefits of marriage with none of the covenant. Ashlee shares how past relationships and breakups shaped her insecurities, Adam shares from years of pastoring couples, and together they offer super practical (and pretty direct) advice on boundaries, timelines, engagement, and why you can’t change someone who never wanted marriage in the first place. If you’re single, dating, or parenting teens/young adults, this one is a must-listen.--Join our AFTER I DO community for Exclusive Content & community!www.afterido.app--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://instagram.com/amesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==https://instagram.com/ashleemesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido--We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett.How to get the exclusive discount?SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=enhttps://bybarnett.com

In this episode of Beyond the Letter, Sammy slides into the host chair and is joined by Haron and special guest Allan Walters—three former youth pastors who’ve spent years discipling the next generation. Together they tackle one big question: are you actually called, or just chasing influence?Allan shares how a lifelong desire to help people, plus years of youth and young adult ministry, slowly revealed his calling—not through a “burning bush moment,” but through consistent burdens and faithfulness. Haron talks about getting saved, starting a random campus Bible study, serving on Skid Row, and discovering that calling usually shows up as a conviction to help people long before it looks like a platform.If you’ve ever thought, “I feel something… but I don’t know if it’s really a calling,” or you’re torn between ministry, creativity, and influence, this conversation will help you slow down, get honest, and refocus on the One who’s actually calling you.--Connect with:Samuel Rodriguez https://www.instagram.com/samuelmrod/Haron Kaisa https://www.instagram.com/kaisaclan/Allan Walters https://www.instagram.com/alllanwalters/--Don't forget to stay connected with us:Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4OvpFp9OB9_DgVdVVbXhFgInstagram https://www.instagram.com/beyond.theletter/Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/discover/beyond-the-letter--Have a question? Submit it TODAY, by clicking the link below! ***SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION HERE: https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondtheLetterQA--Get to know the team:@amesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/@verlonbakerofficial https://www.instagram.com/verlonbakerofficial/@nancysnavas https://www.instagram.com/nancysnavas/@alizee.kayy https://www.instagram.com/alizee.kayy/@andytakesl https://www.instagram.com/andytakesl/

What do you do when it feels like your spouse cares more about their friends’ opinions than yours? In this episode, Adam and Ashlee react to a viral clip of a husband who says his wife “respects her friends more than her husband,” then unpack what respect in marriage really looks like. They talk about the difference between wanting respect and demanding control, how roles and finances can affect respect, and why so many couples feel unseen or unheard in their own home.Ashlee also gets honest about how she vents and processes with friends, why she is extremely careful about how she talks about Adam, and why your “venting buddy” can either protect or poison your marriage. Adam shares a fresh story from their own home about Christmas-tree stress, short tempers, and what it looks like to NOT take everything personally, but still communicate honestly and grow. If you’ve ever wondered how much to share with friends, how to protect your spouse’s character, or how to balance forgiveness with boundaries, this conversation is for you.--Join our AFTER I DO community for Exclusive Content & community!www.afterido.app--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://instagram.com/amesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==https://instagram.com/ashleemesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido--We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett.How to get the exclusive discount?SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=enhttps://bybarnett.com

In a world where one comment, clip, or TikTok can reshape your entire reputation, this episode hits different. Adam sits with Aaron and Jermaine to break down how social media has changed the way we see people — and how fast a single moment can follow you for years.From a viral post misidentifying Adam as “the rudest pastor ever” (for something that wasn’t even him — and happened 15 years ago) to a local business collapsing overnight after one filmed interaction, the guys unpack why today's culture gives you zero room for mistakes. They explore borrowed offense, digital dogpiling, and why people online judge with no context but full confidence.But this episode goes deeper. The conversation becomes a masterclass in conflict, character, and relationships — how to apologize well, how to repair trust, and why so many people today don’t actually know how to restore anything. They talk parenting, marriage counseling, generational wounds, timeliness drama 😂, and the humility required to build healthy relationships that don’t crumble at the first misunderstanding.If you’ve ever been misunderstood, misrepresented, or misread — online or in real life — this episode is a must-watch.--Connect with:Adam Mesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/Jermaine Baker https://www.instagram.com/verlonbakerofficial/Aaron Levy https://www.instagram.com/_aaronlevy/--Don't forget to stay connected with us:Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4OvpFp9OB9_DgVdVVbXhFgInstagram https://www.instagram.com/beyond.theletter/Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/discover/beyond-the-letter--Have a question? Submit it TODAY, by clicking the link below! ***SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION HERE: https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondtheLetterQA--Get to know the team:@amesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/@verlonbakerofficial https://www.instagram.com/verlonbakerofficial/@nancysnavas https://www.instagram.com/nancysnavas/@alizee.kayy https://www.instagram.com/alizee.kayy/@andytakesl https://www.instagram.com/andytakesl/

What do you do when someone flirts with you… and you’re married? In this episode, Adam and Ashlee sit down at the table to talk about real-life moments of getting hit on at airports, stoplights, DMs, and even the doctor’s office – and how they choose to respond as a husband and wife. They unpack why it’s not always about the other person being “threatening,” but often about our own security, personality, and the health of our marriage.From joking about “being an Indiana 10” to sharing serious stories about boundaries, exes sliding into DMs, and how quickly “innocent” attention can become a doorway for the enemy, Adam and Ashlee walk through how they process attraction, jealousy, and honesty. They talk about knowing your spouse’s personality, setting wise boundaries without becoming controlling, confessing when you crossed a line, and why your ultimate security has to be rooted in God – not in your spouse’s flawless behavior. If you’ve ever wondered, “Should I tell my spouse when someone flirts with me?”, this one is for you.--Join our AFTER I DO community for Exclusive Content & community!www.afterido.app--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://instagram.com/amesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==https://instagram.com/ashleemesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido--We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett.How to get the exclusive discount?SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=enhttps://bybarnett.com

What do you do with those moments where you think God spoke…but you’re not totally sure? In this episode of Beyond the Letter, Adam sits down with Sammy, Julian, and Harrison to talk all things prophecy—the real, the wild, and the actually healthy.Julian shares some crazy stories, including a prophetic word that ended up covering a husband in a freak motorcycle accident and a vision about a blue-haired student that led to a literal life-saving moment. The guys unpack how prophetic gifts work alongside Scripture, why craving “a word” without loving the Bible is dangerous, and how God often moves through instincts and ideas, not just dramatic moments on a stage.They also talk about prophetic creativity in business and ministry, how to practice hearing God without getting weird, and even tell a hilarious story about almost throwing hands in Newport over a parking mishap. If you’ve ever wondered, “Is that God or just me?” this convo will help you slow down, test what you’re sensing, and grow in hearing God’s voice in a grounded, biblical way.--Connect with:Adam Mesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/Julian Lowe https://www.instagram.com/julianlowe/Samuel Rodriguez https://www.instagram.com/samuelmrod/Harrison Domingue https://www.instagram.com/harrisondomingue/--Don't forget to stay connected with us:Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4OvpFp9OB9_DgVdVVbXhFgInstagram https://www.instagram.com/beyond.theletter/Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/discover/beyond-the-letter--Have a question? Submit it TODAY, by clicking the link below! ***SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION HERE: https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondtheLetterQA--Get to know the team:@amesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/@verlonbakerofficial https://www.instagram.com/verlonbakerofficial/@nancysnavas https://www.instagram.com/nancysnavas/@alizee.kayy https://www.instagram.com/alizee.kayy/@andytakesl https://www.instagram.com/andytakesl/

In this week’s episode, Adam and Ashlee sit down for a completely unscripted, last-minute conversation that turns into one of their most honest Q&A sessions yet. From dreams they’ve never fully said out loud to the habits that help (and hurt) their marriage, they walk through a set of intentional life-planning questions designed to help couples get clear, get connected, and get real about their future together.They open up about insecurity, confidence, routines, parenting, schedule strain, and the pressures of balancing ministry, marriage, and family life. Adam shares why honesty and self-awareness matter more to him than perfection, while Ashlee talks about confidence, health, and what it feels like to carry unspoken expectations. Together, they unpack how far they’ve come, what they used to disagree on, and what they hope the next season of marriage looks like.--Join our AFTER I DO community for Exclusive Content & community!www.afterido.app--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://instagram.com/amesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==https://instagram.com/ashleemesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido--We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett.How to get the exclusive discount?SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=enhttps://bybarnett.com

From backwash debates and water-bottle slander to championship soccer and college football chaos, this episode is all about sports, kids, and character. Adam, Aaron, and Haron unpack how youth sports can become one of the best classrooms for resilience, humility, and real-world discipleship—if we let them be more than a place to chase highlight reels.

Adam shares stories from his son Matthias’ back-to-back championship soccer seasons: learning to play defense instead of chasing the spotlight, dealing with the pain of feeling like you “lost” personally even when your team wins, and being pushed to celebrate others even when you’re disappointed in yourself. The guys talk about how parents can either fuel entitlement (“my kid has to be the star”) or form character by helping their kids embrace their actual role on the team.

They also get into coachability—showing up on time, body language, attitude, receiving correction—and why those traits matter more than raw talent in both sports and life. Adam pulls back the curtain on his time pastoring future NFL players, including a brutal story of a second-string running back who missed a Super Bowl moment because he couldn’t be coached. From youth leagues to D1 and the pros, they wrestle with American individualism, money, fame, and how all of it shapes the way we see team, family, church, and calling.

If you’re a parent, coach, athlete, or just someone trying to raise (or become) a healthy adult in a me-first culture, this conversation will hit home.

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