Beyond the Letter

In this special live episode recorded at Daniel and Jackie Groves’ church, Adam and Ashlee dive into a transformative conversation about what it truly means to love well in marriage—not by achieving perfection, but by embracing honesty, healing, and spiritual alignment. Rooted in 1 Corinthians 13, they explore how declaring “I am patient, I am kind” isn’t pretending to be something we’re not—it’s prophesying who God is shaping us to become. Love becomes less about performing and more about surrendering to divine transformation.They also unpack the reality that our past doesn’t magically vanish when we get married or come to Christ. Every wound, decision, and old relationship comes into the new season with us unless we intentionally pursue healing. Adam and Ashlee break down the **three layers of intimacy—spiritual, emotional, and physical—**and explain why so many couples stay frustrated when these layers are built in the wrong order.One of the most freeing truths from this conversation: it is not our job to fix our spouse. It’s our job to intercede for them. When we stop trying to be the Holy Spirit in our marriage and instead bring our partner before God, we release the pressure—and make room for true transformation.Whether you’re dating, engaged, or married, this episode calls you to build a love that lasts by letting God shape every layer of it.--Join our AFTER I DO community for Exclusive Content & community!www.afterido.app--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://instagram.com/amesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==https://instagram.com/ashleemesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==--Connect with Daniel & Jackie Groveshttps://www.instagram.com/degroves/https://www.instagram.com/jackiengroves/--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido--We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett.How to get the exclusive discount?SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=enhttps://bybarnett.com

In this episode, Adam and Jermaine dig into the surge of Christian films and series—and what it really takes to translate Scripture to the screen with integrity. They unpack where creative license helps (and where it hurts), why the end message has to remain faithful, how scholar/pastor councils shape scripts, and the practical production tensions that come with timelines, budgets, and audience expectations.They also talk through recent and upcoming Bible-based projects, the importance of context and theology in pivotal scenes, and how live AI fact-checking can keep conversations sharp without slowing the flow. If you care about story, Scripture, and craft, this one’s for you.--Connect with:Adam Mesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/Jermaine Baker https://www.instagram.com/verlonbakerofficial/--Don't forget to stay connected with us:Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4OvpFp9OB9_DgVdVVbXhFgInstagram https://www.instagram.com/beyond.theletter/Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/discover/beyond-the-letter--Get Aaron Levy's book, JOHN: 21 Daily Drips of Dialogue: https://a.co/d/7lGB90i--Have a question? Submit it TODAY, by clicking the link below! ***SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION HERE: https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondtheLetterQA--Get to know the team:@amesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/@verlonbakerofficial https://www.instagram.com/verlonbakerofficial/@nancysnavas https://www.instagram.com/nancysnavas/@alizee.kayy https://www.instagram.com/alizee.kayy/@andytakesl https://www.instagram.com/andytakesl/

When convictions clash at the dinner table, how do you keep peace without caving? In this episode, Adam and Ashlee unpack how to handle family tension around faith—especially when relatives get offended or try to “Bible-bully” you. The core posture: a holy “don’t care” toward drama, not toward people. Hold your own convictions, honor others’ dignity, and refuse the bait. From navigating Catholic–Protestant differences (like communion etiquette and boundaries at Mass) to dealing with non-practicing relatives who still police your faith, this conversation offers level-headed language, real scripts, and a healthier way to love family without surrendering your walk with Jesus.You’ll hear how to separate emotions from truth, set clear boundaries with kindness, and keep inviting loved ones into your life even if they decline your church, baptism, or beliefs. The win? Living with consistent peace, character, and self-control so your life—not an argument—does the preaching. “I’m at peace with my convictions. I love you. You’re always invited.”--Join our AFTER I DO community for Exclusive Content & community!www.afterido.app--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://instagram.com/amesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==https://instagram.com/ashleemesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido--We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett.How to get the exclusive discount?SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=enhttps://bybarnett.com

In this solo episode, Adam gets practical about why so many young adults feel stuck at work—and what to do about it. No fluff, no finger-wagging. He lays out a clear four-part framework Gen Z (and anyone, really) can use to actually thrive: (1) build a personal foundation (character, routines, emotional control, time management), (2) level up relationally (real communication, conflict resolution, healthy boundaries, understanding personality types), (3) grow professionally (initiative, problem-solving, excellence, true professionalism), and (4) lock in purpose (make career moves that align with your values and long-term life rhythm).You’ll hear practical examples—from showing up on time and owning mistakes, to speaking clearly in person (not outsourcing your voice to AI), to earning recognition by solving real problems instead of chasing constant pats on the back. If you’ve wondered why “doing your job” hasn’t led to momentum—or how to turn discipline into opportunity—this episode gives you a straightforward playbook you can start using today.-Connect with:Adam Mesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/--Don't forget to stay connected with us:Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4OvpFp9OB9_DgVdVVbXhFgInstagram https://www.instagram.com/beyond.theletter/Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/discover/beyond-the-letter--Get Aaron Levy's book, JOHN: 21 Daily Drips of Dialogue: https://a.co/d/7lGB90i--Have a question? Submit it TODAY, by clicking the link below! ***SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION HERE: https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondtheLetterQA--Get to know the team:@amesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/@verlonbakerofficial https://www.instagram.com/verlonbakerofficial/@nancysnavas https://www.instagram.com/nancysnavas/@alizee.kayy https://www.instagram.com/alizee.kayy/@andytakesl https://www.instagram.com/andytakesl/

In this episode of Beyond I Do, Adam and Ashlee unpack the Hebrew concept of Selah—a sacred pause to reflect, rest, and simply sit in God’s goodness. In a culture obsessed with sharing every highlight, this conversation challenges us to slow down and rediscover the beauty of presence over performance.The discussion explores how modern life—and especially social media—has blurred the line between connection and validation. We’re reminded that real relationships don’t need an audience, and our most meaningful moments don’t require applause. Whether in marriage, friendship, or faith, we’re called to build Selah moments that anchor us in gratitude, stillness, and authentic community.This episode is a refreshing call back to rhythm—to embrace hallelujah (praise), amen (agreement), and Selah (rest) as a lifestyle that keeps our hearts centered on what truly matters.--Join our AFTER I DO community for Exclusive Content & community!www.afterido.app--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://instagram.com/amesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==https://instagram.com/ashleemesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido--We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett.How to get the exclusive discount?SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=enhttps://bybarnett.com

In this episode of Beyond the Letter, Adam is joined by Sammy for a powerful conversation on the intersection of faith, thought life, and technology. Drawing from Jesus’s words in the Sermon on the Mount, the discussion explores how sin begins not with our actions, but with the thoughts we allow to take root in our minds.As AI and digital media increasingly blur the lines between fantasy and reality, this message couldn’t be more relevant. The group unpacks the pattern—head, heart, hands—revealing how our thoughts shape our hearts and eventually guide our actions. From virtual temptation to mental renewal, the call is clear: transformation begins with a renewed mind. Inspired by Romans 12 and the Greek idea of metanoia (a complete change of mind), this conversation challenges believers to guard their thoughts, resist digital distortion, and pursue holiness from the inside out.-Connect with:Adam Mesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/Sammy Rodriguez https://www.instagram.com/samuelmrod/--Don't forget to stay connected with us:Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4OvpFp9OB9_DgVdVVbXhFgInstagram https://www.instagram.com/beyond.theletter/Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/discover/beyond-the-letter--Get Aaron Levy's book, JOHN: 21 Daily Drips of Dialogue: https://a.co/d/7lGB90i--Have a question? Submit it TODAY, by clicking the link below! ***SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION HERE: https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondtheLetterQA--Get to know the team:@amesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/@verlonbakerofficial https://www.instagram.com/verlonbakerofficial/@nancysnavas https://www.instagram.com/nancysnavas/@alizee.kayy https://www.instagram.com/alizee.kayy/@andytakesl https://www.instagram.com/andytakesl/

In this episode of Beyond I Do, Adam and Ashlee dive into one of the most essential yet often unspoken aspects of marriage—affection and intimacy. From exploring how our upbringing shapes the way we express love to discussing the biblical foundation for emotional and physical closeness, this conversation gets real about what it means to love well.The two share honest insights about creating a safe space for open communication, understanding love languages, and cultivating both spiritual and physical connection in marriage. They remind us that intimacy is not just about romance—it’s about reflecting God’s love through grace, honesty, and intentionality. Whether you’re married, engaged, or preparing for the future, this episode offers wisdom on how to build stronger, more connected relationships rooted in God’s design.--Join our AFTER I DO community for Exclusive Content & community!www.afterido.app--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://instagram.com/amesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==https://instagram.com/ashleemesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==--Connect with Sammy & Chandler Rodriguezhttps://www.instagram.com/samuelmrod/https://www.instagram.com/chandlerbrod/--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido--We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett.How to get the exclusive discount?SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=enhttps://bybarnett.com

In this episode of Beyond the Letter, Pastor Adam sits down with Sammy, Fuego, and Joseph to talk about the tension between recognition and humility in today’s culture. As believers, how do we navigate moments of success and influence without losing sight of the One who gave us the gift in the first place?Drawing from Romans 16 and the example of Paul, the conversation reveals that honor and recognition aren’t the problem—it’s our posture that matters. Whether you’re leading, creating, or simply serving in your calling, this discussion challenges you to examine your motives: are you seeking applause, or impact? The group reminds us that influence is a tool, not a trophy, and that true greatness is measured by humility and obedience to God.This episode is a timely reminder to be in the world but not of it—using your gifts to influence culture without compromising your integrity or devotion to Christ.--Connect with:Adam Mesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/Sammy Rodriguez https://www.instagram.com/samuelmrod/Fuego Padilla https://www.instagram.com/iamfuegopadilla/

Joseph Valcarcel https://www.instagram.com/joseph_aaron_valcarcel/--Don't forget to stay connected with us:Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4OvpFp9OB9_DgVdVVbXhFgInstagram https://www.instagram.com/beyond.theletter/Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/discover/beyond-the-letter--Get Aaron Levy's book, JOHN: 21 Daily Drips of Dialogue: https://a.co/d/7lGB90i--Have a question? Submit it TODAY, by clicking the link below! ***SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION HERE: https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondtheLetterQA--Get to know the team:@amesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/@verlonbakerofficial https://www.instagram.com/verlonbakerofficial/@nancysnavas https://www.instagram.com/nancysnavas/@alizee.kayy https://www.instagram.com/alizee.kayy/@andytakesl https://www.instagram.com/andytakesl/

In this episode of Beyond I Do, Adam and Ashlee unpack what it really means to steward your faith, health, and relationships well. Drawing from the story of Job, they explore how God’s presence never changes—even when life feels heavy or uncertain. The real shift happens when our perspective does.This honest conversation challenges us to take personal responsibility in our walk with God and see service not as a burden, but as a joy. Whether it’s managing our time, caring for our bodies, or deepening our spiritual discipline, we’re reminded that everything we have is a gift meant to honor Him. Growth doesn’t happen through shortcuts—it comes through consistency, humility, and a heart willing to serve.--Join our AFTER I DO community for Exclusive Content & community!www.afterido.app--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://instagram.com/amesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==https://instagram.com/ashleemesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==--Connect with Sammy & Chandler Rodriguezhttps://www.instagram.com/samuelmrod/https://www.instagram.com/chandlerbrod/--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido--We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett.How to get the exclusive discount?SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=enhttps://bybarnett.com

Season 4 of Beyond the Letter launches with a powerful conversation on stewardship, discipline, and personal responsibility in our walk with God. Adam is joined by Pastor Diego, Aaron, and Jermaine to unpack how faithfulness in the small things can transform every area of our lives.Through the story of Job, we’re reminded that God’s closeness never changes—only our perspective does. True discipleship requires ownership, not excuses, and this episode challenges us to view serving God not as a burden, but as a privilege. From managing our faith and finances to caring for our health and relationships, we’re called to be wise stewards of all God entrusts to us.This discussion will inspire you to shift your mindset from survival to stewardship—doing the hard, daily work of discipleship and finding joy in the process.--Connect with:Adam Mesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/Diego Mesa https://www.instagram.com/pastor_diego/Aaron Levy https://www.instagram.com/_aaronlevy/Jermaine Baker https://www.instagram.com/verlonbakerofficial/--Don't forget to stay connected with us:Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4OvpFp9OB9_DgVdVVbXhFgInstagram https://www.instagram.com/beyond.theletter/Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/discover/beyond-the-letter--Get Aaron Levy's book, JOHN: 21 Daily Drips of Dialogue: https://a.co/d/7lGB90i--Have a question? Submit it TODAY, by clicking the link below! ***SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION HERE: https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondtheLetterQA--Get to know the team:@amesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/@verlonbakerofficial https://www.instagram.com/verlonbakerofficial/@nancysnavas https://www.instagram.com/nancysnavas/@alizee.kayy https://www.instagram.com/alizee.kayy/@andytakesl https://www.instagram.com/andytakesl/