Beyond the Letter

In this episode, Adam and Ashlee unpack a viral dating idea: “I want my man to be the leader of his friend group.” And they push back hard—because status isn’t the same thing as integrity. They talk about why chasing the “head honcho” can actually be a red flag, and why what you really want to look for is something deeper: initiative, discipline, character, humility, and the ability to lead in a healthy way—not just perform confidence for attention.The conversation goes further into something most people don’t connect to dating: friendships. Adam and Ashlee get real about how unhealthy relationships can spill into your marriage, your peace, and your family—and why maturity sometimes means letting go of friendships you’ve outgrown, setting standards, and refusing to carry someone else’s chaos. They also talk about “surface-level” friendships, one-sided relationships, and what healthy community actually looks like when you’re trying to build something lasting with your spouse and kids.--Join our AFTER I DO community for Exclusive Content & community!www.afterido.app--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://instagram.com/amesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==https://instagram.com/ashleemesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido--We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett.How to get the exclusive discount?SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=enhttps://bybarnett.com

In this episode, Adam sits down with his friend Lester to talk about finances, wise choices, and the systems that help you win with money at any age. They start with Lester’s personal story—how losing his dad young exposed the harsh realities families face when finances aren’t protected—and why that experience sparked a passion for financial education. From there, they break down the difference between having money goals and actually building a repeatable plan that turns goals into real progress.They get practical: high-yield savings, emergency funds, “forced savings,” paying off debt with the snowball method, and how much you’d need to save in your 20s, 30s, 40s, and beyond to build a strong retirement foundation. Adam and Lester also talk about common traps—credit cards, lifestyle spending, “get rich quick” hype—and why a steady system often beats a flashy strategy. If you want to reset your financial story, build long-term security, and live with freedom and generosity, this conversation is a solid place to start.--Connect with:Adam Mesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/Lester Baron https://www.instagram.com/globalmoneymaster/--Don't forget to stay connected with us:Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4OvpFp9OB9_DgVdVVbXhFgInstagram https://www.instagram.com/beyond.theletter/Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/discover/beyond-the-letter--Have a question? Submit it TODAY, by clicking the link below! ***SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION HERE: https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondtheLetterQA--Get to know the team:@amesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/@verlonbakerofficial https://www.instagram.com/verlonbakerofficial/@nancysnavas https://www.instagram.com/nancysnavas/@alizee.kayy https://www.instagram.com/alizee.kayy/@andytakesl https://www.instagram.com/andytakesl/

In this episode, Adam and Ashlee get real about devices, boundaries, and raising kids in a screen-saturated world. They unpack a viral “90s childhood” parenting trend (VCRs, landlines, no streaming, classic consoles) and talk about the difference between intentional family connection vs. parenting that turns into strict rule-based control. If you’ve ever wondered how to keep your home grounded without becoming extreme—or accidentally creating curiosity and rebellion later—this conversation is for you.They also share what’s working in their own house right now: no iPads Monday–Friday, weekend structure, and a focus on building maturity over age-based rules. Adam and Ashlee talk through ADHD, dopamine-chasing, teaching kids why boundaries exist, and how to stay consistent in public settings (especially when other parents’ rules get… complicated). Plus: media discernment, nostalgia vs. your kids’ real interests, and how to shape character through sports, discipline, and everyday decisions.--Join our AFTER I DO community for Exclusive Content & community!www.afterido.app--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://instagram.com/amesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==https://instagram.com/ashleemesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido--We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett.How to get the exclusive discount?SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=en

In this wide-ranging, honest, and hilarious conversation, Adam is joined by Sammy and Jermaine to unpack one of the most misunderstood parts of the Christian life: evangelism. From old-school street preaching and “Way of the Master” style encounters to modern, relational approaches rooted in encouragement and authenticity, this episode explores what it really means to share your faith in today’s culture.

The guys reflect on past experiences — from cold-calling strangers in malls to praying for people at festivals — and wrestle with why so many Christians feel intimidated, awkward, or unqualified when it comes to talking about Jesus. They break down the difference between treating people like projects versus treating them like people, and why relationships, patience, and spiritual discernment matter more than perfect scripts.

Along the way, things get very Beyond the Letter as they roast Jermaine’s beard, debate frosted tips, reminisce about wild evangelism stories, and expose how fear, comfort, and instant-gratification culture have quietly killed bold faith. This episode is both practical and challenging — reminding listeners that sharing the gospel isn’t about pressure or performance, but about being present, available, and willing to take a small risk that could change someone’s eternity.

--Connect with:Adam Mesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/Samuel Rodriguez https://www.instagram.com/samuelmrod/Jermaine Baker https://www.instagram.com/verlonbakerofficial/--Don't forget to stay connected with us:Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4OvpFp9OB9_DgVdVVbXhFgInstagram https://www.instagram.com/beyond.theletter/Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/discover/beyond-the-letter--Have a question? Submit it TODAY, by clicking the link below! ***SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION HERE: https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondtheLetterQA--Get to know the team:@amesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/@verlonbakerofficial https://www.instagram.com/verlonbakerofficial/@nancysnavas https://www.instagram.com/nancysnavas/@alizee.kayy https://www.instagram.com/alizee.kayy/@andytakesl https://www.instagram.com/andytakesl/

A viral “Grandma Cam” clip sparks a real conversation: Is it okay for parents to take a vacation with only their biological kids… and leave out the in-laws? Adam and Ashlee react in real time, talk through why this idea blew up, and break down the difference between intentional quality time vs. subtle exclusion. They get into the heart of what makes family dynamics healthy (or toxic), especially when adult children get married and start building families of their own.From navigating different family cultures to setting boundaries that actually protect relationships, this episode gets practical fast. Adam shares what he’s seen through years of counseling and pastoring—how unspoken expectations, poor communication, and “holiday faking” can quietly fracture families over time. If you’re married (or planning to be), this is one of those conversations that helps you think clearly, love well, and build a family culture that lasts.--Join our AFTER I DO community for Exclusive Content & community!www.afterido.app--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://instagram.com/amesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==https://instagram.com/ashleemesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido--We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett.How to get the exclusive discount?SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=enhttps://bybarnett.com

As the new year begins, Adam challenges the way we typically think about New Year’s resolutions. Instead of short-lived goals and burst motivation, this solo episode invites listeners to shift toward rhythms—sustainable habits and frameworks that actually shape a healthy life.Adam walks through six practical frameworks designed to help you close the previous season well, recognize what drains you versus what gives you life, and build routines that support long-term growth. Rather than chasing pressure or comparison, the focus is on alignment—aligning your values, pace, and priorities so your life produces real fruit.This conversation is both reflective and actionable, encouraging listeners to stop carrying what no longer belongs, protect what’s working, and intentionally design a year that is spiritually grounded, emotionally healthy, and relationally strong. If you’ve ever felt discouraged by resolutions that don’t last, this episode offers a wiser and more sustainable approach to the year ahead.--Connect with:Adam Mesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/--Don't forget to stay connected with us:Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4OvpFp9OB9_DgVdVVbXhFgInstagram https://www.instagram.com/beyond.theletter/Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/discover/beyond-the-letter--Have a question? Submit it TODAY, by clicking the link below! ***SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION HERE: https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondtheLetterQA--Get to know the team:@amesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/@verlonbakerofficial https://www.instagram.com/verlonbakerofficial/@nancysnavas https://www.instagram.com/nancysnavas/@alizee.kayy https://www.instagram.com/alizee.kayy/@andytakesl https://www.instagram.com/andytakesl/

After walking through their family’s recent experience with an ADHD diagnosis, they unpack the frustrations many parents and adults feel toward the education system and its one-size-fits-all approach to learning. Adam shares his own journey with ADHD, how school nearly convinced him he wasn’t capable, and why discipline—not excuses—became the key to thriving in adulthood.Together, they talk through practical disciplines they’ve found helpful for both children and adults with ADHD, the dangers of turning diagnoses into crutches, and how to advocate for your child without lowering expectations. This episode isn’t anti-medication or anti-school—it’s pro-wisdom, pro-discipline, and pro-understanding how God uniquely wires people to thrive.Whether you’re parenting a child with ADHD, navigating it yourself, or simply trying to build better rhythms in the new year, this conversation brings clarity, hope, and a lot of real-life perspective.--Join our AFTER I DO community for Exclusive Content & community!www.afterido.app--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://instagram.com/amesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==https://instagram.com/ashleemesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido--We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett.How to get the exclusive discount?SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=enhttps://bybarnett.com

This one starts hilarious and ends way deeper than expected. Adam, Sammy, Jeff, and returning co-host Will Chung kick things off with holiday chaos, inside jokes, and stories that make you say, “Wait… y’all really did that?!” But the conversation pivots into something real: how leaders can look “put together” on the outside while still carrying old patterns on the inside.They talk burnout, capacity, and the difference between abstinence and actual recovery—how you can stop destructive habits but still be chasing the same inner need through “better-looking” addictions like work, ministry, or achievement. They unpack the question “What’s wrong with me?” vs. “What happened to me?”, how trauma shows up in the body, and why Sabbath, rhythms, and honest self-awareness matter if you want longevity. It’s funny, reflective, and surprisingly freeing—especially if you’ve been running on fumes.--Connect with:Adam Mesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/Samuel Rodriguez https://www.instagram.com/samuelmrod/Jeff Osborne https://www.instagram.com/jefftosborne/Will Chung https://www.instagram.com/willkchung/--Don't forget to stay connected with us:Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4OvpFp9OB9_DgVdVVbXhFgInstagram https://www.instagram.com/beyond.theletter/Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/discover/beyond-the-letter--Have a question? Submit it TODAY, by clicking the link below! ***SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION HERE: https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondtheLetterQA--Get to know the team:@amesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/@verlonbakerofficial https://www.instagram.com/verlonbakerofficial/@nancysnavas https://www.instagram.com/nancysnavas/@alizee.kayy https://www.instagram.com/alizee.kayy/@andytakesl https://www.instagram.com/andytakesl/

The holidays are here, and Adam & Ashlee are keeping it light, loud, and hilarious. This episode is basically a Christmas living room moment—full of roasts, playful jabs, inside jokes, and the kind of marriage banter that only works when you actually love each other. They also take a second to shout out everyone who showed love in their Spotify wrapped and supported Beyond I Do all year—seriously, it means more than you know.Then they jump into a super relatable holiday question: what do you even gift someone who “already has everything”? Adam and Ashlee talk gift-giving styles, why thoughtful gifts hit deeper than expensive ones, and why “cash/gift cards” might actually be the most practical love language for some people (without the pressure and expectations 😅). Plus—if you’re watching on Christmas Day… there may or may not be coffee involved. 👀☕️--Join our AFTER I DO community for Exclusive Content & community!www.afterido.app--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://instagram.com/amesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==https://instagram.com/ashleemesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido--We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett.How to get the exclusive discount?SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=enhttps://bybarnett.com

In this episode of Beyond the Letter, Adam sits down with Dr. Paul Pitts III for a deeply grounding conversation about salvation, assurance, and the gospel’s steady power in everyday life. Together, they unpack why assurance isn’t ultimately found in emotional highs, personal performance, or constant self-examination—but in the finished work of Jesus: His righteous life, His sacrificial death, and His victory over sin as an eternal covenant for all who believe. They also talk through how God often moves through “ordinary” means—Scripture, prayer, church, repentance, and faithful consistency—when our generation is trained to chase novelty and instant results.They also go straight at two of the most common spiritual questions: “How do I know I’m saved?” and “Why hasn’t anything changed yet?” Dr. Pitts reframes assurance as assurance of the Savior, not obsession over the self—reminding listeners that feelings can follow truth, but they shouldn’t lead it. Adam and Dr. Pitts explore what sanctification actually looks like over time, why Jesus isn’t a quick-fix genie, and how real spiritual growth often happens slowly—but surely—when Christ remains the point. If you’ve ever felt stuck, numb, doubtful, or tired of the “what’s next?” mindset, this episode brings you back to the anchor: Jesus is enough, and the gospel still works.--Connect with:Adam Mesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/Dr. Paul Pitts III https://www.instagram.com/paulpitts3/--Don't forget to stay connected with us:Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4OvpFp9OB9_DgVdVVbXhFgInstagram https://www.instagram.com/beyond.theletter/Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/discover/beyond-the-letter--Have a question? Submit it TODAY, by clicking the link below! ***SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION HERE: https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondtheLetterQA--Get to know the team:@amesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/@verlonbakerofficial https://www.instagram.com/verlonbakerofficial/@nancysnavas https://www.instagram.com/nancysnavas/@alizee.kayy https://www.instagram.com/alizee.kayy/@andytakesl https://www.instagram.com/andytakesl/