Big Fat Positive: Pregnancy and Parenting (BFP)

In the special segment "Never Have I Ever: Parenting Edition," Laura and Shanna reveal the unexpected things they've never done before having kids, including a desperate attempt to complete a puzzle in inclement weather and a disturbing doctor's appointment that ended in tears. Also, Shanna talks about her attempts to have a low-key Christmas, and Laura reports on her family's festive week of ice dancing and dreidel spinning. Finally, they share their BFPs or BFNs for the week. Shanna's kids are 7 and 9.5 years old, and Laura’s kids are 6.5 years old and 4.5 years old.

Topics discussed in this episode:

• Last-minute holiday decorating and keeping expectations low
• A kid getting sick right before Christmas and deciding when to go to urgent care
• Taking your kids to festive holiday events
• Celebrating Hanukkah with friends
• When you realize you are doing something wacky and unreasonable as a parent
• Tough doctor visits with kids
• Navigating fear, consent and advocating for your child in a medical setting
• How kids misunderstand medical “threats” and why wording matters
• A funny public moment involving a kids’ character and an unexpected song choice
• Volunteering at your kid's school and reading a funny picture book to your kid's class
• A parenting win: getting your kid re-engaged in an extracurricular activity

Products, links, resources mentioned in this episode:

• Disney on Ice
• How to Play Dreidel
• Kanoodle - Brain Teaser Puzzle
• Museum of Illusions
• Blippi
• "Fat Bottomed Girls" by Queen
• "The Book That Almost Rhymed" by Omar Abed

Past BFP episodes mentioned in this episode:

• Ep. 379 - (Shanna talks about going to the Museum of Illusions)
• Ep. 358 - (Laura talks about Auggie quitting parkour and starting jiu-jitsu)

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• Follow us on social: Instagram, TikTok or Facebook at @bfppodcast
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Big Fat Positive: A Pregnancy and Parenting Journey is produced by Laura Birek, Shanna Micko and Steve Yager.

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In the special segment "Dear Past Me," Shanna and Laura give their former selves parenting advice based on what they know now, including wisdom about sentimental baby items and encouragement to advocate for yourself in the early days of new motherhood. Also, Laura manages to get her reluctant kids to go on an urban adventure, and Shanna celebrates her daughter's 7th birthday and travels to Phoenix with her family for a celebration-of-life event. Finally, they share their BFPs or BFNs for the week. Shanna's kids are 7 and 9.5 years old, and Laura’s kids are 6.5 years old and 4.5 years old.

Topics discussed in this episode:

• Finding outdoor adventures close to home for your family
• The difficulty of transitions with kids
• Attending a memorial/celebration of life and what it’s like to do meaningful rituals with kids
• Reflections on early parenting choices and what we wish we could tell our younger selves
• Why keeping up with milestone keepsakes for all your kids is important
• Navigating career and creativity opportunities as a new mom
• Anti-mom bias at work and within creative spaces, and why advocating for yourself matters
• Kids exploring the performing arts and the joy of seeing them come alive creatively
• Finding helpful online communities and learning new routines that are rewarding

Products, links, resources mentioned in this episode:

• Flint Peak Trail
• "Big Fish" movie
• The Baby-Sitter's Club #33: "Claudia and the Great Search"
• "Flashback" (Shanna's short film)
• Shanna's Website
• Fine Hair Subreddit
• Pomeranian Subreddit

Past BFP episodes mentioned in this episode:

• Ep. 283 - (Laura discusses Auggie's reluctance to participate in his school's theater production)
• Ep. 285 - (Laura reports on Auggie's refusal to participate in the theater production on the day of the show)
• Ep. 374 - (Laura talks about her boys getting excited about their hiking "costumes" in Portland)
• Ep. 376 - (Shanna talks about her stepdad's passing)

Connect with Us

• Follow us on social: Instagram, TikTok or Facebook at @bfppodcast
• Join our Facebook community group for support and camaraderie on your parenting journey.
• Visit our website: bigfatpositivepodcast.com
• Email us: [email protected]

If you enjoyed this episode, help spread the word by sharing the show or leaving a review. Thank you!

Big Fat Positive: A Pregnancy and Parenting Journey is produced by Laura Birek, Shanna Micko and Steve Yager.

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In the special segment "Today I Learned," Laura and Shanna discuss the fascinating or unusual things they have learned about recently, including an unexpected baby boom on a remote island in the South Pacific and the surprising history of the Tooth Fairy. Also, Shanna shares the details about her daughter's 7th birthday party, and Laura reports on her experience babysitting Shanna's kids. Finally, they share their BFPs or BFNs for the week. Shanna's kids are 6.5 and 9.5 years old, and Laura’s kids are 6.5 years old and 4.5 years old.

Topics discussed in this episode:

• Throwing kids' birthday parties with DIY flair
• Fun ideas for a 7-year-old's birthday party
• Getting kids together for a cozy “fake sleepover” night
• Reality TV crews, on-set romances and an unexpected family-friendly workplace
• The origins of the Tooth Fairy and the traditions that came before her
• Whether or not to send your kids to day camp over the winter break
• Discovering and using your employer's benefits for subsidized childcare
• When your child shows sudden changes in independence, fears and anxiety

Products, links, resources mentioned in this episode:

• 6-7 trend
• Pusheen the cat
• "Captain Underpants" movie
• People Magazine article: The Real Love Island? Survivor Crew Romances Have Led to 67 Babies..."
• "Survivor" TV show
• Forbes article: Where Did the Tooth Fairy Come From?
• Developmental leaps in children

Past BFP episodes mentioned in this episode:

• Ep. 383 - (Shanna and Laura discuss the origins of the 6-7 trend)

Connect with Us

• Follow us on social: Instagram, TikTok or Facebook at @bfppodcast
• Join our Facebook community group for support and camaraderie on your parenting journey.
• Visit our website: bigfatpositivepodcast.com
• Email us: [email protected]

If you enjoyed this episode, help spread the word by sharing the show or leaving a review. Thank you!

Big Fat Positive: A Pregnancy and Parenting Journey is produced by Laura Birek, Shanna Micko and Steve Yager.

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

As 2025 comes to an end, Laura and Shanna reflect on their last 12 months of parenting with honesty, humor and insight in the special segment "Year in Review." As they look back on 2025, they share their biggest laughs, unexpected wins and surprising realizations, including the hilarious thing Laura's kids taught her this year, the shocking incident that sums up the vibe of Shanna's year, their favorite shows of 2025 and more! Also, Laura reports on her family's recent trip to Hawaii, and Shanna talks about how she got her kids involved in Thanksgiving meal prep. Finally, they share their BFPs or BFNs for the week. Shanna's kids are 6.5 and 9.5 years old, and Laura’s kids are 6.5 years old and 4.5 years old.

Topics discussed in this episode:

• Taking a family trip with kids (the good, the chaotic and the realistic expectations)
• Thanksgiving routines that feel doable instead of overwhelming
• Letting kids help more at home, especially during the holidays, and why that matters
• "Mommy Magic" and making the invisible work visible for our kids
• Looking back at 2025 and reflecting on what this year actually felt like
• Small parenting wins that didn’t feel like a big deal at the time
• Things our kids taught us this year (sometimes on purpose, sometimes not)
• Finding ways to have fun again as adults, not just planning fun for our kids
• Navigating change, transitions and feeling pulled in a million directions
• Media, shows and pop culture that brought comfort, laughter or escape
• Looking ahead to the new year with intentions about how we want to feel
• A vacation activity that will create a core memory
• A fun board game to play with your family

Products, links, resources mentioned in this episode:

-Pasadena's Celebration of the Young Child

-"Your Friend, Nate Bargatze" special on Netflix

-Lita the dog on TikTok

-Clara Batten on TikTok

-Perimenopause

-Baader-Meinhof phenomenon (aka Frequency Illusion)

-Rainbow Baby

-"Five Nights at Freddy's"

-"Ordinary" by Alex Warren

-"Severance"

-"The Chair Company"

-"The Carpool Detectives"

-Snorkle Bob's

-Humuhumunukunukuapua'a fish

-Telestrations

Past BFP episodes mentioned in this episode:

-Ep. 362 - (Shanna gets a concussion from a soccer ball)

-Ep. 381 - (Laura hosts a booth at the Pasadena Celebration of the Young Child)

-Ep. 221 - (Shanna and Laura go to a rage room)

-Ep. 378 - (Laura adopts her new kitten, Pumpkin)

-Ep. 355 - (Shanna tells her daughter about the Leprechaun and Santa)

-Ep. 356 - (Where Shanna tells her daughter about being a "Rainbow Baby")

Connect with Us

• Follow us on social: Instagram, TikTok or Facebook at @bfppodcast
• Join our Facebook community group for support and camaraderie on your parenting journey.
• Visit our website: bigfatpositivepodcast.com
• Email us: [email protected]

If you enjoyed this episode, help spread the word by sharing the show or leaving a review. Thank you!

Big Fat Positive: A Pregnancy and Parenting Journey is produced by Laura Birek, Shanna Micko and Steve Yager.

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It’s Christmas week, and Shanna and Laura get festive answering listeners' holiday-themed questions in the special segment "Checkin' the Inbox!" They answer questions about handling the logistics of Santa, managing sibling jealousy during the gift-giving season, whether to do Elf on the Shelf and more! During the check-in, they share their families' plans for the holiday and discuss their gift ideas for their kids, their husbands (and each other!). In the special segment "Checkin' the Inbox: Holiday Q&A," Laura and Shanna. Finally, they share their BFPs or BFNs for the week. Shanna's kids are 6.5 and 9.5 years old, and Laura’s kids are 6.5 years old and 4.5 years old.

Topics discussed in this episode:

• Navigating holiday overwhelm while juggling work, parenting and year-end transitions
• Should I keep Christmas plans low-key and realistic or go all-out?
• Holiday activities that help kids burn energy (and parents stay sane)
• Navigating the mental load of gift-giving and holiday expectations
• How kids’ interests change faster than we can shop
• Whether or not to exchange gifts with other adults
• The pressure to give “perfect” gifts vs. embracing simpler ones
• Family traditions we carried over from childhood - and new ones we’re creating now
• Holiday light displays as a new seasonal tradition
• Elf on the Shelf: love it, hate it, or skip it entirely
• How different families handle Santa
• Big gifts vs. small gifts (and who should get the credit)
• Fairness, siblings and navigating different ages during the holidays
• Deciding which holiday expectations are actually worth the effort
• Blending holiday traditions from different backgrounds
• Finding ways to make the season feel special without overdoing it

Products, links, and resources mentioned in this episode:

-Tiny Chef

-Descanso Gardens Enchanted Forest of Lights

-LA Zoo Lights: Animals Aglow

-5 Nights at Freddy's Costume

-Harry Potter Legos

-Kids Pottery Wheel

-Labubu

-Menorahs at Target

-The Boar's Head Carol

-The Alex Theater

Past BFP episodes mentioned in this episode:

-Ep. 343 - (Where Shanna talks about giving her kids a trampoline for Christmas)

Connect with Us

• Follow us on social: Instagram, TikTok or Facebook at @bfppodcast
• Join our Facebook community group for support and camaraderie on your parenting journey.
• Visit our website: bigfatpositivepodcast.com
• Email us: [email protected]

If you enjoyed this episode, help spread the word by sharing the show or leaving a review. Thank you!

Big Fat Positive: A Pregnancy and Parenting Journey is produced by Laura Birek, Shanna Micko and Steve Yager.

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In the special segment "Would You Rather," Shanna and Laura present hypothetical parenting situations and then discuss which choices they would rather make, diving into the topics of bringing your kids to your own doctor's appointments, handling your kids' questionable choices in music and more! Also, Laura reports on her 6-year-old's first week at his brand-new school, and Shanna gives an update on the caterpillar that her first grader unexpectedly brought home a few weeks ago. Finally, Laura and Shanna share their BFPs and BFNs for the week. Shanna's kids are 6.5 and 9.5 years old, and Laura’s kids are 6.5 years old and 4.5 years old.

Topics discussed in this episode:

-When you child starts a new school in the middle of the school year

-When your child brings home a caterpillar to take care of and observe turn into a butterfly

-Should I take my kids to my doctor's appointment with me?

-When your kids constantly request music that you don't want to hear

-Unexpected drama that prevents you from leaving the house on time with your kids

-Taking life expectancy into consideration when getting a new pet for your family

Products, links, resources mentioned in this episode:

-Caterpillar to Butterfly Grow Kits

-"Jaws Original Motion Picture Soundtrack" by John Williams

-"Beetlejuice Original Motion Picture Soundtrack" by Danny Elfman

-"My Bum Is Itchy" song by Poopy Man

-"Macaroni with the Chicken Strips" song by Undignified Baby

-Hamster Rolling Ball toy

-Ball python lifespan

-"Good to Go: A Fresh Take on Potty Training for Today's Intentional Parent" by Gia Gambaro Blount and Laura Birek

-Amanda Troop, Voiceover Artist

Past BFP episodes mentioned in this episode:

-Ep. 258 (Where Shanna talks about the softball party disaster when Cece was four)

This episode's full show notes can be found here.

Want to get in touch with Shanna and Laura? Send us an email and follow us on social! Instagram, Facebook or TikTok at @bfppodcast

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Big Fat Positive: A Pregnancy and Parenting Journey is produced by Laura Birek, Shanna Micko and Steve Yager.

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In the special segment "Big Topic," Laura shares a difficult decision she made recently that affects her entire family. She discusses the first moment that her gut instinct signalled that things were amiss in this particular situation as well as the events leading up to the decision. Also, Shanna talks about a smaller scale, but still significant, tough choice she recently made to take care of herself. Finally, Laura and Shanna share their BFPs and BFNs for the week. Shanna's kids are 6.5 and 9.5 years old, and Laura’s kids are 6.5 years old and 4.5 years old.

Topics discussed in this episode:

-Making tough decisions to take care of yourself and your kids

-Learning from your past mistakes as a mom

-Knowing when to trust your gut as a mom

-What to do when your child is having a hard time at school

-How to talk to your kids about a big change

-Two fantastic, funny picture books for kids

Products, links, resources mentioned in this episode:

-Doheny State Beach Campsite

-"Bathe the Cat" by Alice B. McGinty, Illustrated by David Roberts

-"Strange Planet: The Sneaking, Hiding, Vibrating Creature" by Nathan W. Pyle

-Nathan W. Pyle on Instagram

This episode's full show notes can be found here.

Want to get in touch with Shanna and Laura? Send us an email and follow us on social! Instagram, Facebook or TikTok at @bfppodcast

Join our Facebook community group for support and camaraderie on your parenting journey.

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Big Fat Positive: A Pregnancy and Parenting Journey is produced by Laura Birek, Shanna Micko and Steve Yager.

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In the brand-new special segment "Out of Context," Laura and Shanna share random text messages they have sent or received that shed light on their parenting life, diving into the topics of kids' crushes, classroom behavior, time management and more! Also, Laura reflects on her surprising feelings about staying up late with her kids, and Shanna reports on the situation that put her kids' Halloween party in peril. Finally, they share their BFPs and BFNs for the week. Shanna's kids are 6.5 and 9.5 years old, and Laura’s kids are 6.5 years old and 4.5 years old.

Topics discussed in this episode:

-Should I let my kids stay up late for special occasions?

-Throwing a Halloween party for your kids

-Being sick as a parent and pushing yourself too hard

-Feeling overwhelmed by the amount of communication it requires to be a parent

-Receiving a report from your kid's teacher that they have misbehaved at school

-Lurking on your kids' social media posts

-Trying not to act too excited when your selective eater tries new foods

-A fun, family-friendly activity in Los Angeles

-Feeling unsure when your kid brings home an intensive project from school

Products, links, resources mentioned in this episode:

-Minecraft movie

-"Steve's Lava Chicken" song

-Zankou Chicken

-Swan Boat Rides at Echo Park

This episode's full show notes can be found here.

Want to get in touch with Shanna and Laura? Send us an email and follow us on social! Instagram, Facebook or TikTok at @bfppodcast

Join our Facebook community group for support and camaraderie on your parenting journey.

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Big Fat Positive: A Pregnancy and Parenting Journey is produced by Laura Birek, Shanna Micko and Steve Yager.

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In the special segment "What the Hack?!," Shanna and Laura share some of their favorite parenting tips and tricks, including ideas for preventing toddlers from knocking over valuable items, being prepared when you're in the car with your kids, using honey bears in a fun way and more! Also, Laura reports on the unsettling reports she has been getting from her 6-year-old's school, Shanna discusses her attempt to power through her recovery from a recent illness, and both moms share their families' plans for Thanksgiving this year. Finally, they share their BFPs and BFNs for the week. Shanna's kids are 6.5 and 9.5 years old, and Laura’s kids are 6.5 years old and 4.5 years old.

Topics discussed in this episode:

-Laura and Shanna's plans for Thanksgiving this year with their families

-Parenting while sick and trying to push through the recovery phase

-Finding out your child is being bullied at school

-Tips, tricks and hacks for making your parenting life easier

-Disappointment about not being able to follow through on a commitment

-Fun how-to drawing books for kids

Products, links, resources mentioned in this episode:

-Clear Museum Gel

-Tissue box hack

-Flashlight metaphor for pain management

-Using honey bears in the shower

-Rice-cooker pasta

-The Food Lab: Better Home Cooking Through Science by J. Kenji López-Alt 

-Choking-hazard check

-"Let's Draw Aliens and Spaceships with Crayola!" by Kathy Allen (Author) and Neil Clark (Illustrator)

-"Ed Emberley's How to Draw Monsters and More Scary Stuff" by Ed Emberley

-Cookbook stand (to use for holding kids' drawing books)

This episode's full show notes can be found here.

Want to get in touch with Shanna and Laura? Send us an email and follow us on social! Instagram, Facebook or TikTok at @bfppodcast

Join our Facebook community group for support and camaraderie on your parenting journey.

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Big Fat Positive: A Pregnancy and Parenting Journey is produced by Laura Birek, Shanna Micko and Steve Yager.

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In the special segment “Mom Confessions,” Laura and Shanna share the embarrassing or hilarious parenting experiences they have had recently, including a destructive laundry mishap, an inappropriate AI encounter and more! Also, Shanna reports on how she is managing sciatic nerve pain, and Laura discusses her realization that she now has an "edgy" older kid. Finally, they share their BFPs and BFNs for the week. Shanna's kids are 6.5 and 9.5 years old, and Laura’s kids are 6.5 years old and 4.5 years old.

Topics discussed in this episode:

-When your kids do things that seem mature beyond their years

-What to do if you have sciatic nerve pain

-Laundry mistakes

-Going to great lengths to avoid saying "no" to your kids

-Feeling embarrassed about the way you send your kid to school

-When AI steers you wrong

-Revamping your kid's bedroom without spending money

Products, links, resources mentioned in this episode:

-Kids' Ghostface costume

-What is sciatica?

-Warmies Lavender Plush Bear

-"Good to Go: A Fresh Take on Potty Training for Today's Intentional Parent" by Gia Gambaro Blount and Laura Birek

This episode's full show notes can be found here.

Want to get in touch with Shanna and Laura? Send us an email and follow us on social! Instagram, Facebook or TikTok at @bfppodcast

Join our Facebook community group for support and camaraderie on your parenting journey.

Visit our website!

This episode is sponsored by Inito. If you're trying to conceive or just want to understand more about your body and your cycles, try Inito: https://try.inito.com/hormone-tracking/inf/?discount=BFP&utm_source=social_media&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=podcast&utm_content=BFP

Big Fat Positive: A Pregnancy and Parenting Journey is produced by Laura Birek, Shanna Micko and Steve Yager.

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.