Let us not invite negative energies into family and relationship issues, explains BK Shivani. Whenever there is a conflict or resentment, we need to use our own inner power to resolve it. Discussing the matter with other people (even family and friends) adds vibrations of their sanskars - at times anxiety, curiosity or judgment, and complicate situations.

Join BK Shivani who advises not to share our relationship problems with people. We explain only our perspective and not the other person's. Family and friends add their own perspectives and vibrations to our problem. They have pure intentions for our conflict to get resolved, but their anxiety, fear and anger radiate negativity to the foundation of our relationship.

BK Shivani shares that our thoughts and feelings radiate as vibrations. These vibrations when created for the self, change the self. When created for others, have the power to change them. Whether we see people's virtues or weakness, we accordingly radiate those vibrations to ourselves and them. When we focus on their weakness, we deplete them and our self.

BK Shivani explains why the way we see people is the way we think of them and treat them. Importantly, our vibrations reach them and shift them towards becoming that way. If someone has a sanskar of fear, see power in them - see, think, say and behave that way. Our vibrations emerge the sanskar of power in them.

BK Shivani emphasizes that conflicts cannot survive if even one of the two people stops participating. Conflict need not always be in behaviour, it can be due to our wrong thinking. We believe two people caused a conflict so both need to bring a change. Truth is, if one person radiates right thoughts to the relationship, conflict starts dissolving.

BK Shivani explains how thoughts and vibrations we create for people travel to them. Whether we are creating negative thoughts or receiving it from them, we have the power to change those thoughts. Right thoughts are a protection shield so that other people's negative thoughts don’t affect us. Our thoughts protect our mind, body, relationships and our work.

People are always under the influence of their sanskars, clarifies BK Shivani. No-one hurts us because of who we are, they behave that way because of who they are. We need to understand people's sanskars and have compassion by detaching from our perspective about the situation. Let us label their perspective as different, not wrong.

BK Shivani highlights that there can be differences of opinion between people, but we can keep the energy of respect intact. Radiating negative energy to each other depletes both people and intensifies the problem. Repeated thoughts of being disrespected or rejected get carried into future situations even with other people.

Respect is different from Regard, clarifies BK Shivani. Respect is in our thoughts and feelings of acceptance for people based on their sanskars. Regard is given for everything they have acquired. It is given in the way we talk and behave with them, as a protocol set by society. We can give regard without respecting, and vice versa.

BK Shivani shares that during a conflict, we try hard to explain our perspective, but people do not seem to understand or agree. When they hold on to their perspective, we create hurt and the negative energy intensifies the situation. Respect does not mean that people should obey what we ask them to do. Just because someone does not do what we tell them to do, does not mean they disrespect us.