bloom. by rhahavy

I want to be both extremely humble and extremely confident. If you know me, or have known me in one of my past lives, you probably either see me as quite a confident person, or quite an insecure one, or you might see me as I see me, someone who uses exuberant confidence to cover up for her deep insecurities, lol.

for a long time, I took on a very relaxed philosophy, you should just go with the flow, do what feels good to you and take a very relaxed approach to life.

I’ve recently been really questioning that belief of mine

I think some things in this life are worth fighting for, and sometimes they might require us to do some things that push us outside of our comfort zone, and pushing ourselves outside of our comfort zone allows us to break perspective and see ourselves in a whole new light.

everyone, everyone makes dumb financial decisions, literally everyone, however the outcome of these decisions is heavily influenced by factors such as race & socioeconomic class, the state of your mental health, whether or not you’re a student, whether you have immigrant parents, your risk threshold (aka how much risk you are willing to take on, which isn't always a good thing) these all play a role in the outcome. This is why I think it’s so important to just do what feels good to you, because when you tell yourself what you should be doing, you start doings things that weren’t meant for you in the first place, and you compete with people who you never should have tried to compete with in the first place (I only condone healthy competition of course). A lot of the time, we are fed information about what’s rational or logical. We are literally always relying on outside sources such as the internet or books to tell us what the right thing to do is. The problem is, these people who you are learning from, they are not you, they do not know your story. I am not trying to negate the power of learning, what I’m trying to do is emphasize the power of you.

script written by me

script written by me

script written by me

trigger warning: this episode mentions SA/assault on minors

trigger warning: this episode mentions SA/assault on minors

Below are links to the resources that I mentioned in this episode: (I realize all I've linked are white people, I am so sorry)

fave "relaxed" therapeutic content:

https://open.spotify.com/show/5VzFvh1JlEhBMS6ZHZ8CNO?si=11046715a0694501

(Link to the Spotify Platform for "Anything Goes with Emma Chamberlain")

https://open.spotify.com/show/0qlm3KuGyl9VZnTyUN6zKj?si=c8b4ddc17de24d00

(Link to the Spotify Platform for "Emotionally Online" with Maddie Dragsbaek)

fave "serious" therapeutic content:

https://open.spotify.com/show/2HGcJRYrjGnpce6bRp8UXm?si=7758a6c581ce4734

(Link to the Spotify Platform for "The Psychology of Your 20s" by Jemma Speg)

https://open.spotify.com/show/3i5TCKhc6GY42pOWkpWveG?si=58fe9041e312429f

(Link to the Spotify Platform for "The Happiness Lab by Dr. Laurie Santos")

fave mental health apps (Apple App Store):

"Daylio Journal - Daily Diary" (journaling app/mood tracker)

"DailyBean - simplest journal" (journal/mood tracker)

"Clarity - CBT Thought Diary" (journal/mood tracker specifically designed with CBT in mind, has a lot of great information in it)

you put yourself on the path to luck when you make choices that align with what you truly want. luck is just probability. stop thinking luck is magic or God, luck is you manipulating the cards in your favour. It's making the probability of making shit happen for you higher and higher everyday with your god damn fucking choices. you put yourself on the path to luck, let's break the belief that luck isn't something we all come across every fucking day of our lives. 

and why you should too hehe

video also available on my youtube!! 

https://youtu.be/hLnANbjs8qE

Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/childhood-friendLicense code: SESEARL8EIWHUNC9