Boldly Becoming You Podcast

If your life is genuinely more complicated than most business advice was built for, this episode is going to feel like someone finally said it out loud.

We get into what it actually looks and feels like to run a business when you're managing chronic illness, a neurodivergent brain, kids with their own CLCs, unpredictable energy, and a body that doesn't operate the way the productivity world assumes everyone's body operates.

Because nobody talks about this: the more Complex Life Circumstances you're carrying, the more invisible labor you're doing every single day before you even open your laptop. And most of the burnout advice out there was never built for the math of your real life

In this episode, we talk about:

• What Complex Life Circumstances actually are and why the stack matters more than any one thing on its own

• Why it feels so much harder for you than you think it should, and why that's not you being dramatic

• The real cost of not accounting for your CLCs in your business decisions (we've lived this)

• What changes when you stop pretending your life and body operate like someone who doesn't have your CLCs

• Capacity-based decisions, client load limits, and why fewer offers is often the smarter move

• The ripple effect of unpredictable energy on your relationships, date nights, family plans, the guilt loop

• Why acknowledging your CLCs is not the same as complaining about them

• The homework: pick one CLC this week and just watch where it's showing up and how it impacts other parts of life and business, no judgment

This episode comes with a listener homework assignment and a free CLC checklist. DM us "CLC checklist" at @rulesandrebellion and we'll send it to you.

If you've ever cancelled plans because a work day used everything you had, or watched your business goals get derailed by something nobody else could see, this one is for you.

Ready to stop building a business that doesn't account for the life you're actually living?

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Your business problem probably isn't a business problem.

That's where we start this episode If you've bought the programs, followed the frameworks, tried to stay consistent, and you're still hitting the same wall... the issue was misdiagnosed from the start.

What looks like a strategy problem, a consistency problem, or a mindset problem is almost always a dysregulated nervous system problem. And no amount of content calendars or launch plans is going to fix that.

They get into all of it in this episode - including what it actually took for them to stop pouring money into the wrong solution, what was really happening those years they couldn't get themselves to complete the last 20% of every program they bought, and why "doing it scared" and "doing it terrified" are two completely different things that the business coaching world consistently fails to distinguish.

In this episode:

• Why your business problem is probably a nervous system regulation problem - and how to tell the difference

• The misdiagnosis that costs burned-out entrepreneurs thousands of dollars and years of momentum

• What happened when Tasha and Brandon finally got regulated enough to stop buying programs and start actually using them

• The 20% of tasks you keep avoiding - and what's actually behind that pattern

• Why you can't fix your messaging, your content, or your launch strategy from a dysregulated nervous system

• How chronic illness, ADHD, and complex life circumstances completely change what "doing the work" looks like - and why most programs are built for people who don't have any of those things

• The four perfectionism patterns that keep high-achieving entrepreneurs stuck in survival mode

• A real example from inside The Unshakeable Entrepreneur of how nervous system regulation rippled into a client's health, her business, and her capacity to finally advocate for herself with her doctor

Download the Four Perfectionism Patterns guide in the show notes to start identifying which stress response patterns are showing up in your business — and what to do about them.

Unshakeable Entrepreneur is opening soon - a small, intimate group program for burned-out entrepreneurs ready to stop treating the wrong problem.

DM us "curious" on Instagram to start a conversation. No pitch, no pressure.

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If you've tried every productivity system out there and still feel like you're failing at your own goals, this episode is for you. Tasha sits down with ADHD coach, Bianca Faricy, to get real about why neurotypical goal-setting frameworks don't work for ADHD brains, what burnout recovery actually looks like when you're neurodivergent, and how emotion-first goal setting changes everything.

From This Episode:

Bianca got her ADHD diagnosis at 47, burned out of a 25-year teaching career, and rebuilt her life from scratch. Here's what she and Tasha unpack:

• Why ADHD goal-setting is a completely different game than what you've been taught

• How a lifetime of masking disconnects you from knowing what you actually want

• The problem with discipline and willpower-based goals for high-achieving entrepreneurs

• What emotion-first goal setting looks like in practice

• Why "self-sabotage" isn't real - and what's actually happening when you hit a wall

• How nervous system regulation is the missing piece in your goal-achievement strategy

• Why ADHDers are ambitious as hell and just need the right tools

• The shame of feeling behind, and how to stop letting it run the show

• How boundaries for business owners are built on nervous system capacity, not willpower

Links & Resources

• Connect with Bianca: http://www.biancafaricycoach.com

• Follow Bianca on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/biancafaricyadhd/

• Boldly Becoming You Workshop: https://www.rulesandrebellion.com/boldlybecomingyou

• Book a clarity call: https://calendly.com/tashaskillin/clarity-call-30

• Follow us on Instagram: @rulesandrebellion

We're BACK. It's been about nine months since our last episode and Tasha is on day 21 of her cycle so… buckle up.

In this episode, Tasha and Brandon get real about what it actually looks like to re-enter something you love after a long pause, why getting crystal clear on who you're talking to changed everything for their business, and how the life you've been dreaming about is probably closer than you think → you're just not clocking it.

In this episode:

• Why they stopped recording (and what finally got them back) hint: Instagram Lives were the baby step into podcasting again

• The truth about showing up in your luteal phase energy (and why it's actually a superpower, not a liability)

• How getting obsessively clear on their ideal client set them free from trying to help everyone - aka stop trying to save your mom

• The "evidence collection" method that rewires your brain to see how close you already are to your goals

• BIG identity shifts and the actions that come with them: waking up at 5:30am, no phone before 6am

• Updating your Complex Life Circumstances (CLCs) - and why Brandon realized he was still operating on an old stress response that no longer applied

• Why talking about your pain and struggle on repeat is keeping you and your audience stuck

• The AM/PM routine that keeps Tasha grounded through every phase of her cycle and perimenopause

• The Bold Becoming You Workshop (happening April 25 & 26!) - link below

The homework from this episode:

Write out your ideal Tuesday (workday) AND your ideal Saturday (day off).

Get specific: What are you waking up excited about? Who are you with? What are you not doing? These exercises alone give you more clarity than you expect.

Links & Resources:

• 🔗 Bold Becoming You Workshop - April 25 & 26, 9am - 12pm PST → [Register here]

• 📲 Follow us on Instagram for weekly Lives [Insta]

• 💬 DM us or drop a comment, tell us what landed for you in this episode

In this episode, we break down the most foundational practice in our entire framework, and answer the question almost every client starts with:

"I know I need nervous system regulation… but how the fuck do I actually do that with the life I have?!"

We talk about why NSR is not just for the meltdown moments, how it quietly transforms your relationship with productivity, parenting, partnerships, and purpose, and how Brandon went from never regulating to knowing with full-body certainty that he'll never drink again.

We touch on:

• Why 30–60 seconds of nervous system regulation might be more life-changing than 30 minutes

• What happened when Brandon finally felt his feelings, after 18 years of numbing

• The trap of "doing it right" and how it keeps perfectionists stuck

• Four micro NSR techniques you can do literally anywhere (yes, even in a meeting)

• Why consistency isn't the goal, capacity is

• What two clients in totally different life stages (30 and 60) had in common with burnout, dread, and the exact same NSR win after 4 weeks

Plus, we unpack the real reason so many smart, high-achieving people don't start NSR (hint: if you've ever said "I don't need it right now," this one's for you).

Whether you're bedbound like Tasha was, burnt out like Jane was, or just stuck in the doom-scroll loop like Dela, we've got you.

✨ Ready to start regulating in 5 minutes or less?

Grab the Regulated AF Mini Series for just $5

Need personalized support? Book a clarity call and let's see if we mesh

In this episode, we unpack the #1 reason you keep thinking you're the problem when you're not: complex life circumstances and how integrating them instead of ignoring them changes everything about how you work, parent, rest, and relate.

We talk about the patterns we didn't even know were patterns: Tasha wondering why she could build empires one week and collapse the next, Brandon's years of overfunctioning while feeling like nothing was ever enough, and the quiet shame spiral of why can't I just do this thing that almost everyone in our community knows by heart.

We touch on:

• The actual definition of Complex Life Circumstances (CLCs) and why this one lens can explain burnout, inconsistency, and the inability to "just push through"

• How masking, overachieving, chronic dysregulation, and trauma conditioning show up differently based on gender, race, disability, and neurodivergence

• Why routines, habits, and productivity hacks fail when they're not built around your real life and what to do instead

• The real reason you feel guilt when resting and how to stop abandoning yourself in moments of low energy, pain, or overstimulation

• How your relationships (especially with partners, clients, and kids) have to evolve when you start being honest about your capacity

• What happened when Brandon realized he didn't even want a damn plate and what that metaphor has to do with freedom, caregiving, and rest

This episode includes the 10-finger CLC exercise (to get your Complex Life Circumstance score), and a powerful reminder: you're not broken…you're just operating in a world that refuses to account for who you actually are.

Build a life that works with your CLCs instead of against them 👇🏻

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In this episode, we unpack one of the most wildly underutilized tools for business, parenting, and being human with a uterus: cycle syncing and how it completely changed the way we work, connect, and rest. We talk about Tasha's 20+ year pattern of crushing it one week and crumbling the next, Brandon trying to decode moods like a foreign language, and the honest truth about why routines haven't stuck (and probably never will) if you're ignoring your cycle.

We touch on:

• How your brain, energy, and confidence can shift up to 25% each month and why that matters more than any other routine.

• What happened when Tasha stopped calling herself inconsistent and started listening to what her biology was asking for.

• Why the world still expects you to operate like a small man with a 24-hour clock and how that's ruining your relationship with your own body.

• A real story of Tasha thinking she was a fraud (again)… and how knowing her cycle made that spiral mean absolutely nothing.

Ready to sync your life and routines to your actual body?

Start with this Cycle Sync Mindset Audio Series

Join 🌈The Village: https://www.rulesandrebellion.com/village

Join us in our free group coaching call the first Monday of most months: https://www.rulesandrebellion.com/freegroupcoaching

Want more personalized support? Schedule a clarity call to see if we mesh and what programs fit what you're looking for.

In this episode, we pull back the curtain on one of the foundational tools we use with our clients across Unshakeable You, Phoenix Rising, Bootcamp and The Village: our deceptively simple "Wins, Effective/Ineffective, and Questions" check-in.

We talk about what we're rewatching, orthorexia and the clean eating rabbit hole, your grandmother's apple pie (and why Brandon says it can't be the best)

You'll hear:

• Why labeling things "good" or "bad" might be killing your creativity and momentum.

• How "maladaptive coping" (hi cigarettes, doomscrolling, productivity spirals) is often just your body's attempt to stay alive, and maybe even deserves a trophy.

• How your cycle phase might be the real reason you thought that project, person, or plan sucked.

• A real-time story of our teenager dragging us for our financial choices… then un-dragging us with shocking emotional maturity.

We ask questions like:

• What actually counts as a win (and who decided what counts)?

• Why is "just thinking about it" part of the process?

• How do you know if something was ineffective… or if you were just doing it in the wrong phase of your cycle?

• Can you celebrate a "bad" coping strategy and want something better next time?

• What's the difference between emotional dysregulation and eating snacks in the garage?

Drop your favorite "small win" in our DMs or come join a free community call to experience what this work feels like in real time

Join 🌈The Village: https://www.rulesandrebellion.com/village

Join us in our free group coaching call the first Monday of most months: https://www.rulesandrebellion.com/freegroupcoaching

Want more personalized support? Schedule a clarity call to see if we mesh and what programs fit what you're looking for.

What do I want????

Whether you're deep in burnout, running on autopilot, or just feeling disconnected from yourself after years of being useful to everyone else… I get it. This episode walks you through the 5 mistakes that keep so many of us stuck in survival mode, waiting for clarity that doesn't come and the first 3 steps to figuring out what you actually want.

Where you gently unhook from urgency, listen to your nervous system, and stop trying to solve your life like a math problem.

Here's what we get into:

• The biggest lie about "clarity" that keeps high-achievers spinning

• Why your body needs to access that truth

• And why desire isn't a luxury, it's a survival skill

If you've been trying to "figure it out" but everything just feels heavy, uncertain, or like too much work, it's not you. You're not broken. You just haven't been taught how to do this in a way that actually works for your life.

Boldly Becoming You Workshop June 28 & 29

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In this episode, we unpack what's actually going on when you "can't stay consistent," and why burnout, chronic stress, and your Complex Life Circumstances (CLCs) keep you stuck in a loop that discipline alone will never solve.

We dig into:

• Why discipline only works after you've built capacity

• The sneaky ways internalized capitalism, ableism, and childhood conditioning show up in your day

• What your body, your flare-ups, your freeze response, and your avoidance are really trying to tell you

• Why being "too tired to function" or "constantly behind" is not a personal failure and what it really means

• How to tell if you're living from survival mode (even if everything looks fine from the outside)

You'll hear real examples from our own lives, from our clients, and from people just like you who thought they had a discipline problem, but were actually overdue for a total capacity recalibration.

By the end of this conversation, we're asking better questions:

What do I want and what do I need ... today? What's actually mine to carry? How can I build a life and business that supports my reality, not just my ambition?

If you've been forcing, pushing, and blaming yourself for not "doing it right" - this episode is your permission slip to stop performing and start restoring.

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