In this episode of Breaking Patterns, Skye and Beth unpack a quote that completely stopped them in their tracks:

“We should only be giving 40–60% of ourselves at work.”

At first, it sounds almost wrong — especially for women raised on hustle culture, perfectionism, productivity, people-pleasing, and the belief that our worth is tied to our output.

But what if reserving part of yourself isn’t laziness… it’s survival?

This conversation spirals (in the best way) through:

• work culture and burnout
• validation vs appreciation
• invisible labor and emotional exhaustion
• parenting anxious kids in a productivity-driven world
• gratitude as an antidote to shame and anxiety
• Alan Watts, Kroger meltdowns, motorcycles, and “one wild and precious life”
• learning to stop taking everything so seriously

If you’ve ever felt completely drained by work, constantly “on,” or unsure who you are outside of productivity, this episode is for you.

Maybe the goal isn’t to give everything away.
Maybe the goal is to reserve some of yourself for your actual life.

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In this episode of Breaking Patterns, Skye and Beth explore creativity as a healing practice — one that can interrupt anxiety, stress spirals, overthinking, and even “victimhood.”

Beth shares the inspiration behind her mixed-media art piece Unshoulding, created for a local arts council exhibition centered around identity, belonging, democracy, and expectation. The conversation unfolds into a deeper reflection on the “shoulds” we inherit from culture, family, perfectionism, and productivity-driven validation.

Together they discuss:

• Why creativity doesn’t have to look like traditional art
• How creative practices regulate the nervous system
• The concept of “downloads” and inspired ideas
• Product-focused validation and fear of rejection
• Letting go of the need to monetize every gift
• Skye’s experience helping students reconnect with poetry
• Creating simply because it makes you feel alive

In this episode, we reference:"The Creative Act: A Way of Being" by Rick Rubin"Big Magic" by Elizabeth Gilbert
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Episode Breakdown:

00:00 Warm Drinks and Banter00:41 Why Creativity Helps02:26 Everyday Creativity Counts03:06 Big Magic and Ideas04:46 Beth’s Art Deadline06:27 Unshoulding Explained08:39 Creating Over Victimhood09:50 Poetry Not Product11:38 Rejection and Motives16:04 Live Show and Retreat17:00 Validation and Farewell

In this episode of Breaking Patterns, Skye and Beth pull the word “Grace”—and follow where it leads.

What unfolds is a layered, honest conversation about self-compassion, judgment, and the quiet ways we create stress through our own thinking.

They explore how assumptions shape our reactions, how the inner critic thrives on “shoulds,” and why extending grace to others often begins with learning how to offer it to ourselves.

Skye shares a moment of trying to control everything before leaving for a retreat—and the resentment that followed—opening up a conversation about boundaries, caretaking, and the emotional weight we carry when we don’t allow others (or ourselves) to just be.

Together, they reflect on simple but powerful shifts:
– Questioning stressful thoughts
– Letting go of the need to manage everything
– Recognizing that emotions aren’t always facts
– Remembering that “no” is a complete sentence

This episode is an invitation to soften—to meet yourself (and others) with a little more curiosity, a little less judgment, and a lot more grace.

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00:40 Pulling the “Grace” Card01:19 What Does Grace Actually Mean?02:01 Assumptions + Judgment02:55 The Inner Critic + “Shoulds”04:26 Byron Katie’s Four Questions06:18 Control, Micromanaging & Resentment10:19 Boundaries Around Breakfast13:22 “Spot It, You Got It”18:37 “No” Is a Complete Sentence19:27 What’s Next + Retreat Details

In this episode of Breaking Patterns, we pull a card from Beth's grandmother’s box and land on a word that feels both simple and surprisingly confronting: patience.

What unfolds is a real, unfiltered conversation about rushing, urgency, and the nervous system patterns that keep us in a constant state of “go.” We talk about the tension between getting out the door on time and creating a calm, grounded start to the day (especially with kids), and how impatience can quietly shape our relationships, our work, and even how we see ourselves.

If you’ve been feeling rushed, behind, or like you’re forcing things to happen… this episode is a gentle invitation to soften, breathe, and trust a different pace.

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00:00 Welcome to Breaking Patterns

00:41 The Improv Topic Box
01:41 Patience, rushing, and the nervous system
03:19 Morning chaos, kids, and being “on time”
05:06 Poem on presence and fleeting beauty
06:52 Savoring small, everyday moments
08:16 Life is finite—why this matters
09:08 Patience in personal growth
11:06 Midlife and the “second act”
14:18 Trusting yourself and your timing
16:00 Choosing simplicity over more “stuff”
18:48 From scarcity → to flow
20:08 Relationships, triggers, and reactivity
21:18 Listener question + wrap

We’re back.

After a year-long pause, this episode is exactly what it needed to be—real, a little uncomfortable, and rooted in the truth of where we’ve actually been.

In this conversation, we’re unpacking what it really means to live by “if it’s not a hell yes, it’s a no”…and how that idea starts to crack when life gets messy, responsibilities pile up, and you’re no longer sure what’s a “no” versus what just feels hard.

We talk about being stuck—the kind you don’t want to admit out loud. The kind you try to push through, numb out, or overthink your way around. And how the shift doesn’t happen until you actually say it:

I’m stuck. I need help.

Because sunlight is the best disinfectant. And the truth—spoken out loud—is where things start to move again.

We also get into:

• why asking for help feels so hard (especially when you’re used to being the strong one)
• how cognitive dissonance shows up when your life and your truth don’t match
• the subtle shift from bitterness to perspective
• what it looks like to “act opposite” when anxiety is running the show
• and how showing up—imperfectly, vulnerably—can change your energy in real time

This episode is a reminder that getting unstuck isn’t about having it all figured out.

It’s about telling the truth. Letting yourself be seen. And choosing to show up anyway.

And honestly? Hitting record again took us from “eh” to “yay.”

We’re really glad you’re here!!

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This week, join Skye and Beth for a rollicking conversation inspired by Jay Shetty's bestselling book "Think Like a Monk." We get curious about what motivates us to start something or make decisions. Are we seeking the promise of a desired outcome or can we appreciate the experience of the process?

Pop open your favorite seltzer, and please pardon our potty humor this week as we meander through unfinished art projects, childhood 4-H failures, fear of judgement... (and step in a little doody on the way)!

Think Like a Monk by Jay Shetty: https://thinklikeamonkbook.com/

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This week, Skye and Beth talk to guest Claire Olson about the ability to hold both fear and joy concurrently while navigating life's surprises and adversities. Claire is the "Be You Family Doula," located in central Indiana, and founder of Piper's Purpose, a non-profit organization centered on nurturing connection and supporting professionals in the pregnancy and infant loss community.

Connect with Claire on Facebook at Be You Family Doula, LLC:

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090917352535

Piper's Purpose: https://www.piperspurpose.org

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Jay Shetty's book Think Like a Monk: https://thinklikeamonkbook.com/

You know those people in your life that know just where to push your buttons? They get your hackles raised and your teeth bared!

Well, be a honey badger no more! This week, Skye and Beth talk about how to respond to challenges, arguments, and provocation. Pulling from a recent Mel Robbins Podcast episode we loved, with guest Jefferson Fisher, we discuss healthier, happier ways to communicate when we feel provoked.

Pop open your favorite generic seltzer, and let's get curious about how we react to triggering conversations!

(There's some f-bombs in this one...)

Mel Robbins Podcast

https://www.melrobbins.com/podcasts/episode-267

Jefferson Fisher's New Book "The Next Conversation"

https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/book

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This week Skye and Beth talk about choosing collaboration over competition with special guest Amanda Cox, leadership coach, trainer and keynote speaker with The Know Better Company. You ever feel like you've got to scramble over the top of someone else in order to grab at your piece of the pie? We get curious about whether that scarcity mindset really helps us to achieve our goals or just creates additional fuel for that critical, nagging voice inside our heads!

Pop open your favorite generic seltzer and join us for a conversation that wanders into competitive dance, sharing toys, the job search, and public toilets.

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Amanda Cox M.S. is a Leadership Development Trainer and Keynote Speaker. She owns and operates The Know Better Company where she supports businesses with their employees’ leadership development education. Amanda has trained hundreds of individuals through leadership development training and coaching sessions. She believes everyone is capable of being a leader, as long as they want to be one. 

Listeners can sign up for Amanda's bi-weekly newsletter here  and follow her on Instagram here. 

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It's the LOVE episode! We all know that love these days is more than just valentines and hallmark cards. In today’s episode, our friend and self-love content creator Stacie Larrison fills in for Beth to talk with Skye about the complexities of Love and how they change us — marriage, adoption, love letters, breakups, and first crushes.  Tune in for a meandering journey that begins with cola-flavored seltzer and ends on a poodle rescue farm.

Check out Stacie's first appearance on the podcast "Self-love through chronic illness"https://open.spotify.com/episode/51IS0umsoR8VVl6GkqUIwc?si=qiIxiZQiTV-WCTTvddFtNw

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